‘I kicked my mum out for changing my babies’ into the ‘right’ clothes while they were sleeping’

The woman's mother woke her children up to change their outfits.
The woman's mother woke her children up to change their outfits. Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

Getting ready with two babies under two can be a chaotic process, and the colour of their clothes is the least of a parent's worries.

One outraged mum is struggling to get the message through to her own mother, who has very clear ideas about what the kids should be wearing. 

In a post to Reddit, the mother explained that she has a 15-month-old son and a four-month-old daughter, and her husband is currently out of the country for work.  

"I got a knock on the door eight days ago and mum was standing there with her suitcase, saying she'd be staying with me until my husband gets back," she wrote. "I never asked for this and we live four hours apart normally."

The woman explained that when she first fell pregnant, they ended up with enough clothing in a mix of 'male, female and neutral' tones to last until her eldest child was three-years-old'.

"Husband and I learned early on that when dressing a baby, you just reach for whatever is closest and with 2 kids and no help, I've just kept doing that," she said.

"I wake up before mum and go to bed later then mum, so I do my routine, dress the kids in whatever I come across first regardless of how it looks, and get on with my day." 

The grandmother changed her grandchildren if they weren't wearing the 'right' clothing

The grandmother changed her grandchildren if they weren't wearing the 'right' clothing Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

"Mum then wakes up, sees my son in clothing that probably isn't designed for boys, and my daughter in clothing that probably isn't designed for girls, and changes them," the exasperated mum said.

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"She's also told me that I should be making sure I use the "right" clothes for each baby, and even woken my children up while they were sleeping to change them." 

"Waking the babies is considered one of the seven deadly sins in this house," she continued. "I told her to NEVER wake the baby for something as stupid as wearing the wrong colour ever again."

Things reached boiling point after her mum woke up her sick son to change his clothes, right after he'd gone down for a nap after being up all night.

"About 3pm I hear him crying, followed by my daughter (who woke up from him crying) and see mum is changing him AGAIN because he was wearing pink!" the furious woman wrote.

"I nearly burst into tears and just told mum to pack her bags and go home," the outraged mum said. "She initially refused but I said she offered to help me, and she clearly isn't helping so please just go home and let me take care of my kids."

She refused to let her grandson wear pink and her granddaughter wear blue.

She refused to let her grandson wear pink and her granddaughter wear blue. Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

The mum is now getting phone calls from her parents demanding an apology and saying she over-reacted, making her question her decision.

"Her intentions were good (in her own way) and she hates driving after dark, and it was getting dark as she was heading home," the mum fretted, before asking the Reddit community if she did the wrong thing.

Redditers agreed that her mum needed to take a step back, and the colour of her children's clothes is not important.

"She says she's helping but she's clearly not and perhaps kicking her out will straighten her out for the future, perhaps it will help establish boundaries going forward because it sounds like she needs them," wrote one.

"I feel like you'd have to be completely off your damn rocker to wake a baby or toddler from a nap, especially after they've been up with an ear infection all night," pointed out another.

"If this was her idea of helping she's nuts."