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Tyrannosaurus
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We have just recently let our year 6 son ,11 turning 12 year old play fortnite. He just started a week ago. We let him have a lot of time after school after he has done his homework(weekdays 15 hours) and last weekend he played for like (12 hours the whole weekend). Total like 30 hours.  He plays with this school friends online and while they they are on the phone.

I read today that they should only spend like 6 hours weekly on it. So i said to him today we are changing it to 10 hours weekly of fornite and he is very angry and not happy.

AM i being to harsh? How many hours of fortnite does your child play? How many a day , weekend or total for the week?

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Hypnic Jerk

none at all.  Minecraft on the other hand....

 

And no, you're not being harsh.

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Lallalla

You sound reasonable to me (disclaimer: I don’t have an 11-12 year old yet) - I bet he disagrees but of course he does! I would have too at that age, doesn’t mean you are wrong!!

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Jelly11
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In the classroom I have seen the effect of too much time on these types of games. One student in particular would become violent in the playground, run away from staff and act as though he were in the game for real. He may not like it but you are the parent, it's your job to set the boundaries so well done for doing just that.

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CCABW

A lot less since he “accidentally” spent $50 on an in-app purchase 🤬

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Prancer is coming

My 11yo year 6 child is not allowed to play it.  It is for 12 plus and I hold firm on the ratings.  I won’t be going out of my way to get it when he is 12, it is known for being addictive and my Ds has trouble enough moving off screens.

 

We don’t do screens in the school week.  If we have had a big week, we might put the tv on of a Thursday night.  Friday and Saturday nights I don’t mind some tv, computer games or iPad time.  Might start of a late afternoon if we are not doing much or the weather is bad.  I do try and encourage tv viewing as a family Saturday night.

 

30 hours would be too much in our house.  And the fact he is angry when you try and restrict it would be a sure sign he is having too much and he needs less until his behaviour and attitude improves.  I have no time for aggro when it is time to come off screens.

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Fluffy Potatoes

No Fortnite here yet. 
We have an 8yr old and he’s allowed 2 hrs gaming time on the weekend, it’s up to him if he uses it in one block or spread over the weekend. Any complaints about wanting more time/having to get off results in no time the next weekend. 
 

 

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CallMeFeral

IMO that's a lot of hours, you are not being unfair at all. 

My 10yo will not be allowed on Fortnight for a while yet. 

It's so hard juggling this stuff the more widespread it becomes. 

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-Emissary-

DS is 12 years old and used to have unlimited game time. He then got grounded and now on very limited game play and has to earn his hours. He gets 1 hour for every hour he spends either learning how to type or reading. It’s capped at 2 hours a day on the weekend. So the most he gets during the weekend is 4 hours. 

Same rule applies during weekday during school holidays. Occasionally I’ll feel nice and give him an extra hour for helping out around the house. 

He isn’t allowed to play on weekdays during school term.  

DS doesn’t like it but he hasn’t really kicked up a fuss about it. 

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JomoMum
5 minutes ago, Fluffy Potatoes said:

No Fortnite here yet. 
We have an 8yr old and he’s allowed 2 hrs gaming time on the weekend, it’s up to him if he uses it in one block or spread over the weekend. Any complaints about wanting more time/having to get off results in no time the next weekend. 
 

 

Same here. 
 

Our 6yo, so admittedly a bit younger, is allowed 2 x 30 min blocks mid week of iPad time to use as he chooses. Normally Minecraft. 
He also gets 1 x 1 hour block on a weekend. Complaints equal no time at all. 

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BrainFart

I don’t think your being unfair. To give some perspective, a full-time job is roughly 37-40 hours per week..

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Redchick2

 you are not being unreasonable at all. We have a no gaming during the week rule in my house. My boys can play on on X-box Friday night (after they do any homework) and probably play up to 4 hours a day on Saturday and Sunday (though it is usually only one day with that many hours). And that is total x-box time, they also play a lot of others games (usually sport ones). They also have to have a 10 minute break every hour (I’m not so good at keeping an eye on this but they usually get hungry and stop for a snack). 
 

But we still have the endless discussions about how much x-box time when I ask them to do something else on the weekend and it drives me crazy! 

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Popper

DS is only 8 but we are similar to other PPs with no games during weekdays. We also don't have fortnite in our house and can comfortably say never will. 

30 hours a week is excessive. It almost the equivalent of a FT job. It doesn't leave much time for physical activity, play and reading books. 

