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I had a VBAC and used hypnobirthing as a calming method. In total I spent around 17 hours in hospital. It was amazing.

 

If you have a straightforward birth that would be much easier than a CS. If you have worries of any nature try hypnobirthing, highly recommend.

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Ruf~Feral~es

I was in pretty much the same scenario as you. DD born at 33 weeks, emergency caesar after my waters broke and labour coudn't be stopped.

 

DS born when DD was 15 months. She started walking around 13 months.

 

I had a preplanned elective Caesar. My mother came over from interstate the week before. DS was born on a Monday morning, it was all very calm and planned and lovely.

 

I don't think I ever seriously considered a VBAC.

 

My recovery was smooth, and I was home after 4 days - I could have gone earlier, but I wanted those days alone with DS, before DD took over the limelight again.

 

Even though my first was an emergency Caesar with a level of stress due to DD being premmie, I loved both experiences. I don't regret either of them for a minute. I was up and around within 8 hours of each surgery, although used a wheelchair to go to the Special Care nursery to see DD for the first 24 hours or so - that was more due to hospital protocol than my lack of mobility though.

 

There are a lot of unknowns in childbirth, both vaginal and c-section. There are always horror stories of terrible recoveries from both. And the success stories of easy recovery from both. Go with the decision you are most comfortable with. Personally, I preferred the pre-planned certainty of the caesar.

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Caribou

I did a VBAC. While it didn’t work out, and I ended up

With an emergency casear, I found recovering much better than my first.

 

There’s so many variables. It’s hard to say for sure what the best option is. If I have another I’ll defintely try do a VBAC again, but my expierence of the VBAC and casear was all positive I couldn’t say I’d have preferred to skip the VBAC. I did get the pushing stage, but Curicumstances meant casear.

 

Good luck. There’s no wrong decision.

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nephthysa

Thanks everyone! It’s nice to hear your experiences, without judgement :)

 

I honestly think what is holding me back is the “expectation” that babies are supposed to be born a certain way. I know that’s not the case, but it definitely feels like it sometimes. I’m a bit of a control freak too, so any planning I can do is helpful.

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AllyK81

My OB was very much against a VBAC where the gap between babies is less than 2 years.

 

You have a small gap and for that reason alone I would go a c-section if I were you.

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Luci

As mentioned by a PP's there are so many unknowns with birth and absolutely you hear good and bad stories for both vaginal and c-sections.

 

I have had 3 C-sections (one emergency then 2 planned) and was very fortunate to have an easy and relatively pain free recovery each time.

 

I don't have any relatives nearby and DH travels a lot for work, so for babies 2 & 3 I really liked knowing when they would be born so I could get Mum to come over from interstate.

 

Best of luck

Luci xx

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Veritas Vinum Arte

I had 3cs. They were all meant to be planned but I was a quick cooker so only 1 stayed put for eviction date. So that is my caveat.... you can book in for a cs date, but bubs may have other ideas. Mine arrived 37w5d (38w5d was booked), 37w5d evicted and 36w3d (38w5d booked).

 

ETA DH works long crazy hours and travels interstate and overseas. My mum was meant to come down at 37wks, so was very shocked when I phoned her at 36w3d telling her to get on the next flight.

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Future-self

 

 

 

 

The main reason I wanted to attempt a VBAC was due to having to pick up my LO and chase after him - he’s been walking since just before 11 months and is now running. So being active is pretty important.

 

 

 

 

If that is your main reason then you also have to consider that vaginal birth doesn’t automatically mean being active. Sure Csection does mean a period of careful recovery but tbh the most severely birth injured women I know had vaginal births. Given a friend of mine couldnt lift her toddler for over 6 months and could only shuffle to walk for months too after a vaginal birth it’s worth remembering there’s no absolutes here.

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MrsLexiK

I chose a elective csection over a vbac the deciding factor came down to DS2 having an unstable lie, measuring big, (my first had gotten stuck and wasn’t big) so we knew a vbac might not happen. DS2 was booked in for surgery - for 2 weeks after my due date. So we went for the csection earlier then we originally would have had the above factors not been a concern.

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**Xena**

I have had 5 c-sections :) I don't regret choosing an elective c-section for my second at all. I do find recovery is much quicker and easier after an elective than it was after my emergency one. For most of the elective ones I stayed in hospital for 2 days (my choice). The only one that I stayed in longer for was my last one because of medical issues.

 

Whilst a part of me likes the thought of giving birth the way nature intended I believe I made the right decision for me.

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Lucrezia Bauble

I had 3cs. They were all meant to be planned but I was a quick cooker so only 1 stayed put for eviction date. So that is my caveat.... you can book in for a cs date, but bubs may have other ideas. Mine arrived 37w5d (38w5d was booked), 37w5d evicted and 36w3d (38w5d booked).

 

ETA DH works long crazy hours and travels interstate and overseas. My mum was meant to come down at 37wks, so was very shocked when I phoned her at 36w3d telling her to get on the next flight.

 

yep, same.

 

2 c sections here...elective ....both arrived before allotted date - i know there are some dumb cliches around child birth and babies but this one rings true for me: babies love to spoil plans!

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Soontobegran

If that is your main reason then you also have to consider that vaginal birth doesn’t automatically mean being active. Sure Csection does mean a period of careful recovery but tbh the most severely birth injured women I know had vaginal births. Given a friend of mine couldnt lift her toddler for over 6 months and could only shuffle to walk for months too after a vaginal birth it’s worth remembering there’s no absolutes here.

 

Agree.

I have had multiple abdo surgeries and never was I in the same pain as I was post my first baby with a huge epistiotomy, tear and haematoma which had me in agonising pain for 8 weeks with the inability to poo and wee without drama.

 

People need to realise women often have more suture material in the perineum than they do for a C/S.

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KwaziiCat

I never considered a VBAC after my emergency c-sec. My obs was fine to attempt but I said straight up no.

 

After a terrible recovery first time round, the second one went very smoothly. I was completely fine by day 4 and asked to be discharged (I had a toddler at home). In saying that there were no issues at all and I was up and walking fine the next day. First time round I was needing constant help from the midwives, but the second time I really only had to call for them the first night when I couldn't get up to feed my bub.

 

No regrets here, and would do it again.

All the best with whatever you decide!

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LittleBrownMouse

I was in a very similar situation as you, OP.

 

First baby CS and a second delivered 14 months later. My OB insisted on another CS due to the close deliveries.

 

I’m confident you will make the best decision for you and you little family but I must say that having a 14 month old, a newborn and a CS recovery was challenging.

 

My 14 month old had been walking since 11 months but still wanted lots of lap time and still wanted to be carried around, especially since there was some jealousy about the new baby being nursed.

 

Unfortunately, after the CS this wasn’t always possible. It meant DH had to take 6 weeks off to mostly help with the toddler.

 

I’d just be mindful of the long recovery I know I had and what a challenge it was with a newborn and a young toddler. The recovery of the first CS with just a newborn was vastly different.

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Charli73

Emergency CS first time and second birth was planned CS 15 months later... never ever considered VBAC given the first was such a horrible birth stuck etc it was traumatic and draining on everyone and recovery was terrible as I had very bad pelvic separation..

 

Elective CS was amazing, calm lovely smooth delivery as there wasn’t that rushed feeling and everything was explained to me and I knew what to expect also..

 

I found the recovery heaps quicker as my pelvis hasn’t been forced to try and deliver so I was very happy..

 

As long as baby comes out I don’t think it matters how it happens as long as baby and yourself are healthy. It annoys me when ppl get judgemental on how you give birth.. relax and enjoy the epidural :)

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