Is Kim Kardashian a bad mum?

Bad parents? Kanye West and Kim Kardashian attend the Givenchy show at Paris Fashion week 2013.
Bad parents? Kanye West and Kim Kardashian attend the Givenchy show at Paris Fashion week 2013. Photo: Getty Images

Kim Kardashian and I don't have much in common. No, let me rephrase that. Kim Kardashian and I have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in common. Except for the fact we have both been criticised for spending time away from our children and, God forbid, enjoying it.

Kardashian's realisation her fame and riches were not enough to keep her from being a target for those who believe mums should spend every minute of every day and night with their children came this week when she was attacked on Twitter for a being a "crappy mum".

The 33-year-old reality star has been spending too much time away from five-month-old baby daughter North socialising and attending fiance Kayne West's concerts, apparently. She hit back at the criticism, labelling her attacker as "ignorant" and tweeting: "Because I don't tweet or instagram my every move w my daughter means I am not with her 24/7? We share what we want. Or is it bc I go to support my fiance at every show & I post pix? When the baby goes down 4 bed or a nap, parents are allowed 2 work & support each other. Maybe even have fun too."

I think she has a point. My own realisation that my status as a mother meant I was no longer expected to seek out child-free fun, if it meant being away from my two boys, came earlier this year when a group of old high school friends and I were planning our girls' trip of a lifetime to New York and Las Vegas to celebrate our joint 40th birthdays.

That's right. Seven women, all mothers, holidaying on the other side of the world without their children. But before you call the authorities, relax: the kids were all safely at home with their fathers - you know, their other parent.

The criticism of my child-free plans was a little less public than Kardashian's, due to the fact that I, thankfully, don't making a living out of being famous. It was also not quite as vicious, as my friends and family know how much I love my boys and how much I do for them day in and day out.

But still, there were lots who questioned how I could possibly consider spending 12 days and nights away from my two children, who were aged 19 months and almost five at the time. "How will the kids cope?" and "Are you worried how they will miss you?" were the two most common questions I was asked in the months leading up to my trip.

Fortunately my husband understood my desire for a holiday that didn't involve early morning wake-ups, strollers, nappy bags and 5.30pm dinners, so off I went.

And guess what? My children survived. Sure, one of them appeared not to have changed clothes for several days in a row when I spoke to him on Skype, but I can live with that. They had a great time with their dad, learnt that someone other than Mummy was fully capable of caring for them, and were rewarded with a well-rested and re-energised mother who came home bearing lots of gifts.

Granted, baby North is lot younger than either of my children were when I took my child-free trip. But Kardashian and West certainly have the resources to make sure their baby is well taken care off while they take time out for themselves.

I also realise that Kardashian, thanks to her wealth, can afford to take much more time for herself than average new mums. But at the end of the day she is probably not unlike many first-time parents, trying to find her way through the haze of those first 12 months while maintaining some sense of self.

Maybe she should just keep her "me time" a relatively private affair in the future, and not feel the need to share it with her 18 million plus Twitter followers, if she doesn't want to have to deal with the criticism.

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