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Just thought I would come in and wish all the October 06 babies ( :blush: ) a very happy 2nd birthday for this month!!

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chookys2boys

I dont know where everyone is but....

 

HAPPY 2ND BIRTHDAY TO ALL THE BEAUTIFUL OCTOBER BABIES!

 

ETA: Do I claim silver?!! Would be my first!

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chookys2boys

Where is everyone?

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chookys2boys

Does anyone at all want to chat in this group?

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rainbowdolphin

wishing everyone a happy christmas & hope all the toddlers enjoy xmas this year!!! it only seemed like yesterday my little man was a baby!!

 

anyone elses october baby scared of santa? mind you once santa gave him a lollypop he was fine! :ph34r::lol:

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chookys2boys
:waves: rainbowdolphin, havent taken mine to see him yet this year. Last year DH took him and it was awful!!!!

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Brissie

Chook - not many from Oct06 mums come in here anymore after a massive falling out. Best I don't get into it as it was the talk of the forums for a while.

 

I was just popping in to look at something else and thought I would have a look to see if it was still going.

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chookys2boys

Hi Brissie

I think that is so unfair that their falling out has 'ruined' this thread. I havent read back over what happened and quite frankly I couldnt give a damn!

I know they have a group on facebook but Im not on there very often and find it easier to just be in here. Plus I feel a little uncomfortable joining an established group like that IYKWIM?

 

If there are any oct 06 parents still out there Im around and still interested in chatting!

 

 

I also wanted to say

 

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!

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nadia*and*kade

Wow october is a quiet month :tongue: Hi to anybody out there with an October 06 baby. My name is Nadia and my son is Kade. Will check back for replys, hope to chat to some of you.

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chookys2boys

Hi Nadia!!

Glad to meet you! Have been waiting for someone to come in here!!

Im Bec and my sons name is Alex.

Kade is a georgeous name!!

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Hi Bec

 

Alex looks gorgeous!! We put so much thought into Kade's name :) He was born on the 23rd of Oct. Arent they at a great age, little sponges. Kade loves to help, what about Alex?

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chookys2boys

Sponges for sure!!! DH let the F bomb slip in the car the other day when an old biddy cut him off, and yep Alex copied! AARRGGHH!!

Alex has started TT, we are taking it as it comes though, not pushing him and it seems to be working!

So you have any other kids/plans for more?

We are currently sort of TTC! IYKWIM! If it happens it happens, in two minds as we had lots of trouble with Alex, you know the whole sleep issue, didnt get a full nights sleep till 12 months!

These things were meant to test us though!!

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Umm yeah they pick up the naughty words AND even use them in the right way lol. We would love a 2nd and had hoped we would be pregnant before now, I am diabetic tho and my sugar is not stable so we havent tried to conceive as its a big no no with unstable sugar :( It will happen soon. People have their weakness and food is mine.

 

Do you have Alex in daycare?

 

Kade isnt yet, I couldnt stand to be away from him :p I think when he turns 3 I will put him in 1 day a wk to see how he goes. He has his social events that he goes to for now anyway. Better social life than me lol

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chookys2boys

Food is my weakness too, sorry about your sugar levels. They got you on anything for it?

 

I was thinking of getting Alex in one day a week soon, my mum has him 2 days at the moment which is saving me heaps!!

We just do mums group occasionally, and a few other things as well, but not really enough.

I just need to get tough and trust that someone I dont really know can actually look after him and do a good job!!

 

Oh such is life!!!

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Yes i'm type 1 diabetic so on insulin :(

 

Your lucky to have your mum having him 2 days aweek, we dont have any help like that but we go 2 playdays mondays and music wednesdays and anything else in between.

I havent put Kade in swimming yet and unfortunately its more because I havent felt comfortable getting in swimmers in public lol I know thats bad but I am definately going 2 start him this year.

 

So is it just us in Oct 06 then? Where is everyone else?

 

We live near Wollongong where abouts are you?

 

Have a great weekend!!! Anything exciting planned?

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Im glad they are looking after you.

