my 3.5 year old has been attending the same childcare since 11months old. Initially 2 non consecutive days, but 3 consecutive days since around November 2010. Generally hubby drops him off, occasionally I do.
He's never happily skipped off in a morning, but it's been manageable, and we've been satisfied that he has a great time once we've gone.
Since January, things have got increasingly difficult during drop off. Now he's really crying and refusing to go into the room, and is rude to others when approached. This is regardless of whether his friends are already there, or if it's quiet or busy. He'll arrive at the centre happily, but once he gets to his room, the tantrums start. If he has to go into a room with smaller children because it's too early for his usual room, things go very bad.
We've tried staying with him to get him settled, or just leaving after a quick kiss and cuddle. Neither approaches seem to be working. I've told him that it's ok to just be on his own once he arrives, until he's ready to join in.
But we know that he settles, and is Ok during the day. I arrive to collect him and observe him happily playing.
The centre haven't really suggested anything, other than that they'll check that there's enough stimulation for him when he arrives. They did say that maybe it was hard for him to leave our 3 person unit (we don't have any family, so he has limited alternate interactions) and go into the childcare setting.
The only changes since January are some of his friends leaving for different Kindy, but he seems to have made new friends. He recently moved into the kindy room from pre kindy.
I'm not sure what else to do. He's fairly introverted - in a crowded play ground, he's reticent of joining in.
If I ask him what is wrong, he says that he doesn't like adults looking at him.