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So about once a day my 5 yo has an epic meltdown and dissolves into a screaming heap on the floor. Eg half an hour her sister took something from her. I tried talking to both of them about it (the item was special to her sister, but she shouldn’t have taken it, let’s take turns etc.) - in between screams she ended up telling me she didn’t want it!, I offered her hugs and deep breathing to help calm down, and eventually I took her into her room to calm down and left. I hate feeling like I am ‘shutting her away’ for showing emotion, but she just screams and screams and won’t stop. Sometimes she will talk but I feel like it takes a lot to get to that point and I don’t want to distress her if talking is really difficult at that point.

Any thoughts on better ways to approach these meltdowns???

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José

i love the book 'the whole brain child' you can get a parent workbook that goes with it.

 

a psychologist who works with children could also be very helpful.

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PandoBox

I think you need to teach her coping strategies...how to cope with big emotions like anger and sadness etc.

 

For an example

Deep breathing technieques , quiet space/drawing to wind down/time out, talking it out by using words to describe big emotions...eg instead of screaming " You make me so angry I feel like screaming".

"I am angry because".

 

Its a good idea to explain how emotions work, that they come into waves and that its important to sometimes ride out the angry/sad/frustrated wave quietly before you can resolve the cause.

 

You can maybe share some of your own coping mechanisms with your daughter. Some people like to go into a room and listen to music, speak to a friend, have a cup of tea.. Perhaps there is a favourite cuddle toy she could sit down with for 5 minutes or a stress relieving toy like a squishy ball, perhaps a warm cup of milk if appropriate, etc..

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Not Escapin Xmas

And look at the FedUp diet (low salycilate). My DD was exactly the same and it turns out she reacts terribly to sals. In fact, she had a complete meltdown this arvo (at age 8) because she felt awful. I'm not sure what she's eaten but it sent her off the deep end.

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