Since having triplets Samantha, Matthew and William three years ago, property financier Adrian Steer, 35, and his wife Sue, 39, agree they need to make more time for romance. The couple also have a seven-year-old son, Alexander.
Adrian "Sue and I met at a pub in January 1998. She approached me and I felt comfortable with her straightaway. That's never changed.
We married in June 1999 and after finding out we couldn't conceive naturally, we went through IVF. It took a year to conceive Alex and then, a few years later, after 13 attempts at IVF, we learnt we were expecting triplets. I felt numb. The weight of responsibility was huge. I thought, 'Oh no, our car's not big enough; we need to renovate; I need a new job to pay for all of this.' The early days were horrendous. It was a constant cycle of changing nappies, feeding and settling.
Through it all, you do lose a piece of yourself; it becomes all about the kids. I have a demanding job and then when I get home, I have to roll up the sleeves and help Sue.
If there is one thing we're deficient in, it's making time for the two of us. By the time we go to bed at 10pm, we're exhausted. Although we're conscious of not letting our sex life slip too much, we should probably put a lock on the door, as all four kids get into our bed during the night. Sue and I are like the bookends - we sleep with our heads on the bedside tables."
Sue "When I first met Adrian, I'd had a bit of champagne and my friend dared me to talk to him. We danced the night away and talked until the sun came up and have been inseparable ever since.
After experiencing the emotional, physical and financially devastating journey of IVF with Alex, we were so thankful when the triplets were born. They were so cute and pink and healthy. The early days seem like a blur. I fed them simultaneously - one on each breast and one on a bottle.
Even now, we just put one foot in front of the other. I'm not good at asking, so Adrian and I do need to be diligent about having quality time together. We try to keep the spontaneity in our romantic life, but it's hard to go from feeling motherly during the day to being a sexy wife.
We have been trying to make Saturday nights about us. We get the kids to bed early, enjoy some takeaway and a glass of wine and listen to music.
There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a good father and Adrian is fantastic. We've never - not once - had an argument."
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