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squirrel10

Calling all desperate mums and dads out there...

 

I have a 7 week old and we have just gone through the dreaded arsenic hour (more like HOURS - my DD has been awake since 4.30pm this arvo and has only just gone to sleep!). My DP and I used pretty much every technique we have for settling her tonight and as we went through our repertoire it occurred to me there are probably thousands of others out there that we could try. This is what we tried tonight:

 

* putting her on my chest with and without bottom patting

* putting her in her sling and walking up and down the hallway

* singing

* a warm bath

* patting and shushing once she was in her bassinet

* extra breastfeeds

* leaving her to cry intermittently (no longer than 5 mins at a time)

* putting her bassinet onto a piece of wood we have that has wheels and wheeling her up and down in her room

* putting her in her car capsule and swinging it from side to side (this is what finally worked)

 

We couldn't take her for a walk or out to the car because it's raining.

 

So tell me what you do when you're desperately trying to settle your newborn to sleep and what works.

 

(And if someone can tell me why one thing works one night and not the next, I'll be most grateful!)

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TotesFeral

I would never recommend leaving her to cry. She is way way too young to do that.

We used to use a battery operated swing to try and settle

Do you use a dummy at all?

 

The car is really good but I understand why you don't want to go out with the rain.

 

I think they just like to torment us and leave us guessing, hence one thing working one night but not the next ;)

 

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jules77

Definitely too young for crying :(

 

We put our baby in our ergo if things get desperate. Holding him in the cradle hold whilst bouncing on my fit ball also works well.

 

I also just feed, feed, feed!!

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*Finn*

op you did everything right. At that age I think it's best to try everything. Tomorrow something completely different will work, they just like to keep us guessing. Quick go to bed before she wakes up.

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emc002

My bub when he was about that age, I didn't leave him to cry but he would let out a cry or kind of a yelp, as though he was fighting the feeling of going off. He is 8 months now and he sometimes sings himself to sleep, if people know what I mean by that.

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*Finn*

[quote name='jules77' date='24/01/2012, 09:32 PM' post='14233613'

 

I also just feed, feed, feed!!

I also did this, even when you think they can't possibly be hungry.

 

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bettymm
I also just feed, feed, feed!!

 

this used to work a treat for DD1 but for my 6 week old she wont feed if she is tired! just thrashes around and then screams! :(

 

she tends to have a really unsettled period from about 4.30 too where its really hard to get her to sleep. Only thing ive found works is going for a LONG walk in the baby bjorn..she has taken to sucking on my finger during the walk to fall asleep so we may invest in a dummy. OR wrapping up quite tightly and rocking her in the rocking chair.

 

good luck!

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QueenElsa

We did a special sideways hold and jiggle as recommended on happiest baby on the block - google it and you can see a video. We adjusted it and faced DD2 inwards, worked sooner or later....often 15 minutes....and she would go off quietly, no crying.

 

DD1 fed to sleep....DD2 left us desperately seeking solutions and this was recommended by a close friend.

 

I do believe different things work for different babies though.

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Xiola

Have you tried putting her a wrap (like a hug-a-bub or moby). My DD would fall asleep in an instant in it until she was about 15 weeks old.

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Guest Craptacular

At that age I just kept offering boob.

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meggs10

You could try wrapping the baby nice a tight or in a Ergo bag and give her a dummy while rocking her. That always settles my now 11 week old.

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lady lady

At that age what seemed to work for us (more often than not) was breast and white noise ......

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mibi

sounds like you did a great job op.

 

I would sit on a fit ball holding bub close and gently bounce.

 

A nice deep, warm bath, followed by a feed just about always worked when mine were unsettled. Just make sure it's warm (aim for a fraction warmer than what you would normally)

 

Put baby in pram and find a bumpy spot (ie edge of rug or carpet) and rock over the bump.

 

 

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Jenflea

Skin to skin contact, in the dark on the rocking glider chair in her room.

