Jump to content
88k

Delusional MIL (fluff)

Recommended Posts

88k

We had lunch with the in-laws today during Mr3's nap time and he had a very minor, very shortlived tantrum to which (my normally delightful and easy to love) MIL exclaimed "I never know what to do when he tantrums because my boys never had them".

 

Look lady, I've been married to your son for some time now, and he is a gem, I'll give you that, but I have seen him chuck a tanty or 2 - if he can do it at 35 he sure did it at 3.5.

 

What is the most out there/delusional thing your MIL has ever said?

  • Like 34

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
ceeshell

My mother in law, looking around at our lives-in home, after i mentioned in passing how hard I'm finding staying on top of the housework with three children, said:

 

'I don't know how I did it, but I just... did. My house was always tidy...'

 

I told DH and he said 'ah, she didn't work outside the home AT ALL until I was 9, she has one less child at home than us, and her sister lived with us for ages, so she had free child care. Not to mention, Nanna came over and did her ironing several times a week'

 

Oh. So that's how.

 

(Dont get me wrong, I'd still struggle to keep my house tidy with all of that. Mainly because I orioritise literally everything else above the housework)

  • Like 29

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
88k

After 16 years Frightbat!? You are a saint! I wouldn't have given her the time of day after a single "half-caste" comment!

  • Like 12

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
88k

Ceeshell - They do have a tendency to gloss over the details!

  • Like 3

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Fright bat

After 16 years Frightbat!? You are a saint! I wouldn't have given her the time of day after a single "half-caste" comment!

 

Ah well. See, proof that I do know how to keep my mouth shut at times.

 

Whatever her faults (many) she did raise the man I love and is (mostly) a good grandparent and so for the sake of everyone else in my family I put up with her.

 

ETA - and when she said it, DH snorted with laughter. The look she gave him... its easy to be nice when you have someone on your side.

Edited by Fright bat
  • Like 19

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Mistletoe Kisses

That because she had an abortion as a teen and doesn't regret it i shoud have one too and if i dont my partner should leave me coz I'll ruin his life if i have his child.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
88k

Holy guacamole T&C I think you win this round! I hope you told her exactly where to deposit her sentiments?!

  • Like 5

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Fright bat

Yeah wow, T&C - there's not many who can normally compete with me, but you win!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
lynneyours

my MIL - where to start with the bat-sh*t laa-laa comments....

 

* you can't vote Greens because they want to legalise paedophilia.... so stated by her pastor apparently.

 

* She had an abortion which she doesn't regret but hates herself for since she is far-right Christian. So therefore all abortions for all women should be illegal for all circumstances.

 

* she told me that she hoped DH would beat me up one day so I realised he wasn't a good person. About her own son. She was a victim of DV by DH's father until he died.

 

* When whinging that she didn't have nice things like overseas holidays and how poor me it was, I commented that generally people get jobs when they want luxuries: oh but I can't work, it would interfere with my prayer time.....

 

* she lived in our house. When I rang to give her the heads up that we were going to be bankrupt within the month, had less than $15 in the bank and 2 kids under 3, she had no concern for her son, nor her grandchildren. Just was worried about where she would live. What would happen to her. When I stated I didn't know, that I didn't have enough $ to buy a packet of nappies or a tin of formula, she couldn't have given a crap. Never rang to see how we were for months after that.

 

the list goes on. She's not a nice person, although somewhat easier to be around now she is on Lithium, which is a mental health drug.

Unfortunately for her, after 15 years of comments like the above every time I see or speak to her, I no longer have any time for her. I refuse to do anything with/for her. DH doesn't give a crap.

  • Like 2

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
88k

The mind simply boggles Lynneyours!

  • Like 4

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Lou-bags

These are so awful! I'm going to give my amazing MIL an extra big hug when I see her next.

 

So sorry you all have had to put up with these kinds of comments, truly awful :(

  • Like 7

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
mintyfresh

My MIL doesn't really know me. Which is cool. But it amuses me when she has said a few things because they demonstrate it loud and clear.

 

The best one was when I was pregnant with our first and she told me I shouldn't watch the girl with the dragon tattoo movie because of my delicate condition.

