Do any of you sometimes feel like you are counting down the seconds until it is bed time for your kids?

I really had that tonight, I had one of those days that I just really didn't feel like being a Mum. DH has gone off to the footy (go the Power), and I thought that if 1 of them even jumped within 5 cm of me I was going to lose the plot.

I love my little bunnies to the moon and back, but, really, today *I* just wanted to be the one going to the footy!!

My DH works long hours for one weeks of the month, and also travels a bit. I get so tired sometimes, of holding fort by myself, worry about who is eating what, where we're at the with toilet thing, when is the right time for beds, are the happy, are the watching too much TV ... blah blah blah.

Just a general winge... sorry.

While I'm at it, a new term of play group and kindergym have just started, and for some reason we are going through at the questions at the moment. "Are they twins?" "Are the identical?" "Do twins run in the family?", It really is wearing me out. Perhaps now that the girls are in bed, I should go off and have a glass of wine.

Maybe this should go in the venting section - doh!

Cheers,


Kate
Alicia and Sophie 2/12/02

Well I think you sound completely normal... there are many a day when i'd gladly have a buy one get one free sale. The girls are so gorgeous you cant help but love them to bits but that doesn't mean they dont wear you out..
My partner also works really long hours but hec so do I. I just dont get paid. I gleefully look forward to that magic 7pm each night.... But there are times if they even attempt to climb on me one more time i feel like i'll explode...
Thankfully for us all tommorrow is a new day....



Rebecca 31
Nathan 28
Fraternal twin girls Amber & Olivia 08/05/03

Thanks for taking the time to reply Rebecca, it is nice to hear that others are in the same boat! - Your girls are soo cute, hope they had a great birthday!

Cheers

Kate
Alicia and Sophie 2/12/02

I have those days sometimes when I hope at of bed and I just think I really don't want to be a mum today!!!!
You know one of those days that had I been going to a paid out of the home job I would have called in sick and went to the shops and then went out with some girlfriends and had lunch and then slept in the afternoon and went out for dinner and had a few drinks and a few more and a few more OK you get the picture
It just doesn't work like that anymore we just have to keep going all though on those sort of days the bare neccesities get done around here.
Thank goodness these days don't come around very often

I love my kids heaps but some days I just need to not worry about them and just vege out Gee can't someone else wipe a nose or get a drink

Hope tommorrow is better for you!!!!!!

((((((hugs))))))))


Wems
DD 31/05/00
DS 01/08/01
DD 07/11/02
DS 27/09/04
DS 27/09/04
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Oh girls, I'm up for a vent too!! Both my girls have NASTY colds this week - coughing and spluttering and covered in snot, not to mention off their food and tired and cranky and clingy both at the same time. I normally work 2 days a week but had to miss a day because they weren't well enough for day care yesterday. To add to it all, the car has been at the panel beaters all week and its been raining so I have been virtually trapped in the house. We managed a quick walk to the library (with pockets full of tissues) and a bit of time in the garden but that's it and I am going SITR CRAZY!

This afternoon the girls seemed a bit better and the weather was good, so to save our sanity DH & I decided to drop everything and take them for a nice walk to the pub! We were having a lovely time sitting in the beer garden and the girls were on their best behaviour for the first time this week. They were happily wandering around looking at the plants in the garden (about 10 feet away) and not bothering anyone when the pub manager came over and told us they had to sit at the table with us and weren't allowed to walk around!!!! Now I can understand if they were running around and annoying people or if the pub was busy but it was 3.30 on a winter afternoon in a suburban pub for Pete's sake! We were so shocked we just got up and left (via the bottle shop down the road - not the one at the pub!) I didn't get really mad until I was halfway down the street. DH practically had to restrain me from running back to the pub and decking the guy. Practically my first trip out of the house in a week and I am treated like a leper.

Some days I feel just like Kim (from Kath & Kim): "Epany Rae stop whining now, its Mummy's turn!"

On a positive note, the girls ate ALL their dinner and had 2 helpings of dessert, had a bath and were in bed by 7 with no complaints - and we opened that bottle of wine and ordered take away!

Looking forward to a better day tomorrow... Glad that's out of my system, thanks.

Nicolie

DDs Paige & Hannah (23/09/03)

This message was edited by nicolie on Sunday, 22 May 2005 @ 12:14 AM

Oh I had one of those days on Monday last week ... well actually I generally have one of those days at least once a week LOL

I'd had enough of the kids. I was sick of wiping noses, getting drinks, getting food, getting jumped on, yelled at, laughed at ... you name it I didn't want it. By the time they went to bed, the bottle of wine came out and I think I drank the whole bottle. LOL - had the best night sleep ever, even if it was a short one.

I love my cheeky monkeys like there's no tomorrow, but there are some days where I wish I'd thought twice before having them (only a thought mind you ). DH works out at the mines so he's only home on w/ends - so it's just me to hold down the fort. It gets really, really hard some weeks and I end up tearing my hair out at some stage or another. Then he comes home and even though he rests for those 2 days, at least I have another adult to talk to and get reassuring hugs from, and he takes over with the kids. aaahhhh for him to be home all the time.

Thanks for starting this one - now I feel better.

my three angels
Ryan 5.11, Nicole & Kyle 4

Good to hear I am normal too

My dh teases me about that BEGA cheese ad on tv at the moment (about the mum missing her little boy at school and cutting the smiley face out of his sandwich) saying "you were never like that when the girls started school".

Nope.......I love 'my' time.

