I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. I am 14 weeks pregnant with twins and in the last few days one twins membrane has ruptured. The other one seems fine but the doctors are all suggesting termination of the whole pregnancy due to risk of infection from the broken waters. No other solutions have been offered. It's our risk we take if we decide to continue. Have been advised that there is a risk of infection to other healthy baby and one or both could be delivered early if an infection occurs and then other concerns then arise for the healthy baby. We have also been warned that baby with broken membrane is expected to pass however there is a very small chance it could be born with abnormalities, deformaties etc..and surive. Part of me feels this other baby inside still growing strong. I wonder sometimes if the doctors are advising what is the least amount of risk for them. I am told that I am young and healthy and to wipe the slate clean and start again???? How? Has anyone ever heard or had a similar experience? Is this pregnancy a lost cause? Or is there a chance of one healthy baby? We have 1 week to deicide what to do in regards to having a D&C otherwise I will have to do a vaginal labour with the twins after that time to remove. This feels like a nightmare.

Gabrielle - I can offer no advice at all, I just had to reply and send you a massive hug and I hope you can find the information you need to make the right decision. What a horrible decision to have to make. Is there anyone you can obtain a second opinion from? It sounds a little as though they've been rather matter-of-fact with you and you need more information so you know what to do.

Am thinking of you.

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We are seeing a specialist in hisgh risk pregnancy today to get another opinion. Our doc has spoken to about four others in town and most have offered the same outcome.
All doctors have said once the membrane breaks it's like an open wound and can easily be infected. No one will guarantee anything though it may or may not happen. I am frightened of having to labour these babies out and frightened or potential risks. But I can still feel my large bump and it's hard when you know there is still one healthy one.

Gabrielle - also sorry not to be able to offer any advice, but to let you know that I am thinking of you also......Hoping your appointment goes well today. I cant begin to imagine - but we are here for you! I am so sorry......sending you hugs!

Haylie & Phil,Ebony(15),Hayden Phillip & Brooklen Lily 21st March 05

[color=Teal]Gabrielle, I have no advice to offer, but I just wanted to wish you all the best. I hope you can have some more light shed on the subject, and hopefully there can be a good outcome for you.

Gabrielle, I wish I could give you some positive advice on this hard time for you but unfortunataly I can only offer my thoughts. I hope your apt. went well today and everything works out so you can make the right decision for you. Sending extra BIG hugs

Gabrielle, sorry to hear about your twins. I cannot imagine what you are going through and would just like to wish you the best. I hope a miracle happens for you and your bubs.

So sorry to hear that you're going through this. I'm glad you're getting an opinion from someone who really knows the area. Did you lose all the fluid? I've heard that occasionally, small breaks can heal with continuation of the pregnancy.

Your age has nothing at all to do with it- I'm sorry you were told you could just "start again"- it's never that simple.

Thinking of you all.

xxx

Hi everyone, Just thought I would update on more details from specialist. We saw a high risk pregnancy specialist and discussed options. Both babies are still alive but one has still no fluid around it at all. The risk is with infection bringing on a labour requiring babies to come out. The concern for the doctors is if they are both born around the mid 20 week mark cause there are all the related issues with premies. They expect that an infection can occur within 3-4 weeks of the waters breaking. They have advised to keep the baby with the rupture alive inside as long as possible as it may assist in creation of antibodies to protect from infection. Howver once it is born it is expected to die or survive with severe issues and handicaps. Antibiotics are not recommended at this point cause as both babies are alive and creating these antibodies and they dont want interference of antibiotics, unless infection occurs. We have been given a 5% chance or the hole reparing. A 20-30% chance of one healthy baby. Either way we have to decide next week what to do otherwise I have to labour the babies out vaginally to terminate which will be very traumatic. Its hard to do as you see two healthy babies however the other issue is how much strength you have to handle the situation if things don't go as expected. So confused there is just risk everywhere. There is just no other cases to refer to in this matter, cause the membrane rupture is the main issue and infection or early labour risk. At least talking with a specialist rather than just a ob/gyn has answered most questions. Although we have been offered some hope with this there are just risks everywhere. The specialist suggested to wait and see what happens up to 19 weeks but need to be able to handle the vaginal termination/labour.
Will keep all posted on progress. Thanks for your kind thoughts and wishes, its appreciated during these times when you feel lost and confused with the world.

gabrielle-thinking of you and your partner-i cannot begin to imagine how difficult it must be to have to make the decisions you have to make.

take care

Caz xxxxx

Gabrielle - Will be thinking of you...I am sure that no words I can muster will be of much assistance to you.
I am very sorry that you are going through this and hope that 5% chance will repair the hole in the membrane.
Thinking of you and sending you hugs!!

Haylie & Phil,Ebony(15),Hayden Phillip & Brooklen Lily 21st March 05

Gabrielle, Just wishing you all the well wishes in the world and hoping for a miracle for you now. You just never know.

Take care

Gabrielle

So sorry to hear about your situation. It's such a big decision you have to make. Are you able to schedule a session with a counsellor/psychologist to talk it through, before you decide what to do? I have done this a couple of times with big decisions and found it really helpful. Your posts suggest you are an intelligent, thorough person.

Take exptra special care of yourself. Thinking of you and sending positive thougths your way.