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New thread time :)

 

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JuliaGulia

Woohoo, first!

 

Haven't been in for a couple of days. I am really making a concerted effort to put my head down and get some work done!

 

Honeyblonde - you poor thing! It's the worst when you just can't recover from anything. Echinacea?

 

Nayjay(?) - sorry, can't help you there. All of mine were well overdue, but I imagine premmies must be a bit of extra work for you.

 

Rach - did the other post (about large fams) give you any clarity? Hope you are feeling a bit better about things.

 

Kristy - hope everything's okay. Feel free to drop in and chat anytime.

 

Anyway, I'm sure I've missed lots of people but am trying desperately to catch up on all the posts. Back later.

 

Waiting, waiting

 

Julia

 

Me 32

DH 34

DS Joshua 5/8/95

DS Lachlan 28/2/97

DD Emily 10/4/01

TTC#4 Dec 05

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JaneMcG

Hi everyone :)

I'm feeling very unexplainabley cheerful today and can't work out why :) Not that I'm complaining and not that I'm normally grumpy but dh has been home sick since Wed, we're panicing and trying to get everything organised to put the house on the market, and I got NO money back from Fam Assis with tax return (underestimated my income from working last year.) So it's unexplained happiness, but I'm not complaining.

 

I can't offer any thoughts on prem. babies - mine were also late, except dd#2 who gave me a big shock by arriving on edd. I was so sure that babies never arrived on edd's. However, I can imagine the thought of a premmie must be difficult to contemplate.

 

To all those who have the flu and colds, I hope your recovery is quick, and your tissues are nice and soft.

 

I have just seen a job advertised where I want to work in the town we're moving to at the end of the year. It's a 3 month maternity leave position, and it would get my foot in the door, but it is full time. Jobs at this school come up very rarely. I am unsure whether I want to apply or not. Where's my fourth baby in this? What about my other 3 too given I wanted to work part-time? It's an interesting dilemma, even just to see what I eventually decide to do, will help me clarify what I really want. I guess too, I'm not very good and being a long term sahm. Well, actually I haven't done it for longer than a year at a time. I don't cope well for a whole range of reasons, and it is one reason I am undecided about #4 as I would really feel pressure and the need to stay at home for longer with more children. Any thoughts, ideas gratefully received.

 

Am also wondering if anyone has ever put their house up for sale with small children in it. Any advice? zeezee22 feel free to jump in here. How on earth am I going to keep it tidy, let alone clean??

 

 

 

 

 

Jane

DS: January 01

DD: October 02

DD: October 04

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nayjay

Hi all. Thread #3..wow!

Juzzy, You would certainly have more experience at the whole SCN thing. How long were your hospital stays? We maxed 12 days with DS2, so were pretty lucky. I can understand you waiting until the girls are at school. Our baby is only 28 weeks, so I can't believe I am even contemplating another bub at this stage. I didn't have p/e...just unexplained pPROM with the last 3 pregnancies along with a very irritable uterus and other joys like hypermesis. We were very fortunate to have made it to 34 weeks with DS2. He threatened to come at 16 weeks and a few other times later. Talking to DH about wanting another bub he said, "Do you really want to go through all that again?" For some unexplainable reason YES I do....that still isn't a definite though. Juzzy, one big thing that confronts me is the fear factor...Do you know what I mean? How do you cope with that?

JaneMcG - On the job front...maybe you could apply and just see what happens..applying may even be a foot in the door to casual or PT work...you never know. Working FT is very difficult but I measure my work time in terms of days. For example, at the moment I have 7 weeks until 2 weeks holiday(QLD) that is only 35 school days left. So say you took a 3 month contract...at the most that is 60 days of work (minus public hols). Does that make sense? I know a lot of other factors come into it like CCare etc...but that is how I cope with the separation-from-my-baby factor. Hey...keep smiling...it is good to be unexplainably cheery.

Julia_traps, My first was overdue, after that 32wk^i^, 38wk, 34wk. The last time around it was hard being in hospital away from the family. (?) I posted in the 1st thread but didn't get around to posting very often in the 2nd thread and now we are up to the 3rd thread. lol.

