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FeralZombieMum

Seriously??

 

Seriously, But seriously?

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Lucrezia Bauble

 

 

Maybe it's a piste take?

 

ok, that’s good!

 

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Threelittleducks

OP, given you seem to earn more than your DH, would you consider your DH being part-time at work and taking on greater caring responsibility and you FT?

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CallMeFeral

is anyone else now getting ads for buying art in the side panel?

Wow that targeted advertising is quick!

 

OMG. I am.

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Popper

 

 

How does moving cost $4k? Interstate maybe? We moved a few weeks ago and the total cost was about $500 including cardboard boxes and hiring a couple of guys with a truck from Facebook.

 

Our last 2 moves were $4k not interstate but 1.5hr distance by car. We packed our own stuff and disassembled furniture.

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Tinkle Splashes

Our last move was about $500. We moved a couple of suburbs. I think they under-quoted us because although we were in a fairly small 3x2, we had a lot of storage in that house and a surprising amount of things to move. They were still unpacking the last truckload at 8pm (although they didn’t start until around midday).

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overlytired

is anyone else now getting ads for buying art in the side panel?

Wow that targeted advertising is quick!

 

Not a one. Ad blockers! White space to the left and right of the posts.

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JRA

We all have different priorities.

 

If not feeding your children is your priority so they can sing christian songs.

 

Your choice

 

ETA: Christian school doesn't mean no questioning of beliefs.

 

I was a non catholic at a catholic school in the 70s. We had great "discussions" on christian beliefs, what was right and wrong.

 

Your poor daughter may not cope with that.

 

She may just simply need to toughen up

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Navy Blue

We've been in a similar position OP.

 

Firstly, I think it's easy to get caught up in what everyone around you is doing and try to keep up with them. We started our kids at a private school and got further and further into debt until we had no choice but to pull the plug and move them to public. In our circle we are literally the only ones whose kids are at a public school (to be fair private schools here are pretty low fee compared to the cities like 3-8k per year but still unaffordable for us).

 

The other thing is that even at the religious schools there will be different beliefs and unsavory behaviour, that's just life. My kids encountered far more bullying, swearing, stealing and property damage at their private school than so far at public. They have more opportunities and equipment going public, and my special needs DS far more support too.

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Jenflea

I have to say I don't see why you need religion in school.

That can be done outside of school to your heart's content.

 

I'd prefer to be able to feed my family and pay my bills more than worry about how a 5 yr old wants to sign songs and talk about her religion to her class.

 

And she might well be able to talk about her religion, she just might have chosen a bad time to bring it up, like if they were talking about other things. I've seen kindy kids go off on tangents completely unrelated to the topic the teacher is trying to discuss. maybe the teacher was trying to steer her back onto topic, not shutting her down completely.

Sometimes 4 yr olds spin things a bit, having a kid has taught me that!

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Navy Blue

Yes, exactly. Sometimes they have misunderstood, and sometimes they are just not telling the truth.

 

DS2 came home one day from school with his lunch uneaten. He said that they were naughty so the teacher didn't let them eat all day! Um yeah ok.

 

I'm not saying immediately disbelieve your child, but do some digging to get the whole story.

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Kafkaesque

 

 

I moved one street and yes it was at least 4k. I can't remember the exact amount but we had 4 guys, the trucks (which was done as a light pack so it is cheaper ie they don't have everything locked down because they are not going far and the chance of anything breaking is unlikely - so they load and unload faster).

 

We had difficult access issues getting out of the existing house and had some stuff roped up as it is could not fit through the door. Ironically it was a glass table top that took hours to get out of the house and then smashed into a million pieces when they carried it to the new house. The guys were going until 9pm the same day after starting at around 7am. There was actually more stuff to do in terms of assembly but I just wanted the day to be over.

 

I would say we do not have alot of stuff. We have lots of small kid things but have the minimal look from a furniture perspective.

 

Two friends from my kid's school recently moved and both spent over 10k. Both packed their own boxes. One moved to a different suburb and the other a couple of streets away - again access was an issue and one sent most of their belongings to storage.

 

I should add that I had a separate mover and packer for art that probably added another $1500 to the move.

 

I did pack most of the stuff myself but you also need to add in insurance which adds to the cost.

 

I didn't get them to unpack but I did get them to assemble things and put large furniture in the correct place.

 

I am just trying to be realistic about the cost and effort to move. I took the day off work (ie worked from home) and the kids were at school and DH at work.

 

I despise moving. I would also add that we had alot of boxes and cabinets in archive that relates to tax, so that would have been a couple of hours to move all the filing cabinets and archive boxes.

