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What chores would you give a nearly 13 year old and 8 1/2 please

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FindingZen

Sweeping

Raking up leaves

Vacuuming (if they don't mind the noise)

Mopping

Drying dishes

Dusting

Feeding the animals

Helping prepare dinner

Washing the car

Taking out the rubbish

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seayork2002

what we give ds and what we should is a big difference, he helps when we ask him too no set tasks

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~Kay~

Unpack the dishwasher

Hang out washing (if you have an airer)

Sort the washing

Put away the grocery shopping

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Fennel Salad

Not sure for 13 yr old but we give:

 

Unstacking dishwasher

Folding their clothes and putting it away

Tidying up their room

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winterbabies

My kids are younger (8&6) and do some of the above as well as take out the compost, open curtains in the morning and close them at night, empty their clothes hamper and bring to the laundry, make cups of tea. 6 year chops veggies for dinner and 8 year old can make scrambled eggs (with assistance) and Tuna casserole. 6 year old very badly sweeps the floor.

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littlepickle

My kids are older but chores largely unchanged:

Empty the dishwasher (they have elected to each do a tray so they don’t have to remember whose ‘turn’ it is)

DS walks the dog DD feeds him twice per day (he has a metabolic disorder and requires food four times a day)

Keep their rooms tidy

Clean their bathroom in the weekend

Take rubbish / recycling out

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Jenflea

10 yr old DD has very few chores(I'm slack) but by about 11 or 12 I was:

Clearing the table

Feeding the cat

Cleaning the toilet/bathroom

Checking mail

Taking turns doing the dishes.

 

By 15 I was cooking for the family or helping mum cook

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Silverstreak

DS is almost eight with ASD and his chores are:

 

Helping me make the bed.

 

Putting our dirty clothes into the wash basket after shower.

 

Loading the washing machine and wheeling the laundry basket to and from the closet. I do the laundry powder and fabric softener.

 

Putting rubbish into the outside bin and carrying the recycling tub up to the garage (DH then puts the bins out into the street.)

 

Helping me unload the dishwasher (just cutlery and plates, I do the glasses and bowls, as they are higher up.)

 

Putting his shoes away on the shoe rack.

 

Turning on the dishwasher, he loves doing this!

 

Recently I've been getting him to dry the kitchen bench with a tea towel after I've wiped it. I'm also trying to teach him to fold t-shirts.

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Silverstreak

Forgot to mention he likes checking the mailbox as well.

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Sharalanda

My 7 year old unpacks the dishwasher every morning, waters the plants, takes out the compost, puts his folded clothes away, vacuums the car and inside if asked.

 

My 4 year old also “helps” with the above and is in charge of feeding the dog and setting the table. They both help clearing the table and wiping it down after dinner.

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Mrs Zee

My boys (9 & 12) do a lot around here.

 

They vacuum at least once a week, mop & dust sometimes, 12 year old now cleans a toilet once a week, tidy up the house, fold and put away their clothes, put dirty clothes in laundry basket, unpack dishwasher, (12 year old also stacks sometimes), help cook, set the table, clear the table, take rubbish and recycling out and take the bins out each week. They also feed the dog, change his water and clean up his poo (they alternate, so one feeds the dog and the other cleans the yard, then they swap the next day). They both also do tonnes for their little sister.

 

They also do anything else they're asked (often with complaints ;) )

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Tyrannosaurus
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Year 4

Water plants

Clean their room

Empty dishwasher

 

Year 6

Tutor his sibling

Empty dishwasher

Clean their room

Edited by Tyrannosaurus

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Chocolate Addict

My almost 15yo has been doing his own washing since he was about 12 or 13yo.

He takes the bins out/in, does vacuuming if I ask, sorts out his own bedroom, will heap our gardener sometimes and sometimes does some work for me.

 

He doesn't get paid for any of it except the work for my business.

 

He doesn't do the dishwasher, everyone puts their dishes in, I am the one in charge of running it and chucking in pots/pans and my mothers job is to unload it. lol

 

He as autism, anxiety and an eating disorder so some things I can't get him to do, like mowing the lawn. I tried but it was too loud and the machine vibrated too much. lol

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PocketIcikleflakes

My 8 and 5 year old just help out incidentally.

 

The 8 year old is autistic and is usually past done after school. And the 5 year old is, well, 5.

 

They put dirty clothes in the wash bin.

Clear their own plates.

Help with some cooking.

Load and start the washing machine if asked, sometimes they offer.

Vacuum with the stick vac while I use the main vacuum.

Mop if they get the chance.

Tidy if they absolutely have to.

 

Outside

Get the bins in with an adult.

Load logs into the trailer.

Mow the lawn taking turns.

