I am considering changing or adding a family MN to DS2 name.... I don't know why we didn't when he was born but now I really want my dads name in there, not to mention when we do eventually have bub #3 he/she will have a family name. DS2 name suits him to a T so I don't feel comfortable changing it now, but do you think it would be silly to have him be the only one with 2 middle names?
DS1 has DH middle name & bub #3 will have either my middle name or DH gradfathers name as middle names.

I'm really regretting not giving him a family name.

There is no way I'd even think about giving him a second middle name without adding a second middle name for your first son as well and then giving any future children two as well. If you're not going to do that then I would leave his name as is and avoid using any family names as middle names for future children too.

No I would not give him a second middle name. If you really must then just change his mn to a family one.
My boys have middle names from family, names we love, names that fit but each name was given because it has meaning to us.

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Why can't you just use it for your next child rather than randomly giving out a second middle name?

*eta* NM I didn't read all the way down lol.

I personally don't think there needs to be uniformity with regard to MN's across siblings. However if you wish there to a family MN for each I would change the MN rather than adding another (since he's still young) but I see nothing wrong with adding another name either. It will get dropped off a lot though if it is the third given name and you might find him dropping it off when he gets older too.

I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. Only 1 brother has 2 middle names, the rest of us just have the one.

Nobody cares. It was the right thing at the right time for each of us. And, really, how often do middle names actually get used?

I personally don't like the idea of using family names. But of course thats your decision. I don't think it matters if one child has one middle name and the other has 2.

I call both my kids by their first & middle name all the time, so DS2 knows what his name is, if I change it & start saying "Come here Wyatt Ben" I'm sure he'll be like "WHO?" lol

I'm thinking I might just leave it. If we have a girl she will have my MN (we've decided 1st boy & girl get family names) and if it's a boy, just use another name we like.

Don't go changing their names now. If you really want to use a family name as a mn use one with your next baby.

Good luck.

If you want to do it then do it, I personally wouldn't bother after so long. I would just use the name for the next child

btw My boys only have 1 middle name and my dd has 2 all 3 of my kids have family middle names.