HoneyBlonde - hope you get better soon. Nothing worse than copping one thing after another.

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~Fuzjuz~

Julia - Hi :)

 

Jane - best of luck with the House selling & the job front. I'm in 2 minds about starting my job next august too. Maybe I should just have the next baby THEN worry about work, kwim. :)

 

Nayjay - Do you mean how long was I in hospital?? With Blake, it was 9 days as we lived 7hrs drive away & I went to the nurses rooms after leaving the hospital. With the girls, they were a natural birth, & I was kicked out after 3 days. Blake was in hospital for 28 days & the girls for 27. Long time to be away from family & home. :( As for the fear factor, comes & goes but I know what you're saying. I'm scared about having a baby at 28 weeks!! 30 weeks & over is fine with me, but under that is just scary.

 

Hi to the rest of you Fence Sitters. Have a great sunday. :)

 

 

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Rachxox

Hi girls,

 

Julia, yes I am feeling a lot better, I was so happy after reading that post. I had some really positive feedback which was wonderful. Good luck with getting your head down and getting some work done. It's really hard to find the energy sometimes.

 

Jane, I hope the happy feeling keeps up and that your dh feels better. What a shame about underestimating your income. I actually worked a few extra days over the Christmas break (I only work Saturdays as a receptionist) and I've underestimated about $400 I think so it will be interesting to see what happens with my refund. I've put our house on the market with one toddler and was pregnant at the time, but we were lucky and sold to the first person that walked in the door. It went on the market on the Monday and we had signed papers on Wednesday. I could see how it would be hard to keep up with keeping the house tidy at all times.

 

Honeyblonde, how you are feeling. I know we've got a terrible bronchial (sp?) virus going around at the moment, it's even running adults into the ground.

 

Nayjay you certainly have gone through a lot with your prems haven't you and I can understand your dh being worried about risking it again, but I guess as you know once they are home safe and sound it all seems worth while. I can understand you not wanting this to be an obsticle. I had a really tough pregnancy with #3. I was getting contractions from 20 weeks onwards and spent the rest of my pregnancy worrying about going into labour early and after all my worry I ended up nearly going to term. I've never hit my due date yet, but I've only been a couple of weeks off, so still considered term. I guess what I am trying to say is even after my scary pregnancy I would still risk it and go again because when I look at my baby I almost forget the really bad morning sickness I had for 13 weeks, then the really bad migraines and headaches for the next 10 weeks and then having her sit so low I felt like she was going to fall out LOL at any stage for the remainder of the last trimester.

 

Juzzy, you have a great Sunday as well.

 

No new update from me, but I was so overwhelmed with the positive feedback I got from my post about how others felt growing up in a large family. It was great to read and has definitaly been a great sway for a yes.

 

Kate, not far away from the big O for you. I noticed on one of your other posts that you were on day 9 of your cycle. Have fun IYKWIM ;)

 

Keep well and talk to you soon.

 

Rachael and her 3 little princesses

 

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~NatB~

Hi guys Iv'e been away for a while with the boys all been sick their still not 100% but slowly getting there. As a result have had quite a few no days but that will soon change.

 

Jane- I haven't sold a house with kids but have just completed major renovations and would not recommend you do this with three boys under 4 1/2. At one piont we were down to two rooms a bathroom and the laundry which was also the kitchen... thankfully that didn't last for long. About the job I'd go for it because I'm a big believer in fate and if you get it you were meant to have #4 a bit later and if you don't, well..

 

rachxox- your third pg sounds alot like mine but thankfully I made it to term. I understand the worry of maybe having a premmie but none of mine were in the end in fact DS#1 was an induction at 13 days over he just didn't want to come and meet us.

 

Honeyblonde- my remedy for anything and everything is curl up with a good book and a hot cuppa!!!