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amdirel

I have 3 teenagers, and honestly, I've given up this battle on 2 out of 3 of them. Not fortnite, just devices in general. 17yo can self regulate but he is a gamer, so plays a lot of hours. DD doesn't game but uses social media a LOT, but she also dances a lot of hours.

Almost 13yo... now he is the problem. Completely obsessed with devices. Gaming or youtube. I would probably be ok with 2 hours max weeknights, of gaming with friends. Probably not every week night though, as 2 hours is a lot IMO. But if they're in the middle of a group game, it's hard to just leave. The useless youtube bugs me though. But gaming with friends, they are actually socialising, so I don't mind it so much, as long as homework and chores are done, and there's been some kind of recent physical exercise. On weekends I don't really care how many hours, as long as he intermittently does homework/assignments and has a break, cleans up/chores, and does some kind of exercise. BUT problem with him is he DOESN'T. He's just not at that age/maturity to self regulate, so we FIGHT a lot!!

30 hours is too much. But 10 wouldn't be enough for a gamer. Ideally I'd say 15 maybe, 1 hour weeknights and 5 weekends.

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MadMarchMasterchef
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1 hour ago, Popper said:

 

30 hours a week is excessive. It almost the equivalent of a FT job. It doesn't leave much time for physical activity, play and reading books. 

when you put it like that, yeah I would maybe only allow that on holidays not during a normal week.  

I think maybe an hour a day is fine if its not affecting the child's behaviour or schooling.  In my experience banning things outright can often make the issue worse so I tend towards the allowing with boundaries train of thought. 

 

ETA - my oldest is 9 so Im not at this stage yet.  I know I may end up eating my words.  She games but I only allow an hour at a time here or there and she prefers racing, sports  or strategy games, she isn't interested in anything with shooting.

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blimkybill
1 hour ago, Popper said:

DS is only 8 but we are similar to other PPs with no games during weekdays. We also don't have fortnite in our house and can comfortably say never will. 

30 hours a week is excessive. It almost the equivalent of a FT job. It doesn't leave much time for physical activity, play and reading books. 

Absolutely. If a child is playing 30 hours a week of an online game so many other areas of their development are going to be left behind. His school work will suffer, his physical and mental health will suffer through lack of exercise and lack of social interactions, his family relationships will suffer. I think it's important that you set a significantly lower time limit. There's some really helpful information and ideas on"The Unplugged Psychologist" website. 

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AllyK81

It is so hard when peers are playing these games and the pressure is real to ensure kids don't feel left out.

DS is 6 and his friends all play video games and one even plays fortnite. We are screen free by comparison (aside from home learning!). We will get him a gaming console for his birthday but it will be strictly regulated. There's a balance to be struck around being included in an activity friends are engaging in and the rules that are best for your child and your family.

Our rules will be no gaming during the week and restricted on the weekend to 2 hours over the whole weekend. We may let him use it in the car when we drive down to our beach house as well.

For an older child you may allow a bit more but outdoor time and reading and board games are important, too.

Good luck. It is such a hard balance to strike.

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3babygirls

Another thing to consider with such excessive hours is as he gets older are you going to allow him even more time?

I have two children in my extended family with screen/gaming addictions and when it gets to the point of playing that many hours it gets so hard to get them off. My 14 year old relative will play his games from sun up to sun down over the weekends and will stay up until midnight most nights after school. He does nothing else other than go to school and play games. He barely gets any sunlight and looks awful physically.
It was definitely a gradual thing starting out in early primary school and then it just escalated.

One thing to consider is whether he has balance in his life? Does he get exercise, does he read or draw, does he get face to face social time with his friends etc. I would think that spending 30 hours playing games that he wouldn't. 

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Squeekums The Elf

dd is 10 in yr 5

I have no idea how many hours she plays roblox. As long as homework and any chores done, im not too fussed. She generally pretty good if we ask her to get off and come do xyz. She also chooses to do non screen related stuff often enough that im happy with the balance

We rural and there very little to go see or do here and being winter, we hiding from the cold.

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Milly Molly Mandy

Your 11 year old is spending 30 hours a week gaming? 😱 I would be unplugging that thing and removing it from the premises so you don’t get bullied into its return and give your son a chance to experience life without it. I would say he’s either addicted or heading that way. It will only get harder as he gets older. 
 

 

 

 

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Ruf~Feral~es

I have a 15 year old 'gamer'who would spend all his waking hours on screens if he could.   It started around year 6, so the rules and boundaries you put in place now will set the grounding for your battles later.

