At the risk of starting a BF v formula debate (not what I'm intending!!), I thought it might be interesting, especially for the new and expectant parents of multiples to see how us "veterans" fed our babies. I've been lurking in the multiples under 1 thread and, as is usual for newborns, there seem to be lots of issues with feeding. I'm not asking for opinions on what is best/what parents should do - just some real life experiences of feeding multiples to give the expectant and new parents some idea of what to expect and what has worked and not worked for other people. I hope this doesn't become a forum for (another) pro or anti-BF thread. Knowing the wonderful people in Twins and Multiples I'm sure it won't. So here goes (I've used the word "feed" here to mean feeding breastmilk or formula):
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
6. Any other comments?
I'll go first:
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I intended to BF for as long as I could but I was open to EBM and/or formula feeding if that was the best option of me and the babies. I've had one sister who fully BF for over a year with each of her 3 and one who fully formula fed her 2 after huge struggles at the beginning with BF so I had seen a positive BF experience and also how difficult it can be for a mother who is struggling with BF.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
As the girls were born at 37 weeks, they were BF from a hour or so after birth, but as they were fairly small, they were also given comp bottle feeds from birth after each BF. I did a mixture of BF, EBM and formula for the first 6 weeks.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
At 6 weeks we changed to 100% formula - I was soooo tired - and BF, expressing and formula preparation every 3 hours or so was really taking its toll. I was struggling with the emotional transition to motherhood and was at the stage where I dreaded BF and felt quite negative towards the girls during BF. Changing to formula feeding was like a great weight lifted off me which meant I started to relax and enjoy my girls.
At 3 months, still 100% formula feeding.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No - but then nothing was! I was kind of prepared for the physical work of parenthood - I understood what would need to be done. But I wasn't prepared for the emotional change and the grieving I did for my old life. BF was something that only I could do and I found that a huge burden emotionally (I know some women find that empowering). Also I wasn't prepared for how long it would take (up to an hour for each feed) and that my babies would never have a strong enough suck to feed for long enough to build up my supply (even when we did demand feeding with no comp or EBM feeds).
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I'm really pleased that we made the decision as a family to change to formula feeding at 6 weeks - the girls are healthy and happy and I was, too. I'm glad that I tried BF and gave them the early colostrum etc. For our family at that time, I feel that while breast is best nutritionally, it wasn't the best thing for us because of the effect on me.
Looking forward to everyone else's experiences/comments.
Maree
Eleanor 1/8/03
Harriet 1/8/03
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Hi girls & guys,
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? I went into it wanting what was best for me and the babies.. i wanted to definently give them all the colostrum at the start as that to me was the most important thing and then i was going to see how i was coping. I really wanted to BF til at least 3 months.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning? We BF'ed for 4 days - initially the colostrum and then a little bit of milk - and they were being supplemented by EBM and Formula as i really did not have very much milk. So we were twin feeding for an hour then i was expressing for 30 mins, and then i had 30 mins rest and then we were doing it again, i was exhausted and really couldn't cope. I had a c/section and i don't know if that affects the milk but i really was very stressed with the pressure of it all and just exhausted.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months? They were fully bottlefed by the time we left the hospital when they were 7 days old.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No. It was so much harder. I found it really difficult.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I am a bit disappointed about it, but i try not to dwell on it as they are very healthy little boys and i tried really hard (didn't sleep for the first 4 days at all..), so it is all good.
6. Any other comments?
Nope.. Just that i hope that all multiples (and singles) mums go into having a bub and BF with an open mind. Sometimes it is just not worth it to your sanity.. i would not have of been any help to my boys if i had of been BF as i would have of had a nervous breakdown!! JMHO!
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? I went into it wanting what was best for me and the babies.. i wanted to definently give them all the colostrum at the start as that to me was the most important thing and then i was going to see how i was coping. I really wanted to BF til at least 3 months.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning? We BF'ed for 4 days - initially the colostrum and then a little bit of milk - and they were being supplemented by EBM and Formula as i really did not have very much milk. So we were twin feeding for an hour then i was expressing for 30 mins, and then i had 30 mins rest and then we were doing it again, i was exhausted and really couldn't cope. I had a c/section and i don't know if that affects the milk but i really was very stressed with the pressure of it all and just exhausted.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months? They were fully bottlefed by the time we left the hospital when they were 7 days old.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No. It was so much harder. I found it really difficult.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I am a bit disappointed about it, but i try not to dwell on it as they are very healthy little boys and i tried really hard (didn't sleep for the first 4 days at all..), so it is all good.
6. Any other comments?
Nope.. Just that i hope that all multiples (and singles) mums go into having a bub and BF with an open mind. Sometimes it is just not worth it to your sanity.. i would not have of been any help to my boys if i had of been BF as i would have of had a nervous breakdown!! JMHO!
Fantastic topic, especially for those expecting mums.
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
We always said that we would try breasfeeding and see what happened. We were always open to both the idea of full BF or comp or full formula. We decided to just give it a go and see what happened.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
They were born at 37 weeks and we were feeding them every 2 hours. DD attached fine. DS couldnt attach and was a real struggle so our routine was. Try to get DS to attached & feed, unsuccessfully. Attach and feed DD. Then comp DS with EBM then comp both with formula (I didnt have enough supply) then express. This routine would take up to an hour and a half then I would get 1/2 hour rest before we had to do it all again. By day 4 I was an absolute mess. I was in tears prior to every feed and not coping at all. DH and I were talking about going to Formula, spoke to midwives who just put us down and told us no that we would just keep trying. I was not in a good state. Our saviour came (Pead) in the afternoon of day 4 and he saw that I was not coping at all and we had a good long chat about formula and he had no objections at all about us changing over. He said one thing that will stay with me "there is noting wrong with formula, I was a formula fed baby and I am a doctor". He spoke to the staff and informed them what was going on as we told him they were giving us a hard time. So they were formula fed from day 4 and I have never felt such a weight lifted off of me I was a different person. And enjoying my babies much more.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were on full formula - DS on S26HA and DD on S26AR (Refux)
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No! I knew it was going to be hard but, I had no idea how hard. Not sure if just because I had a bad BF experience or being multiples. I found formula much easier for the obvious reason that I could get help when I needed it, I was getting rest and they were content and full.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back I have no regrets. I gave it by best try and that is all I could do. If pregnant again I would do the same, give it a go and see what happens. If I had a singleton I think I would have been able to maybe persist longer and get feeding right. But all in theory.
6. Any other comments?
I applaude anyone that can successfully feed multiples as it is a huge thing and I take my hat off to you all. I dont feel anyless a good mother for putting them on formula as it was just what worked for us. Everyone is different.
