Three Dads and a Baby: A 'throuple' has opened up about raising two kids as a polyamorous family

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Ever wished for an extra pair of hands when raising kids? 

For one throuple (a three person couple) from California, the set up is working well for their kids Piper, three and Parker, 14 months.

The three dads - Dr Ian Jenkins, Alan Mayfield and Jeremy Allen Hodges - made history in 2017 when they were each named and equally recognised on Piper's birth certificate.

Now the family has shared how that decision has helped the polyamorous family feel accepted. 

"We weren't sure that we could have all three of us on the birth certificate so it became a court process," Alan explained to The Morning Show.

"It was a pretty interesting, tense courtroom scene where at first it seemed we were not going to be granted that and we asked to speak in court and plead our viewpoint and the judge ultimately changed her mind and granted us legal parentage for our child before she was born."

Their kids, who are half-siblings, were born via surrogate and using donor eggs from a friend. The trio entered what they call an 'unconventional' relationship after welcoming Jeremy into the fold eight years ago, nine years after Ian and Alan first got together.

Now a family of five, their kids call Ian 'papa', Jeremy 'daddy' and Alan 'dada'.


Ian has now written a book on their experience, aptly titled Three Dads and a Baby: Adventures in Modern Parenting, both to share their story and to bring more awareness to non-traditional family structures. 

Saying while their's is a positive story and they had felt accepted in their community in San Diego, they were aware other families may not have the same experience. 

"Regarding pushback, we're very lucky to live with a circle of friends and co-workers who've been universally supportive and that has been just fantastic," Ian told The Morning Show. 

"My heart really goes out to people who might be [raising] their kids in a community that's less welcoming. We've been very lucky."