 

Well I must go and clean the house which has been neglected for the last few days with sick boys. Hopefully I will be back sooner this time

 

 

 

Make sure you smile today,

Natalie

 

DS#1 Ryan 23/10/2000

DS#2 Liam 22/3/2003

DS#3 Conor 28/10/2004

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nayjay

Juzzy, I feel a little the same in that before 30wks is scary. (Although we lost our 2nd bub at 32 wks with other fatal complications besides the prematurity.) Oh what I meant by the hospital stay was bubs stay. I was fortunate to board in the hospital with DS2. It must have been hard to be away from your little ones while they were in the SCN. It is so reassuring to know that they are so well cared for though.

Rachxox Our #3 was trouble too. It sounds like my preg. was similar with contractions starting early and then the last few weeks were shocking. Started dilating early and finally waters broke... but she was good and made it to what is considered term (38wk). I understand what you mean when you say looking at that baby makes it all so worth it. I think that is what gives us the courage to do it all again...it is such an honour and privilege to be a part of sharing life with another precious little human being.

 

Have a great week to all!

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JuliaGulia

Hi girls

 

Sounds like quite a few of you are leaning more to the yes side this week. "Come to the dark side"...

 

JaneMcG - we sold our flat with one toddler and one baby and even that was really hard. Fortunately, we sold it a few days after it went on the market. I think we could have got more if we waited but I can't imagine having to keep things organised for much longer. Could you afford to hire someone to come in and clean for a few weeks? Re your job sit - I would probably say go for it, even though I know it will be really hard. The thing is, you know that in schools you will be much more likely to get part-time work in the future if you have already been there. Three months isn't too long, although of course it will be really hard. Anyway, as someone else said, if you apply and let fate decide that will be a good message for you on #4.

 

Rach - glad to hear you are feeling better about things. Does this mean #4 is more likely?

 

Hope everyone is feeling well and that all the kiddies are making their way back to school after the various illnesses. Have a great week.

 

Waiting, waiting

 

Julia

 

Me 32

DH 34

DS Joshua 5/8/95

DS Lachlan 28/2/97

DD Emily 10/4/01

TTC#4 Dec 05

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JuliaGulia

Hi girls

 

Sounds like quite a few of you are leaning more to the yes side this week. "Come to the dark side"...

 

JaneMcG - we sold our flat with one toddler and one baby and even that was really hard. Fortunately, we sold it a few days after it went on the market. I think we could have got more if we waited but I can't imagine having to keep things organised for much longer. Could you afford to hire someone to come in and clean for a few weeks? Re your job sit - I would probably say go for it, even though I know it will be really hard. The thing is, you know that in schools you will be much more likely to get part-time work in the future if you have already been there. Three months isn't too long, although of course it will be really hard. Anyway, as someone else said, if you apply and let fate decide that will be a good message for you on #4.

 

Rach - glad to hear you are feeling better about things. Does this mean #4 is more likely?

 

Hope everyone is feeling well and that all the kiddies are making their way back to school after the various illnesses. Have a great week.

 

Waiting, waiting

 

Julia

 

Me 32

DH 34

DS Joshua 5/8/95

DS Lachlan 28/2/97

DD Emily 10/4/01

TTC#4 Dec 05

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Hi there,

 

I hope you don't mind me hyjacking your thread for a minute but I wasn't sure where to put my questions & feelings and thought this spot might be ok.

 

I'm currently pregnant with #3 we have been TTC for almost 3 years, we had 2 M/C and now are finally pregnant.

 

DH and I had always said 3 kids, no more. But I find myself now thinking how soon could I get pregnant again after this one. I have spoken to friends and they think I'm nuts but I want more kids, not just the 3 we had always thought we would have.

 

There are sooo many cons of course, need new car, more expensive holidays, more expenses in general but I keep thinking about more kids. I come from a family of 5 and I guess I would like that too.

 

Just wondering for those who were at my stage did you have similar thoughts? Were your thinking about more straight away?

 

Thanks everyone....

 

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JuliaGulia

Hi everyone

 

Rose - I personally wasn't thinking about #4 when pg with #3. I really treated that pregnancy as though it was my last, which I thought it would be. Now there will be a big age gap for #4, which I don't mind, but in some ways it would have been better to have had #4 a couple of years ago.