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This message was edited by TwinMumAli on Thursday, 1 September 2005 @ 11:09 AM
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
We always said that we would try breasfeeding and see what happened. We were always open to both the idea of full BF or comp or full formula. We decided to just give it a go and see what happened.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
They were born at 37 weeks and we were feeding them every 2 hours. DD attached fine. DS couldnt attach and was a real struggle so our routine was. Try to get DS to attached & feed, unsuccessfully. Attach and feed DD. Then comp DS with EBM then comp both with formula (I didnt have enough supply) then express. This routine would take up to an hour and a half then I would get 1/2 hour rest before we had to do it all again. By day 4 I was an absolute mess. I was in tears prior to every feed and not coping at all. DH and I were talking about going to Formula, spoke to midwives who just put us down and told us no that we would just keep trying. I was not in a good state. Our saviour came (Pead) in the afternoon of day 4 and he saw that I was not coping at all and we had a good long chat about formula and he had no objections at all about us changing over. He said one thing that will stay with me "there is noting wrong with formula, I was a formula fed baby and I am a doctor". He spoke to the staff and informed them what was going on as we told him they were giving us a hard time. So they were formula fed from day 4 and I have never felt such a weight lifted off of me I was a different person. And enjoying my babies much more.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were on full formula - DS on S26HA and DD on S26AR (Refux)
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No! I knew it was going to be hard but, I had no idea how hard. Not sure if just because I had a bad BF experience or being multiples. I found formula much easier for the obvious reason that I could get help when I needed it, I was getting rest and they were content and full.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back I have no regrets. I gave it by best try and that is all I could do. If pregnant again I would do the same, give it a go and see what happens. If I had a singleton I think I would have been able to maybe persist longer and get feeding right. But all in theory.
6. Any other comments?
I applaude anyone that can successfully feed multiples as it is a huge thing and I take my hat off to you all. I dont feel anyless a good mother for putting them on formula as it was just what worked for us. Everyone is different.
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This message was edited by TwinMumAli on Thursday, 1 September 2005 @ 11:09 AM
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I had every intention of breastfeeding if my supply was able to meet the demands of three babies. I had a lot of people tell me that there was no way I would be able to feed three, which in a way made me all the more determine to succeed!
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My babies were born at 26 weeks and 4 days gestation, so in the beginning they were fed via a tube that went from their nose into their stomachs. They would have 1 ml of my expressed breast milk down the tube.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were still exclusively breastfed at 6 weeks and at 3 months.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I knew that feeding triplets was going to be a demanding task, but also a worthwhile one.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I breast fed my triplets until they were 2 years old. I am so glad that I was able to feed my three. To be able to say that I never needed to give formula gives me a real sense of achievement. Not to mention the money I saved. Eeeeekkkkkkk!!
6. Any other comments?
Being a mother to multiples is a very demanding job, and can be very thankless at times. As mothers, we need to be able to feel comfortable and do what works best for us to make things go as smoothly as possible. We all do the best that we can, and I think we are all a great bunch of women!
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This message was edited by Nee on Thursday, 1 September 2005 @ 2:19 PM
I had every intention of breastfeeding if my supply was able to meet the demands of three babies. I had a lot of people tell me that there was no way I would be able to feed three, which in a way made me all the more determine to succeed!
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My babies were born at 26 weeks and 4 days gestation, so in the beginning they were fed via a tube that went from their nose into their stomachs. They would have 1 ml of my expressed breast milk down the tube.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were still exclusively breastfed at 6 weeks and at 3 months.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I knew that feeding triplets was going to be a demanding task, but also a worthwhile one.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I breast fed my triplets until they were 2 years old. I am so glad that I was able to feed my three. To be able to say that I never needed to give formula gives me a real sense of achievement. Not to mention the money I saved. Eeeeekkkkkkk!!
6. Any other comments?
Being a mother to multiples is a very demanding job, and can be very thankless at times. As mothers, we need to be able to feel comfortable and do what works best for us to make things go as smoothly as possible. We all do the best that we can, and I think we are all a great bunch of women!
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This message was edited by Nee on Thursday, 1 September 2005 @ 2:19 PM
Hi all,
Fantastic idea Maree. Hopefully our experiences can help all those new and new to be Mulitple mums and dads out there.
1.1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
Being my first children, I wanted to do the best for my girls and myself. I had definate ideas on fully BF the girls.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning
The girls were born at 35 weeks and in special care for 2.5 weeks due to low birth weight. They were tube fed for 2.5 weeks using my colostrom and EBM as they were too little to attach to the breast properly. Their first tube feed was 6mls! I expressed on the double pump 4-5 times per day to build up my milk supply and when I went home from hospital and the girls were still in Special care, I would travel to and from the hospital with EBM to do their tube feeds etc. We would always make sure either both or 1 of us would be there for 3-4 of their feeds.
After their discharge from special care at 2.5 weeks of age I had built up my supply to twin breast feed and supplement formula (s26) bottle feed. Feeding would take upwards of 1.5 hours, by the time I breast fed both and then bottle top.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
I was twin breast feeding and supplement bottle feeding up until the girls were 8 months old. As the girls were 2.2kgs and 1.9 kgs at birth, the focus in the initial stages was WEIGHT GAIN++++++++++ and I think I felt some pressure to perservere with BF. However, by 3 months I thought the whole BF bottle feeding routine is so much easier, I'll keep BF . Then by 6 months I thought why stop now as it took me so long to establish BF, I kept going.
My first born weaned herself at 8 months and thats when I went to 100% bottle formula feeding.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I had no idea how challenging and hard it was going to be. Without the support of my family and hubby, there was NO way I would have been able to BF the girls as long as I did. I found it extremely tiring emotionally and physically and quite stressful at times. I found it extremely difficult adapting to my new role as feeding machine basically!
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back, I am glad I BF for as long as I could. It was a long haul, but I enjoyed the experience.
6. Any other comments?
Some advice to all the new Multiple Mums out there. Do not feel pressured to BF/ bottle feed. Do what you feel is right for you and your babies. And ask around to find out different ideas etc as it is such a huge learning experience and I found the more you could talk to other Multiple mums the better it was.
Vette
Gabriella Eve 12/03/2004
Alexandra Chloe 12/03/2004
This message was edited by gabi&Lexie'smum on Thursday, 1 September 2005 @ 2:17 PM
Fantastic idea Maree. Hopefully our experiences can help all those new and new to be Mulitple mums and dads out there.
1.1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
Being my first children, I wanted to do the best for my girls and myself. I had definate ideas on fully BF the girls.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning
The girls were born at 35 weeks and in special care for 2.5 weeks due to low birth weight. They were tube fed for 2.5 weeks using my colostrom and EBM as they were too little to attach to the breast properly. Their first tube feed was 6mls! I expressed on the double pump 4-5 times per day to build up my milk supply and when I went home from hospital and the girls were still in Special care, I would travel to and from the hospital with EBM to do their tube feeds etc. We would always make sure either both or 1 of us would be there for 3-4 of their feeds.
After their discharge from special care at 2.5 weeks of age I had built up my supply to twin breast feed and supplement formula (s26) bottle feed. Feeding would take upwards of 1.5 hours, by the time I breast fed both and then bottle top.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
I was twin breast feeding and supplement bottle feeding up until the girls were 8 months old. As the girls were 2.2kgs and 1.9 kgs at birth, the focus in the initial stages was WEIGHT GAIN++++++++++ and I think I felt some pressure to perservere with BF. However, by 3 months I thought the whole BF bottle feeding routine is so much easier, I'll keep BF . Then by 6 months I thought why stop now as it took me so long to establish BF, I kept going.
My first born weaned herself at 8 months and thats when I went to 100% bottle formula feeding.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I had no idea how challenging and hard it was going to be. Without the support of my family and hubby, there was NO way I would have been able to BF the girls as long as I did. I found it extremely tiring emotionally and physically and quite stressful at times. I found it extremely difficult adapting to my new role as feeding machine basically!
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back, I am glad I BF for as long as I could. It was a long haul, but I enjoyed the experience.
