Hi all

New thread time

Previous thread

Regards

Ali

PINK!!!!!

SILVER PINK!!!!!!



Yay, I can live vicariously through you, as we won't be finding out! Woohoo!!!!!!

AFM - Ugh had a bit of an almost whoops moment last night!!! So, I'm about to ovulate and we are TOTALLY meant to be avoiding this time to give the girl ones a go, but last night... Oh boy was I in the mood!!! My body wants a bubba and doesn't CARE what the sex is apparently!!! Anyway, we ended up using the 'pull out' method, so I think if I were to fall preg this month I am totally sure it will be a boy! Anyway, just did an OPK and it's negative, so not sure what's going on with that. Might get a positive tomorrow? In which case it's all a day later than what I thought it would be and that then means (considering probably nothing got through to the keeper last night) we probably won't be preg this month. Booooo for bloody irregular cycles!!!!! Wish I took after my Auntie who has 28 day cycles you could set your watch by! But alas, not for me.

*sigh*

How is everyone going??? Provided you can find this thread! TWW here we come!!!!!!

haha szj - you got the pink for this thread!

aurora - don't lose hope yet! You never know what will happen this month. Maybe you have already O'd and your BDing last week was right on time?
I know it's sooo tempting to test 6 days before, but I'm so scared of it!! not sure why??? Although, in saying that, I want to test today! haha, WAY too early.

Alluneedislove - enjoy your new home in the October group! so exciting. I'd probably wait until your first ultrasound to tell your DD? I think that's what we'll do. So hard though! Look forward to hearing your results when you find out!!!!

Me? - my body is playing mind games with me. I had light cramping yesterday and Dr Google says that it could be implantation. But, who am I kidding? It was probably wind or something I've also got tender breasts today, but that's not really uncommon for me around now.... all I can do is wait!

Here's a list. If anyone wants to be added, please just pop in a post or send me a PM and I can update this one It's good that we've just started a new thread, so it will be at the top of this one!

aurora sleeping
TTC#2
DS1
Swaying for a GIRL
Testing: 22nd Feb

SZJ
TTC#5
Mumma to DD, DS, DS (born sleeping), DS
Swaying for a GIRL
Testing: 10th March

aqua.lime
TTC#3
DS1, DS2
Swaying for a GIRL
Testing: 21st March

wannapinky
TTC#3
DS1, DS2
Swaying for a GIRL
Testing around 14th March

ally04
TTC#3
DS1, DS2.
Swaying for a girl
testing: march 7th

3DS..HopinPINK
ttc#4
DS1, DS4, DS6
swaying for a girl
testing on the 8 march (10dpo)

V's Mummy
TTC#2
DD1
swaying for a boy
BFP!

NICOLE83
TTC#4
DS1, DS2, DS3
swaying for a girl

hi girls!

brie9 - good to see you are a newbie too, and with 2 DS same as me. Wishing you luck with swaying

alluneedislove - Congrats on your BFP. Best wishes for your pregnancy

aurora - to answer your questions re strategies & a-gender etc. Under a-gender plan DH & I both do diet (although haven't been very strict this time) and monitor ph of his stuff and mine. We also use condoms all the time except when attempting around ovulation. We both take cranberry in some form, him tablets and me as juice. I'm also taking calcium/magnesium tablets. If our ph is ok when we start attempting (which is bding) we can bd on days that are girl friendly as indicated in our dates given by a-gender and even continue to bd through ovulation. I know other gender swaying plans/books don't recommend that but a-gender have had huge success with this method, provided cm ph is within the right range of 4.5-5 and dh stuff ph is between 7.5-8. If ph is a problem, they recommend doing vinegar/lime douches, which is the pretty yuck and complicated bit! As for a-gender dates, I have managed to get dates up to April 2012 and if we need more, will need to apply to them and pay something like $140, which is getting a bit too much after trying for so long. Wanted to wish you luck with 2ww (hope thats right!?)

szj - good luck leading up to bd time.

aqua lime - sorry for no personal apart from good luck with 2ww.

afm - have been away from home for few days so just checking in now. AF should arrive this weekend, so will be bding 1-3rd March. Really not sure if I could relax diet etc to help conception and possibly have a boy, which of course is not the plan. After 2 loud crazy boys my house really could do with a girl, but part of me thinks I don't really mind and would love it whatever we had. aqua lime please add me to list:

wannapinky
DS1, DS2
Swaing for a GIRL
Testing around 14th March

x

wannapinky - that's all so interesting. I was planning on testing my pH level too and bought some pH strips from ebay, but couldn't make them work obviously I ordered the wrong kind?? If nothing happens for me for this month I think I'll try some more.
I've added you to the list

Hi ladies,
Wanna pinky- I read about testing ph but couldn't find any ph strips.. Where do you get yours?

Aqua- the list is a great idea! Can you please add me too ally04 TT#3 DS1, DS2. Swaying for a girl, testing: march 7th

Aurora- fingers crossed for you this month!