 

Yep I agree Im so lucky to have mum around! Im the same as you with swimmers. I hate it. Alex was in lessons for about 18months but we pulled him out, he wasnt learning much and prob couldnt do anything to help himself if he fell in the pool. We are looking at getting him in to a different school thats about $2 p/w cheaper.

Its not bad how you feel, I have never been comfortable with my body and now I feel really fat and ugly! I know Im overweight, just lack the motivation to do much!

 

It is just us, the others have some secret group now, something about a huge falling out. I didnt want to join them, I just thought I would hang out here till someone else who didnt know what happened came along!!

 

I am in NE VIC, Wangaratta.

I had to go to a meeting sat for about an hour, worked all day yesterday and today I took off! We went to the V8 supercar launch at Winton. It was very hot and a good day!!

 

What did you do?

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nadia*and*kade

Hi Bec,

 

Have been flat out, we lost a dear friend to cancer and have moved house. Still have alot of cleaning to do at the old place. Grrr I despise moving lol

Things should start getting back to normal now. Have moved in with my mother so we can pay off some bills and look into a home loan of our own.

 

Have a wonderful week :)

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kristin5

Hi, I'd like to join in here if you don't mind (just saw it in the recent topics). My name is Kristin (obviously!) and my son's name is Ryley and he was born on 3 October 2006.

 

He was born with a bowel disease called Hirschsprung's Disease, so it was very touch and go for a while there but he is great now (there will be ongoing problems, but nothing we can't handle). He does seem to be a bit behind in hitting milestones though, due to the tough start in life.

 

He is adorable though and the light of our lives. Whilst he doesn't really talk yet (beyond a few words and a whole lot of babble), he knows a few colours and he understands everything we say to him.

 

I have booked him in for a hearing test in a couple of weeks, to get that checked out. That is the first step in starting speech therapy. I was just going to wait it out (as there is a genetic factor as well as the hospitalisation factor) but I think that by not talking, he is falling behind in other areas (as obviously if he can't talk, he also can't count for example).

 

I was involved in agroup like this on another forum, but when Ryley was born with these problems, and he started falling behind in development, I found it hard to deal with the competitiveness of other mum's. And this also happened with Mother's Group. I understand people being proud of their kids, and of course I am too, but sometimes they can get a little carried away iykwim?

 

I have started Ryley at a toddler group (like 3 year old kinder but for 2 year olds, and I stay with him) in an effort to socialise him and for him to see what other kids are doing. It does seem to be helping him.

 

We are from Melbourne and I work from home (except once a week when I go into the office, close to home, and my MIL looks after Ryley).

 

We won't be having another, we have decided. We did try for most of 2007, but it just didn't happen. And I am nearly 37 and DH is 40, plus there is a chance that the next child would have this same disease, and DH says he couldn't cope (and I must respect his decision - I'd hate to ignore his wants and then it hurt our relationship down the track). We are very content with Ryley, he is a little cheeky angel who delights us every day :)

 

Nadia, I am very sorry to hear about your friend :(

 

So, there are only 3 of us here then? And all 3 of us have boys! Hope to keep chatting with you :)

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I should add that the perceived competitiveness thing could be more due to my over sensitivity to the issue, due to Ryley's delays, rather than any wrongdoing by other mum's. But I am probably better equipped to handle stuff like that now than I was at first.

 

 

What are your son's into? Ryley has just started being obsessed with trains (particularly Thomas). He can spot one a mile away. And loves to play with each and every one of his trains. He even takes a few to bed with him each night. He also likes Bob the Builder, Roary, Cars and still seems to like In The Night Garden, though not as much as he used to.

 

(See now that I have found you, you won't get rid of me! LOL)

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nadia*and*kade

Hi Kristin, welcome :clap::)

 

I'm sorry to hear about Ryleys rough start in life it sounds like you and DH have a close bond which is fantastic and definately wouyld help in situations like yours.

