Hi, did anyone else see the article in Saturday's Good Weekend magazine in The Age? They have a weekly article 'Two of Us' and yesterday it was about Phil and Anthony Macdonald, identical twins who were both pro surfers. I found it interesting to read about how competitive they were and what they thought of each other. It made me wonder how my boys will relate to each other as they grow up. I know people will compare them and I hope I can make them proud of their own individual strengths. I hope they can be friends as well as brothers. They don't have to be best friends as I hope they'll have their own friends but I really would love it if they are good mates and support each other. I have taught twin girls who were like that- but I wonder if twin boys have to get past the competitive/testosterone and ego thing?? I guess it has a lot to do with maturity and self confidence too. I'm sure it can be complicated being a twin but I hope it has more positives for my twins than negatives.
Just my Sunday morning musing!
Maycee

Maycee (36)
DH (34)
Twin boys (4/12/01)
DD (7/10/03)

hi maycee

i know what you mean.......... this is sooo hard raising these little men hey!!!!!

we can only love them equally and support thier strengths and not compare thier weeknesses... IYKWIM

the "big brother" logan twins were competitive too..
i'm sure if i really thought about having an id twin, i too would be always aware of what the other did and had ect.

take care
kylie

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I had NO idea how hard it would be having twins until they began school. Now I have, and they have, more issues than I could have ever imagined.

So yes I can see why twins when older become competative. I believe it has everything to do with how others treat them while growing up. Not family members but school children and teachers.

My girls teacher compares them, thier friends compare them. heck, I've ever heard the children yell out 'This is why today we like L much more than B!' more than once and I have no problems telling other people's children off for it which I do.

Anyway, I'm off topic kind of! lol

yes, I read that article and it really did unsettle me. I couldn't believe how much they seemed to detest each other. I hope this type of relationship is the exception rather than the rule.
I do know 2 sets of female id twins who as adults say they think that they are so lucky to have a twin so that gives me hope.

Mill. (mother to Scout,4, Indie and Shari born 4/11/04)

I just hope that i can raise two little men who will not be so competitive and be the best of friends, but i think society will have a big role in making it hard to do. As AVA said with teachers and friends saying such things would make it damm near impossible for them not to be competitive. Good luck everyone and lets hope we can all raise non-competitive children.