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pinkcharlibelle

Can I join? I am 16 weeks with #2 (had many early losses inbetween and we were about to start ivf due to hubbys swimmers not doing their thing)

I am shamefully 135kg :blush: and have low papp-a but nt results were all low risk, so another c-section for me-so I need to try and get this flabby belly smaller before then! I am sure it's half the reason I struggled after my last c-section.

I saw a midwife last week at the hospital who put me as high risk for BMI and low papp-a. I have an appt to see the anaesthetist at 20 weeks which she said was also for my bmi?? Super scared of going to that appt! DH can't come with me for support either-eek.

I see my doctor for the first time the day after my morph scan at 19.5 weeks. Scared of what she's going to say to me too!

I am eating healthy (I think?) -cereal and a banana for breakfast (never eaten breakfast before!), lunch is things like: tuna and salad sandwich/ cruskits or corn thins with cheese and tomato or avocado and tomato etc, snack on bananas, nectarines, peaches or yogurt (only if i need a snack) and dinner is things like stirfry, meat and garden salad etc. I had a rough start to the pregnancy with alot of bleeding which was worse on days I did much-like sweeping, mopping or lots of walking, so i took it easy until I knew things were going to stick. Now I am trying to get into some exercise everyday-so hopefully i can lose a few kgs in the next couple of weeks before those appts! I drink water 99% of the time too.

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Adamira

I'd love to join too. I'm 10 weeks tomorrow with number 3. I literally have no clothes that fit me anymore, it's scary. Last time I weighed myself I was about 92 kgs. Not a good way to be, as I am almost 31 as well.

Dreading going to the first hospital appointment, as I know it won't be good. I really don't want to be high risk, but I think with age and size I may not have a choice.

My eating isn't as bad as it used to be, but all I do it sit down or sleep as I am so exhausted all the time. I wasn't like this with the other two, even though I was of similar size.

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naturalgoodness

I am 20 weeks with number 5. I had my hospital/consultant/anaesthetist appointment last week. The way they kept banging on about weight you would think that an overweight woman has never given birth before. They really annoy me!

 

I am 38 and am doing GP shared care - that is with being overweight, having a chronic medical condition and a previous c/s (DS2). I decided that is what I would be doing and selected my shared care GP before any hospital appointment.

 

My GP has said that we need to keep an eye on weight, and we agreed that we would attempt to gain nothing - so as I dropped weight the baby would add and cancel each other out - so far so good and I have stayed at 122kg.

 

From what I understood at the hospital appt was that they were happy to let me be free with my choices until around 36 weeks then they wanted to re-assess (the anaesthetist said at 20 weeks it was too early to be seeing him) and we could joust it out at that time in relation to how we want the birth to proceed.

 

I can only suggest if you are feeling apprehensive is to remember that to the hospital staff your appointment is part of their job, they are there day in and day out coming across all types of people all of the time - they forget this is a special time for you. Just nod and smile and take from each appointment what you want. Do not be scared to speak up if someone speaks to you in a way that you don't like and ask for another opinion if something doesn't sound right to you.

 

Off my soapbox now, its just that hospital staff sometimes really bug me :angry:

 

:D

 

 

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pinkcharlibelle

I'm now 26 weeks and all going well-hoping my GD test comes back clear! Need to prove them wrong!! Aneth was great-no concern over my weight AT ALL-only my allergies! The last doctors I saw (a trainee was in there too) asked me repeatedly if i was feeling ok-am i not supposed to feel good??? I feel great! getting a bit of heartburn at night (didnt mention that) and my sciatica plays up sometimes but i didnt tell them that either. Other than that I feel great!

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naturalgoodness

Good to hear that you are feeling great! I am now 30 weeks and have crept back to my pre-pregnancy weight now that I no longer vomit and feel like eating again :unsure:

 

I am seeing the anaesthetist in 4 weeks, but I feel ok about it now because my respiratory specialist has said there is no reason to consider me respiratory compromised and there would be no issue should I have to go under :)

 

I failed the 1 hour GTT but passed the 2 hour - my doctor doesn't think that people should really do the 1 hour one with the number that have to go and do the 2 only to pass :huh:

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pinkcharlibelle

Oh its good you can eat again!

 

I got a letter today to say I have to to the 2 hr test-their limit is 7.8 and my reading was 8.1

 

Stressing out as they have soooooo much trouble getting blood from me-like can take 5 attempts so having to go through that twice in one day does not make me feel too good. Also i found the 50g drink made me feel terrible and burnt all the way down, they said the 2 hr one is 75g! :sick:

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Christabelle86

Hi ladies,

 

I just found it this morning that I'm pregnant (yay!) but I'm terrified of going to the Docs :-( My BMI is 39 and I really really don't want to be weighed... I'll be even heavier with clothes on - maybe I should wear a light summer dress...