I dont know whether you should be too concerned with his speech, they are all so different. My son, Kade (born 23 Oct) shortens all words eg, spider mnan is just man, a friends name - Marshall is just Ma lol no sentances for him unlike his 2 yr old girlfriend who speaks non stop and as well as you and I would and another 2 yr old boyfriend who sounds like he speaks as much as Ryley.

 

Kade loves trucks, cars, trains, planes, helicopters :tongue: , typical boy! He loves Scooby Doo and Tom Jerry, I have got tickets to the Scooby Doo stage show in May, cant wait.

 

I think you are right about Mothers grps although I havent been I have heard very similar stories.

 

Yes its just the 3 of us I have only been in chatting to Bec for a couple of weeks, the more the merrier.

 

I am 31, diabetic and would love a 2nd baby but my sugars are not controlled as food is my weakness and after a very strict 1st pregnancy I guess its not something I want to give up just yet :tongue:

 

Speak again soon :waves:

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Thanks for replying Nadia.

 

And thanks for the reassurance about speech. Most boys I know don't speak very much at this age either, but it is kids I hear about (rather than witness with my own eyes) who are apparently far more advanced than Ryley.

 

DH didn't start speaking until he was 4 and I have heard of plenty of men who didn't start talking until they were 3 (Einstein being one of them!). I just wish that whenever this topic of speech delay comes up, that people wouldn't start talking about autism! I have copped that a few times, and I just don't believe it (I should add that no professionals think Ryley is autistic, but a lot of people seem to link a speech delay with being autistic). And this sort of thing weighs on the mind of an anxious first time mum!

 

Ryley is into all the typical boys stuff as well, and is very active and into rough & tumble.

 

I don't think he has seen Tom & Jerry or Scooby Doo though. He must be deprived! LOL I want to take him to Disney on Ice (whenever that is on again) as I still remember going to it when I was a child, and it is a fond memory.

 

We took him to the Gold Coast theme parks last year and he had a blast (he liked Bugs Bunny and Shrek the most). We will take him to Disneyland, but want to wait til he is older so he can get full benefit from it.

 

I hope that all is good so you can try for a second child when you are ready. I don't know too much about diabetes and being pregnant, so can't offer much support there unfortunately. But I recall hearing that it can present some difficulties. I had pre-eclampsia with Ryley (among other problems - I wasn't one of those glowing pregnant women you hear about!) and that was awful. That is another thing putting me off going back again.

 

Will chat again soon. :)

 

 

 

And I meant to add, I love the name Kade! :)

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chookys2boys

:waves: Kristin!!!

Welcome to our little group!! So glad you found us!

Ryley is drop dead georgeous!!!!! What a spunky little monkey he is!!! Im sorry he has probs, if you dont mind me asking, what does hirschprungs disease involve, and what is in his future (meds etc)? You dont have to answer, Im just fasinated by all things and love to learn about stuff!!!

 

I second what Nadia was saying, dont worry about what others say, EVERY kid is different. They all develop at their own pace. Alex is slow to talk to, what words he does say are blabbering mess but its cute!!

Boys develep physically faster than girls, they develop mentally faster! Go with your gut instinct, if you feel somethings wrong, get it checked out. As for what others say about autism, if it were true then Nadias and my son would also be autistic!

 

I prob should intro myself properly! Im hopeless!

Im Bec, 30 in Oct(11th), married for 5 yrs, Alex is my DS, 3 on Oct 15th! Yep he was due on my b'day!

 

I better fly, prob be back tomorrow!!

Have a good night

 

Bec

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Thanks for the welcome Bec! You both have no idea how good you have made me feel, and obviously Ryley isn't as abnormal as others are trying to make out. I am really glad I have joined in here :)

 

Thanks for the compliment about Ryley too. I think he is adorable as well, but of course I am incredibly biased, so it is nice to hear from an impartial observer! Alex looks like a cutie too - especially with those gorgeous brown/hazel eyes! And those cheeks - I just wanna squeeze them!

 

Ryley was due on the 11th of October too! But he was induced early due to my pre-eclampsia.