 

Also one of the books I read said to NOT switch things up too soon as it can make the crying worse. If you're using the rocker, stay with it for ages, not stop in 5 minutes if you think it's not working.

try your method for at least 20 or 30 minutes because once they are in a rhythm any disruption can upset them.

Of course if the crying gets worse you do try something else. My baby HATED the expensive swing I bought with the twinkly lights and music.

But she liked the vibrating bouncy chair we borrowed from the in laws.

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lucky 2

According to normal newborn behaviour crying per 24 hours peaks at 6-8 weeks, at 7 weeks you'd be smack bang in the middle of the peak. It is hard but it passes. Go with the flow, do you best, you are doing fine, its normal.

The link below discusses this behaviour and gives lots of information on crying, soothing and sleeping. It is up to date and refers to research/studies in this area.

All the best.

http://www.purplecrying.info/

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Bluenomi

At that age boob, boob and more boob.

 

And sometimes nothing will work. Babies cry and get unsettled, that's what they do. You just try and ride it out without going completely crazy.

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Chelara

I used to sit on my fit ball and bounce or rock, really really helped.

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Madeline's Mum

Shower.

 

The sound, the 'rain' like water drops and the steam totally entracned our DS and would settle him when nothing else working.

 

Battery operated swing also help when we were just at our wits end.

 

A light muslin wrap over your sholder and cradling the baby (as if you were trying to cover up when breastfeeding). Stops outside distractions and allows them to just go inside themselves.

 

I know your trying to settle but sometime loud music would help distract DS when he just got himself too worked up. Not too loud to damage their ear drums but loud enough to make them stop and think.

 

Its all about trying heaps of differend things at that age. As my dad said; distract, distract, distract!!!

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Gerbra Girl

Either the car or the stroller (covered with a wrap so he could not see out) usually worked for us. The movement was enough to send our DS off. Now he is forward facing we cannot use the car but the stroller is still great.

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LittleC

rocking (sometimes a nice big swinging motion really did the trick) Boob, white noise ( a fan on a low setting can give a lovely soothing sound), a nice tight wrap, dummy, a walk..

 

Sounds like you're on the right track, for my son the key was often persistence with a particular thing. Just when we thought one settling technique wasn't working, the cries would get fewer between and eventually quieter.

 

I hope you find some quiet/sanity. Good luck!

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ImpatientAnna

Definitely agree with boob boob boob. We had an unsettled evening last night (cabinfever with all this rain) and the only thing that worked was completely dark room, swaddled, rocking chair and ssshhhing. Also swing car capsule.

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redheeler

Our bubs loved (& still loves) white noise...specifically the hairdryer...we ended up downloading the noise & putting it on a cd as running the hairdryer was getting pretty tedious.

 

At 9 weeks we learnt that if he didn't get lots of sleep during the day then by 4pm he would be so overstimulated & tired it was much more difficult for him to get to sleep at night. They really can't handle lots of 'play' time when they are that young (sometimes 15 mins is enough) then see if they will settle for a sleep. An overtired baby is so hard to settle at night.

 

Also I found that when he was little he would get wind stuck & when he woke up crying picking him up & getting a good burp up solved the problem & he went back to sleep.

 

Many times though feeding him to sleep (or to resettle) worked the best. good luck

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ShortAndStout
Our bubs loved (& still loves) white noise...specifically the hairdryer...we ended up downloading the noise & putting it on a cd as running the hairdryer was getting pretty tedious.

 

Hairdryer noise works for us too, also the exhaust fan in the kitchen, or staring at kitchen light reflecting off the white fridge. The fridge seems to daze him when he is super overtired, enough that rocking / white noise / boob can take over.

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IShallWearMidnight

boob boob boob.

(and a sling so I could feed hands free)

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bizikids

we use a womb sounds cd turned up quite loud with the speaker under the cradle and we make sure he is tightly wrapped. Has worked well for all of our children.

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