AFM- I met a woman on the weekend who had two DS and then successfully used the shettles method to have two DD!!! She said that she and her husband didn't take supplements or change their diet they only used timing and positions to try and select gender. This is probably TMI but is anyone else changing positions (if you know what I mean)???

I am on CD #7 and So far have bd on cd 4 and 6. I was going to use an opk this month but I have never used one before, when should I start testing? Also does it matter what time of day I test? Fingers crossed for us all This month!!!Xx



* edited because of my silly phone auto correct and my terrible spelling!

Hahaha aqua test early with me!!!!!! If we both get a BFN it might not feel so bad.... and if one gets a BFP we can live vicariously through the other one!!!! (Thanks for the list too, it's great!!! )

wanna pinky that's really interesting! I found the PH stuff confusing... Just hoping it's okay for us!



Um, yes, I know what you mean and yes we using the position method - which means missionary position, shallow penetration and no orgasm for me!!!! Hmmmm, not quite as fun as trying for a boy...

To answer your question about OPKs - the cheap ones I got off ebay said to start testing from CD11 (assuming you ovulate around CD14) and to test at the same time each day. I think some people test twice a day to make sure they catch it which isn't a bad idea as I think I may have missed it this month, as in, I should've got a positive OPK by now and I have EWCM today so it means I'm ovulating today, but no positive OPK. Did the ones you have come with instructions? I'd follow what they say if so.

AFM - Fairly sure I'm ovulating today as I have EWCM, but didn't get a positive OPK yet. Bit annoying really and I'm trying to remember that EWCM is the best indicator and that you can miss the ovulation with OPKs. Ugh anyway... Hope I do a bit better next month!!! Who knows, maybe one will get through to the keeper this month???

aurora - sorry to confuse with ph stuff. It has been a bit of a time consuming and costly exercise this ph testing (i.e. we have to test regularly and found out after a long while that digital ph testers are best for us, which cost around $160).

ally04 - we tried ph strips for about 1 year at first, then figured out they were not really giving us a good reading, so purchased a digital tester online. It cost around $160, with all cleaning gear etc. Has been pretty good to use and certainly easier than reading paper testers. To answer your question about where to buy ph test strips, I always got mine at a-gender website but I'm not sure if they still sell them. Have heard of people buying on ebay and think they are mainly used for testing saliva & urine.
On another note, how interesting about the lady you met who used shettles method. Perhaps I should go back to trying that way!?

aqua - refer above about ph strips, they can be hard to use. Thanks for adding me to list.

hi ladies .. hope i can join..


im glad to see this thread moving along now..

aqua.lime: can you put me down too plez..
ttc#4
DS1, DS4, DS6
swaying
testing on the 8 march (10dpo)


afm: AF arrived 3 days ago.. so BD every 2 days until O the a couple time after that.. i cant really do the diet so i thought il try the BD around O'in instead on the day.. this is my 3rd cycle of trying. also im tryin to lose 5-10kgs b4 june but thru healthy eating and excising..



good luck ladies

Hi 3DS - hope you get your pink this time around mate!!!! I'm doing timing too but might stop BDing a bit before O. I'm a bit irregular though, so I'm thinking about modifying my BD end day, as I think I was too far out this month.

Oh pinky, no you didn't confuse me, I just find all of that confusing in general. Good on you for doing it properly, I really admire that, and I think it's worth it. I'm not sure if we'd go down that road for this but, but if we got another DS we might do this for the next one! I'd like to have 4 bubbas so there's still room for girls if we get another boy this time round!

How's everyone going?

AFM - Just FINALLY got a positive OPK. A bit annoyed as it's 2 days late and that means we would have missed O this month well and truly. Ugh, a bit bloody annoyed. So. I'm thinking next time, we'll just BD until I get a MAJOR change in CM (got a bit of a change about 5 days ago, but minor only). I got a major change 2 days ago. Just don't want to spend months and months missing it. So, we'll go hardcore BDing coming up to O day and stop when the CM gets full on (like it did 2 days ago). If that makes sense... Oh man, even though you follow stuff, you are kind of floundering around in the dark hey! One of my friends had a little girl yesterday. I still think it's worth a bit of floundering yet.

ARGH!!!
I didn't realise I had to subscribe to a new thread to get emails, I thought it was quiet as everyone was worn out LOL!!!

I am on CD 6....Bloody AF is hanging around, we are keen to get swaying for our baby!!

DH is so OVER wearing undies, he says it's the end of his manhood, his bits are so squished...I think it's funny!

We are doing the position changes! Not too much fun for a girl though!?!? No orgasm!

I wanted to ask about what you mark as your first day of the new cycle? AF was due on Saturday, I got a little brown spotting on Friday, should I say the Friday? Or Saturday?

Hi! Just wondering if I can join your group- we are swaying for a boy. :-). It seems I'm the only one swaying for blue! Haha! Although, I'll be honest I would be fine with another beautiful daughter as well, but we would love a little boy so we are giving it a crack. :-). Any advice, websites or book ideas would be appreciated- I already have " how to choose the sex of your baby". Which is the shettles method, but other than a little light reading- I'm a novice!!!!