6. Any other comments?
Some advice to all the new Multiple Mums out there. Do not feel pressured to BF/ bottle feed. Do what you feel is right for you and your babies. And ask around to find out different ideas etc as it is such a huge learning experience and I found the more you could talk to other Multiple mums the better it was.
Vette
Gabriella Eve 12/03/2004
Alexandra Chloe 12/03/2004
This message was edited by gabi&Lexie'smum on Thursday, 1 September 2005 @ 2:17 PM
This thread was a great idea. I'm starting to think more about the logistics of how I will feed my babies once they born and it's so helpful to hear other people's experiences. At least I'll be a little more prepared for what to expect. Thank you, ladies.
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What a good idea Maree!
1. What did we plan?
Plan? What's that? I guess we just expected that I would b/f, but reading a little about how to position them etc it got a bit scary and confusing so I didn't really make a decision, just thought we would wait and see. Then as it happened, the girls arrived at 35 weeks so I didn't have any 'supplies' (pump, bottles, steriliser etc) for either option anyway!
2. In the beginning...
The girls were tube fed initially. I expressed what I could and then they were comped with formula (which was actually the bulk of their feeds). We held them and did 'suck training' with the girls at each tube feed so they would associate sucking with a full tummy. After a few days I would attempt to feed one baby (and then comp the rest of the feed), and the other would get a tube feed. Then we gradually introduced breastfeeding (tandem), so they would have tube feeds, and one breast feed/day, then 2 feeds/day and so on until they were fully breast fed and the tubes came out. We had lots of problems with attachment and with keeping them awake long enough to get a full feed each time but we got it right in the end! It was an emotionally draining time and I thought we weren't going to be able to do it and was tempted to give it a miss, but I really wanted to try and get to at least 6 weeks so I persisted. We came home at 2 weeks with them on breastfeeds and twice daily comps with formula due to their weight.
3. At six weeks? 3 months?
Still breastfeeding tandem with twice daily comps. At 6 weeks getting easier, but still thought I would only make it to 3 months. I got more confident the longer I went, and was more and more encouraged by seeing them put on weight, so I knew we were doing OK! At 3 months, things were much easier but they were still taking a looong time for each feed so I thought I would just go to 6 months...at 13 months I finally decided it was time to get back into a 'pretty' bra!
4. Was it what I expected?
Noooo. It was hard. I knew that I wouldn't know what I was doing, but I thought they would! I didn't realise they needed training too - I thought it was instinct. Niaive I know!
5. How do I feel about it?
I'm not a militant pro-breastfeeding mum by any stretch of the imagination, and I was fully prepared to make the switch to bottles but I'm really glad I persisted. After the initial hard work, it was good, quiet time for my girls and me. Another bonus is that it helped my ego no end to know that this was something really hard that I achieved. Ego-boosts are something all new mums need!
6. Other comments?
Do what works for you and your babies. Obviously breast milk is the absolute best you can get, but if its just too stressful for any reason, then you might be better switching. No point stressing out about breastfeeding if the rest of your parenting (not to mention own health) suffers for it.
Oh, and here's a name for breastfeeding twin mums I read in one of Kaz Cooke's books. When you need a pat on the back, its a good one to remember...
"Multiskilled Domestic Goddess of Plenty"
Good luck with whatever you choose!
Nicolie
DDs Paige & Hannah (23/09/03)
1. What did we plan?
Plan? What's that? I guess we just expected that I would b/f, but reading a little about how to position them etc it got a bit scary and confusing so I didn't really make a decision, just thought we would wait and see. Then as it happened, the girls arrived at 35 weeks so I didn't have any 'supplies' (pump, bottles, steriliser etc) for either option anyway!
2. In the beginning...
The girls were tube fed initially. I expressed what I could and then they were comped with formula (which was actually the bulk of their feeds). We held them and did 'suck training' with the girls at each tube feed so they would associate sucking with a full tummy. After a few days I would attempt to feed one baby (and then comp the rest of the feed), and the other would get a tube feed. Then we gradually introduced breastfeeding (tandem), so they would have tube feeds, and one breast feed/day, then 2 feeds/day and so on until they were fully breast fed and the tubes came out. We had lots of problems with attachment and with keeping them awake long enough to get a full feed each time but we got it right in the end! It was an emotionally draining time and I thought we weren't going to be able to do it and was tempted to give it a miss, but I really wanted to try and get to at least 6 weeks so I persisted. We came home at 2 weeks with them on breastfeeds and twice daily comps with formula due to their weight.
3. At six weeks? 3 months?
Still breastfeeding tandem with twice daily comps. At 6 weeks getting easier, but still thought I would only make it to 3 months. I got more confident the longer I went, and was more and more encouraged by seeing them put on weight, so I knew we were doing OK! At 3 months, things were much easier but they were still taking a looong time for each feed so I thought I would just go to 6 months...at 13 months I finally decided it was time to get back into a 'pretty' bra!
4. Was it what I expected?
Noooo. It was hard. I knew that I wouldn't know what I was doing, but I thought they would! I didn't realise they needed training too - I thought it was instinct. Niaive I know!
5. How do I feel about it?
I'm not a militant pro-breastfeeding mum by any stretch of the imagination, and I was fully prepared to make the switch to bottles but I'm really glad I persisted. After the initial hard work, it was good, quiet time for my girls and me. Another bonus is that it helped my ego no end to know that this was something really hard that I achieved. Ego-boosts are something all new mums need!
6. Other comments?
Do what works for you and your babies. Obviously breast milk is the absolute best you can get, but if its just too stressful for any reason, then you might be better switching. No point stressing out about breastfeeding if the rest of your parenting (not to mention own health) suffers for it.
Oh, and here's a name for breastfeeding twin mums I read in one of Kaz Cooke's books. When you need a pat on the back, its a good one to remember...
"Multiskilled Domestic Goddess of Plenty"
Good luck with whatever you choose!
Nicolie
DDs Paige & Hannah (23/09/03)
Hi Nakigirl,
Can I say "thankyou so much" for starting this thread! I am a new mum of twins (boy/girl) who are 5 weeks old today, and am new to this forum.
My bubs were born 35 weeks and 4 days gestation and were in the special care nursery for 10 days. Whilst there I expressed the colostrum and started building up my milk supply with the intention of making enough for both babies. I was open to giving tandem feeding a go, and would just see where it lead me. Five weeks down the track and Im exhusted with the whole feeding process. Tandem feeding hasnt worked out for me, and to be honest I didnt really like it. My little girl is being a bit lazy with her sucking and therefore I havent been breastfeeding her this past week, and my son will feed for over an hour. So Im expressing milk as well and using formula to fill in the feeds where there is not enough EBM. Its gotten incredibly exhusting and I dread feed times. My DS is a lot more demanding than DD, so he always has to go first and she is left waiting and has to stay grizzly, which I feel awlful about.
So Ive been toying with the idea of dropping the breastfeeding altogether and concentrating on relaxing and spending quality feed times with them individually. Until today I was feeling guilty and horrible about the fact that I have the milk there for them, but didnt want to continue breastfeeding and then I logged into Ess. Baby and saw your thread and burst into tears! What you described is exactly how I feel and knowing that there are others that were in a similiar situation, I no longer feel bad about wanting to stop. So thankyou very very much. I am feeling so much better about it all now.
Thanks again,
Natalie
Can I say "thankyou so much" for starting this thread! I am a new mum of twins (boy/girl) who are 5 weeks old today, and am new to this forum.