 

Rose and Lara - re #4 and #5. From what people tell me, 3 is critical mass, and it doesn't get any harder from there. I'm really hoping this is the case lol! Probably some of the mums here with 10 or 12 might disagree.

 

Lara, I don't think you are being selfish to want 5. If you are managing well with 4, is another really going to make that much difference.

 

Well, I have finally finished all my work and winter school ends today - yay! One weekend off (to paint and clean and .....)

 

Missing a few people in here lately. Honeyblonde, are you feelign any better or are you still sick, you poor thing?

 

Bye for now

 

Waiting, waiting

 

Julia

 

Me 32

DH 34

DS Joshua 5/8/95

DS Lachlan 28/2/97

DD Emily 10/4/01

TTC#4 Dec 05

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Honeyblonde

Hi girls

Well we are still recovering, the kids have pretty much got over their colds, but of course poor run-down mum still has a lingering cough and exhaustion etc etc, typical!

 

Well girls #4 has arrived!!!

LOL.........only she's not human, she's a puppy, so we are hearing the patter of four paws!

 

She is an 8 week old purebred Rhodesian Ridegeback, we lost our German Shepherd last year to a horrible bone cancer and have spent the last 14 months researching many breeds, and this is the perfect one for us, as they dont jump fences, they are friendly and loving with their family, but aloof with strangers and are good guard dogs, as they only bark at the threatening or the unusual (but not at ordinary things like the neighbour coming home or people just walking past) they are not vicious or aggressive, have a lovely temperament and best of all they are great with kids, they will tolerate a lot of pulling and tugging from young children, and are content to laze around with the family, if you want to go for a walk they are happy to do that, but they are also happy to just laze around. These dogs are originally from Africa (Rhodesia, now known as Zimbabwe) and so we chose an african name for her pedigree name: Nyashia, (which is pronounced Nih-AH-sha) and it means "beautiful African princess of purpose" which is a lovely meaning.

Her "everyday" name will be Ruby. The kids just love her and she loves them.

 

Well thats all, I'm off to have a snuggle with my gorgeous little new baby!!

 

Hopefully this pic will work.

 

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Take care,

 

 

Kylie, 30

DH Peter, 33

DS 5 1/2, DD 3 1/2, DS 17 mths

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JaneMcG

Hi everyone

 

Honeyblonde - my commiserations with your sickies and now you being run down. Sometimes it can feel like ONE virus has been in the house forever! I hope you're getting some rest. :) I couldn't get your 'baby' photo to work, but I'm no computer expert so it could be really easy :confuse: I'd just like to point out that my dd2's name is Ruby, but she's not taking it personally ;) We're a 2 dog family Ralph the Old English Sheepdog and Frankie the bijion frieche (which I have completely forgotten how to spell today)

 

julia - congratulations on finishing all your work!! Yay, well done. You must be so pleased with yourself. I could not imagine studying with children. Well done. If it makes you feel any better re the price you sold your flat for, I've been reading that the first person who is interested in your house usually gives you your best price.

 

Rose - I wasn't contemplating #4 when pg with #3 either, I was actually panicing at how big our family was getting. I can lol now, but at the time it was a huge shock.

 

zeezee22 - hope your house sells quickly. I'm starting to get nervous and anxious as we've never sold a house before. The dayly mess I can handle (i've looked at flylady b4) it's more the marks on windows (we have lots) and dirty oven sort of thing that I'm wondering how I'll manage. You know, the things that take a while to clean. I can't see myself going around each week and washing all the windows and wiping grubby hand prints off walls, but maybe that's what I'll have to do..... :(

 

rlc - I hope your family is all getting better too. dd#2 has had a slight sniffle the last few days but nothing major. Love the thought of a book and a cuppa - might try that in a few minutes :) ... or just keep cruising around here - it's very addictive. :)

 

Rach - I hope all are well at your house. I love the thought of selling our house as quickly as you did yours. We live in a semi-rural area though, so it might be a bit slower.