V' Mummy WELCOME!!!! We have TTC for boys and got 3 of them!! The last was a "non GS baby" so I am happy to share with you any questions you may have?
Is your cycle easy to follow? Predictable? Have you been charting of using OPK's?
BOYS ARE easy!! to conceive, you have more control, less guessing!

oooh, lots of posts! I've updated the list and will be back in tomorrow for personals

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I haven't posted for a while but DH looked like he was going to back out of the reversal and I didn't want peek as I was feeling down about the whole thing.

It's turned out ok and we are going to see the reversal specialist when he returns on break.

Good luck to all you ladies trying to sway


ETA Add me to the list too please

TTC #3
DS1 (4) DS2 (2)
Swaying
Waiting on Vascetomy Reversal

Not sure if I can be added to the list but I would like to be

Oh if you could add me to the list too
TTC #2DD 8.5monthsSwaying ( I can't find the little baby in DH+me+2's post, probably cause I'm on iPad)
Sjz - any tips? On diet maybe? What should I be increasing and what should DH be increasing? I've heard I should increase potassium? Is that me or him? Any tips would be welcomed with open arms!!!!!

V's mummy We did timing and position only, no diets at all! Although Dh does normally wear boxers and for all our boys was working in a controlled cool office! Keep your Dh's area cool!
Have you been tracking your temps and getting an idea of your ovulation? For a boy you want to have sex the 1st day after your AF finishes and then NO sex until the day of ovulation, this is why you need to obtain when Ovulation is!
As for position it is deep penetration, female on top, or doggy style and ideally have an orgasm, to help get those little boy sperm closer to the egg.
Have you done any reading?

like I said boys are EASIER to get then girls!

V's mummy - I am swaying pink

Yep I know DH+me+2- I meant I couldn't find the little boy baby the same as your girl baby in my emoticons!.
Thanks szj- yep I've been charting I ovulate between day 16-19. My cycle is a bit inconsistant still in regards to O because I've not long finished Breastfeeding. I'm supposed to ovulate today but I don't think it will be until tomorrow or the next day. SIGH- yep I've read the book on the shettles method we know about positions and when are the best days etc. but I don't know if we could go more than a week with no sex! Lol! We will definitely abstain at least 3 days prior.

Hi ladies,

I'm also a newbie and was recommended to come and ask you some questions about swaying for pink!

I'm currently waiting to finish my pill so we can TTC#1, and really want a girl! I've read the articles on swaying and plan to change my diet by increasing my calcium intake (salt intake is already pretty low). We also plan on frequent BD'ing when I come off the pill, in case my cycles irregular and I miss my O time.

Just a question - I've read to increase chances of getting a girl, its recommended to pee straight after BD, to give the female swimmers a chance. Does anyone agree with this? I don't want to pee them all away and then have nothing

In the end, I won't be overly disappointed if we get a boy, but a girl would be terrific!

Appreciate your help & look forward to talking with you all.

Hehe well hello again V's Mummy!!!! Nice to have a friend in both groups - there's a few of us in that TTC #2 group. So glad to have a boy swayer in here!!!! I reckon it's worth giving it a crack isn't it - doesn't hurt anyone and you know if you get another girl, she was meant to be here!

In terms of what to do - someone posted something in here ages ago, a list of what to do for boy and girl swaying. I re posted it a few threads ago, but we probably need it at the beginning of each new thread. I will find it, copy it to something on my computer and then re post it in here for the newbies. It's quite helpful.

With regards to what I'm doing - timing, position, sperm count control (just trying to get DH's sperm count down for a girl), frequent BDing, supplements (calcium, cranberry, magnesium). That's for a girl though. Hmmm good luck with abstaining... Perhaps you can make yourselves really busy around that time, or try to go to bed early and catch up on sleep...? Distraction would be my method!

Hi Katie and Future Bump!!!! Good to have you here! I've never read about the peeing after BDing thing... I know that you do that to avoid cystitis. So, out of habit, I normally go to the bathroom after BDing just to avoid that stuff and we still got our boy. So not sure about that myself but let us know if you find anything out!!!

AFM - I'm in the dreaded TWW and I bloody O'd late so am 99% sure we missed out this month. As a result, I'm thinking we'll move the BDing up a lot closer next month. I always get a tiny change in CM and then a big change a few days later - I need to wait for the big change and stop then I think. Anyway, that's what I'm planning for next month. Went out to Karaoke last night with some friends and had a GREAT time!!!! Trying to get my fun times in now!!!!! Watching Forest Gump. Such a cool movie.

ATTENTION NEWBIES!!!! (And anyone else who missed this)

Here's alice08's original post describing all of the details on how to sway for a particular gender (covering a number of techniques):


THE GENDER SWAYERS GROUP


Welcome to our group!

With so much information available out there on 'gender swaying', it is often hard to know what may really give you the best chance in TTC A SPECIFIC GENDER. Due to the obvious need, this group was started to provide an open, honest and non-judgmental place where ladies who are trying to conceive a specific gender can come to share their knowledge / experience / journey with other ladies who understand and share that desire.

