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Daycare: child1 leave in or pull out during maternity leave for child 2

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WithSprinkles

Not pregnant but am thinking ahead to when I have number 2...

 

I put my daughter on the waiting list for daycare when I was 3 months pregnant and she started there when she was 11 months old.

Do people generally leave their first child in daycare to "hold the spot" when on maternity leave, or do you pull them out and put them on the waiting list to start back up again after your leave is finished (and hope that they do get a spot)??

 

ETA: She currently attends 2 days per week

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TurtleTamer

Most leave them in daycare in my experience.

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IamAuntyA

It all depends on how well your DD is coping. If it took her a while to settle in then I would defiantly keep taking her a couple of days a week , 1 day a week is never a good idea for a child who doesn't cope well as you are starting from scratch every week.

If she copes well and loves going I would do either 1 or 2 days. It gives you time to do all the things that having 2 children makes harder eg shopping, sleeping, cleaning....

 

When I worked in Childcare most parents left their older child in care and when reduce the days to 2 days per week... usually Tuesdays & Thursdays.

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aphraell

#2 not due until Feb but planning on leaving DD in although will reduce days right down.

 

Having seen a number of friends already have #2 I think that keeping some daycare will be beneficial for all of us - I will get a couple of days with just #2 and DD will get to maintain her daycare friendships, keep going with activities etc. DD loves her daycare and they do heaps of things we don't do much of at home and she gets a lot out of the interaction with other kids

 

We are lucky enough that we can afford to do this - obviously if money was very tight then we would probably need to pull her out depending on other priorities

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Lucrezia Bauble

If you can afford to I would leave her in day care, that way you can focus on the baby (and most importantly, sleep when the baby sleeps) and your daughter gets all the benefits of interacting with other kids her age, planned activities etc etc.

 

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Meluha

For me it isn't worth the risk to take dd out. The center is great and in a convenient location (we walk to it). It will also help to get baby no 2 in there as they have a priority over other kids on the list.

 

My other considerations are that This baby is born out of sync with the yearly intakes, so not likely I will get a spot at a time that is convient for my mat leave return, so will be taking what I can when it comes up during the first year.

 

I have friends who have reduced hours during that time, but like me, are happy for the first to remain in and get the social time, while we get to stay home and give a bit more one on one attention to the newborn.

 

Good luck.

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Chaton

DS1 is in daycare full time at the moment, but will be dropping to 2 days per week as of next week when I commence maternity leave for our second bub.

 

We chose 2 days per week because he'll be in a 5-day fortnight (2 days one week, 3 the next) community kindy program next year so we want to keep him used to attending a centre and keep the socialisation skills building. I suspect I'll also be glad to have those two days to 'sleep when the baby sleeps' and get a few things done which I mightn't be able to with DS1 to wrangle.

 

As he will not be returning to the centre, we aren't keeping him in to 'hold his spot', only to keep his routine in place.

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Mrs Dinosaurus

OMG leave them in!!

New babies are Hard Work for you and Boring as hell for siblings.

 

Trust me on this :D

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Duck-o-lah

I left DS in 2 days a week.

1. To hold the spot. Also makes it easier to get #2 in if they already have a sibling in the centre.

2. So I could enjoy some one-on-one time with DD

3. To sleeeeeep (when I could lol)

4. So DS didn't go insane with boredom. He really looked forward to daycare days.

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cinnabubble

Yep. Two days a week. It's good for the big kid to have continuity and something to look forward to and it's good for the mother and younger sibling to have time alone together.

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needs to get out

I had second baby 9 days ago - baby 1 is 18 months old today!

 

I reduced him to minimum hours in family daycare on 2 days, and he has one day in a long daycare centre.

 

As I had a very unexpected emergency caeser, I am very glad that I have those 3 days 'off' from looking after a toddler as well as a newborn.

 

I'm thinking that its better to leave him in care than to pull him out for almost a year and then have to reintroduce him at 2 1/2 anyway.

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Bess Marvin

Given how hard I've worked to get the three days I have now (across 2 centres), there is no way I would EVER be giving up a single minute of care for DS if we have another child. But that's inner Sydney.

 

If it's relatively easy to get days back when you need them, it might be a different story.

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AnnaSchmanna

OMG leave them in!!

New babies are Hard Work for you and Boring as hell for siblings.

 

Trust me on this :D

 

Ha ha, this made me laugh. I have not got to number 2 yet, but there were so many times I thought to myself 'how am I going to be able to manage this with a toddler as well!' I am seriously tempted to leave DS in 5 days... Ok, maybe not that seriously. But I am sure I will fantasise about doing so in the tough newborn stages. So, God willing bub 2 comes along as planned, yes, I will keep DS in childcare 2 or maybe even 3 days/ week. As much for my sanity and his enjoyment as for holding a place.

