Hi everyone.
I am almost 35 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins and am so scared. Not because of my having twins to care for but actually giving birth.
I will know next week if i am having a normal birth or a ceasar which i am ok with either but i think my problem is i am scared of dying giving birth.
I know this may sound weird to most but i can't help thinking about it.
Another reason i guess is we havn't been to antenatal classes due to the hospital not allowing us to change our nights before i had even paid for them(work committments and not being able to attend the classes)
Other thoughts have been "how will i know when i am in labour" although something tells me i will know when that is happening.
I have never been into hospital before or had any anesthetic so i guess this is all playing on my mind.
Has anyone else felt like this? How did you keep sane?
Any suggestions or comments greatly appreciated.


Jo
TTC#1 sept 02
IUI#1 BFN
IUI#2 BFN
ICSI#1 SEPT Cancelled(not enough follies)
IUI #3 BFP!!!!

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Just think about the joy you will have of seeing your babies for the first time. Keep thinking of that. Stay calm and relaxed it is the best thing for your babies. If you get worried or scared go and sit in their room and hold some of their clothes, look around and think of them being in their room very soon and the excitement of having them will out weigh anything else you are thinking.

In regards to delivery, they have to come out one way or another and we cant change that. I had an induction at 37 weeks so did not go into labour by myself so do know know what that is like. I was in labour with a epidural for 5 and a half hours before I was taken to section. They will keep a very close eye on you and each baby so that you nor your babies gets stressed out.

I just kept thinking about seeing them and wondering what they would look like and that kept me going (seeing them is the most perfect thing you will ever experience).

I didnt get much out of antenatal classes, was pretty much what I had read in books and on the internet. Just try and read what you can so you know what is going on. Also have in mind what you want in the way of drugs or if you just want to go straight to section.

Be strong and keep smiling with the thought that in a very short period of time (only days) you will see the most precious things you have ever seen and everything will be worth it.

Good luck and dont worry it will be okay. Send me an email if you have any questions or want any other details.

Soon you will be one of us lucky few who get to experience the joy of being a Mother of Twins.

Ali

Oh Jo you poor darling. I'm sure most of us know how you feel. I think everyone's pretty scared first time around whether its one or two or more. I was just starting to become truly terrified when my labour started naturally at 35 wks so I didn't have too much time to dwell on it.

Our hospital had a pre-admission interview with a midwife at 34-35 weeks. Maybe that would be a good opportunity to talk about anything you're really concerned about? They would probably sit down with you even if they don't have a formal pre-admission process in place. They could help you with things like when to come in to hospital etc.

For me, my waters broke before any contractions started so I knew what it was. Actually it took a few minutes - it was 3.30am and I rolled over in bed and thought 'Nic you Nanna, you've pee'ed yourself!'. Only 5 or so hours of labour (the easy part) before the epidural went in and I had a C/S (twin 2 was transverse) so it wasn't difficult at all.

Everyone was fantastic - especially the anaesthetist, my OB and the paediatrician (oh, just everyone!) and talk about reward for effort, I got the two most precious little angels you've ever laid eyes on. sniffOh dear, I've had a glass of wine and I'm about to get all weepy just thinking about it!

I won't say good luck because you will be fine and we'll all be here to cheer you on.

Feel free to PM if you need a cheerleader.

Nicolie

DDs Paige & Hannah (23/09/03)

PS Ali - your 2 share my birthday, I bet they're wonderful kids!

This message was edited by nicolie on Wednesday, 4 May 2005 @ 9:37 PM

Congratulations...you are normal!!! It's only natural to have all these q's. I was really quite relaxed about my first baby...but absolutely terrified with my twins. Even though I had done it before, and all went well it still plays on your mind. And although they came early, everything turned out just fine!

I can't believe your hospital couldn't help you out with your classes, especially first time mum with twins!!! Have you talked to anyone at MBA, they might have someone who can go through things with you. It might be worth asking.

Of course there are many different experiences here, so ask as many questions as you like, and you are sure to find someone who may help you!

Stay calm and relaxed, visualise yourself holding two beautiful bundles and...you will be fine!

Double hugs from Sharyn
Mum to Meg14/4/99
Hannah & Josie 22/3/04 (33 wks)
DH David



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Hi Jo,

I can completely understand why you would be feeling so scared..you are pg with twins and don't seem to have the info that you need.
Here is what I would highly suggest...get in contact with your hospital and find out if there is anyone who could take you through your options.
For the life of me I can't recall the name of the position I am thinking of but our local hospital had a great lady whose job it was to help expectant parents who missed classes, needed extra information, she conducted maternity ward tours, needed extra help after baby was born etc. If you have one of these people at your hospital set up a time to go and talk with them.
Also as someone else suggested ring your local multiple birth association and find out if there is someone who can help answer all your questions. I know our SA MBA has a couple of members who call all the new mums to see how they are coping and if there is anything they need help with, they can also put you in touch with hospital co-ordinators in your area.
Talk to your Ob too about your pain relief options and any other fears you have, just arm yourself with knowledge and everything seems a little less scary!

All the best!

Jo

Thankyou ladies for your replies.
It sure helps having input from a multiple birth mum.
Thanks again





Jo
TTC#1 sept 02
IUI#1 BFN
IUI#2 BFN
ICSI#1 SEPT Cancelled(not enough follies)
IUI #3 BFP!!!!

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