We are a friendly bunch, so you may find yourself addicted (like the rest of us), and you may also find the experience proves to be much more than you ever anticipated.

Obviously, when it comes to low-tech 'gender swaying' nothing is fail proof, so please be aware no method can be 100% guaranteed. However, with the ultimate goal of a healthy pregnancy and baby in mind, making a great gender swaying attempt means that there will be no regrets, regardless of your outcome.

We have many ladies who form our group, both regular and occasional posters, and we welcome everyone with an interest in Gender Swaying into this group regardless of the method you choose to use. We wish you every success in achieving your gender dream.

GENDER TIPS AND TRICKS
(which can really help your attempt)

TO CONCEIVE A GIRL
Have intercourse with shallow penetration; this means "missionary position" (male on top) which will deposit sperm away from the cervix where alkaline secretions are made which favour male-producing sperm.

Have frequent intercourse up until cut-off date; this will help naturally diminish the sperm as lower sperm counts may favour the production of female sperm (please use protection while leading up to your attempt).

Women should avoid orgasm as having an orgasm increases alkaline secretions & the contractions that accompany orgasm propel sperm faster towards the cervix, giving greater assistance for male sperm.

TO CONCEIVE A BOY
Abstain from having frequent amounts of intercourse (this will increase sperm count associated with higher incidence of males).

Have intercourse with deep penetration; this means "woman on top", "man from behind" which will deposit sperm near the opening of the cervix where secretions are more favourable to the male-producing sperm.

Women should have an orgasm (if possible) at the same time or right before the male has his. Female orgasms increase the quantity & flow of alkaline secretions. Additionally, female orgasmic contractions help transport the sperm into the cervix.

Males should stay as cool as possible, no hot showers before intercourse to keep sperm in peak condition, and exercise like bike riding should be minimised whilst ttc.

GENDER SWAYING METHODS
CINDY'S A-GENDER METHOD

Our resident 'Gender Swaying Guru' is the lovely Cindy (gendercindy). Cindy has been researching natural gender selection for over 4.5 years and has been assisting ladies to conceive the gender of their choice for some time now.

Her methods focus on the following areas for a well planned attempt -

INTERNAL REPRODUCTIVE ENVIRONMENT
EXTERNAL LUNAR ENERGY AT TIME OF BD
PERSONAL ENERGY AT OVULATION/CONCEPTION
BD METHOD

Please be aware that Cindy's method is not related to the 'Shettles' method for gender selection through intercourse timing. Through her extensive personal research and information gathered while providing Gender Predictions here on EB, she has found evidence of many boys conceived with cut-offs (ask your friends, you may be surprised how often this happens!) or girls conceived at ovulation.

One of Shettles' beliefs is that all women are alkaline at ovulation (thus favouring conception of a boy) and acidic most other times of the month, however Cindy's research has shown that this is not correct as some women remain slightly acidic even at ovulation and vice versa. She believes that by altering this reproductive state, Shettles timing becomes irrelevant.

Please be aware, as with all "low-tech" gender swaying methods it is not possible to guarantee 100% success, as there are so many variables which can ultimately affect gender... Applying Cindy's research, however, will help you to have the best possible attempt, and if you try all you can to conceive a specific gender and you still end up conceiving the opposite gender, then you will know that you have a very determined little soul who is just desperate to be a part of your family and that is wonderful. ...GOOD LUCK!!!

BOY DIET TIPS

DRINKS - softdrinks, fruit juice, alcohol, tea and coffee
MEAT - all meat
INCREASE SALT CONSUMPTION
FISH - all fish especially salted varieties- tin fish also good
EGGS - only one or two per week
Rice, pasta, potatoes, cornflakes
Bread - all bread fine except wholewheat, crackers
Cakes - yes again - all store bought, home-made
Veges - all especially carrots except forbidden (see below)
Dried beans, split peas etc
Fruit - all fruit and fruit juices (especially bananas, apricots)
Dried fruit - dates, figs, apricots
chesnuts
honey, jam
sorbet
olives/gherkins
Tin or packet soup and ready made meals made without milk or dairy.
Alka seltzer and antacids ok

NONE OF THE FOLLOWING
Milk (or minimalize greatly)
chocolate - mineral water, dairy products - milk, cheese, yoghurt - ice cream, white sauces, hollaindaise, bechamel, shellfish - lobster etc. crepes, waffles, no green salads, cabbage, spinach, nuts, hazelnut, peanuts, almonts, cashews, cocoa, mustard

Women with any pre-existing medical conditions should seek medical advice if unsure (girl or boy diet) as for example women with high blood pressure are advised against the boy diet...

