I am needing some feedback on how you have all handled being one person and having two babies! Let me explain,
my girls are 3, and 20 month old twins. I have been going well in all aspects but lately feel that it is getting hard again. I am finding the whole having two thing hard because i soooo want to give them the experiences with mummy eg. my undivided attention etc, but can't because i always have the other one or two wanting that time too. I feel the twins are missing out on that one on one time. i use to love having my eldest and just being able to cuddle her - no interruptions or jealousies, when she wanted it - now i feel if i cuddle one all three want the same and so while we do the group cuddle thing do you all think they are missing out?? Maybe i am being silly - maybe seeing mummy cuddle all at once is just as good as getting some one on one time? What do you all think? Do you feel your twins are missing out because there is always competition?
Not that i would swap all the good bits for anything =- just feeling i could somehow do things better to satisy them all - any tips would be grateful.

My girls have just turned 2 & i occasionally wonder if they miss out on that time alone w/ me. however the way we have gotten around it was to take walks w one girl & spend time w/ her while the other stayed home w/ DP. Now that they are a little older they both want it all NOW & no sharing allowed. It seems the kid who is crying the loudest, longest etc gets to go out w/ me to give everyone else a break & it's unbelievable how well behaved she is & settles down almost immediately. They do take it in turns -its not one girl more then the other who gets some special time alone w/ mum. group hugs work fine as long as everyone feels they're getting the same attention as the next kid & that can be obvious when none of them are crying!!

Juggling is a fine art... We do give the girls seperate time on the odd occasion.. They've been together since conception I dont really think they have any comprehension of not having their twin there. Same as an only child doesn't understand what it's like to always be with someone...

We all do the best we can and hope the bubs appreciate it....

Cheers Rebecca
Me 31
DP 28
Amber and Olivia 08/05/03

thanks for the replies. I guess we all have days when we think what it would be like on the other side of the fence. I think the girls are just going through another clingy stage at the moment and that no amount of attention is enough... I do love having twins and do realize how special and what a wonderful gift all of my kids are.. I guess sometimes it is nice to know others are in the same boat..
Thanks again


Patria
Mum to
Kaitlyn 05/01/02
April and Jasmin 06/08/03 (born at 32weeks)