'Felt like I was in the room with them': father watches his first child born via video call

Photos:  Marty Gandelman
Photos: Marty Gandelman 

A new father has watched the birth of his first son via a Zoom call, after social distancing rules meant he couldn't be there in person for his wife.

Marty Gandelman, from New Jersey in the US, watched on a laptop from home as his wife Stephanie gave birth to their son, after the hospital banned partners from the delivery room just four days before she was induced.

"He was really sad he wasn't going to be able to be there for me" Stephanie said in a YouTube video, before saying that she just wanted her baby to be safe.

"It saddened me he wasn't going to be there" she said "and I just tried to think about, at the end of this I'm going to have my baby".

The couple had been trying to conceive for three years and had gone through four rounds of IVF and suffered three miscarriages before falling pregnant with Jake.


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"I was terrified for 9 months that my pregnancy would not end with me holding my baby in my arms" Stephanie wrote in an Instagram post with a photo of her newborn son.

"The only thing that made me feel better was hearing other success stories, and I guess that's why I feel compelled to share my story now that I finally have my miracle of a baby."

Fortunately, Marty met his son the next day when he picked him and his wife up from the hospital.

Jake, who is now three weeks old has met all his relatives via video calls and as the family is Jewish, have held The Bris, a traditional ceremony on a boy's eighth day of life via Zoom.

"I was hesitant at first, but I also didn't want my boy to miss out on this life milestone." Stephanie said on Instagram. "The outcome was greater than I could have ever imagined".


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The family said they've have received an "outpouring of love and support" since their son's birth, and like everyone else, can't wait for the world to go back to normal.

"With such an eventful journey to pregnancy I never thought that my labour experience would be equally as dramatic" Stephanie joked in an Instagram post. "Enter the Corona Pandemic"

Stephanie said she pretended the camera was her husband when she was giving birth, which helped to relax her.

The father met his son the day after he was born.

The father met his son the day after he was born. Photo: YouTube

"When I saw that mum and baby were both okay I was over the moon," Marty told The Metro.

"To be honest, being able to watch did make it feel like I was in the room with them"