We have a no computer rule during the week.  Not negotiable.  He has to get off around 8pm Sunday, and is not allowed back on until Friday after homework etc.  This is never an argument, because it has been in place since forever, and all his friends know that he won't be online during the week, so they don't pressure him.

On weekends he pretty much has free rein, as long as his jobs are done.  He does his own washing, empty dishwasher and restack, bins, and sweep up the pets area outside.   He also has to attend family outings as requested, and we entertain a lot, so he has to be sociable when we have friends over.

In addition to this, he plays Tennis on Sundays until around midday.  During the week he has sport training 3 times a week,  is in three bands, a choir, and 2 instrumental ensembles, so his hours before and after school are pretty full.

I would say he is on his computer (not fortnite anymore, but brauhalla, and now has a VR set up) for about 16 hours on the weekend.  But he has a good balance of other things, and his online world  is when he socialises.  We rarely see his friends, but they are all online together.  Even when they come over, they tend to end up in separate rooms in the house, all playing online anway!

 

He also has anxiety, and at times I think depression.  So his online gaming is partly his 'safe space' where he most feels like himself without the pressures of the rest of his 'teenage angst'. 

DD (16) on the other hand, has no interest in games, but is glued to her phone constantly.  It drives me a little nuts, but she is involved in as much music/drama stuff as her brother, her marks are fine at school, and she has a good balance.  

It's really all about balance.  If they are involved in activities, sociable and polite, doing well at school and in the areas you consider important - whether it is sport, music, etc - then screens are not the enemy.  They can be a good outlet for them - it is up to us to monitor and teach them how to manage it.  Banning it doesn't seem to help.  But if it changes their mood and they become obsessed, to the detriment of other things they enjoy - that needs to be nipped in the bud.

 

 

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Prancer is coming

I have seen the word ‘gamer’ pop up quite a bit lately on EB and am wondering what it refers to.  Does it just mean someone who likes computer games?  It is almost like it legitimises it - he’s a gamer so 29 hours is fine.

 

if it does mean someone whose hobby is computer games, it is worth looking into it in the context of other hobbies.  I don’t really care what my kids hobbies are, but if they were spending 30 hours a week doing it (running, music practice, youth group), I would think this was excessive and cutting into the time they had to spend on other things.  Interestingly, my 8 year old who liked running recently ran 14km.  It only took less than 80 minutes, but I was wondering if it was too much at such a young age.  I actually asked a run group (and the doctor) and lots of the responses were certainly around it was too much and not good for his body.  So it was clear to lots of people that 80 minutes of exercise was a strain on the body.  But we don’t seem to consider that 80 minutes on a device is also a strain on the body, when there is lots of discussion on the impact of screens on kids, addictive nature of games, affect of screen light on eye sight and the like.  

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MadMarchMasterchef
3 hours ago, blimkybill said:

Absolutely. If a child is playing 30 hours a week of an online game so many other areas of their development are going to be left behind. His school work will suffer, his physical and mental health will suffer through lack of exercise and lack of social interactions, his family relationships will suffer. I think it's important that you set a significantly lower time limit. There's some really helpful information and ideas on"The Unplugged Psychologist" website. 

Im not disagreeing with you but just wanted to mention that console games can be exercise in some situations.  My kids play just dance which ,its a good workout and good for co-ordination. 

Possibly a bit off topic for a fortnight thread. 

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3babygirls
27 minutes ago, MadMarchMasterchef said:

Im not disagreeing with you but just wanted to mention that console games can be exercise in some situations.  My kids play just dance which ,its a good workout and good for co-ordination. 

Possibly a bit off topic for a fortnight thread. 

Video/computer games definitely aren't all bad. There's many good things about them, but just like everything there is still balance needed and most 'gamers' aren't playing just dance 30 hours a week.

I quite like a rainy sunday afternoon just dance party :D 

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Babetty

We focus on total screen time (except for schoolwork). 11 year old DS needs to have 2 screen-free days a week and on other school days maybe gets 40 minutes - 1 hour when all his other chores and activities are done. He has maybe 2 hours on Friday, and 4 ish housrs each on Saturday and Sunday depending on what else we have on.

 

So it would add up to 10 - 12 hours a week total screen time. He also plays AFL and tennis so that keeps him active, and reads a lot. We're found a balance that works best for us and him - more than many of the PPs in this thread, but less than many of his friends!

If he is grumpy or bad mannered when we ask him to stop, he loses screen time for the next day/s. We've had to do that a few times so he knows we'll follow through.

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