 

Well, dh is all better and we're really gearing up to put our house on the market. I have decided not to apply for the job I was talking about. If we haven't sold the house I would be living away from the family, I'm not ready to put my baby in child care, and the job is only for about 7 weeks. so I'll see what they come up with early next year. Unless of course I'm pg by then... :) :)

 

 

 

Jane

DS: January 01

DD: October 02

DD: October 04

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ooops! Sorry Juzzy and Nayjay forgot personals.

 

Juzzy - I'm with you on the 'just get pregnant then worry about work' thing, but I just have to convince dh. However, this is the first time ever that I've not gone for work when it has become available. Maybe I really do want #4 more than I think....hmmm

 

Nayjay - i've always measured my working life in terms of days until holidays. Sounds like I hate it, I don't I actually really enjoy it, just like holidays more :) I used to love those years when Easter fell outside school holidays cos then you got more days off. Those years don't come along often enough though. I hope all is well with your home/work balance and keep counting those days

 

Jane

DS: January 01

DD: October 02

DD: October 04

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Rachxox

Hi girls,

 

Just a quick update, all is going well at my house. The girls seem to be feeling a lot better and nearly over their viruses.

 

We went to the doctors today for Chantels 4 year old immunisation and Annelises 4 month old immunisation and I saw my doctor who delivered all three girls and asked him if he was renewing his obstectrics license next year (he had been debating this last year) and he said with insurances settling down now he would be continuing for a while now and he asked me why and I said well it looks like we are having ONE more and he said Rachael, you glutton for punishment. He asked me when and I said probably in March next year when Annelise turns 1. We've always started trying when each one has turned 1 and we've ended up with a 22 month gap between each one.

 

So does this mean we are really going ahead and doing this. Ohh my god, I couldn't believe the words were actually coming out of my mouth.

 

I would say it's pretty much a given now, but it's certainly not going to stop me from having my YES and NO days and certainly my days when I will think we are completely mad for even considering #4 in the first place.

 

I hope you are all well.

 

Rachael and her 3 little princesses

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rachxox- you go girl!!!!!!!! It must be a bit scary though to have it out there like that. Wasn't it lucky that your Doc is continuing. That fate thing has reared it's head again...

 

Make sure you smile today,

Natalie

 

DS#1 Ryan 23/10/2000

DS#2 Liam 22/3/2003

DS#3 Conor 28/10/2004

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Honeyblonde

Hello girls!

Feeling much better!

 

Where is kristymumto3 and katewith3??

They seem to have disappeared, as have a few others!

C'mon girls, what are your thoughts this week, yes or no?

 

I must admit, over the last three or four weeks I have been thinking NO!!! but then I have a good day with the kids and my 'baby' (who just turned 18 mths on Saturday!) will do something especially cute like come up to me saying mum-mum and giving me a hug and a big sloppy kiss, and then I think oh, yes, just one more baby!!!

 

So I am still up and down, but having more no days lately, although they are not so much "no" days, more like "I'm happy with 3 kids and I dont need anymore" I have been feeling more and more like I have completed my family which is odd becuase I had such a strong feeling for the last 17 months that I needed to have one more, now that feeling is not so strong!

 

We are still going to leave the decision until May next year, and that is when I have to say yes or no definitely! We are still going to buy our Ford Territory next year, whether or not we have 4 kids, the 7 seats will come in handy for school friends etc.

