Hi all,

Just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation.

We named DD1 Poppy - we were both mad about the name and had only one girls name picked out so were pretty stoked she turned out to be a girl!!

We're now super happy to be welcoming another girl, but all the names we come up we're not so excited about like we were with DD1. I feel sad that I'll be giving DD2 a name that I'm not crazy about but we've so far failed to find that second WOW name that we love

Anyone else been in this situation before.... did the name grow on you as your little one grew?

No.... but I woudn't go for a name I don't love!! I'm sure one will 'pop'. Buy the paper and look at birth announcements for ideas!

I will be watching this thread with interest, because I am in a similar boat, OP.

I have girls' names sorted, so if this baby is a girl I am confident I will love her name as much as I love DD's.

I cannot think of a single boys' name (that DH will agree to) that I love. I am positive this baby will be a boy and I will have to name him something that doesn't give me those thrills you feel when a name is "right"

I did for our third son. His name is Maximus and he goes by Max. Not even on my list. But it was the only name that fit him. In fact of all my kids he probably suits his name the most. I still wouldn't say his name is one of my favourite names though.

My only daughter is Freya and I think I would have had similar feelings as you to name another girl because I love her name so much.

Going through this right now. DH is very keen on Jack if bumpy is a boy, but I'm totally meh about it. I hope something better presents itself between now and then.

Neither name we picked said 'WOW' to us. We considered them, mulled them over, 'lived' with them for a bit, and then saw how we ended up feeling about them.

I think it was worth doing, because the name we thought we'd go with for DD#2 we went off totally, and found another we ended up loving more.

I don't think it's a matter of 'settling', but more getting used to the idea of that being the name you use. You can sort of decide that that is what you'll use, and see how you feel after a few weeks. It will either grow on you and you'll find yourself liking/loving the name, or you'll go off it and realise it's not the right one to use.

I think living with the expectation that a name is going to 'pop' or wow you can just set yourself up for a disappointment of a sort. You end up convincing yourself that you have settled on a name and potentially never really like it as much as you may have if you'd just tried it out before the baby was born and grown to love it.

I also think continually searching for one that jumps out at you runs the risk of leaving the decision too late, where you do end up settling on a name, one you've not really 'tested' so to speak, one that may be the one you actually would have gone off and disliked had you tried it out earlier.

Rambly waffles sorry lol. I'm tired as per usual.

Robbieeeeeeeeee, you have to tell me the girls name you're using! Have you mentioned it on the boards? I haven't seen it if you have. And I demand you use Thaddeus for a boys name (lol SOMEONE has to use it for me! )

Neither of you love a name? Poppy is great and so are lots of others. Try Saffron, Soleil, Tessa, Mimi, Miette, Clara, Nina... for Poppy's little sister. Or revisit all the names you've considered with fresh eyes and ears. Or look at the sister names of girls/women called Poppy and see what comes up.

Cobble together a brand new list and wait and see what happens, keeping ears and eyes open all the time to collect great names that pass by. Keep the ones that go with Poppy!

LOL Amanda DH has said a resounding NO to Thaddeus. He is silly though, because he has also vetoed Theodore and Nathaniel which are two of the best names ever. How on earth did I fall in love with a man who possesses such taste

My favourite girls' name is Georgette. DH prefers Violet, and while I think Violet is definitely not as good as Georgette, I'd be happy with either (my paternal grandmother was Violet, so it would be lovely to be able to name my daughter after her )

At this stage my child won't even have a name. DH and I literally despise each others name choices. I am the one that is more likely going to have to compromise though, because DH is as stubborn as an ox.

When we found out I was having a boy with my first pregnancy my first thought was but I don't like any boys names. My husband loved the name Joe(it was his grandfathers name). But I wasn't overly took by it. It started growing on me then I watched an episode of ER where they named the baby Joe and I took it as I sign (sad I know). By the time he was born I loved the name we added Ernie as his middle name (my grandfathers name). I couldn't imagine him being called anything else now. And as a bonus when we had a girl my husband had to let me have my dream name Hope which he really didn't like but the same as me throughout the pregnancy he grew to love it. Now he proudly tells people her name and the special meaning behind it (my name means hope and it was my mum's maiden name). Good luck deciding on a name is so hard when nothing grabs you.