My bubs were born 35 weeks and 4 days gestation and were in the special care nursery for 10 days. Whilst there I expressed the colostrum and started building up my milk supply with the intention of making enough for both babies. I was open to giving tandem feeding a go, and would just see where it lead me. Five weeks down the track and Im exhusted with the whole feeding process. Tandem feeding hasnt worked out for me, and to be honest I didnt really like it. My little girl is being a bit lazy with her sucking and therefore I havent been breastfeeding her this past week, and my son will feed for over an hour. So Im expressing milk as well and using formula to fill in the feeds where there is not enough EBM. Its gotten incredibly exhusting and I dread feed times. My DS is a lot more demanding than DD, so he always has to go first and she is left waiting and has to stay grizzly, which I feel awlful about.
So Ive been toying with the idea of dropping the breastfeeding altogether and concentrating on relaxing and spending quality feed times with them individually. Until today I was feeling guilty and horrible about the fact that I have the milk there for them, but didnt want to continue breastfeeding and then I logged into Ess. Baby and saw your thread and burst into tears! What you described is exactly how I feel and knowing that there are others that were in a similiar situation, I no longer feel bad about wanting to stop. So thankyou very very much. I am feeling so much better about it all now.
Thanks again,
Natalie
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I expected to be able to breastfeed, by hubby thought we would have to comp. them.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
Brandon was tubefed, my ebm for a day, then he was on a drip for 2 or 3 days, and then ebm slowly reintroduced. Emma has some ebm, but then it was decided it should be left for Brandon and emma has s26. Emma started with a bottle at 1 week of age (tube fed before then) and I tried to breastfeed her, but she couldn't attach without a nipple shield. I was then told that Brandon would never be able to suck strong enough through a nipple shield and to give up on breastfeeding. I continued to express in the hope that once home I could get a lC in to help me. They spent 20 days in SCN, and Brandon was on full bottles (ebm) for 48 hours before he came home. Emma was then on karicare gold (due to transfer between hospitals).
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were on 6 feeds a day - the 3 day feeds (i.e. 6am, 10am, and 2pm) were ebm, the night feeds were formula.
At 3 months I stopped expressing, so they had about 1 bottle a day of ebm and the rest formula - by then I had changed to heinz. They are now 100% on formula and have never been sick.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No - I never expected my babies - born at 36 weeks to spend so much time in hospital. I fully expected (probably due to misinformation from my ob) to take them home with me. I had a hard decision stopping expressing, as I always had a little hope that I could breastfeed them.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back now I am happy. I don't think I could have coped with breastfeeding around the clock. They were nevery fussy babies, I never suffered from lack of sleep - I truly could not have seen me sitting for hours breastfeeding them, then topping them up - esp since I have no family, or help close by.
6. Any other comments?
I expected to be able to breastfeed, by hubby thought we would have to comp. them.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
Brandon was tubefed, my ebm for a day, then he was on a drip for 2 or 3 days, and then ebm slowly reintroduced. Emma has some ebm, but then it was decided it should be left for Brandon and emma has s26. Emma started with a bottle at 1 week of age (tube fed before then) and I tried to breastfeed her, but she couldn't attach without a nipple shield. I was then told that Brandon would never be able to suck strong enough through a nipple shield and to give up on breastfeeding. I continued to express in the hope that once home I could get a lC in to help me. They spent 20 days in SCN, and Brandon was on full bottles (ebm) for 48 hours before he came home. Emma was then on karicare gold (due to transfer between hospitals).
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were on 6 feeds a day - the 3 day feeds (i.e. 6am, 10am, and 2pm) were ebm, the night feeds were formula.
At 3 months I stopped expressing, so they had about 1 bottle a day of ebm and the rest formula - by then I had changed to heinz. They are now 100% on formula and have never been sick.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
No - I never expected my babies - born at 36 weeks to spend so much time in hospital. I fully expected (probably due to misinformation from my ob) to take them home with me. I had a hard decision stopping expressing, as I always had a little hope that I could breastfeed them.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back now I am happy. I don't think I could have coped with breastfeeding around the clock. They were nevery fussy babies, I never suffered from lack of sleep - I truly could not have seen me sitting for hours breastfeeding them, then topping them up - esp since I have no family, or help close by.
6. Any other comments?
I join the chorus...great idea for a thread!
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I had always been determined to BF when I found out I was having twins. The fact that they were my first probably helped to keep me positive as I had no idea how hard it would be to get started! My DH was pretty easy going and didn't put any pressure on me either way. My mum was really worried that I was putting too much pressure on myself to be sucessful with BF.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
The girls were tube fed for a couple of days to get the weight up then they were fully BF. I guess all I can really remember is being very sore! I think it took about 6-8 weeks before my nipples toughened up and my supply settled down. There were certainly many tears and lots of pumping in between feeds to get my supply going. Luckily I had some very supportive midwives and a supportive DH so I kept going.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
Fully BF at both 6 weeks and 3 months. Until about 8 weeks I tandem fed them in the football hold then, but they were quick feeders (all over in 20 min) so at about 8 weeks I decided to fed them one after the other, mainly as they seemed happier that way and you get more of a cuddle!
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Not sure I really had much idea of what it would be like but once the initial pain was over I was so glad I persisted. A really positive experience.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Really pleased that I was able to fully BF them until they were 10 and 11 months when they weaned themselves
6. Any other comments?
Sophie and Daisy 9/4/03
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I had always been determined to BF when I found out I was having twins. The fact that they were my first probably helped to keep me positive as I had no idea how hard it would be to get started! My DH was pretty easy going and didn't put any pressure on me either way. My mum was really worried that I was putting too much pressure on myself to be sucessful with BF.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
The girls were tube fed for a couple of days to get the weight up then they were fully BF. I guess all I can really remember is being very sore! I think it took about 6-8 weeks before my nipples toughened up and my supply settled down. There were certainly many tears and lots of pumping in between feeds to get my supply going. Luckily I had some very supportive midwives and a supportive DH so I kept going.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
Fully BF at both 6 weeks and 3 months. Until about 8 weeks I tandem fed them in the football hold then, but they were quick feeders (all over in 20 min) so at about 8 weeks I decided to fed them one after the other, mainly as they seemed happier that way and you get more of a cuddle!
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Not sure I really had much idea of what it would be like but once the initial pain was over I was so glad I persisted. A really positive experience.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Really pleased that I was able to fully BF them until they were 10 and 11 months when they weaned themselves
6. Any other comments?
Sophie and Daisy 9/4/03
I always wanted to breastfeed but was also open to the idea of Formula my goal was to make 3months
When I breastfed my first i had nothing but trouble and it did not come easy but I was detirmined and kept feeding him so when the twins came I was expecting the worst but I was lucky as it came really easy and they were feeding off me within an hour of their birth.
This was great but they fed every two hours (I swear they were born hungry) at eight weeks I had to do something and started Formula Jack then didn't want me so I decided to bottle feed both as I didn't want to just breastfeed one (weard but I felt like I would be spending more time with one) so they both were on formula at three months.
I would love to have kept breastfeeding and did feel a little guilty but I was exhausted had an older son to look after and a hubby going to work away so I say Happy Mum means happy bubs.
I think mums that end up bottle feeding or start of bottle feeding should be just as proud that they were noble enough to make the decision that was right for them and their family.
