"This isn’t the body you fell in love with”

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If you've looked at your post-baby body and wondered how your partner could find it attractive, you're not alone. Stretch marks, saggy skin, fat deposits, and all manner of lumps and bumps have made many mum's bodies unrecognisable when compared to the bodies of their youth.

Mum-of-two Laura Mazza, who blogs as the Mum on the Run, is no exception, but unlike many who suffer in silence, Laura talked to her partner about it, and then learned something pretty amazing about love.

Laura shared her conversation on Facebook. "This isn't the body you fell in love with," she said to her partner.

"The body he fell in love with was toned, it had muscles, there were no stretch marks on my belly, none on my boobs, no gut from muscle separation," she wrote in her Facebook post. "The body he fell in love with fit into tight jeans, could walk into a shop and grab any size and walk out, knowing it fit."

Laura pointed at that, while her body has changed so much in the time the couple has had their two kids, her husband's body has remained unchanged.

"I stood in front of him, exhausted and broken, the tears welled in my eyes. 'This isn't the body you fell in love with.'"

And then Laura's partner said exactly the right thing.

"Then he said, 'You're right. It isn't the body I fell in love with. Instead, it's a body that grew our children, it fed our children, it comforted our children, it made life. Your body is the one I fall in love with every day. I didn't know what love was until I saw this body and found out all it could do, so thank you.'"

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Laura finished her post by urging other mums not to be ashamed of their bodies.

"There's plenty of time to give up cake in the future, for now, enjoy the moments you have, and enjoy the fact that you have made something that is worth every stretch mark and dimple. If you needed a reminder, this is it, this body you have now, it's worth every bit of love and more."

The post struck a chord with mums everywhere, being shared over 57,000 times, and attracting nearly 9000 comments, including many women who related to Laura's feelings about her body, and quite a few men who talked about how remarkable their wives are.