 

Hirschsprung's Disease is a disease of the bowel where the nerve cells (called ganglion cells) didn't develop throughout his large bowel. They stopped at some point. These ganglion cells are there to help push poo through, so without these, the pooing process comes to a halt. This also caused Ryley to build up a lot of poo in his bowel, and his bowel ruptured when he was 3 days old (this doesn't happen to all kids with Hirschsprung's, just a small number apparently). So he had an ileostomy (like a colostomy but higher up and on the other side) to poo into for the first 5 months of life. They eventually did a pull through operation, which involves removing the portion of bowel without ganglion cells, and then pulling through the good part of bowel to the anus.

 

This means though that he has a much smaller large bowel than the normal person (around about half the size) which then means that there is not as much bowel there to absorb fluid, so the poo that comes out is very watery (and smelly!). Hence diarrhoea is a constant problem. It also means that we don't know how much feeling Ryley has down there, and whether he even knows he is pooing (maybe it just basically falls out of him, as it is so liquid, and he can't feel it?). So toilet training could be tricky, and it is expected that he will be in nappies for longer than a "normal" child. However, he should toilet train eventually.

 

He is on medication to make his poo more solid (like immodium, for diarrhoea) and it has made a difference, though he still doesn't do very formed poo.

 

The other problem is that children with Hirschsprung's Disease, when they are toilet trained, they continue to soil, and yet can't smell it themselves (I guess they are somewhat immune to the smell) so other kids tease them and this can badly affect self esteem. This is something I am worried about, but again I will cross that bridge when I come to it. At the moment Ryley is a happy, cheeky, friendly little kid, and I hope his personality is large enough to deflect any such negative teasing from other kids (if that does ever happen).

 

Anyway, ther are a lot worse things he could have, so we are quite lucky that it is only Hirschsprung's Disease really! Sorry for all the poo talk!!!

 

 

Hope I haven't bored you with my reply (I tried to summarise, but I do go on a bit!)

 

As for me, my DH and I have both been married previously but neither had kids. We were married on NYE 2005, and got pregnant with Ryley on our honeymoon (after trying for the previous 12 months - it seems he wanted us to be legal before making an appearance!)

 

(If you are wondering why I reply so quickly, I have subscribed to this thread! LOL )

 

No doubt I'll be in here again sometime tomorrow :)

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chookys2boys

GGRR!! Im so annoyed right now!! I lost my post earlier, I hate my computer!!!

 

Will try to remember what I wrote!!

 

Kristin, I dont think any kid is abnormal, they are all normal in their own ways. I believe that each child is sent to thier mother for a reason. (Im not religeous either!) You wouldnt have been given the opportunity to bring Ryley into the world if it wasnt thought that you were the chosen one to take care of him.

 

Thanks for taking the time to explain Hirschprungs, I have heard of it but never knew what is was exactly. Poor vegemite, must have been a tough time for you all.

 

Im sure he will come up against teasing, again a normal part of life! Its a pity any kid has to go through it but I think its a part of growing up unfortunately. I know Im certainly not looking forward to the day Alex comes home from school and says hes getting teased. Its not fair and unfortunatly for Ryley it may be more likely that he will be teased given his condition. But, I think if you teach him about teasing and what it all means then it may help him deal with it. Teasing is ppls way of hiding the fact that they are afraid of the truth and why someone is different.

I hope Ryley grows up to be the smartest cheekiest kid around and ends up being the bullys DR or other important part of thier lives! Karma - what goes around comes around!!

 

Treat others how you would want to be treated!

 

As for the due date stuff, By my LMP Alex was due on 13/10, early scan at 6 & 7 weeks (due to bleeding, possibly lost a twin) said 9/10, SO, midwives split it down the middle and said 11/10!! I ended up having a scan on the 11th, sonographer said bubs would come by the end of the week. Mind you he cut it fine, came on the Sunday arvo, about an hour after I was meant to have a CTG again anyway! Was having regular CTGs due to increased BP, not to high but they were keeping an eye on me!

 

Hope you are all well

BBL

 

Bec

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