Kristy
DS 9
Twin Boys 2 1/2
When I breastfed my first i had nothing but trouble and it did not come easy but I was detirmined and kept feeding him so when the twins came I was expecting the worst but I was lucky as it came really easy and they were feeding off me within an hour of their birth.
This was great but they fed every two hours (I swear they were born hungry) at eight weeks I had to do something and started Formula Jack then didn't want me so I decided to bottle feed both as I didn't want to just breastfeed one (weard but I felt like I would be spending more time with one) so they both were on formula at three months.
I would love to have kept breastfeeding and did feel a little guilty but I was exhausted had an older son to look after and a hubby going to work away so I say Happy Mum means happy bubs.
I think mums that end up bottle feeding or start of bottle feeding should be just as proud that they were noble enough to make the decision that was right for them and their family.
Kristy
DS 9
Twin Boys 2 1/2
Another Mum-in-waiting saying thanks for the great thread!
Can we pin it? I'm sure every new visitor will want to know how others have managed things.
Can we pin it? I'm sure every new visitor will want to know how others have managed things.
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (Eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I knew that I wanted to fully breastfeed. My goal was to breastfeed till they were 12 months old & I started reading about breastfeeding etc.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My girls were born at 30 weeks, so to start with I had to use an electric breast pump. Found the whole start very, very hard emotionally. I wanted so much to feed, but they were too little. Plus I had one baby here & one 3 hrs away. My milk never actually "came in". But I stuck with the pumping & it was all worthwhile.
Once they were big enough I tried to twin feed. The midwives really pushed this. I found it very hard to start with! I'd get one attached & the other came off. I needed a midwife to stay & help me. Once home it was still just as hard until I got a breastfeeding pillow & that REALLY helped. I'd feed them one at a time sometimes.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
Both at 6 weeks & 3 months I was mostly breastfeeding. I use to top up with formula if I thought they were still hungry. From the beginning I never had enough milk, no matter how much I had them to the breast or pumped, I never had quiet enough milk.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Yes although the start wasn't! I didn't think I was going to have them at 30 weeks & that was a bit hard. I also got blocked ducts & getting through that was a bit hard.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I think I did OK. I felt VERY disappointed that they self weaned at 8 months. They were not gaining enough weight, so I took the CHN suggestion & gave them both one full feed or formula & from that point on they rejected the breast. I was devastated! I LOVED breastfeeding
6. Any other comments?
I'd do it all again, but next time I'd know more about how to use a pump & what to try to boost my milk supply. I didn't know about the herbs you can get to try & I wish that I had of kept the electric pump longer instead of using a hand pump once they were home.
Belinda
I knew that I wanted to fully breastfeed. My goal was to breastfeed till they were 12 months old & I started reading about breastfeeding etc.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My girls were born at 30 weeks, so to start with I had to use an electric breast pump. Found the whole start very, very hard emotionally. I wanted so much to feed, but they were too little. Plus I had one baby here & one 3 hrs away. My milk never actually "came in". But I stuck with the pumping & it was all worthwhile.
Once they were big enough I tried to twin feed. The midwives really pushed this. I found it very hard to start with! I'd get one attached & the other came off. I needed a midwife to stay & help me. Once home it was still just as hard until I got a breastfeeding pillow & that REALLY helped. I'd feed them one at a time sometimes.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
Both at 6 weeks & 3 months I was mostly breastfeeding. I use to top up with formula if I thought they were still hungry. From the beginning I never had enough milk, no matter how much I had them to the breast or pumped, I never had quiet enough milk.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Yes although the start wasn't! I didn't think I was going to have them at 30 weeks & that was a bit hard. I also got blocked ducts & getting through that was a bit hard.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I think I did OK. I felt VERY disappointed that they self weaned at 8 months. They were not gaining enough weight, so I took the CHN suggestion & gave them both one full feed or formula & from that point on they rejected the breast. I was devastated! I LOVED breastfeeding
6. Any other comments?
I'd do it all again, but next time I'd know more about how to use a pump & what to try to boost my milk supply. I didn't know about the herbs you can get to try & I wish that I had of kept the electric pump longer instead of using a hand pump once they were home.
Belinda
1. plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies?
I had exclusively breast fed my 2 year daughter for 12 months and we had a lot of attachent problems to begin with and I had found BF horribly painful and uncomfortable for the first 6 or so weeks, so I was planning to try breastfeeding aware that it would be really hard to start off with but if things went okay it would improve.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
I tandem breastfed them and comp formula fed them in hospital, as they were just shy of 37 weeks the pediatrician was concerned that they got enough sugar in the first few days of life so they wouldn't become lethargic.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
At 6 weeks and 3 months it was breastfeeding with one night time bottle of formula. By 5 months their appetites had increased and i couldn't increase my supply enough so we went to a lunchtime bottle and dinner bottle with BFs.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
yep, time consuming, exhausting, relentless, but BF older babies is delightful all the same.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Happy
6. Any other comments?
I have found that this time there was not as much pressure for exclusive breastfeeding as it was with my elder daughter, I don't know if that was because I had twins or because of some mellowing bythe medical profession, afterall formula isn't poison.
I had exclusively breast fed my 2 year daughter for 12 months and we had a lot of attachent problems to begin with and I had found BF horribly painful and uncomfortable for the first 6 or so weeks, so I was planning to try breastfeeding aware that it would be really hard to start off with but if things went okay it would improve.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
I tandem breastfed them and comp formula fed them in hospital, as they were just shy of 37 weeks the pediatrician was concerned that they got enough sugar in the first few days of life so they wouldn't become lethargic.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
At 6 weeks and 3 months it was breastfeeding with one night time bottle of formula. By 5 months their appetites had increased and i couldn't increase my supply enough so we went to a lunchtime bottle and dinner bottle with BFs.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
yep, time consuming, exhausting, relentless, but BF older babies is delightful all the same.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Happy
6. Any other comments?
I have found that this time there was not as much pressure for exclusive breastfeeding as it was with my elder daughter, I don't know if that was because I had twins or because of some mellowing bythe medical profession, afterall formula isn't poison.
I am not a veteran but thought I could share and possibly relate to other and new mums to be LOL
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies?
I had dreamed to fully breastfeed them both and had my options open - fully open I had low confidence in this department and decided not to resarch too much and let my body decide what would be happening (and of course the babies)
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
Fully breastfed after much practice, swear words, pain and most of all full sense of pride and achievement from myself and DH We had to express into bottles for a while to help with the restoration of the sore bleeding nipples, but after expressing for one day I was fine and back on track.
Fully recommend the Avent Nipple shields for the tough times
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
By 2-3 weeks I was thinking that Brooklen had a issue with feeding, she was attaching fine but wanted to be fed almost every hour and then would scream in pain for hours on end until we got her to the Pead and realised that the Lactose in my Milk was/had burnt the lining of her stomach - quiet badly. Constant feeding was helping her put out the fire if you like. After that she wa given Lacteze drops before-inbetween- and at the end of feeds and seemed a little better. 2 days later worse and was diagnosed fully Lactose Intolerant and was put on S-26 LF formula from 4 weeks
I was sad, but wanted what was best for her. (she got bottle fed by Dad)
Hayden was still exclusivly breast fed until 3 months. I too felt that I was being selfish to Brooklen and spending a different type of quality time with Hayden IYKWIM. They both then went on the LF formula and are still to this day.....
