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kristin5

Sorry girls, I have been extremely slack :blush:

 

My only excuse is that I have been busy back at work.

 

Mel, you are o/s right now, lucky you! Hope Natalia was well-behaved on the long flight!

 

Bec, sorry to hear about your work problems. :( Work causes more stress than it is worth sometimes.

 

Ryley has yet another ear infection, so the audiologist now says grommets won't be avoided. I wish they'd just hurry up and do them now (but we have to see the specialist first, on the 7th of Jan, and then book into hospital, and we don't have private health cover - there is a chance that Ryley's case will be urgent so he will get in quickly, but we'll see).

 

He is loving it at kinder 3 days a week - I can really see the benefits. He looks forward to going now as he doesn't feel so much a stranger, and doesn't forget what it is week-to-week.

 

Wishing you and your families a very Merry Christmas and a safe and happy New Year.

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sunflower82

Hi.

 

I am new to this site etc. Umm the run down, I am 28, DH is 30 and my DD is 4 this yr. I had her at ipswich hospital on 25/10/2006. we have just found out that we are FIANLLY going to be having another. due november 2010. I love reading all your entries seeing that i am not alone in the weird and wonderful world that is motherhood. Hope to chat to you all

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Mel1609

Hi Sunflower - I am quite new to this section also. There's only a couple of girls who post here, and not all that often either. I've been very slack myself. But welcome !

 

Bec & Kristin - are you still about ???

 

Will try and post a bit more soon. xxx

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chookys2boys

OMG!! I havent been getting notifications!!!

 

How are we all?

 

Mel I hope your trip was awesome!

 

Kristin how is Ryleys ears? Did he end up getting the gromits?

 

Welcome sunflower! Congrats on your new bundle on the way!! I totally understand the FINALLY bit! We have been TTC # 2 for about 2 years now, with a m/c in may last year. Totally over it at the moment!

 

Sorry I havent been in much, been busy with work :(

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kristin5

Welcome sunflower82! Congrats on your pregnancy too :)

 

I hadn't been posting here because I thought everyone must've left me!!! Glad that it's not the case and you are back :)

 

Ryley is booked in to have grommets, and it is supposed to be in the next couple of weeks (still no firm date). We have been having a few dramas though as his kinder got him checked so they could get extra funding for an additional assitant (they were using him as just an excuse they told me) and then it turned out they thought there was something more seriously wrong so we were referred to a developmental paed. She has ruled out autism (which I didn't think was likely anyway) but is now suggesting that he might have ADHD! I don't think so, and nor do the teachers at kinder (they just think he has a problem with his attention span) nor our gp, but it seems they like to make a diagnosis these days (and when they are very young). I am beyond caring, because whatever they say, I will find it hard to believe. I know my own child! He does have some slight developmental delays (in that he is a little bit behind other kids his age, in some areas), but they are caused by his lack of speech and his many ear infections and slight hearing loss. Hopefully the grommets will help fix these problems. Anyway...enough about that.

 

I have been flat out with work (a few people have left and I have taken on their jobs - 3 full time positions into my usual 3 working days!) It just doesn't quite fit so I have been very stressed.

 

I also had my wisdom teeth out in January and had an amazingly quick recovery. I'd recommend my surgeon anyday!

 

Better go now - it's late and I need to get to bed :)

 

Hope you are all well and that you all write more soon!!!

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chookys2boys

Kristin I wouldnt worry about what they are saying, you know Ryley the best! Plus I wouldnt be suprised if he picks up more once his ears are better, just my toughts!!

 

 

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MummyMellie

Not sure if this is the right place to post this but.. Hi! I'm Mellie. I'm new here. My October 06 little one is Jasmine. She was born October 10, 9 days past my due date.

 

I also have two other kids. Lucinda, who is 5 months old and Zachary who we lost at 4 months of age due to a heart defect.

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Mel1609

Hi Mellie, welcome to EB. I'm Mel, too, ( Melinda ) and Natalia is on the 28th.

 

Sorry have not written much since the trip ! We had a really great time. Spent a fortune, though, but I guess we haven't been back for 10 as a couple, and it was the first time the in-laws met Natalia, same goes for cousins, aunts, etc, etc, so she got so spoilt. I had to spend two hundred pounds just on excess baggage ! I did hit the shops quite hard, tho .....

I'm trying to encourage Danny to go back every year, even for two weeks with Natalia, as he's been a bit flat since we got back. I have, too come to think of it. Have had a huge outbreak of eczema which has been weeks getting under control. I always break out when not feeling good, and I guess after a great trip your bound to get the holiday blues when you get home. Still, have been trying to keep busy with school - only about 10 weeks to go and then I'll be a fully qualified hairdresser ! Am very excited and will have to start thinking about what I want to do. I think getting some salon experience would be the bes tthing, and then hopefully I'll be able to go it alone as I am SO OVER working for someone else ! Plus just having that flexibility with kids, rather than asking for time off, to leave early, blah blah. WOuld love to have my own little salon at home one day ...

