Dad says it's his wife's 'turn' to pick a baby name - but he hates what she has chosen

The mum refuses to budge on her choice.
The mum refuses to budge on her choice. Photo: iStock via Getty Images

Letting your partner have their turn at making decisions for the family sounds like a great way to promote marital harmony. 

But when the decision is as important - and permanent - as choosing a name for a baby, the inability to have your say could be hard to handle. One dad has learnt just that, and has posted to Reddit asking for advice about how to handle the predicament he finds himself in.  

The dad explained he and his wife had decided to 'take turns' naming their babies, and that he had gone first when he named their son Calvin Heath -  a name he describes as "strong, somewhat unique name but (a name) that could just as easily suit a musician as a lawyer or doctor".

Problems arose when his pregnant wife announced that she had chosen for their second child, a daughter -  Ever Winter Rain.

"I don't think this is a good name and that it isn't fair to our daughter because Ever is a word and I don't think it passes the supreme court justice test," said the dad, "It doesn't sound professional, it's confusing because it's a word and I don't think it would suit her into adulthood."

He suggested other alternatives, but his wife refused, as per the agreement said she has the right to pick the name.

Redditors were divided in their comments about how to resolve the disagreement - debating everything from the terms of the agreement  to the name itself.

"He's going back on the arrangement because it doesn't suit his daughter, not because it doesn't suit him," defended one commenter.

"If the name was even somewhat 'normal' and he still went back on the arrangement then it would be because it doesn't suit him. He's trying to save his daughter a lifetime of dealing with the social consequences of an objectively ridiculous name."

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"I'm fairly certain he didn't expect her to pick a name that will lead to 18 years of bullying, resenting her mother for giving her the name, resenting her father for not stopping her, resenting her sibling for having a normal name, and of course the stress and hassle of a name change," said another.

"Not wanting to sacrifice his relationship with his daughter before it's even began doesn't make him an a*****e because he "made an agreement". Fairly certain he made the agreement under the assumption she wouldn't choose something crazy (because who honestly expects their wife to name their kid this?)"

Others took issue with the way the dad would withhold signing the birth certificate over this issue.

"If you don't sign the birth certificate of your own child for any reason but especially over a name dispute, yes, you are the a*****e, and could also be harming yourself in the future should you ever separate and need to pursue custody."

"Your role as a parent is to love your child unconditionally, if you can't even accept them due to a name they aren't even choosing you've got way larger problems coming."