 

I was with her son for 11 years before i was pregnant, she didn't contact me during that time, except when we got married. She lives interstate, but still. The second I was pregnant, she wants a relationship with me. We have been together 17 years now, she only found out when my birthday was by accident this year.

 

She's a nice enough woman, but I find her fascinating and odd. And I'm glad we will never live super close to her. Currently OS but even in Aus we will be 2000km away.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
yellowtulips74

My ex-MIL is (I think) a pathological liar. Eg she announced proudly that all 3 of her children were walking before the age of 8 months.

 

FIL and everyone else always just roll their eyes and let it go. I find it insanely irritating that nobody challenges her.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
my*xmas*kiddies

When my MIL states our boys are her whole world but she never calls them or even sends a card for their birthdays :no:

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Hands Up

 

 

ETA - and when she said it, DH snorted with laughter. The look she gave him... its easy to be nice when you have someone on your side.

 

I reckon that's the crux of most in law vents...... The partner doesn't have the venter's back, and that would suck.

  • Like 11

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Soontobegran

My MIL has nothing in common with me, she has said some truly ridiculous stuff which I have been vehemently opposed to for FORTY years but I have kept my mouth shut.

 

She is a loving mother to my husband and she raised a really good person under extreme conditions so for that I am grateful. She is also loving to me and the kids in her own special way.

Sometimes I have asked myself whether I really need to be right when it comes to what she says or whether I keep it to myself as criticism of her hurts my DH and walking away is what I have always done.

 

My lesson was to tell myself as a MIL to not do the same thing...I thank her for that lesson, I do not believe any of my children's partners will be able to have the same vent about me...this is something we all need to be mindful of.

  • Like 11

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
lozoodle

Mine always tells us how it was so hard for her as she never had holidays and always had to work so hard (self employed, who's fault is that?) and it was so hard with the kids.

 

Meanwhile I think she forgets the fact that we've got 3 kids, she only had 2, and only ever had 1 at home at a time because by the time she had SIL her first was already in year 1. Also seems to forget the fact that both DP & I work full time, and his job is particularly demanding meaning he's usually out of the home for 14+ hours a day (leaving it basically all on me).

 

But yep, I've totally got no idea about what its like to work hard ha ha

  • Like 2

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Feral Grey Mare

I married an orphan.

  • Like 10

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Chief Pancake Make

This is my father.

 

My mother has 6 canvas pictures of all the grandchildren at about 6mo on the wall. My sister has blond blue eyed children, mine are dark and half chinese.

 

"They all look the same , I can't tell the difference"

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Mistletoe Kisses

Not MIL but my own father once told me that because I hadn't vacuumed in 2 wks I had no idea how to clean and because of that my firstborn would die.

 

 

Edited to make the sentence make sense

Edited by Tea&Crumpets
  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
born.a.girl

That because she had an abortion as a teen and doesn't regret it i shoud have one too and if i dont my partner should leave me coz I'll ruin his life if i have his child.

 

Gawd. I think that takes the cake.

 

With icing.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Freddie'sMum

Some of these are jaw dropping awful and horrible !!

 

My MIL pales in comparison but she was against it when we sent the girls to daycare, was against me going out to work (if I didn't selfishly work then the girls wouldn't have to go to daycare see?), doesn't speak to me - will ring on the phone and ask for the girls or DH by name, is still holding a grudge from 20 plus years ago when DH & I were young and in love and we moved away from their family.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
triangle

MIL told me she prayed and prayed and that is why her last child was a girl (she only had boys prior to that).

 

And that me, her son, and our children are all going ot burn in hell when the LORD comes back because we aren't spirit filled and won't get any salvation.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
CallMeFeral

- apparently DH and his sisters were no trouble and just looked after themselves as kids and never fought or were impolite or played up (I guess kids are a lot less work when you have a cook, maid and driver to help with the chores)

- FIL (according to MIL) was the perfect father and spent so much time with the children (contrary to DH's experience of only developing a relationship with his dad as an adult when they moved countries)

- MIL is a devoted mother who worships her only son disproportionately to the sisters and does everything for him (but will travel interstate more often than travel the 45 mins it takes to visit us - by a ratio of about 5 to 1)

- Adores her grandchildren (but can't be bothered to see them)

 

And on and on.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

×
×
  • Create New...