GIRL DIET TIPS
DRINKS - high calcium milk must have 750ml min each day. Or high calcium water (acidic ph) bottled varieties - evian, perrier etc (thats it ladies - I am sorry)
MEAT - 130g per day only - more white than red
EGGS - ok in moderation
Unsalted butter
DAIRY - Yoghurt, milk desserts (2 x a day)+ milk as above
Bread - low/no salt variety (reduce yeast products)
Nuts - almonds, peanuts, hazel nuts, cashews all unsalted
FRUITS - apples, strawberries, rasberries
VEGES - Potatoes minimal (3 x week max) green beans, onions, leeks, peas, cucumber, radish, capsicum, celery, cooked tomato, eggplant, fresh asparagus, green salad
Jam - once per day
Rice, pasta, flour
Oils,spices, curry powders (no salt)

NONE OF THE FOLLOWING
Coffee, tea, chocolate, fruit juice, soft drinks, alcohol, pork, ham, ready to eat meals, smoked anything, sauces and gravy, shellfish, cheese (try nimbin low salt variety - this would be ok in small quantities), cakes (store bought) quiche, pizza, corn, popcorn, dry fruit, all other fruit than what is allowed, liquorice, olives, gherkins, tin or packet soup, alka seltzer or antacids...
THE SHETTLES TIMING METHOD

FOR A GIRL
Have intercourse 2-3 days before ovulation. Avoid intercourse until 3 days after ovulation and when you have peak cervical fluid. The theory is, X-chromosome (female) sperm last longer than the Y-chromosome (male) sperm, therefore will be "awaiting" and capable of fertilizing the egg. He also believes women are more acidic at this time � an acidic environment has been proven to be ideal for X-chromosome (female) sperm.
Accuracy is paramount so the use of OPKs is recommended to determine ovulation.

FOR A BOY
Have intercourse at ovulation only. The theory is, Y-chromosome (male) sperm are quicker than the X-chromosome (female) sperm, therefore will be able to fertilize the egg first. He also notes that women are more alkaline at ovulation - an alkaline environment has been proven to be ideal for Y-chromosome (male) sperm.
Accuracy is paramount so the use of OPKs is recommended to determine ovulation

Wow thanks aurorasleeping, that's a great guide!
I'm quite apprehensive about the 750ml of milk per day, as I'm used to having hardly any. I am eating more yoghurt, having 300ml of milk and taking my 600mcg calcium tablet, but I clearly need to up my intake - which is good for me anyway!
I'm also cutting out junk foods like pizza and my iron levels are through the roof so I can't eat red meat.
Thanks again

Arghhhh Looks like we might be out this month. Went to the coast for a lovely weekend of sun and bd but first day there DH pinched a nerve in his neck and has been out of action since! We are at cd #12 and still no positive opk so I am tempted to try tonight just in case, but then I'm worried we are too close to 'O' and we havent done it regularly enough to sway for pink. Then again the thought of waiting another month is too depressing!!! Arghh the decisions....hope everyone has had a wonderful weekend of bd or distractions in the tww
Ax

Ally when is your predicted Ovulation day? Do you have a routine day? I would say 3 days out from O would be ok? But I do hear you on the not enough Bding...this could effect the gender. The fact you don't have a positive OPK says you are at least 2 days out
Me We are busy BUSY BUSY!!!
A personal question.....TMI! After the 'fun' ends what do you do with the ummmm......results of the fun?? Having been off the pill for over 8yrs I am so used to condoms and NO clean up I find it annoying now, so what do you do? I hate the wet patch!!

Yeah Ally, maybe go for it? But when's O day for you normally? We did it from the end of AF up until a few days out from O ourselves, so didn't wait.

And szj hehehe - um, for us, we use one of DH's undies (sorry if TMI!!!) to clean things up.... But, also I got used to going to the bathroom straight afterwards to avoid cystitis so you could try that? Although, not too soon after - want to give those swimmers a bit of a chance! Good to hear you are busy LOL!!!!!

SOoooooooo here I was thinking 'Oh we definitely missed it this month' and suddenly I get some pink spotting. 3 days after positive OPK. Which, as you may be aware COULD be implantation bleeding. It's a bit annoying as I was really just feeling okay about getting a neg HPT but now my brain is like 'Oh MAYBE it did happen!' Ugh, geez!!!! I'm just feeling a bit like, if I'm not preg, this spotting has confused me, that's all.

Don't get me wrong, if it happened I'd be happy and I do believe we did it far enough out to have felt like I swayed pretty well for a girl. BUT now my hopes are kind of up... I'll be a bit more bummed if it's negative.

Anyway.... I have a bad cough at the moment, thinking about having work off tomorrow but it's more hassle than it's worth as I have to plan lessons and I wanted to have some major assessments out tomorrow. So, I'll be going in but probably feeling like death warmed up. Fun.

Hope all the swaying's going well for everyone!!!

Aurora that's what we do! LOL!! Grab something nearby for the clean up! LOL

I am POSITIVE for you!!! On a little added positive note in the book I read a number of women fell with girls after sickness, something to do with the temp rise perhaps?? I am HOPEFUL!!!

Hi all,
Another newbie here! I'm not planning on TTC until September, but when we do we would like to attempt to sway girl for #2 (we have one baby boy).
Thought it would be good to get some ideas etc on diet etc for girl. Have already read Shettles, so will definitely do cut off, but keen to try diet and whatever else for a decent chance!
Looking forward to getting to know you all

aurora sleeping- thank you so much!!!! That is very very helpful! and FX for implantation! baby dust, baby dust. baby dust to you!

