Why mums-to-be are taking solo babymoons

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Heading off on a babymoon is something many couples do before welcoming their bundle of joy, a last hurrah before the new addition arrives. But a new trend has seen more mums leaving their partner at home and embarking on solo babymoons.

And it's not hard to understand why.

Paralympian, author and mother-of-two Jess Smith is one expectant mama who's planning a solo babymoon ahead of her third baby.

​"I have to take some time for myself so that I can regroup emotionally," Ms Smith, mum to Alya, three, and Reza, one, posted to Instagram last week. "Up until recently I've found it so incredibly difficult to say 'I need a break' without feeling guilty. But the truth is, we all need a break, from whatever our main focus is, whether that's our children or our work. It makes us value and appreciate what we have, and in turn I know it will make me a better mother and wife."

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Ms Smith, who has been pregnant four times in the past four years, breastfeeding for three-and-a-half and co-sleeping, realised she needed time to emotionally and mentally prepare for baby number three - alone. 

"I need some unbroken sleep and an opportunity to do absolutely nothing. I haven't had a single night away from my two young children, so I know a little break will help me feel refreshed," she says.

With no family nearby, the option of a child-free getaway with her husband before baby arrives just wasn't possible. "My husband has also had many work trips and a few overseas trips with his mates, so to be honest, I think I deserve some time to myself," Ms Smith adds.

"The more I think about doing it solo the more excited I am."

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A post shared by JESSICA SMITH (@jessicasmith27) on Ms Smith, who has been pregnant four times in four yours, has breastfed for three-and-a-half and has co-sept the entire time, says the idea of a solo baby moon came from her need to emotionally and mentally prepare for baby number three. "I need some unbroken sleep and an opportunity to do absolutely nothing," she says. "I haven't had a single night away from my two young children, so I know a little break will help me feel refreshed."Without close family nearby, the option of taking a child-free babymoon as a couple just wasn't an option. "My husband has also had many work trips and a few overseas trips with his mates, so to be honest, I think I deserve some time to myself and the more I think about doing it solo the more excited I am. Apart from sleep, Ms Smith's recipe for a perfect solo baby moon is simple. "Long HOT baths, HOT cups of coffee while reading a book," she says. "The ideal would be sitting in bed watching a movie while eating room service. Oh my goodness ... bliss!"

Apart from sleep, Ms Smith's recipe for a perfect solo baby moon is simple.

"Long HOT baths and HOT cups of coffee while reading a book," she says. "The ideal would be sitting in bed watching a movie while eating room service. Oh my goodness ... bliss!"

And it's something she hopes other mums will consider doing, too.

"We all know that mothers work tirelessly for their families, whether you're a working mum or a stay-at-home mum or a work from home mum, we all face so many daily challenges that are simply part of motherhood," Ms Smith says. "We also know more than one in seven new mums experiences post natal depression. We all need time to ourselves - it's crucial for our emotional wellbeing."

Ms Smith also feels that a little break away for expecting mothers is, "a wonderful opportunity for mums to take a moment to really address their own needs, and in doing so give ourselves the opportunity to reconnect with ourselves and our families. "