Bec - do you have a date yet for Riley ?

 

We are TTC #2 also, but not really really trying, just seeing what happens. If there's nothing after maybe six months we might get more serious, but for now we're just trying to enjoy sex rather than it being a means to an end !!!

 

Hope you girls are all well. xxx

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hidingbehindmyself

Just thought I'd pop in and try to meet some other mums with kids the same age. My mum's group only lasted about 9 months - I was the only one who ever turned up!

 

Amelia was born on Oct 2nd at 2am (2 hours late - she was due on the first!).

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kristin5

Welcome hidingbehindmyself and MummyMellie! I have a DS, Ryley, born on October 3rd :)

 

Mel, I am still green with envy about your trip! Sound brilliant! And well done on nearly finishing your hairdressing course. My best friend's mum owns a salon in Bulleen (and has done for over 30 years). She has enjoyed having her own business for the flexibility.

 

I have popped in to say we have had a busy day today. Ryley has received a diagnosis of Global Developmental Delay from the developmental paed, which was best case scenario really (better than autism or ADHD which had both been suggested at some stage or another). He is already on the waiting list for some early intervention services (an Occupational therapist and speech pathologist, though he already sees a speechie anyway) and has qualified for funding for extra care at childcare/kinder. I have mentioned before that I did realise he was slightly behind other kids his age, and with this diagnosis nothing has changed. It is just a slight delay and hopefully this early intervention helps him be ready for prep in 2012. His major delay is with his speech, but even that has improved in leaps and bounds recently (his pronunciation/clarity remains a problem, so that he really only talks around us as we are the only ones who understand him - he won't even bother talking around other children).

 

The paed said today that she can see a major improvement just in the month since she last saw him (in his speech and imaginative play) so that was nice to hear (it's always nice to hear something positive, especially when I am so used to hearing negative things about him being behind/slower than other kids).

 

And the best news is that, after I made a phone call to the hospital today checking up on when his grommets op would be (given we have been waiting 3 months!), I was called back within half an hour to say he is booked in for Friday morning! Yay! Of course, I am a bit nervous as ops are always scary (I have seen him have too many already, for my liking) but I am hoping this will have great results, and should help his speech and thus help with other delays. Fingers crossed...

 

 

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Mel1609

Kristin - that is so great about Friday - I will be thinking of you.

 

You know, in relation to Riley being slightly delayed in his development, I often look around the kids in my mother's group, there's nine of us, and marvel at how different they all are. There are 3 boys and six girls, and about three of the kids, all girls, have fantastic speech, and have alwasy been way ahead of the others. And a couple of the kids don't say all that much, or they're very hard to understand and just make simple statements rather than conversation. Yet one of the slower girls was toilet trained way before anyone else, and one of the slower boys was the first to walk, and has alwasy been way ahead physically. I guess I've alwasy just thought that kids develop at different rates and that that is quite normal. Of course if a professional is telling you one thing then they know best, but they are still so young, and have so much time to catch up. I am sure Riley will do so easily, especially once he can hear better !

 

Nice to have you, Hidingbehindmyself. Do you have another name you're happy for us to use ? Your username is a bit long .... :)

 

Not speaking about you lovely ladies here, but do any of you ever ask yourselves why you bother with EB ? I'm not overly sensitive, but sometimes the responses I read in the general section really p*ss me off. I sometimes think to myself, that's enough..run away now ! But I keep getting drawn back in ......

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Juni

Yeah, not sure about the general section.. gets a bit crazy in there.. I'm always curious to see what people are talking about so its worth a look-in.

 

I'm a bit slow and its taken me 3 1/2 years to check out this parenting group! :rolleyes: I looked for it about a year ago and couldn't find the October one and always thought one didn't exist. I could definitely do with hearing about how other parents are coping with their 3.5 year olds and am always looking for kid-wrangling tips. Is it just two of you that post regularly or are there more? I have a 3.5 and a 1 year old.. parenting 2 kids is a whole different ball game.. far out, its sure knocked me for a six.. just starting to come out of that first year fog and work out where we're headed. I think I'm going to stay home and look after them but then.. sometimes I change my mind, I've got another 12 months on "leave" to decide what we'll do. Interesting times ahead.

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Mel1609

Hi Juni, not a lot of activity here lately, am guessing the others are busy busy busy ! I only started posting here a few months ago myself !

 

kristin, if you're about, would love to here how Riley's op went. Is he doing well ? And are you ??