Amanda
Georgia and Kelsey 26.3.99
Piper 1.7.04

[color=Teal]Oh, I can definitely relate!! We've all had awful colds for 2 weeks now, and the snotty noses are relentless (mine included!)!!!! I don't know if it's because I've been unwell or not, but I've been feeling very resentful towards DH. It annoys the hell out of me that (although he's a fabulous father) he can just take off at the drop of a hat and go wherever he wants, whenever he wants. I don't have that luxury, and I miss that!!

I adore our boys and wouldn't change anything for the world, but I would love to be able to just walk out the front door sometimes and not have to answer to anyone!!

OK, I think I'm done now! ;p

Vanessa

I am the same but after my dinner and a few minutes to relax - I wish I could go and scoop them up and cuddle them on the couch. Especially if I am reflecting on my day and feel like I have been "Grumpy Bum Mum"!

Oh Kate, I soooo hear you. I think you would be abnormal if you didn't feel that way! Gosh, I know I live for the time my DH gets home from work! Gives me a chance to have some time to myself, and try and get some sanity back. It's damn hard work being a mum to multiples. Isn't it great that we can come in here and vent to each other and not be judged for what we say.

Yay! I'm normal too. My two are relentless and obsessed with 'mummy'. Hang on, that is normal right?

I have to say though, since I started working two days a week my 'leave me alone' episodes have lessened. They still happen, just not as bad. Maybe it's physically seeing the results of the work I've done for those two days, or just the chance to think of something not 'mummy' related. I don't know.

Anyway, sounds like you need a break. I hope you get it soon.

Ana.

Ah, it's good to know we're not alone! I'm at work today after 3 days of one sick toddler and one energetic one and lots of rain - not a good combo. I really look forward to my 4 days at work - sometimes I feel guilty that I don't feel guilty!!! LOL - I think we all need a break from our "darlings" - some more than others.

Be kind to yourselves - we're all doing a good job.

Maree

Eleanor 1/8/03
Harriet 1/8/03

(((hugs))) to all of you! I also want to reassure you that we are all doing a wonderful job and looking after multiples is hard work at all ages/stages and we all need a break at some stage....

I had DH home for the first 6 weeks with me and it was a godsend. I got Hayden and Brooklen into enough of a routine to feel sane on my own. Phil is extremly unselfish and walks in the door after 10 hours at work and is so excited to help and also gives me a "your time" break in the evening where I can take an hour to myself to do whatever really (usually EB time LOL)

My parents have just moved 600 km's away and they were only gone 1 day and we drove to see them LMAO, we had to go there anywhere but I missed them so much! We went to the footy yesterday and Mum and Dad looked after Brooklen and Hayden for us - it was a long game of footy for me! I cried all the way to the game and missed them like crazy - my whole body ached and I had to refrain from ringing mum every quarter. I got home to freshly bathed, fed, happy babies and Mum telling me she doesnt know how us multiple mums do it! She said we all deserve a medal!!!!!

After recently visiting a wonderful Mum of twins - it is true that only other multiple mums & dads understand!! I hope your day got a little better Kate dont feel bad for venting here - thats what this is for...



Haylie & Phillip
DSD ~ Ebony
Hayden Phillip ~ 21.3.2005
Brooklen Lily ~ 21.3.2005
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Thankyou thankyou thankyou from the bottom of my heart girls for sharing these stories! I've been feeling quite down with motherhood lately and knowing I am not alone in struggling through multiple motherhood is like having a big weight lifted from my shoulders.
I am sure much of my problem is that I am just constantly tired, but have also had DD1 home from school sick for 3 days of last week. Took her to Dr on Saturday and she is doing much better and back at school today...but now Joe has got the mother of all colds (we suspected on Saturday he was on his way down with it so he and Scarlett had to skip their vaccinations) I am just counting the hours down until Scarlett gets it too!
On the plus side DH and I left the kids with my Mum yesterday for a few hours and went to see Star Wars so that was nice and a good break to re-charge me for the snotty week ahead!
Anyhow best go look after my poor wee BunnyBoy, he doesn't want his sister anywhere near him and all she wants to do his mother him..bad combo!

Thanks again girls, you are all wonderful.

Jo

Aaaah! all I can really add is "I hear you!"

loved the comment about the two for one sale! he he.

Thanks for all the support guys, knew you would understand!

Have had today at work, back there again tomorrow - the "love bank" for the girls is in the meantime making some more deposits IYKWIM

Katemitch - nice to see that you are still "lurking" - hope Ella and Grace are going well.

Big Group Hug and a "GO MUMS" to us all.

Cheers

Kate
Alicia and Sophie 2/12/02

Have those days alot lately

My DH is way overseas 3 weeks of every month. Yes thats right only home for about a week if I'm lucky. Has been that way since the twins were 4 months old and they will be one this Thursday. He will miss their actual birthday but be home for the party on Sunday before he flies out again for 6 weeks this time. I get so overwhelmed being the sole carer for the four kids that some days I dont want ot get out of bed. I become so regemented with my routine that its almost obsessive, but its the only way I can cope. I still manage to do the school and kinder run, canteen duty, kinder duty, help in the classroom swimming lessons for all four, soccer and footy as well. I get a little frustrated at my frineds that only have one or two kids of different ages that complain and do nothing.

Thanks for starting this vent. I really needed it today.

Dolph

Mum to
DS Bailey 5
DS Jesse 3
DD/DS Summer & Taylor 26.5.04

Step-Mum to Elodie & Brooke