'I want to say pregnancy is beautiful, but I just don't feel that way'

Rhiannon Abrahams is honest about pregnancy.
Rhiannon Abrahams is honest about pregnancy. Photo: Instagram @rhiannon.abrahams

When you fall pregnant it's a joyous time. Your skin glows. You are at one with your unborn baby. Your hair is shiny. And little blue birds fly around you while you whistle sweet songs in fields of joy.

Wrong.

For many women being pregnant is hard work. You feel grateful and blessed, obviously, but it can be anything but a fairytale - and then you guilty about it.

One mum, Rhiannon Abrahams, opened up about not enjoying her pregnancy.

"Honestly I don't 'love' being pregnant, all I want to say is 'oh it it's so beautiful!' But it just doesn't feel that way (please don't get me wrong, I feel so grateful and blessed I can get pregnant) and I want nothing more than to love it, but I just don't," she wrote on her Instagram post.

 

26 & 16 weeks 😆 Honestly I don't 'love' being pregnant, all I want to say is "oh I love it it's so beautiful!" But it just doesn't feel that way (please don't get me wrong, I feel so grateful and blessed I can get pregnant) and I want nothing more than to love it, but I just don't. I don't like the changes, the hormones, the pain, not feeling as independent etc... I was afraid to say that to people because it seemed 'wrong' and I'm a little afraid to be saying it on here as well, but when I started being honest with some other mums, they opened up and it made me feel a lot better and normal! I almost felt like a bad mum already. If you are feeling this way, you are not alone, it's just not spoken about as much and all I'm doing now is sharing with you honestly about how I feel so hopefully I can make some other mums feel normal too Im jealous of women who love it! The only thing I LOVE is the feeling of this baby, every time I feel a kick or movement it feels 100 percent worth it all and makes me so happy! I just can't wait to meet you bubs! Keep cooking for now ♥️ 14 weeks to go ✨ #pregnant #26weeks

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"I don't like the changes, the hormones, the pain, not feeling as independent etc."

At 26 weeks pregnant, she has already been hit by the guilty mum stick. And like all mums, she's aware of the judgment that follows us around.

"I was afraid to say that to people because it seemed 'wrong' and I'm a little afraid saying it on here as well, but when I started being honest with some other mums, they opened up and it made me feel a lot better and normal!" she said.

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"I almost felt like a bad mum."

Her post is a refreshing one, as in the photo she looks Instagram perfect. She's in a bikini at the beach and frankly, she looks amazing. But she wanted to let other mums know that it's ok to feel the way she does.

"If you are feeling this way, you are not alone, it's just not spoken about as much and all I'm doing now is sharing with you honestly about how I feel so hopefully other mums feel normal too," she wrote.

She goes on to say how she is jealous of women who love being pregnant.

"The only thing I love is the feeling of this baby, every time I feel a kick or movement it feels 100 per cent worth it all and makes me so happy!" she said.

"I just can't wait to meet you."

I must say I quite enjoyed being pregnant with each of my three kids, but there were times it sucked. Like the times I carried a diluted two-litre bottle of apple juice around with me to drink every time I thought I'd vomit. And the times I couldn't sleep because I had toddlers waking through the night. And I don't even want to remember the time I pulled a muscle in my arse and had to get it massaged.

But now, when my girls are yelling at me to get them food, I hardly remember pregnancy at all.

 

I always said when I have something I'm sharing on SM I'd be as honest as possible.. Don't be fooled by the "Glowing" far away pregnancy shots 😂 My veins are pumping and on full show, Everywhere. I shave and the next day it's all spikey again 😒 My skin has gone from pimples, lumps and bumps everywhere to dry patches 👌🏽 I sneeze and wet myself a little and haven't even had bubs yet 💦😭 I could go on forever haha.. We put up photos of ourselves when we feel good 😊 but as an "influencer" i wanted to share some pregnancy up close shots too 😝😂 I'm feeling so lucky to not be sick or exhausted anymore though! What a relief! Now it feels like a waiting game - still no movement and haven't felt anything, I swear from the 12 week scan to the 20 week feels like years.. I want to buy one of those monitoring heart beat gadgets the midwives use so I know he or she is still going strong haha! 😳🙄😆 Most people tell me as a FTM you worry about everything, and yep that's feeling pretty correct 😂👏🏾 #pregnant #secondtrimester #pregnancy #18weekspregnant

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