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I suprised myself on this one - I thought I couldnt do it and was pleasantly suprised and very proud of myself for doing it.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I would have loved to feed them both fully until at least 6 months but this goal became unrealistic when Brooklen was diagnosed LI. I was devestated and it was something that I cherished for the time that I did it. Now I am able to share the joys of feeding my beautiful babies with anyone that wants to assist
I enjoyed Breast feeding and felt the bond was amazing and possibly the closest moments with them both at that early stage.....
6. Any other comments?
I too think it amazing for the Mulitple Mums that are still feeding and had done for such a long time well done! Definatly remain open minded and like anything practice makes perfect, there is a great world of resourses available but I found the best to be other Multiple Mums and of course this group right here.
What ever you and your partner decide, the main objective is to ensure that the babies are happy and most of all that you, are enjoying it and coping.
What works for you and your family
Haylie ~ Proud Mum of Hayden & Brooklen 21.3.05
LOL1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies?
I had dreamed to fully breastfeed them both and had my options open - fully open
I had low confidence in this department and decided not to resarch too much and let my body decide what would be happening (and of course the babies)2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
Fully breastfed after much practice, swear words, pain and most of all full sense of pride and achievement from myself and DH
We had to express into bottles for a while to help with the restoration of the sore bleeding nipples, but after expressing for one day I was fine and back on track.Fully recommend the Avent Nipple shields for the tough times
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
By 2-3 weeks I was thinking that Brooklen had a issue with feeding, she was attaching fine but wanted to be fed almost every hour and then would scream in pain for hours on end until we got her to the Pead and realised that the Lactose in my Milk was/had burnt the lining of her stomach - quiet badly. Constant feeding was helping her put out the fire if you like. After that she wa given Lacteze drops before-inbetween- and at the end of feeds and seemed a little better. 2 days later worse and was diagnosed fully Lactose Intolerant and was put on S-26 LF formula from 4 weeks
I was sad, but wanted what was best for her. (she got bottle fed by Dad)Hayden was still exclusivly breast fed until 3 months. I too felt that I was being selfish to Brooklen and spending a different type of quality time with Hayden IYKWIM. They both then went on the LF formula and are still to this day.....
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I suprised myself on this one - I thought I couldnt do it and was pleasantly suprised and very proud of myself for doing it.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I would have loved to feed them both fully until at least 6 months but this goal became unrealistic when Brooklen was diagnosed LI. I was devestated and it was something that I cherished for the time that I did it. Now I am able to share the joys of feeding my beautiful babies with anyone that wants to assist
I enjoyed Breast feeding and felt the bond was amazing and possibly the closest moments with them both at that early stage.....
6. Any other comments?
I too think it amazing for the Mulitple Mums that are still feeding and had done for such a long time
well done! Definatly remain open minded and like anything practice makes perfect, there is a great world of resourses available but I found the best to be other Multiple Mums and of course this group right here.What ever you and your partner decide, the main objective is to ensure that the babies are happy and most of all that you, are enjoying it and coping.
What works for you and your family
Haylie ~ Proud Mum of Hayden & Brooklen 21.3.05
This is really interesting! Can I share?
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I really, REALLY wanted to breastfeed, and was very determined to do so. I didn't consider anything else. So it's just as well that it's worked out OK, otherwise I would've been devastated.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My girls were born at 33 weeks with TTTS, so they were sick little babies in NICU/SCBU for the first month or so. They were tube fed EBM to start with, and then gradually introduced to sucking. By 8 weeks (I think?) they were on full breastfeeds. I found it very difficult in those early weeks to keep expressing enough for two, as my milk took weeks to 'come in'. I was expressing day and night. Very glad I perserved though.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
I think it was half-tube, half breastfeeds at 6 weeks. By 3-4 months I think I had dropped the tandem feeding and had started feeding them separately. I found this much, much easier, as they were quick feeders, needing only 10 mins or so each.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Not what I expected, mainly because I hadn't expected to give birth to premmie, sick babies. The first months were certainly completely different than I'd imagined. I had visions of myself tucked up in bed with them, tandem feeding within the first few minutes of birth! Also, the frequency of feeding surprised me: every 2 hours or so, including overnight, for months! But as the months went on, I was pleasantly surprised at how much easier it became, and how convenient and quick breastfeeding could be.
I procrastinated for quite awhileon introducing solids because I didn't want to risk them weaning early, and at 11 months of age we are still breastfeeding.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Very pleased, I would've preferred an easier start, but it has all worked out fine. I remember looking at my babies thinking, 'it is my milk that has made them grow so much' and feeling very proud. The only thing is, I am matron-of-honour in a wedding in November, so I have to work out how I am going to manage breastfeeding and bridesmaid duties on the day!
6. comments
Best wishes to all you expectant mums of multiples. It can be very, very, very hard, but also SO rewarding. I have loved breastfeeding, and am very pro-breastfeeding in general, so would urge you to give it your best shot!
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I really, REALLY wanted to breastfeed, and was very determined to do so. I didn't consider anything else. So it's just as well that it's worked out OK, otherwise I would've been devastated.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My girls were born at 33 weeks with TTTS, so they were sick little babies in NICU/SCBU for the first month or so. They were tube fed EBM to start with, and then gradually introduced to sucking. By 8 weeks (I think?) they were on full breastfeeds. I found it very difficult in those early weeks to keep expressing enough for two, as my milk took weeks to 'come in'. I was expressing day and night. Very glad I perserved though.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
I think it was half-tube, half breastfeeds at 6 weeks. By 3-4 months I think I had dropped the tandem feeding and had started feeding them separately. I found this much, much easier, as they were quick feeders, needing only 10 mins or so each.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Not what I expected, mainly because I hadn't expected to give birth to premmie, sick babies. The first months were certainly completely different than I'd imagined. I had visions of myself tucked up in bed with them, tandem feeding within the first few minutes of birth! Also, the frequency of feeding surprised me: every 2 hours or so, including overnight, for months! But as the months went on, I was pleasantly surprised at how much easier it became, and how convenient and quick breastfeeding could be.
I procrastinated for quite awhileon introducing solids because I didn't want to risk them weaning early, and at 11 months of age we are still breastfeeding.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Very pleased, I would've preferred an easier start, but it has all worked out fine. I remember looking at my babies thinking, 'it is my milk that has made them grow so much' and feeling very proud. The only thing is, I am matron-of-honour in a wedding in November, so I have to work out how I am going to manage breastfeeding and bridesmaid duties on the day!
6. comments
Best wishes to all you expectant mums of multiples. It can be very, very, very hard, but also SO rewarding. I have loved breastfeeding, and am very pro-breastfeeding in general, so would urge you to give it your best shot!
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I was hoping to breastfeed but kept an open mind about it as I wasn't sure how things would go. I was prepared to stick it out- but also aware that things may not work out as I had hoped. I was fortunate that I had breastfed my older son for over 12 months so I wasn't starting from scratch when learning to tandem feed.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
For the first 24 hours or so I breastfed Adam on his own but was unable to breastfeed Erin as she had an umbi-line in. As soon as I was able to breastfeed Erin I began tandem feeding. I had already purchased a twin feeding pillow and took it to hospital so that I could learn to tandem feed from the beginning.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were still exclusively breastfeed
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Although I wouldn't say it was easy- I think I was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't as difficult for me as I thought it might be. Of course, it definitely takes lots of perseverence and I think sometimes there can be factors beyond your control- but I feel fortunate that I was one of the people with an abundant milk suppl.y.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I am pleased that things worked out for us- especially when I consider things like how much we saved not having to buy formula.