 

Kudos to people who can move for $500. I was actively involved and that is what it cost. I was moving with a budget mover and 4 guys to make sure they got things in and out faster.

 

In the end it cost us nothing after the reimbursement for the broken glass. But now we eat from a $20 dollar bunnings fold away table. I despise all forms of shopping (especially furniture) so there has been no rush to replace or have vogue styling. It is pretty agricultural as I have a large family and learnt the hard way to not value possessions as everything gets wrecked by curious hands.

 

I would do alot of un-natural acts before I moved again, especially if I was happy with the place I lived.

 

Good luck. Maybe if the rental market has pulled back, you can renegotiate your rent with the landlord. It happens all the time and excessively during the GFC.

 

The landlord would weigh up the cost of potential lost rent and vacancy, a re-let fee, cleaning, advertising, so it is probably worth at least a 50 dollar reduction a week to keep you, particularly if there are a number of rentals available in your area.

 

So you had a table worth more than $4k and an art collection valuable enough that you spent $1500 on movers just for that. Classy, coming into a thread about someone struggling and posting your ancetdata.

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Amica

 

 

So you had a table worth more than $4k and an art collection valuable enough that you spent $1500 on movers just for that. Classy, coming into a thread about someone struggling and posting your ancetdata.

 

The pp has an art budget of 40k per year. She mentioned this in her own doing it tough thread. I'm surprised it only cost $1500 to move and insure her collection.

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miriams

They have less kids? We're on more than triple that and only have two. That said, my parents (teachers) were struggling at one point and a wealthier member of their church just outright gave them his old station wagon.

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But seriously

They have less kids? We're on more than triple that and only have two. That said, my parents (teachers) were struggling at one point and a wealthier member of their church just outright gave them his old station wagon.

 

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Jenflea

12 grand a month means you can only afford 2 kids??

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Nobodyelse

I'd better sell 1.5 of mine.

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premmie

DH and I both went to private Jewish Day school. When our boys were born we didn't really imagine that we would choose something different for them. We decided on our excellent local public school for our kids. We're saving our money for private high school. It was a bit of a leap of faith (pardon the pun) as we had no experience whatsoever with the public system. Its an excellent school and both my older boys have thrived. I still can't believe our luck and we are saving upwards for $45k in fees. Based on uniforms and school fees only I think we spent under $1000 on two kids last year.

 

Religious education and Hebrew lessons are done as extra curricular. In line with my more recent thinking that religion and practice is a private matter between you and your god.

 

If I'm honest 90% of religious educations/practice and identity and Zionism (for us) comes from home. So I can understand wanting the religious education for your kids, but financially that seems to be out of your reach at this time. Look into additional religious education/youth groups etc outside school hours if you feel your daughter would miss out. And honestly if she has issues with her faith being questioned in public, then she'll need to get over it, unless the kids are being needlessly cruel.

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amaza

I don't think it's necessary to come into the large families forum to tell an already pregnant OP to have less kids.

 

Giving her ideas to get by is fine. Telling her not to have more than two kids when she's already got 3 (nearly 4) is really just inappropriate.

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cvbn

I don't think it's necessary to come into the large families forum to tell an already pregnant OP to have less kids.

 

Giving her ideas to get by is fine. Telling her not to have more than two kids when she's already got 3 (nearly 4) is really just inappropriate.

 

Yes, and quite frankly, daft.

She can't stuff them back.

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Greatmum

I don’t send my kids to private school that how we afford it. No way we could afford $5000 on school fees.

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cabbage88

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deedee15

Sorry OP but I don’t think increasing your work hours given that you are pregnant, is sustainable, just so you can keep your child at an expensive private primary school, good luck with it though.

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cabbage88

Sorry OP but I don’t think increasing your work hours given that you are pregnant, is sustainable, just so you can keep your child at an expensive private primary school, good luck with it though.

 

We picked up a side job and earned enough in 10 days to pay her whole years fee. I'm happy with that- it's not a long term solution (That work is rare) but it at least gives me until next year to decide what we want to do.

But definitely once bub comes and mat leave fishes up we will need to figure ourselves out again for next year.

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José

We decided on our excellent local public school for our kids. We're saving our money for private high school. It was a bit of a leap of faith (pardon the pun) as we had no experience whatsoever with the public system. Its an excellent school and both my older boys have thrived. I still can't believe our luck and we are saving upwards for $45k in fees. Based on uniforms and school fees only I think we spent under $1000 on two kids last year.

 

 

there are many wonderful public schools, i don't think its about luck though. its mostly due to the dedicated and wonderful school staff who often work well with their committed families to create a lovely learning environment.

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