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Close School or out of catchment and friends or no friends? Help!

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got my tinsel on

My DD now at uni, was very shy at pre-school (and still is). None of her friends at pre-school were enrolled at the school DD was zoned for, but it was very close to our house (2 blocks away) and took in an area with a lower socio-economic than other schools in the district.

 

We were happy with the zoned school - she made friends quickly - as all kindergarten children are like lost lambs when they start, and as she progressed through primary school, her class friends lived close enough to make playdates after school and on weekends much easier for us.

 

The high school she attended was a little further away (she was zoned for two high schools) and her high school friends came from a distance on the other side of the school geographically. Getting together socially was much more problematic due to new building estates with little (or no) public transport so driving her was necessary even though she was well and truly old enough to get there under her own steam if public transport had been available.

 

Consider proximity of friends as she progresses through school.

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robhat

I would suggest that having friends go with you from daycare/preschool/Kindy into the first year of school isn't anywhere near as important as having friends go with you from primary into high school. I'd also suggest that making friends is a tad easier when they live nearby or are part of other local activities (eg same soccer team or same music group).

 

That said, living between NSW and QLD, especially during daylight savings time could be a pain in the butt. It may almost be worth trying to move into Qld. Schools often hold events and parent meetings. It'll be a real nuisance if you have to travel a lot for them all the time.

 

Do try to base your choice on the actual schools though and what they can provide your child. Having friends won't make a crap school better!

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Feral-as-Meggs

I’d either move near the school with the friends or shift her to the local school. If she’s shy the last thing you want is her missing out on things with school friends because it was organised last minute or after netball or whatever.

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c00l

I would always choose the local school if there's nothing wrong with it. Your local school can really connect you to your community in a way that nothing else does. Before my first child started at school 6 years ago we knew about two families in our local area and we had lived here for 10 years. Now we socialise and are genuine friends with 5 families just on our street alone and about 6 other local.families. we regularly catch up with and without the kids. And it just makes life so much more convenient both in terms of walking to school and playdates for the kids.

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Kiwi Bicycle

Hopefully later this year transition sessions can happen and you can get to know other kids at your local. I and my friends all sent our kids to schools with no existing friends ( due to liking another school over the zoned or kid attending daycare near work but school is elsewhere) and the FYOS students are mostly new to each other. The teachers often pool their classes for activities and they end up knowing most of the other kids in their year group.

And agree, choose the school that fits your kid and your family over friends. It's very rare to have friends that you started school with still friends as adults.

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LA_86

I would suggest that having friends go with you from daycare/preschool/Kindy into the first year of school isn't anywhere near as important as having friends go with you from primary into high school. I'd also suggest that making friends is a tad easier when they live nearby or are part of other local activities (eg same soccer team or same music group).

 

That said, living between NSW and QLD, especially during daylight savings time could be a pain in the butt. It may almost be worth trying to move into Qld. Schools often hold events and parent meetings. It'll be a real nuisance if you have to travel a lot for them all the time.

 

Do try to base your choice on the actual schools though and what they can provide your child. Having friends won't make a crap school better!

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LA_86

Thanks Robhat! I forgot to mention we were planning to sell and move literally just before Lockdown and we’ve put it on hold for now. Thank you so much for your input proximity to friends is def something I need to consider!

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LA_86

I’d either move near the school with the friends or shift her to the local school. If she’s shy the last thing you want is her missing out on things with school friends because it was organised last minute or after netball or whatever.

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Bearynice

I would go with a school that suits your daughter for learning, don’t worry so much about the friendships from kindergarten.

 

 

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PhillipaCrawford

Friends from kinder are brilliant for the first week and then usually drop away - not always but usually.

I wouldn't base a lifetime choice because then what will you do for High school which will impact Uni?

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