 

I've got 4 weeks left until I'm qualified..can't wait ! I've gotten myself a job, only one day a week at the moment, but will be part time once I'm done studying, so it's all very exciting to be starting a new career. Nerve wracking, as I'm still getting my confidence up, but I know it's just a matter of time. Natalia has taken really well to her new child care, but it IS only 1 day. Will be interesting to see how she goes when it's two or three, but I think at the moment she's just loving the interaction with other kids. Being an only child I'm sure it sucks a bit at times. She's a really good girl, though, although over the last few months the attitude sometimes.....well....it's hard not to laugh sometimes ! The trouble is, she's only saying things that I say to her.."don't speak to me like that".....or "Ï said come here right now"" that kind of thing. It's hard to explain that what I say is not ok for her to say, I sound like such a hypocrite.

 

I've finally worked it out with the general section - I just don't bother anymore ! I knew I would get it eventually. ;)

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kristin5

Welcome aboard Juni!

 

I'm still around, but not posting much on EB. Like you Mel, I can't stand the general boards here and so tend to avoid a fair portion of EB. It's just the same old people saying the same old thing...

 

Ryley had his op and recovered brilliantly. He was allowed home an hour after the op and then we had a playdate in the afternoon! Kids are amazing!

 

And since then, he has improved out of sight. No ear infections (yay!) and, more importantly, his speech has really come along. It is a lot clearer and he is saying so much. Still not complete sentences, but getting there. Everyone has noticed, which is great. And I think he feels better about it too, as we understand him now :)

 

Mel, it's great to hear about your job and Natalia's childcare. Don't worry too much about increasing days - I found Ryley did better going 3 days than he did when he was only going once a week.

 

We have just come back from a holiday to the Gold Coast - it was fabulous. Now that Ryley is able to interact so much more, we had heaps of fun. (And spoilt him rotten too of course - that's one advantage of being an only child!)

 

And I am taking him to the zoo tomorrow (naughty me, I haven't taken him before now). Shame I didn't organise it earlier, maybe we could've met up Mel? (You're in Melbourne too aren't you?)

 

Is anyone on Facebook? I am there a lot more than I am on here, that's all.

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Mel1609

Kristin, that is such awesome news about Ryley ! You must be feeling so pleased for him, and relieved in a way, too.

 

I am also on FB, here's a link to me -

 

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?

 

I am in Melbourne, too. Did you have fun at the zoo ?

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kristin5

Yes, I am starting to think (well, it's really just confirming by suspicions) that maybe he isn't so delayed after all - it has just been his ears playing up all along. And now he is able to hear properly, he is catching up :)

 

The zoo was fantastic - Ryley had so much fun! He is going through a real animal-loving phase (all thanks to Diego).

 

And your FB link just links to my FB page, so I will PM you my name :)

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Mel1609

I am crap with linking !!!

 

Will be interesting to see how Ryley goes over the coming months. And exciting, too !

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kristin5

Looks like my thoughts are correct - the new paediatrician says he isn't developmentally delayed, aside from articulation problems! So all he needs is more speech therapy. Yay!!!

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Mel1609

Hooray !! Mums know best !!

 

That's really fantastic news, Kristin.

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chookys2boys

Gosh Girls, Im so sorry I havent been in here lately. I had an issue with a stalker and had to disappear for a while.

I cant stay long today but promise I will catch up in the very near future, cant spill too much just yet in case Im still being stalked!!

 

Thinking of you always

Bec

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Mel1609

Stalker ??? Tell us more !

 

I also found that one particular member was checking my profile every day. Was weird, felt like messaging to ask why I was so interesting, as from reading her posts I clearly did not know her.

 

No news here, unless you count the marriage counselling we're starting on Friday ...... wish us luck.

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kristin5

Oh Mel, what's happening? Hope you're ok?

 

And Bec, WTF?! What is this world coming to?!

 

All is good for us. Ryley is continuing to make improvements with his speech. Toilet training is still a battle though. Aside from that, everything is totally boring in my life!!!

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Mel1609

The usual issues I guess, Kristin. After 12 years together, little things have become big things and they need to be dealt with. Then we'll see if we're both still 100% happy to continue being together. So, it's mutual, but still a bit scary. Watch this space ....

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kristin5

Best of luck for tomorrow. It's good that you're both trying to work it out to see if it can be revived :) (too many people give up way too easily. Though, in saying that, I was divorced when I was 29, so I also know that some things just can't be fixed).

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Mel1609

Went well today, what I expected really. Lots of chat, kind of filling the guy in on where we're at. Nothing really amazing, just talk.

 

It's hard to adjust to such feelings of insecurity. He did emphasise that's it's a process, and to just go with it rather than looking for defining moments or big answers. That's hard to do, though, in reality, but we're committed to trying.

 

So Kristin have you re-married ? Is Ryley from a new relationship ?

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