kMn_065, January 8 in Trying to Conceive
Can’t help with the cost but my cousin had a reversal after marrying his 2nd wife and they have had 3 kids together since. Their first child together was conceived first try and the other 2 were pretty quick as well.
I think you need to measure cost and success ( method and length of time since done are big factors ) plus your age versus the success rate of Other fertility interventions like IVF.
of course there is bigger health ramifications for you if you pursue IVF .
its tough and success is not guaranteed and might put strain on a already fragile relationship .
I have a friend who repartnered with a guy who had already had a vasectomy. For them, they were were told IVF was more successful than a reversal. They had 3 babies, first 2 were quite easy and third one they had a miscarriage before becoming pregnant.
I too would want my relationship quite solid, particularly if needing to do down the IVF route as it can be quite stressful.
I’ve sent you a PM because I didn’t see this thread.
but for the benefit of anyone else in the same position (because I was trawling forms looking for the same advice)
My DH had his reversal in November, we’ve had one cycle TTC so far, currently on 2nd.
The recovery is painful, but once stitches were out normal function resumed almost straight away. He was snipped more than 10 years ago, so chances were on the lower side. We do know the flow has returned, waiting on test for the count.
we choose the clinic route, under sedation and local which was cheaper, $3k (NZD). It would have been $9k via a urologist and using general. We researched the doctor and his success rates before making the decision.
My BIL had a vasectomy after 2 then they decided to go back for another. Their research led them to choosing IVF rather than a reversal.
eta: it took them 3 cycles (and everything else involved with that, ie egg collection etc etc)
Only one I know of wasn't successful. She was late thirties, he was early forties. Vasectomy done nearly ten years earlier.
Low sperm count afterwards, plus she was earlier to menopause than siblings, so probably a double whammy.
This was 30 years ago, early days of IVF, a route they chose not to take (both had kids separately).
I would be sitting on it for now. Given your circumstances having a new baby could be the end.
If you are having doubts whether or not he will change his mind then your gut may be telling you something. Even ttcing again could put a strain on things.
Have you considered what your thoughts would be should he change his mind? Is this something you are prepared to quite possibly lose your relationship over?
Isn’t it best to stay status quo for now and work on strengthening your relationship without adding a very real stressor to it.
Where was the communication before the vasectomy?
What are the reasons your husband is willing to reverse something that is not always easily reversed?
I have kind of similar story in that after out second baby I strongly desired DH get vasectomy mostly due to my health, caecttions, and DS at age 2 was still so difficult
At the time I said if we change our mind we will do IVF, and I considered this a strong possibility. I know it sounds strange but I figured also if I was 40 and wanting another baby IVF was probably a good idea anyway.
6 years on and indeed we are doing IVF. There are bulk billing clinics - it’s not expensive. Just completed first cycle and for myself and for my family it’s the good choice, increases our chance of a baby and no problem or stress with tricky operation for DH. It’s been good so far, we have 13 embryo frozen ready to be transferred
My husband had a vasectomy in 2010 and reversal in 2015, it initially 'worked' but then fell apart. That was done locally with a urologist as day surgery.
We looked into IVF but decided to try a second vasectomy reversal in 2017. DH went with Dr Woolcott in Sydney, however I hear he has since retired. He recommends a few doctors he's worked with.
Initially his results were fantastic and I fell pregnant with in a couple of months. Unfortunately I ended up having unexplained recurrent miscarriages. DH's count also became less and less over time until he was diagnosed with severe ogliospermia. We were referred to try IUI or IVF. Waiting for the appointment, DH tried everything to get his count up, managed to improve it to mild ogliospermia and had a massive improvement on motility to 95%. At our first appointment, I was already pregnant.
Managed to figure out the recurrent miscarriage thing also and finally had our post vasectomy reversal baby a few days ago.
Was about $5k each time, got some of that back from medicare. We have private health insurance though.
Recovery wasn't too bad, but I'd recommend at least a week off work. My DH went back to work after 3 days for the first one and we wonder if that is what made it not work. The next time around he rested for a week.
I was told my vasectomy could be revered, but success rate was about 30 - 40%.
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