Mrs S- welcome!

szj- ummm we use a towel the same towel, it doesn't get mixed up with all the others if people are thinking that! hahaha!. Or I just get up and go to the toilet. Although now we are TTC I don't do that as soon as we finish. LOL!

Ally- oh bummer about the pinched nerve! I really hope you can get some BDing in before to close to Oing.

So ovulated yesterday or the day before, not positive as I got a tummy bug yesterday and had a temp. But pretty sure it was either late saturaday or early yesterday. got BD'ing in on Saturday night and Sunday morning before the sickness took over. haven't started my boy diet yet so hopefully the timing and position was enough if we are UTD this month. We only abstained for 2 nights prior. but better than nothing hopefully! Next month I will be on the diet and make sure we don't do any BDing for at least 4 nights before.

I've asked this in other groups but nobody seems to know- will having a temp (38.5) effect my chances of conceiving? Oh well if it does there is always next month and it's only our first month trying.

Anywho, I'll be stalking a lot of the day today because I'm still not fully recovered. I'm just trying to keep down a cup of coffee before DD wakes up from her morning nap. little angel was such a good girl for daddy yesterday until late in the afternoon when she was tired and just wanted her mumma. I hope she doesn't get sick!

V's mummy- I'll keep my fingers crossed for you this month!

Aurora-do you normally get spotting mid cycle? If not you might be in luck! Sending pink baby dust in your direction!

Afm weeeeeell we may have made somewhat of a pickle in our attempt to sway pink..... So DH and i decided last night that we would wait until next month to ttc#3 but then this morning we got a bit carried away (must have been the abstinence due to neck injury) and well one thing led to another and we didn't wait... On the up side i still haven't had a positive opk but then if i don't get one tomorrow then I'm pretty sure I missed it cause it's never that late! It seems that I am pretty terrible at this thing called patience!
Baby dust to all A x

Stupid phone posted twice and now I can't delete the second one... Sorry all

when should I take CD 1 from?
I am stuck in bed with vomitting..GREAT timing! Not only for our TTC, but it's my daughters 7th birthday today, she's got it too!
So being stuck in bed I decided to read my "choose the sex of your baby" book again and it says even if you get a small smugde of brown blood this is CD 1.
My Af was due on Saturday, I got brown spotting on Friday, should this be CD 1?

If so that means we are on CD 11 and SHOULD BD tonight as our final time......can I do it....not bloody likely!
Otherwise we might have to Bd up to CD 12 and with my O between CD 15 and 17, this COULD be too close considering we have conceived 3 boys, DH is classed as fertile

ADVISE????

Hi all,
I have been reading heaps but haven't had a chance to reply until now.

SZJ - I had the same problem last month. I took CD 1 as the day that I had the spotting even though at 10pm at night.

Aurora sleeping - let us know how things go. I'm a teacher too, perhaps that's why we'd like a pink one. lol

Not so up on the knowledge of OPK but is it possible to have a positive 2 days in a row on them? I had that last week. Creeping up each month by an extra day closer to O and this month we bd on day 12. (Swaying towards pink.)It's getting closer to boy territory. We fell preg first month we had both of our boys. If nothing happens this month Im tempted to only go up to day 12 again next month, although very tempting to go up to day 13. For some reason the last couple of month Ive had no CM so harder to tell when o is actually occuring.

Good luck to all TTC

Hi MrsS!!! Welcome!!! Well, you have quite a bit of time before TTC so I reckon you've given yourself a good chance of finding out exactly what to do! There's a post I put up a few pages ago with a heap of details - I'd save that somewhere as a reference point, I've found it quite helpful.

Hmmmmm V, someone just said to me (I think szj) that higher temps can beget girls...! So, might have been a not so good thing for you to have that right around O? Sucks that you're sick mate.


Ally, nah I don't normally have spotting mid cycle, very strange for me. It was pink mucous, I never get that (normally tiny bit of spotting day before period but not like this). I'll be pretty bloody p'd off if I'm not pregnant now though!!!! Why would my body trick me now!!?!?!?!?!!

And hehehe re: your 'morning delight'. We had a few of those but, um, pulled out before the main event.

szj yeah, annoying. I'd go from brown markings as it's technically started - considering it has to do with hormones it indicates the hormone to make you have your period has happened, it's just slow starting (that's how I think of it anyway). So yep, CD 1 on Friday I'd say. Maybe once tomorrow morning??? Or just chance it and do one tomorrow night? In any case I would get DH to um, help himself or you help him out tonight maybe... Sorry if TMI!!!!!

My understand of OPKs Brie, is that when the line is the darkest (as dark as the control line), it's a positive. If it's lighter you're either coming up to or coming down from O, and it's counted as a negative OPK. Or perhaps you're ovulating for longer than others? Is one of the lines fainter? And yeah, 2 of my other teacher friends have had boys recently too, so maybe something's going on!!!!!

