'Forever grateful': A love letter to my mother-in-law

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Photo: iStock 

"I hate my mother-in-law".

I can't tell you how often I see these words in mum groups. How often I see complaints, anger, frustration – the list goes on! 

Don't get me wrong, based on most of the reasons I see explained with that phrase, I would probably have issues too. 

With that being said, I feel like there aren't enough positive vibes out there for being a MIL. When I hear people mention their MIL, it makes me automatically think they are about to bitch and complain about her, which is something I'm proud to say I can't relate to!

I know it's controversial, but mother-in-law is amazing 

I've been lucky, I've got one of the good ones, and I'm sure I'm not alone. So, to all the great MIL's out there – I want to extend my heartfelt thanks and gratitude. 

To my wonderful MIL – thank you.

Thank you for accepting me into your family and treating me like one of your own. For going out of your way to make me feel special and taking an interest in my life. For calling and checking in on me to see how everything is going, and always remembering my birthday. 

Thank you for being in our kids lives. In fact, thank you for more than being just 'present' in their lives, thank you for having an active and positive role. For travelling across the country to see them, for trying to be there for each of their birthdays, and for happily taking on the responsibility of 'kid duty'. 


You always have fun activities for them to do, happily walk them to the park and back, and you never complain even though I know they can be exhausting. I know it isn't always easy, I know it can be expensive, but I am forever grateful for the effort you put in. When I know you're on your way, our house is a happy house.

Thank you for caring for our family so deeply and respecting our parenting wishes. For being so caring and gentle that we feel comfortable enough to leave our precious kids in your capable hands overnight. Words can't describe how much it means to us when you allow us the opportunity to be more than just a mum and dad, and give us with the opportunity to actually be husband and wife and enjoy a nice dinner together without interruptions. 

Thank you for making all the meals when you come to visit. For taking the load off my mind so I don't have to think about what's for dinner each night. For helping me get my house back on track, and for leaving my freezer stocked with meals.

It's never an inconvenience to have you over, and I appreciate the amount of effort you put in. Before you leave you always hug me and say, "you're doing such a great job!". These words mean more to me than I can articulate. 

You've never made me feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or unworthy. You accepted me as one of your own, and I'm so happy I can't relate to "wicked MIL" trend. 

When I married your son, I married into your family. Please know, I hit the jackpot.