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Cranky Kitten

I'm 10 weeks with my third baby, BMI is currently 41.6 I think, which is causing some issues with my choice of hospital. I'm rethinking my preference for a particular private hospital to going public but need to find out what their cut-off is, as I don't want to get shunted to King Edward for being "high risk". Peeves me off a bit as it was no issue when DS was born and I was heavier then, I didn't put any on at all while carrying him (actually lost a bit) and then lost 10-15kg after his birth.

 

Ah well, will have to see how things go I guess.

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naturalgoodness

I am not sure what my BMI is, but my start weight was 125kg. I had pretty bad m/s for the first 27 weeks so have remained under my start weight for the whole time so far.

 

Personally, I have found after the hospital made an issue out of it the first appointment they have pretty much left it alone.

 

I hope you guys don't have too hard a time of it.

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Ms_Jae

Hi, I happened to find this thread while surfing around the forum.

 

I am obese and pregnant.. I have a 3 month old and I know its part of my weight, but I am extremely embarrassed.

 

I am 95kgs and I am scared i will put more weight on with this pregnancy.

 

So glad you guys are here..

 

Jae

 

Hi, I happened to find this thread while surfing around the forum.

 

I am obese and pregnant.. I have a 3 month old and I know its part of my weight, but I am extremely embarrassed.

 

I am 95kgs and I am scared i will put more weight on with this pregnancy.

 

So glad you guys are here..

 

Jae

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MrsKrock

I've just come across this thread!

 

I am pregnant, actually I'm almost ready to give birth, I'm 37 + 4.

 

When I got pregnant, it wasn't planned at the time, as I had about 8 weeks before hand went and had lapband surgery to lose weight TO get pregnant... I lost 20kgs and bang! Pregnant by accident, was not planned (no regrets though).

 

I decided for my own sanity to see an OB and I've not had any problems at all. He's been amazing, and even though I still carry the risks, due to all my test results my OB is considering me a "low risk" but I am going private for everything including my birth.

 

the only thing my OB is insisting is that I don't go over 41 weeks, so at 40+3 if I've not gone naturally, I am being induced.

 

I've had a great experience so far, so fingers crossed after the birth I can still say it's all been a great experience. Good luck to everyone :)

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Zachary Quack

I'm feeling very punished for my weight. Are you all being made to have growth scans every 4 weeks? I like the idea of seeing bub so often but I am really really sick of being treated like a sick person, or like I am endangering my child. I had a damn fine GTT result - the highest BSL was 5.6 after an hour, then it went back down to 4.6 by the 2 hours - so no sign of gestational diabetes.

 

They also flip out at my fundal height measurement, but I don't think they take account of the large blob of fat that they are measuring along with the uterus. Regardless it is growing at 1cm/week as the guidelines suggest, it just started at a higher number. Rrrrrrr, I just had an appointment this afternoon and they really made me feel like crap. I refused to get weighed; I weigh myself and track it, I know how much weight I have put on and I know that I can't lose any right now. I find it distressing to see the number going up despite my best efforts and I am worried about it causing me to get really restrictive with my eating again (had anorexic tendencies as a teenager but luckily never got deeply drowned by the illness).

 

Thanks for reading my rant, if you have :)

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tellingtales

Hi All I hope you don't mind me joining in.

 

I am over weight, fall into the obese category with the BMI scale, and am about to start TTC. My partner and I are getting married in just under a year but I have had a few problems so have been told that conceiving could be difficult so thought it would be worth trying and if it happens YAY if not then I can see my gynae after the wedding and get some help.

 

I've always been told to drop as much weight as possible before TTC as I'll get GD and pre-eclampsia etc but after reading all these threads am feeling alot better about trying.

 

Anyway just thought I'd say hi.

 

Peta :smile:

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sodawaterbubbles

Hi ladies, looking to join..

 

I'm seriously disappointed and sad :( Three years ago (almost) I gave birth at chosen hospital and had midwifery care. By the end of my pregnancy I was 126kgs. So I assumed this time around being 118kgs and 24 weeks and having not put on any weight that I would be eligible for midwifery care again. Not so..yesterday they informed me that I am in fact considered a high risk pregnancy and have to have shared care. Noooooooooooo! I was told at my last appointment I would be sent to a dietician. I said No, I don't need one-I'm on a specialised eating plan overseen by a specialist GP already. I have many food intolerances along with Crohns disease and Fibromyalgia. They said that was fine then..but when I said I didn't want to have the glucose testing performed as the glucose would send me into a chronic fatigue for days along with causing my joints and muscles to ache, I was told I'd need to do the skin prick test at home for a week. I agreed and had no issue with this until I got to the front desk and was told the Dr had actually organised for me to see the whole diabetes education team! That means another Dr, a dietician and an educator. I was so mad! Why am I not being listened to?

Dr also asked if I had an epidural with last baby. No, I didn't. Were there any problems? No. How long did I labour for? 10 hours. Any tearing? No. She seemed almost stunned that overweight women can have successful, non problematic births! It was really insulting..she booked me in to see the anaesthetist anyway! This is everything I didn't want in my antenatal care. This is my third baby..I just want to be listened to and respected! I know my body. I have been bigger than this..but she said allowing me midwifery care last time was a mistake. I don't know what to do. I just want to feel like I am in control of my body and my pregnancy and birth-those are all extremely important to me.