AFM - Still hanging in the dreaded TWW here... Testing in 3 days I think. Trying to gear myself up for a negative but it's hard with that spotting now and every little niggle in my body, I think 'Oh, maybe it's getting ready for a baby!!!' Ugh, darn you TWW and confusing body symptoms!!!!!!

Aurora: Woohoo, my fingers are crossed for you!
Another teacher here may I add, lol!
Oh and due to some work decisions (for when I go back etc) We have decided to move forward our TTC until July...I'm kinda excited and I better figure out this diet etc!

Aurora- Are you testing today? or waiting cause ‘o’ was later then expected??? I’m living vicariously through you.. lol.

Szj- I have never counted the spotting days but now that aurora has explained the hormone thing I might have to change my ways… It agree that it is very confusing! I dont know when to count my days either as I always get spotting one or two days before AF ‘officially’ arrives.

Mrs S- Hello!! You’re definitely going to have you diet and everything sorted by July which might make it less confusing for you! I’m still not sure what is good and bad for swaying pink, if its not on the list
(Aurora posted) I get confused… and I cant live without coffee or chocolate!!!!

Aqua- Are you testing today too???? (I love the list!)

AFM- I’m at cd #15 or #16 depending on when you start counting and I still havent got a positive OPK!! I have been using the first response dip tests every afternoon but i think I must have missed it… I have no idea when I ovulated so I’m completely paranoid that we did the wrong thing for PINK…. its going to be an interesting 2 weeks!!!

Aurora......any more symptoms??? Is your temp high??? I am SO SO hopeful!!!

HEY!! I'm a teacher too....so this "swaying" do you think we are knowledge seekers and this is why we have come across this option??? Or just generally control freaks!!



So.........
I am on CD 12, CM changed yesterday, maybe the day before CD 10 or 11...so following my pattern I am set for ovulation on CD 15 or 16, sounds spot on.
BUT!!! For gender swaying for a girl, it is recommended you stop sex 3-5 days before expected ovulation. So for me I am looking at CD 10 up to CD 12 IF I O at CD 15
OR CD 11 to CD 13.......I am not sure.....is tonight's BDing at CD 12 too close, considering DH has a high sperm count?
If we leave it this cycle I am depending on our last BD at CD 10 and if I O at CD 15 I might be lucky, otherwise CD 16 I am out for the count???
I am yet to get a +ve OPK, and I know I O 2 days after the first +ve OPK
CONFUSED!!!!

Hi All,

Ive only just come across this forum... so this is where you try to up your chances of having a boy or girl huh? Well I have a gorgeous DS 18months and we would like to try for a girl...

I have NO idea how any of this works... so any assistance helps!!

Thanks

lol¦ it seems that all the lovely ladies swaying pink are teachers (im a preservice teacher too)!!!

Welocome Marina! there is a post on an earlier page by Aurora with LOTS of fabulous info for gender swaying if you’re interested.

szj- you could always stop earlier this month if you’re concerned and then creep closer however in my humble opinion if you haven’t seen a positiv opk yet, you might be ok to do it tonight... you said you’re expecting to O on cd #15 or #16 and if you bd tonight that would still be 3 or 4 days out wouldn’t it? but I understand your confusion! By the way, are you feeling better? I hope your daughter had a great birthday

BTW... just out of curiosity, where does everyone live? Im in canberra at the moment but DH wants to move to brisbane (away from family)

have a great night

A x

I can't get over all the teachers on here.SZJ- I had to laugh at your comment. I'm sure it's a control freak thing. We'll for me anyway. Lol. and plus I'd just love to have a pink bub.

SO we are going for it tonight ARGH!!!! I hope I am right, but I am willing to give it a crack and hope for the right timing!!! I have pee'd on a stick morning, noon and night today and it's only just a faint line so with this, my CM and feelings I am putting my $ on CD 16 O...So I am ok....DH os going over the info with me to be sure, and to share the decision I spose!!
ALLY I am feeling better, still weak but WILL be more able in about an hour!
We live in BUNDABERG, QLD, we moved back closer to family, after 4 years (2 children!) away, DON"T MOVE SERIOUSLY!!! FAmily support = SANITY!!!
MARINA WELCOME!!! You will find this lovely group very supportive, it's lovely!!

Sorry Ally I'm testing Friday - decided to at least base it around the day I should have O'd according to the OPK. *sigh* But I wanna know NOOOOOOOOOOWWWWW!!!!

szj trying not to get my hopes up too much, and I don't feel that 'different', but... the other day my boobs were hurting and really bugging me and I was like "WHAT is with my BOOBS!!!!' Then immediately thought 'Oh, maybe I'm preg!!!' Arrrgghhhh damn hopes going up!!! Anyway, so just little things and quite possibly could be explained away. I'm not charting temps so that can't tell me either - now that I know it can be an early indicator of being preg I wish I had have kept up with it!!!! (Kept forgetting to do it though)

And I TOTALLY think it's a control freak thing for me!!! With my DS I wanted to fall preg in the first month and I did, so that's spoilt me I think!!!



