Having a partner who is away frequently for work can be a
challenge. Whether they are in defence force or have a fly-in, fly-out
(FIFO) job, read our series of articles to help you and your family.
When adjusting to the home and away cycle, it’s normal to experience a range of emotions - from happiness and relief to loneliness and helplessness. This cycle can be particularly hard if you have limited family and friends close by.
You can:
1 Take care of yourself while your partner is away by doing activities you enjoy, spending quality time with your friends and making time to look after your health.
2 Keep up your energy levels by eating well and having quality sleep when you get the chance - remember it’s OK to take a break.
3 Take some time for yourself everyday. Sometimes the stress and tension of parenting on your own can feel overwhelming and it’s easy to forget or run out of time to look after yourself.
4 Remain mindful of the many benefits of this lifestyle. Take advantage of the good times when you can and focus on the benefits when you are feeling down.
5 Allow yourself to be supported by accepting help when offered and asking for help when needed. You don’t have to be SuperMum, so consider using a trusted babysitter or other child care arrangements (either permanent or casual) for your children each week. Your children will benefit from the different experiences, while giving you a break or the opportunity to run errands or shopping.
6 Draw on the knowledge and personal support offered by family and friends. Friendships formed through Mum’s groups and playgroups can provide an opportunity to share ideas. There are also internet based forums and websites where Mums can share information and learn together.
7 Many organisations offer a variety of services and facilities, such as telephone hotlines and parenting workshops, to support you in your parenting role and link you to other resources.
8 Take advantage of Employment Assistance Programs (EAPs) and other support offered by your partner’s employer in dealing with the home and away cycle. They may be able to connect you with others in a similar situation.
9 If you feel overwhelmed and unable to cope, contact your GP, child health nurse or one of the counselling services listed.
This article has been supplied by the Department for Communities. Parenting WA - the Parenting Line is a free 24/7 telephone service for information and advice on any parenting matter. (08) 6279 1200 or 1800 654 432.
Links
Join a relevant EB “buddy group” here, from Military Families to the “FIFO” buddy group.
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