 

JaneMcG We put our house up for sale in Dec 2002, when DS had just turned 3, and DD was 13 months old, it was sold about 3 months later, when DS was 3 yrs and 3 months and DD was 16 months old. It was fairly easy but it was only a small house (about 16 squares) and the only annoying thing was people coming to look when DD was having a nap, and one time she was sick with a fever, and hadnt had much sleep, I finally got her down for a nap, and the bloody estate agent rings and insists on bringing people over for an inspection! Grrrrr! You just need to be fairly organised, and keep things relatively neat and tidy, a few toys around isnt going to hurt, espeially if you're selling a family home and its families that are coming to look at it, then they will understand what its like with kids! Big Tip: Get rid of any clutter, helps make rooms look bigger, and arrange the furniture to best suit the room and emphasize the houses good points, open the curtains up and let lots of natural light stream in, keep it simple and fresh, and air the house out to make sure your house doesnt smell like last nights dinner when inspections are happening! Good luck, we sold ours in March, I got pregnant end of April and we moved when I was 5 weeks pregnant! We rented for about 8 months, while our dream home was being built, and then I gave birth on 30th Jan, and we moved house the next day (while I was in hospital) hubby hired a truck and moved everything!) So not great timing! (house was supposed to be completed by October of 2003, not Jan 2004!! LOL)

 

Better go, DS has his 18 mth checkup.

 

Oh and congrats Rachxox on a tentative "yes" !!

 

 

 

Kylie, 30

DH Peter, 33

DS 5 1/2, DD 3 1/2, DS 17 mths

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That's it Kylie, I just have to get pregnant now so that while I'm in hospital dh can move us. Yay! I hate moving and I've done it many, many times, although this is the first time we've sold a house.

On the #4 front the good news is that our house seems to have 25% more value than we had thought. Two agents have seperately valued it, and given eg., of other houses similar selling higher than we had thought. (I used to be right into following the real estate market but funny I don't seem to have the time anymore) Anyway, dh said to me, well that's it then, you can get your Ford Territory and have a fourth child...!!!

I shall have to pursue that point when I have some time, or actually just when we're both home together atm would do. Seems to be something on every night for one of us.

The annoying thing about putting the house on the market is that I've finally got containers for all the toys and have cleared out some of the junk. Why, why did i put it off?? Ah, well, enough waffling on. Hope everyone is feeling clear minded and without colds/flu in their house today

 

Jane

DS: January 01

DD: October 02

DD: October 04

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JuliaGulia

Hi ladies

 

Rachel - yay! Congratulations on pulling the splinters out of your bottom. It feels weird to write it, doesn't it - makes it all real.

 

Honeyblonde - glad you're starting to feel better. You gave me a bit of a fright with your post - until I read on and found that #4 is a pup. How lovely. BTW, Kate has moved to TTC as they decided to just go for it, and Kristy is taking a little break.

 

Jane McG - it sounds like everything is on your side for #4. How great!

 

It's funny, I had a feeling in my last post that there was a shift happening in this thread. Then I go away for a few days and come back to a much more "yes" vibe. Keep it coming.

 

Waiting, waiting

 

Julia

 

Me 32

DH 34

DS Joshua 5/8/95

DS Lachlan 28/2/97

DD Emily 10/4/01

TTC#4 Dec 05

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Sorry, I never seem to have time for personals, but just wanted to say that I'm in with the shift to the 'yes' on this list!

 

Jessica just gets cuter and cuter, and I'd just love to see her as a big sister! She's already fond of playing with her big sister's dolls - imagine how much fun she could have with a real baby!

 

Well, and not to mention that I really miss being pregnant!

 

Kristen

 

 

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hanem101

Hi all

 

Well Im a mother of 3 girls my last one born this year in jan and I have this feeling Im not done yet.I treated my last pregnancy as my last one but

just cant bring myself to believe it.I have 3 girls 9yrs old 3yrs old and 6 months and soo want a little boy. People think Im mad but I dont care.We really have 4 kids dh has one ex little boy I have 3 9yrs old from my ex and we have 2 together.currently I have done a test today neg-- but still 2 days until af shows so who knows this one isnt planned just a woospy if I am but cannot help thinking about it.I was taking to dh today and he dosent care if I am or not he is easy that way but 2 under 2 thats going to be hard.I have had it easy with my girls all angles to look after so I am happy to add another but in my head its saying no just got job refinance the house and all settled into new routine.How can this feeling of wanting a boy go away not only for me but dh as well.We love our girls but having a boy will complete me if you know what I mean. Maybe its just me thinking it will or I always said no more kids after 30 well Im 29 this year so maybe it that I dont know . Well thanks for listerning as I have noone else to talk to about this as everyone thinks Im mad

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radmama

Congrats Rach :)

 

LA Babe, I've recently turned 39 and now my goal is to have my 4th by age 40 lol!!! I used to think a 40 yo with a baby was way too old.....you are a spring chicken at 30!