6. Any other comments?
My twins are now over 16 months and I am still breastfeeding. They are only having one feed per day and they get the rest of their fluids out of sippy cup- I think I'm getting to the stage where I might consider weaning.
Cheers!
Miriam
I was hoping to breastfeed but kept an open mind about it as I wasn't sure how things would go. I was prepared to stick it out- but also aware that things may not work out as I had hoped. I was fortunate that I had breastfed my older son for over 12 months so I wasn't starting from scratch when learning to tandem feed.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
For the first 24 hours or so I breastfed Adam on his own but was unable to breastfeed Erin as she had an umbi-line in. As soon as I was able to breastfeed Erin I began tandem feeding. I had already purchased a twin feeding pillow and took it to hospital so that I could learn to tandem feed from the beginning.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
They were still exclusively breastfeed
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
Although I wouldn't say it was easy- I think I was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't as difficult for me as I thought it might be. Of course, it definitely takes lots of perseverence and I think sometimes there can be factors beyond your control- but I feel fortunate that I was one of the people with an abundant milk suppl.y.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
I am pleased that things worked out for us- especially when I consider things like how much we saved not having to buy formula.
6. Any other comments?
My twins are now over 16 months and I am still breastfeeding. They are only having one feed per day and they get the rest of their fluids out of sippy cup- I think I'm getting to the stage where I might consider weaning.
Cheers!
Miriam
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (Eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I had breastfeed my first son and I really enjoyed breastfeeding so I really wanted to give it my best shot with my boys.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
Ryan was immediately transferred to a childrens hospital due to health problems but I had Khain with me in the hospital. I breastfed Khain whilst in hospital. The childrens hospital wanted me to start expressing milk so after Khain's feed I was expressing - wasnt getting much, only about 20-50ml. Ryan was being tube fed breast milk and formula when there was none stored for him.
One really upsetting moment for me was when I was visiting Ryan by myself cause hubby was back at work and was coming up later. The lactation lady said c'mon lets get you to do a tandem feed. We went to a "private" room, there was no twin pillow, just lots of smaller cushions. She didnt help me at all, just said it gets easier, left, came back with someone, left the door open. It was the most akward and upsetting thing, I didnt know how to feed them both at the same time, Ryan slipped off and I couldnt get him back on. That was my first and last attempt at tandem feeding.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
At 6 weeks I was breastfeeding Khain but Ryan was being formula fed. We needed to keep track of his weight and he was on polyjoule as well, so we mixed it in with his formula.
At 3 months, I was formula feeding both boys. It was an upsetting decision but it was for the best. It made such a difference to my day. It was less stressful, I could easily feed them both at the same time and Khain seemed more settled during the night. (Also hubby could help out with feeds and I could have a sleep in)
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I knew it would be hard and it was. Its stressful and at times upsetting.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back I know i did the best thing for all of us. I have a friend who has a baby a few weeks older than my boys and seeing her breastfeed made me feel a bit sad, cause it is special. BUT changing to formula was the turning point for me, and made life less stressful and both me and the boys were happy little vegemites because of it.
6. Any other comments?
Dont feel back about using formula. In the end whatever works for you is the best solution regardless of what it is.
I had breastfeed my first son and I really enjoyed breastfeeding so I really wanted to give it my best shot with my boys.
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
Ryan was immediately transferred to a childrens hospital due to health problems but I had Khain with me in the hospital. I breastfed Khain whilst in hospital. The childrens hospital wanted me to start expressing milk so after Khain's feed I was expressing - wasnt getting much, only about 20-50ml. Ryan was being tube fed breast milk and formula when there was none stored for him.
One really upsetting moment for me was when I was visiting Ryan by myself cause hubby was back at work and was coming up later. The lactation lady said c'mon lets get you to do a tandem feed. We went to a "private" room, there was no twin pillow, just lots of smaller cushions. She didnt help me at all, just said it gets easier, left, came back with someone, left the door open. It was the most akward and upsetting thing, I didnt know how to feed them both at the same time, Ryan slipped off and I couldnt get him back on. That was my first and last attempt at tandem feeding.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
At 6 weeks I was breastfeeding Khain but Ryan was being formula fed. We needed to keep track of his weight and he was on polyjoule as well, so we mixed it in with his formula.
At 3 months, I was formula feeding both boys. It was an upsetting decision but it was for the best. It made such a difference to my day. It was less stressful, I could easily feed them both at the same time and Khain seemed more settled during the night. (Also hubby could help out with feeds and I could have a sleep in)
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I knew it would be hard and it was. Its stressful and at times upsetting.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
Looking back I know i did the best thing for all of us. I have a friend who has a baby a few weeks older than my boys and seeing her breastfeed made me feel a bit sad, cause it is special. BUT changing to formula was the turning point for me, and made life less stressful and both me and the boys were happy little vegemites because of it.
6. Any other comments?
Dont feel back about using formula. In the end whatever works for you is the best solution regardless of what it is.
Ryan and Khain
1. When I was pregnant I intended to breastfeed as long as possible. I researched as much as I could about b/f twins & went to a breastfeeding class at my hospital in preparation.
2. Jessica & Isabel were born at 37+1 weeks, but admitted to the SCN due to low birthweight and Isabel had breathing problems. In the beginning, fed EBM or formula via cup/syringe.
Then after 2 days started tandem b/f - feed for 1 hr, expressing 30 mins afterwards. The babies kept needing more and more formula as a comp feed because my milk supply couldn't keep up. I was exhausted, had bleeding nipples and 2 unhappy, hungry babies by day 5 who were not gaining weight. I made the tough decision that day to exclusively formula feed.
3. Fully formula fed at 6 weeks and 3 months.
4. No, bf was much harder than I had ever imagined. But bottle feeding was even better than I ever imagined because they have been able to be fed by other people and it took a lot of pressure off me.
5. I feel like I gave it my best shot and I am very happy with the decisions I made. Changing to formula lifted a huge weight off me and allowed DH to become my 2nd pair of b**bs (so to speak!), something we have both found very rewarding.
6. I had thought that I would be judged harshly for not b/f (or I would feel like I failed in some way), but I have never had one negative comment or 2nd thought about choosing to formula feed my girls. I think the choice to bf/bottle feed etc is a very personal one and one that you make with the best interests of your babies' and your own health in mind.
Lisa
Isabel & Jessica 1/3/05
2. Jessica & Isabel were born at 37+1 weeks, but admitted to the SCN due to low birthweight and Isabel had breathing problems. In the beginning, fed EBM or formula via cup/syringe.
Then after 2 days started tandem b/f - feed for 1 hr, expressing 30 mins afterwards. The babies kept needing more and more formula as a comp feed because my milk supply couldn't keep up. I was exhausted, had bleeding nipples and 2 unhappy, hungry babies by day 5 who were not gaining weight. I made the tough decision that day to exclusively formula feed.
3. Fully formula fed at 6 weeks and 3 months.
4. No, bf was much harder than I had ever imagined. But bottle feeding was even better than I ever imagined because they have been able to be fed by other people and it took a lot of pressure off me.
5. I feel like I gave it my best shot and I am very happy with the decisions I made. Changing to formula lifted a huge weight off me and allowed DH to become my 2nd pair of b**bs (so to speak!), something we have both found very rewarding.