She rabbited on about aqua aerobics five days a week and working up a sweat as well. For God's sake! I came away from the appointment feeling insecure and completely uncomfortable but having lost faith in my ability to birth naturally on my own. I'm angry! Edited to add- have never had a history of gestational diabetes or any bloody diabetes for that matter in my family history! Why am I being treated as though I have it then?! SO offensive!

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PrincessOopsie

Hi ladies I would like to join in if I could :)

 

Firstly sodawaterbubbles I know exactly how you feel my hospital tried the exact same s#*t one with #2!!

I weighed 94 when I fell pregnant with #1 gained 21kg during pregnancy and lost 11kg after he was born. Was booked in the birth centre but ended up needing an epidural as it was just a ridiculous labour 30+ hours with a posterior baby!

I didn't loose any of my weight and with #2 weighed 105kg I was basically told I was too fat to have a birth centre birth and I lost my s#*t I think I actually said how does being fat effect my ability to push a baby out my vagina!!! I ended up winning that battle after going to the head of obstetrics! I only gain 3 kg that pregnancy and lost 11kg when she was born!

 

There is hope sodawaterbubbles! Don't let them walk over you xx

 

Anyway this is #3 for me and I'm only 5weeks my weight is currently 97.8 and I am hoping I can drop a bit before my first hospital appt! Here's hoping I don't want to gain much so sm being careful and trying to eat as healthy as possible.

 

Looking forward to getting to know you ladies xx

 

Eta autocorrect lol

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PrincessOopsie

So this is a pretty slow moving thread lol hope everyone is well.

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kpingitquiet

Hey ladies. I'm just past 13wks with baby #2 and just had my booking appointment where I was informed I eat poorly and don't exercise. This was news to me as I am a gardening, cooking, and nutrition fanatic and work out daily. All the pamphlets will be very helpful though as I needed to increase the paper content of my compost pile.

 

Someday, medical professionals will realize that plenty of overweight people eat healthy foods and exercise but either a> are in the process of losing weight/getting fit and just aren't done yet, when pregnancy happens and/or b> just eat a LOT of healthy food and/or c> have myriad other things going on that can't be assessed by a BMI formula.

 

Anyway, I'm going to be having an elective c/s as I don't need a repeat of my nightmare 3-day labor from last time, so at least the OB appointment and anesthetist consultation make sense for me.

 

I declined the GTT, this time, as last time I came in as borderline low BGL AFTER the sugar drink, and I eat low-GI anyway. The nurse didn't object. My last pregnancy was blissfully healthy aside from SPD, as is my child, I have low BP, fantastic blood tests, etc.

 

(Sorry, just annoyed today. I really just want to be left alone until time for my baby to arrive!)

 

I hope everyone else is doing well and isn't being harassed too much.

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sodawaterbubbles

Princess Oopsie, I ended up calling them after obsessing over it for daaaays. I said I was not happy to be treated as though I had GD or some kind of disease because I was overweight! The head midwife said she has organised for me to see the head of obstetrics and he will decide whether I'm okay to be under just midwifery care. I bloody hope so..this is my 3rd baby and I at least want the chance to try and have a natural, healthy and normal pregnancy. How dare they make me feel so incapable..seriously. Also, was informed that I no longer qualified for a birthing centre within the hospital like last time and my husband couldn't stay overnight this time either. WTF?! Let's punish the fatties!

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PrincessOopsie

Sodawaterbubbles, my god your story sounds exactly like mine! Keep fighting being overweight is not a disability and certainly doesn't ruin the effectiveness of your vajayjay!!

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AnnaJT79

Wow! So glad I am not alone in what I am experiencing in my public hospital! At the moment I am freaking a bit because I feel that they are going to push me to have an "electrive" c-section because of my size and because I do have gestational diabetes.

 

They said that was how it would have to be if the next scan (26 March) showed that the baby was 4kg or above.

 

My last baby was 3.75kg, I was exactly the same weight (but under a private OB not in the public system), I had only gas and had the help of a bit of vacusuction towards the end of the birth but no other issues (a few stiches, but not much).

 

All I want is the chance to give birth naturally again. I feel like are discriminating against me because of my weight (BMI is really high, in the low 40s) and saying I have to have a c-section because its lower risk for them without considering my wishes, the high risk of infection for my size and other post-recovery issues it causes. And because they make me feel so bad about my weight its so hard to stand up to all of that.

 

Hope everyone is going well, it sounds like allot of us are crapping heaps of sh*t because of our weight.

 

xx

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sodawaterbubbles

That totally sucks. I ended up testing negative for GB and after being told I needed an ultrasound every second week to check growth and an internal at 38 weeks, I opted for a home birth. I'll never return to the hospital to give birth again.

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