Hi all

I know there was recently a toping on breaking the feeding to sleep, but I was looking specifically at 1-2am when DS wakes... (although last night he was up at 10, 12, 2 and 4!)

It is definitely a habit now.. when he wakes overnight, I just give him a very quick BF and he is back to sleep in 10-15mins..

If I try just cuddling him or rocking him, he wakes right up, gets cranky and a frenzy like behaviour begins as he looks for his comfort in the boob

I am back to work fulltime in 5 weeks, and am thinking this comfort habit probably should stop..

OK day looks something like this:

Wake 4-5am - BF and back in cot for self play and self settle back to sleep until 6-7.

Solids - 7-8

Formula - 100-200ml 9ish (+/-)

Nap 10am anywhere from 20mins to over 1 hr

Formula 100mls maybe more upon waking

Lunch solids 12

BF around 1pm (Maybe a nap around here)

Formula 100-200ml 2-3pm and a nap around 3pm usually 40 min - hr

Solids 4-5pm

Formula 100-200mls 6pm

BF then self settle (5 mins cry intervals, head pat til quiet, cry 5 mins, repeat til finally puts himself to sleep - usually 15mins max)

BF 10-11pm

BF 1-2am

What would be your suggestions? Should I just keep feeding him overnight? Is he hungry or really its just a habit now?

How would you break it? Use the same technique I use to self settle I mentioned above? Any help tips appreciated!

Will he take a dummy? I know it's very controversial, and I was one of those pre-mum 'I'm never going to use a dummy' sprouters. But then I actually HAD a baby and DS was waking for comfort boob at night - not actually feeding more than a mouthful or two before drifting off. So I tried the dummy just for a decent night sleep and it worked for us. He had a different grizzle when he was actually hungry, and I could identify which he needed. It was annoying to get rid of later, but I don't regret it - i needed it at the time.

No we tried that... he just has a quick chew and spits it out! (Glad he doesnt chew my boob that way! ouch!)

I'd just feed him back to sleep. DD was a bit like that when I went back to work and feeding to sleep was the quickest and easiest way to get her and myself back to sleep!

I would get your dh to settle him at the wake ups for a while. Just get up to feed him once.

This is what we did with my DD. Set aside a weekend and have your dh do all the settling with you not even entering the room so the option isn't available, only resort to the feed if he won't settle or gets really upset. Only took 2 nights for my dd's habit to be broken

I am in the same boat with my DS, i'm starting to feel that he only needs one overnight feed. I have tried to pat and resettle but he just starts screaming.

I am keen to get DS to try and do some settling, fingers crossed it only takes a couple of times like pp.

Has he always done this? If so, definitely get your DH to resettle. If its a phase it may pass- my DD1 woke 2-3 times a night from 7-9mths and then just stopped.