6. I had thought that I would be judged harshly for not b/f (or I would feel like I failed in some way), but I have never had one negative comment or 2nd thought about choosing to formula feed my girls. I think the choice to bf/bottle feed etc is a very personal one and one that you make with the best interests of your babies' and your own health in mind.
Lisa
Isabel & Jessica 1/3/05
What a great idea for a thread!
This is something I've been thinking about a lot and I thank you all for sharing your experiences. Our twins are due in 11 days and I've borrowed a breastfeeding pillow from a friend and everytime I see it, the sheer size of it makes me panic a little. Hearing your stories have made me feel a lot more relaxed and confident that there are choices that can be made.
thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Elke
This is something I've been thinking about a lot and I thank you all for sharing your experiences. Our twins are due in 11 days and I've borrowed a breastfeeding pillow from a friend and everytime I see it, the sheer size of it makes me panic a little. Hearing your stories have made me feel a lot more relaxed and confident that there are choices that can be made.
thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Elke
Read this the other day have just found the time to reply with my answers.. Here goes
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
**Was happy to breast feed but if that didn't work it didn't bother me
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
** From the very first day I breast fed both of my boys together (twin/tandem feed)
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
**At about 6 weeks I was advised by the CHN to start supplement feeds with formula as they were not gaining weight. I started B/F 1 and Bottle/feeding the other then changing at the next feed but with 3 other young children and my husband returning to work I found this near impossible and very confussing and time consuming and soon just gave them both a bottle
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
**It was pretty much as I expected but didn't really think about how sore my nipples would get when you have two hungry babies feeding every feed and and you boobs just never getting a break IYKWIM
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
** Was so happy that I at least fed them for those first 6 weeks (As far as I am concerned as long as they are getting fed who cares where it comes from!!!!!)
6. Any other comments?
** The one thing I never really thought about was not being able to feed during the night in bed. With all my other children I had put them into bed with me and had just gone back off to sleep but with twins and tandem feeding this just wasn't possible you had to get up and sit in a chair for every feed LOL Thank goodness we dropped that early morning feed really quick
Wems
DD#1 5
DS#1 4
DD#2 2
DS's#2&3 11 months
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
**Was happy to breast feed but if that didn't work it didn't bother me
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
** From the very first day I breast fed both of my boys together (twin/tandem feed)
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
**At about 6 weeks I was advised by the CHN to start supplement feeds with formula as they were not gaining weight. I started B/F 1 and Bottle/feeding the other then changing at the next feed but with 3 other young children and my husband returning to work I found this near impossible and very confussing and time consuming and soon just gave them both a bottle
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
**It was pretty much as I expected but didn't really think about how sore my nipples would get when you have two hungry babies feeding every feed and and you boobs just never getting a break IYKWIM
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
** Was so happy that I at least fed them for those first 6 weeks (As far as I am concerned as long as they are getting fed who cares where it comes from!!!!!)
6. Any other comments?
** The one thing I never really thought about was not being able to feed during the night in bed. With all my other children I had put them into bed with me and had just gone back off to sleep but with twins and tandem feeding this just wasn't possible you had to get up and sit in a chair for every feed LOL Thank goodness we dropped that early morning feed really quick
Wems
DD#1 5
DS#1 4
DD#2 2
DS's#2&3 11 months
Well we finally got our isdn connected and I thought what better way to celebrate my first post in AGES than to reply to this thread!!! So here goes!
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I was very determined to breastfeed...it's something that I've always felt very strongly about and still do, so while nothing in my pregnancy went to plan (starting with our OB telling us it was twins!) I was determined to give breastfeeding my best shot and then some!
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My girls were born 11 weeks early so their first milk feeds were EBM via an NG tube. They had a lot of trouble learning to breathe on their own and had no interest in sucking for a looong time so I expressed religiously every 3 hours starting three hours after my c-section.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
We had lots of up and downs with feeding - infact mroe downs than ups. My girls had no interest in sucking for a long time so it was very hard to establish any kind of sucking feeds and at six weeks old they were still being tube fed. I have 'disabled nipples' (flat/inverted nipples) so we ended up using nipple sheilds and finally got them tandem feeding before they came home from hospital at 10 weeks old.
They came home on alternate breast and EBM feeds and we worked up to fully breastfeeding very slowly. They also had severe reflux which took a long time to get under control and caused numerous bouts of breast refusal and weight loss and lack of growth in general. But I became VERY close to my mean geen milking machine and expressed to comp or bottle feed them when things were tough.
We did end up comping on fortified EBM when they were were loosing weight and sometimes of formula when I couldn't keep up with demand for EBM. At 6 months they were right in the middle of major reflux and breast refusal but we got through it and at almost 2 years old they are still breastfed.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I knew breastfeeding would possibly not be easy with my disabled nipples but I hadn't planned on having children who were so uninterested in food! I hate hate hate my nipple sheilds they are a pain in the bum but atleast they left me breastfeed. So it was/is hard at times but I feel it is well worth the effort we have all put in.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
This is one thing in my life I am very proud of.
6. Any other comments?
Nope just enjoy your babies no matter what or how they are fed!
Kate
We are moving house! Yipee!!
1. When you (or your partner) were pregnant, did you have a plan/wish about how you wanted to feed your babies? (eg fully breastfeed, fully formula feed, BF and comp with formula, no plans)
I was very determined to breastfeed...it's something that I've always felt very strongly about and still do, so while nothing in my pregnancy went to plan (starting with our OB telling us it was twins!) I was determined to give breastfeeding my best shot and then some!
2. After the babies were born, how did you feed them in the beginning?
My girls were born 11 weeks early so their first milk feeds were EBM via an NG tube. They had a lot of trouble learning to breathe on their own and had no interest in sucking for a looong time so I expressed religiously every 3 hours starting three hours after my c-section.
3. How were you feeding the babies at 6 weeks? 3 months?
We had lots of up and downs with feeding - infact mroe downs than ups. My girls had no interest in sucking for a long time so it was very hard to establish any kind of sucking feeds and at six weeks old they were still being tube fed. I have 'disabled nipples' (flat/inverted nipples) so we ended up using nipple sheilds and finally got them tandem feeding before they came home from hospital at 10 weeks old.
They came home on alternate breast and EBM feeds and we worked up to fully breastfeeding very slowly. They also had severe reflux which took a long time to get under control and caused numerous bouts of breast refusal and weight loss and lack of growth in general. But I became VERY close to my mean geen milking machine and expressed to comp or bottle feed them when things were tough.
We did end up comping on fortified EBM when they were were loosing weight and sometimes of formula when I couldn't keep up with demand for EBM. At 6 months they were right in the middle of major reflux and breast refusal but we got through it and at almost 2 years old they are still breastfed.
4. Was the experience of feeding multiples what you expected before they were born?
I knew breastfeeding would possibly not be easy with my disabled nipples but I hadn't planned on having children who were so uninterested in food! I hate hate hate my nipple sheilds they are a pain in the bum but atleast they left me breastfeed. So it was/is hard at times but I feel it is well worth the effort we have all put in.
5. Looking back, how do you feel about the way you fed your babies?
This is one thing in my life I am very proud of.
6. Any other comments?
Nope just enjoy your babies no matter what or how they are fed!
Kate
We are moving house! Yipee!!
Just writing to say thanks! It is great to read about otehr mums experiences especially as I usually hear 'I hope you actually perservere with breastfeeding, not like most mothers today' or 'There is no possible way to feed twins!'.
So thankyou
Cat & Nath
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So thankyou
Cat & Nath
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