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meljb

I left ds in for his 2 days when dd was born. He loved daycare, it gave me a break, I was able to spend one on one time with dd and it meant I didn't have to worry about getting 2 spots when I had to return to work.

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Chief Pancake Make

Do you still get CCR if you are on maternity leave?

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Julie3Girls

Depends entirely on your own circumstances.

 

DD1 wasn't in care when DD2 was born (cared for by SIL and my mother), so not an issue at all.

 

When DD3 was born, I kept DD1 in preschool, but dropped her days from 3 to 2. And I pulled DD2 out of care completely.

 

Why .. preschool was important, it was the last 5 months before starting school, and DD1 needed it. But she also wanted to be home with the new baby (DD1 is very nuturing) so I dropped down to 2 days.

 

Daycare was near work, so 30 minutes from home. No way was a I doing that trip twice a day just for daycare. DD2 was starting preschool localling the following year anyway (while I would still be on leave), so there was no need to keep her spot at the childcare centre. DD2 loved being at home with me, and was the type to play on her own a fair bit anyway.

 

I actually found the preschool days annoying. Having to get up and out for the start of preschool, and out again in the afternoon for pickup. Only advantage was getting used to the routine for when DD1 started school.

Loved having my 3 girls home.

 

The big disadvantage of pulling her out ... made it hard to get childcare for DD3. That said, I was looking spot in the August (end of maternity leave), and really, based on the childcare situation here, it wouldn't have mattered if DD2 was still at the centre, I wouldn't have got a spot - the baby room was full, and stayed that way until the January roll over. Ended up in a different centre anyway, after extending my leave to the January.

 

Do you still get CCR if you are on maternity leave?

yes, you do, for the 12 months of maternity leave. Think it is meant to stop after the 12 months though.

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bearosauraus

Leave them in!! My DS's CC day was absolute bliss with a baby! It was like having no kids :D

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Justaduck

I worked in childcare and would guess 90% of second/third etc time parents would leave the older ones in care. Some would leave them in full time and others would drop back to the minimum dpw (2 days at my centre) just to hold the spot, have a day with the baby, get some extra things done around the house.

 

I think it all depends on your personal financial situation, extra support at home, how soon you are planning on going back to work (ie if you gave up the spot, but then wanted to go back after PPL ran out at 18wks, would you be able to easily get another spot?) etc

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LovenFire

I had DS1 in three days a week, and had my MIL look after him the other two when I returned to work.

 

When I went on Mat leave with DS2, nothing changed. It was hard to get a spot, so I wasn't giving mine up!! DS2 was nowhere near the routine baby that DS1 was, so the time with just DS2 was good to help me get some semblance of a routine going.

 

I also felt quite guilty with DS2, because I often felt that he just got the leftovers of my time, as DS1 was a bit demanding. So the days where it was just baby and I, I got a lot more done, but I also spent a lot more time with DS2.

 

And, it was only for 6 months, then back to work and DS1 & DS2 were in daycare for 4 days.

 

D?3 is due in 8 weeks. The older two will each drop back a day, but I don't want to give up my spots, and also the two of them at home are a handful.

 

So yes, I would def leave them in.

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Bluenomi

I'm leaving DD in but reducing her days from full time to 2 days a week until the end of the year. She goes to pre-school next year so no childcare then. I wanted to keep part of her routine the same since she'll have enough to adjust to with 2 new siblings arriving.

 

The waiting list at her daycare is insane, no way I'd take her out if I was only going to be on mat leave for a year or less, she'd never get back in.

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snaphead

Daycare places are offered to existing children who need more days, then children with siblings already at the centre and then everyone else. I would be hanging on to a place even if only one day a week for the older child and if they are still there and you need a place for bubs you might not have to wait so long.

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WithSprinkles

Thanks for the advice everyone :)

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SylviaPlath

OMG leave them in!!

New babies are Hard Work for you and Boring as hell for siblings.

 

Trust me on this :D

 

This! This! This!

 

Don't you remember the overnight feeds, major sleep deprivation etc etc. Now add a toddler. Heart palpitations just thinking about it!

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~Mintie~

Pretty much same as everyone else. DS1 wasn't in daycare when DS2 was born, but this time both are in daycare full time and will be cut down to 2 days each.

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IShallWearMidnight

We kept the routine the same until I went back to work

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