Bring firewood in.

 

They don't have a roster.

 

They do get money for extras, not to get them to do it but because they have expensive tastes for toys and they needed to realise that money isn't free.

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ineedmorecoffee

DD 8.5 feels hard done by when she she is asked to pack away her toys.

 

She doesn’t mind making her bed, helping me fold the laundry and checking the letterbox but that’s about it.

 

Am I setting her up for laziness?

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Murderino

This thread has confirmed how slack I am with regard to housework - I do less housework than some of your children! My kids help out with what I do as asked.

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YodaTheWrinkledOne
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We have a 13 and 11, not much differences in their chores

- pack/unpack dishwasher/dish drainer

- clear up after dinner

- take rubbish/recycling out as needed (to wheelie bins)

- do the wheelie bins each week (take them out, bring them back in when emptied)

- strip beds/make with new sheets (they do whinge about this one)

- make bed (to be honest, this is not a daily thing, particularly since we are currently home all the time)

- put clean clothes away

- vacuum (at least once a week with their bedrooms, whenever we ask for anywhere else around the house)

- tidy up bedroom (maybe every 2-3 weeks?)

- feed chickens/collect eggs

- help with chicken "maintenance" (trim feathers, dust for mites, etc)

- sort out own lunches for school

 

ETA: The kids don't get paid for any of the above chores. Just the same as DH and I don't get paid to do the grocery shopping, do the laundry, washing up, vacuuming, etc. But if they want pocket money, they can wash the cars, clean bathrooms, help in the yard for at least 2-3 hours (not just a 20 minute token effort). Our kids both get money from relatives for birthdays/Xmas etc that they can stretch for some time, so we stopped the weekly pocket money for doing basic housework. DH and I figured they need to see that as simply being part of a household, doing their share without expectation of payment.

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JoanJett

9 and 11 year old boys (one with ADHD) - most of these they manage with occasional reminders:

 

Make beds/tidy room every morning

Clothes in own hampers/down to laundry/sort their clothes for washing

Help with folding/put away clean clothes

Set and clear own place (and table for family meals) for all meals

Clean school lunch boxes

Empty dishwasher or do washing up/drying

Do the recycling/rubbish runs

Feed the dog

Clean their playroom 2/week, including vacuuming (usually ends up once)

Help in the garden

Variable help in the kitchen - they often make their own lunches on the weekend and sometimes help with dinner prep, but it's usually homework/music practise time

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sunshine_days

mine and are 13 and 15, and about that age they would.

 

Mow the grass

Wash the dog,

Wash the car

Wash windows

 

Bigger jobs so earned more money.. if they wanted extra jobs

 

And each night they

wash dishes (one will do it) while the other does the dishwasher.

Feed cat or feed dog

Put rubbish bins out

 

On weekends they both clean bathroom and toilet (their own), clean their room, dust vacum, etc...

 

and then if they want extra job then they can come up with some... ie do some washing and sorting

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Lovesherboy

I need more coffee - I was in the same boat, I can’t say if yours will be lazy but my kids were watching tv most of the day and doing nothing

 

I have 4 jobs on a daily basis not hard ones but still contributing and about 6 each on weekends

 

It’s a start

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PocketIcikleflakes

DD 8.5 feels hard done by when she she is asked to pack away her toys.

 

She doesn’t mind making her bed, helping me fold the laundry and checking the letterbox but that’s about it.

 

Am I setting her up for laziness?

 

No.

 

My kids would rather do anything then tidy their own toys. Anything else on my list is preferable to them.

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CrankyM

I have an 11 and almost 10 yr old. They are expected to:

 

Unpack and pack the dishwasher everyday

Help fold washing

Help hang out washing

Feed the animals

Tidy the coffee table

Vacuum Monday and Wednesday

Pick up after themselves as requested

Clean their bedroom on Saturday

 

They also have other general chores that I ask them to do as needed. Actually most of it needs to be asked or it doesn’t get done. They are generally helpful if you ask enough times.

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andyk

My 8.5yo DD:

 

Makes her bed

Tidy room

Clothes in laundry basket

Toys away when finished

Plates in sink

Vacuum

Helps cook

Unpacks school bag/lunch box

Helps pack lunchbox

Cleans mirrors

Mailbox

Help in garden

 

For this she gets $8.50 per week ($9 on her 9th birthday etc), and we do the Spend, Save, Give money boxes so she gets to decide how much $$ goes in each one.

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just roses

what we give ds and what we should is a big difference, he helps when we ask him too no set tasks

This. We've never been quite organised enough to set regular chores for DS13, beyond emptying the dishwasher and cleaning his own room. But both kids know that Saturdays mean jobs around the house and they do what they're asked to do.

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