Yep - basically, this bamboozled me too - and then I O'd late!!! I'd just decide when you're probably going to O and choose a number of days before when you'll stop, then if it doesn't happen in month #1, try a day closer the next month. Hehe I think it was good you did it tonight.

Hi Marina!! Yep, this is a great group - awesome for info and support. And I live in Sydney, south of the city. Agree with szj on the family thing too.

Okay girls, I'll be testing Friday to see what's happening - my DIG from when I had DS call it 'POAS Friday' cuz we've had so many people trying for #2 right now, it's killing me!!!

AURORA only 2 more sleeps!!! GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!!! Stay busy, make the time pass fast!! I shall be stalking you!!
I fell preg 1st mth with all 5 of my pregnancies so I am SO SO impatient and expecting it to be the same this time, but I am getting older and you just never know, esp as we are avoiding O!!

It's painful as we stop BDing before O we are actually in 2WW plus a few days!! LOL!!!

ME I am in the 2WW, thought I might get a +ve OPK this morning, so far not, but I will test noon and evening, I know I O 2 days after a +ve so that would put my O at CD 15, even CD 16 at least we stopped BDing at CD 12 so we should have it covered!?!
Honestly I am SO happy not to be BDing....got a bit tedious I tell you! LOL!!!

SO many posts!!!! I haven't read it all. Sorry for being a slacko lately, I'll get back into being a better poster

That wasn't the month for me. CD3 already for me. AF came a few days earlier this month?? Oh well, onto month 2 I'm going to creep in one extra day this month, so it'll be all systems go here soon and we'll stop at day 13.

Hi Ladies, I hope you don't mind me infiltrating your group momentarily to ask a question of the experts?

I recently received my first BFP (I'm 7w 5d) and it was a huge shock because Fertility Friend had me at a low score for a chance at pregnancy that cycle because we only DTD 3 days pre-O.

However, a BFP did result, and now I have people in the know (close girl friends!) saying that I'm going to have a girl because there was such a long wait between BDing and O! Is that how it works? I'm very curious! From the experience of the ladies here, do you think I'm more likely to have a girl as a result of our timing?

Thanks so much for any opinions. I really appreciate it!

CONGRATS CUba
How very exciting!!! And YEP, I agree more then likely your timing is putting you as having a girl...if you were charting were you also taking note of your CM? If so can I ask at what CD you saw a change from "dry/creamy" to "wet"? I have read that 5 days after this change is generally O...interested to know, and if this is the case and at O you have "egg white" CM...chances you are accurate with your O predictions
CONGRATS again, and I am KEEN to know what your little blessings is a pink, or blue...are you planning to knoiw early, or have a surprise?
xxx

Congrats Cuba!!! Good luck with your pregnancy!

Aurora- one more sleep! I will be stalking tomorrow morning!!!!!!!!!!!

Ally04- I live in Brisbane.

Marina- welcome!!! Great to have you and hope your stay is short!

AFM- not much happening, 4 DPO I will be testing on the 29th aqua.lime. I have an 11 day luteal phase generally so if I don't have AF by then I will test. Feeling pretty bummed about my high temp on O day. We had pretty good timing for a boy as well (although we only abstained for 2 days not the recommended 4!) but if I am pg this month I will be thinking girl because of the high temp, probably didn't do any of the y sperm any favours. Not that I would be upset about another little girl though.

Is there anyone else out there swaying for blue?????

Anyone in here on vitex? I bought some to help with my luteal phase length. Just wondering if I should wait and start it on CD1 next cycle instead of now? Any side effects I should know about?

Hahahahaha szj, yes, it can get a bit tedious - and for me O time is the time I most feel like it, so even though we're doing a lot before O, I want to keep going and can't (or we just use stuff). Good to hear I'm not the only impatient one! Did I mention in a previous post that I thought I might have had implantation bleed??? I don't normally get that so I'd be annoyed if it didn't happen this month and my body played a cruel trick on me! Anyway, only time will tell!

Awww bummer aqua. But good idea to creep in one day - that is totally my plan too!!! Don't worry, I may be joining you in month #2 as well!!!! Yay for day 13 - only 10 days away!

Hi CubaLulu!!! Massive congrats on your little bubba cooking away! Hmmmmm based on the timing theory (and providing you knew that you definitely O'd on that particular day) I'd say that you have given a girl baby a good chance! But I reckon sperm count can be a factor too - one of my friends who was charting and knew O day BD'd 5 days before O and still ended up with a boy! Others also believe it depends a lot on what you eat... there's a few theories. But yep, based on timing, it sounds like a girl could be more likely. Sorry we can't give a very definitive answer!!!!


AFM - Wheeeeeeeeeeee one more sleep!!!!!!!! I'll jump on here tomorrow morning to let you know the outcome - I was thinking negative as I O'd late, but the spotting around the right time of implantation (which I never get) has completely thrown me and now my brain keeps saying 'Maybe you're preg!!!!!' Stupid brain - it better be right!!!!!!

Ready for my baby girl now!!!!!!!!

... Sorry, I am aware I have an exclamation mark problem... I'm trying to get help for it....