Wait 'til you're in labour, sunnycat - their resolve tends to weaken PMSL

I was in the same boat before having DS. DH and I ended up with 3 or 4 girls' names we both really liked, but they were not absolute favourites for either of us. If we'd had another girl I wouldn't have loved her name anywhere near as much as I love Claudia's.

Violet is my favourite name and hope I one day get to use it!

LOL! I hope so!

Lol, he can't be as bad as DH's suggestion of 'Flute' for DD#1 though surely?

I'm on your side with Georgette, such a gorgeous name and fantastic pairing for Susannah!

/sulk No one's ever going to use Thaddeus. Damn you all!

DS1's name was Samuel (we call him Sammy or Sam) from day dot so never an issue.

With DS2 we couldn't agree on one name (I really loved Joel but DH said it would be naming him after Joel Bowden a richmond afl player as I am a tigers fan) and we both liked William (but very common family name which his brother and nephew have). We didn't really have anything even a couple of hours after he was born.

I tried the sympathy Joel post brith, didn't work and as a result we have a Lachlan (we call him Lachie or Lou Lou). Still not my favourite name in the world but it was a name we both had no real issues with and I can't really imagine him being anything else now.

Middle names too easy Michael for DS1 and Terence for DS2 (their grandfather's names).

Good Luck OP

DS2 was definitely harder to name than DS1, but we just extended the search wider. Scanned movie credits, trawled back through favourite books and considered family names, etc.

Keep looking, you'll find 'the one'.

I'm in a bit of a situation like this, DH has all his life had his heart set on a boys name that has very special sentimental meaning to him, and whilst it's not a name I love I don't hate it either (very traditional type name) but it has very different connotations for me including being the name of my most serious boyfriend preDH.

I know DH will be super disappointed if I don't agree to the name (I actually believe that he will be quite saddened if I don't agree) and therefore I am starting to think that I might just have to live with the name as his connection to it is much stronger than mine (as in I am starting to see that his reasons for wanting it are probably more valid than my reasons for not). That being said I will be pushing for a middle name I want that has family connection for me that I know he isn't overly keen on... So it's about compromise!

bringon the 20w gender scan so we can make some decisions!

I am a 100% ditto to Robbie's situation. Its the boys names

I have names that I realy like, but DH so far will not be swayed. His names are fine names but one we simply cannot use (although he refuses to accept my reasons why) and the other just doesn't do it for me.

We have now resorted to asking DD her opinion - she didn't like anything either of us offered up, but thought Collistair was a great name, which I felt was very close to Alasdair and claimed victory.

This just goes to show how desparate I am getting!!

Amanda you should get yourself a pet, then you can use Thaddeus and die happy!

Lol it's just not the same though.

We really struggled to find a name we loved for DD3. We did want a name we loved just as much as our other girls names but it seemed all the good names were taken, or it didn't fit with the other children's names/surname.

DD came early at 37 weeks and we had no name. It took 6 days to name her because we couldn't find the 'one' and we didn't think it was fair on DD to pick just anything because she was here.

We did find a name we loved, but for a few months I kept questing if we got it right. I don't want anymore girls because I don't think go though picking another girls name! LOL

We love DD's name just as much as our other names and it's perfect for her. You will find the right name.

Flute?

You should get a pet that will live for a really long time, like a turtle or a cockatoo, and name it Thaddeus. I think there is something really awesome about the idea of a cockatoo named Thaddeus.

I think I would have been in your position had my 2nd child been a girl. I just couldn't find a name I loved as much as DD's (Rose). We had a couple of names we agreed on but they really were compromises.

Thank goodness we had a boy and could use the boy's name we loved!

By the way I love the name Violet too, but it's too matchy matchy with Rose so it was out for us