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Thanks girls for all your congratulations, I'm pretty excited and I've mentioned it to a few of our friends and had a pretty good response, so that's made me feel better. Hay for all I know they could be saying I'm crazy behind my back, but I don't really care. I guess it comes down to feeling that happy within yourself and knowing that you are making the right decision for you and your family. Although that said I just read Furmum's post where she said two of her friends who had 4 kids both said that the 4th added a huge financial strain. I really hope that's not the case.

 

Kylie I totally understand where you are coming from when you say it depends on what sort of day you are having as to whether you are having a yes or no day. I can be having a shocker and think no way known I could handle another, but I've made the decision to stop worrying about everything and just go ahead and do it and then hopefully it will all just work out in the end. They do say you don't regret the ones you have, just the ones you didn't.

 

Jane that's wonderful news on getting your house appraised for more than you thought and also for your dh agreeing to #4, so is that another one to add to our yes list?

 

Julia, I noticed you are ttc in December, it's funny you think it' a long way away, but really you could be pregnant in 4 - 5 months and when you think of it in cycles, it's not that far away at all. Sending heaps of baby dust your way.

 

Kristen, welcome to the yes side of the fence LOL. If you do decide to go ahead, when are you looking at trying.

 

Hanem101 good luck with your testing, I hope it's a positive and sending blue baby dust your way. Your not silly for wanting a son. I am so glad with my 3 girls, but I find myself wondering what life would be like with a gorgeous little boy. I'm not holding my breath though. My parents have 10 grandchilden and only 1 boy, so the odds aren't high.

 

L.A.Babe hang in there it isn't an easy decision and it also doesn't help that society seems to have this view that any more than 2 kids is insane. Don't think that I haven't been in your shoes, as I mentioned before I'm almost saying to hell with all the worrying, my heart and head both want #4 so I'm just going for it.

 

Radmama I'm only 32, but I agree I would be worrying about finishing my family by 30, they do say 40 is the new 30 ;p

 

Rachael and her 3 little princesses

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OMG!!! OMG!!! :8o:

I have been expecting my period this week, and today I have just gone back through my calender and I thought I might be a day late, but it is actually 2 days late!!

I thought it was due today, but it was actually due 2 days ago!! AARRRGGGHHH!!

TMI info coming..........I usually get slight brownish/red spotting at day 27 of my cycle, for 2 days, then my period comes on full force at day 29, well I had very slight brown spotting on day 29 and 30, now its day 31 and no period, and the spotting is disappearing!

So my period is 2 days late!

So what you say, well I am NEVER this late!! Except when I am pregnant!

 

It would be just my luck as we got a puppy last week and I was just thinking what I dont need now is to get pregnant! And to make it worse, I just worked out what my due date would be, and guess what, its DH's birthday!

This is relevant to me as I got pregnant with my 1st baby on DH's birthday, and baby was due Xmas Eve, I got pregnant with 2nd baby on Valentines Day, and I got pregnant with 3rd baby on our wedding anniversary (yeah I know I should have learnt by then not to have sex on important dates!! LOL) and he was due Australia Day, which also coincidentally was my mums due date with me!! So now *this* baby would be due on hubbys birthday (lucky I always go about 8 days late so highly unlikely it would be born on his b'day!)

 

Okay, calm down, calm downm, deep breaths, I will psychologically will my period to arrive!

 

I am expecting (hoping?) it will arrive tomorrow, just to scare me!! I jsut dont want a baby right now, next May was the plan to TTC!!

 

But it would be kinda cool.......

 

 

Kylie, 30

DH Peter, 33

DS 5 1/2, DD 3 1/2, DS 17 mths

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