So I LOVE the girls name "Ruby"

I have loved it since I was 17 and 1st started working in childcare where a little angel had this name.

10 years later I still adore this name, and have always said if I had a little girl she would be Ruby. I had a DS in 2009, so the name was not used. I am now pregnant with twins, and think the chance of one of them being a girl is kind of high.

So my question is would you still use it even though in the last 10 years it has become so popular? Or find another ?

I would if I had loved it for that long.
It's a lovely name.

But I understand where your coming from as it has become so popular. There are 2 in my mothers group.

EFS

Hmm. I wouldn't care if it was a classic name, like Katharine or Elizabeth, but I'd care more if it was an unusual name that suddenly shot into the limelight.

Where Ruby falls on that, since it is fairly old-fashioned in its way? I'm not sure.

I like Ivy, though, and Ivy is becoming more popular. I'm not likely to stop liking it just because its becoming more common.

Maybe.
If I had known more than two, I don't think I would. But, you could always give it for a middle name.

Personally, I would find another. It's your opinion that matters though...

I have a common name (well, the first half of it, it's actually hyphenated) and found it very annoying throughout school. I think semi unique without being weird would have been perfection.

PS Middle name is an excellent idea!

I did. 9 years ago I named my first daughter Emily, as I had planned since I was about 10 yrs old At the time it had been Top 3 for about 10 years running.

No regrets at all.

I love the name as well And DS2 would have been Ruby if a girl. But I will not use it now because it is so popular
Haven't found anything I like as much yet.

I have and I would again.

Charlotte and Madeleine have always been favourites of mine and honestly the popularity doesn't bother me. I would rather use a name I love than settle for a name that was more unusual.

If it was me, I would probably find another name.

I loved Oliver for a boy, but by the time our boy was born, I'd heard it too often and didn't want to use it anymore.

PPS 'Ruby Booby' is a common tease. Just in case you need help in being turned off a little.

Love the idea of using Ruby as a middle name. I did the same thing with the name that I had loved since childhood (Elspeth).

People have different views on this matter, but in my opinion, there are so, so, so many gorgeous names out there that are not overly popular that I'd prefer to use one outside of the top 10 or top 20.

Well I've worked in childcare for 10 years and only ever looked after one other 'Ruby'.

Outside of work I've not met another Ruby, or know anyone who is, so I guess thats why I'm still swaying towards it. Everyone keeps saying how popular it is, but not im my circle.

It would be "Ruby Ellira" (The wierd spelling of Ellira is family tradition, huge line or "Ell" middle names)

That's a very difficult question for me to answer OP.

We chose a not very common name that we loved for our DD - we loved the name and loved that it was not popular not even heard much at all. When a very famous person called their DD the same first name we winced as we hoped it would not become the Kylie of its day. Fortunately it hasn't, although it is heard more than when our DD was born.

I too have always loved Ruby (for the last 30 years ) and would have used it for DD 11 years ago if DH had agreed. Now, I just don't know.

P.S. My niece in NZ has just named her 2nd DD Ruby.

if you love it then use it. i named my son Joshua even though it was and always is popular.

Ruby has become more poular recently

Tough one, OP.

Personally, I wouldn't mind using it if it were a 'classic' name that is always popular - like Emily, Elizabeth or Charlotte. My hesitation with Ruby, though, is that it has got popular so quickly that I think it is a bit trendy and will date. Like a Deborah from the 70s or a Brett from the 80s.

I loved the book Gone with the Wind growing up, and always wanted a Scarlett. But for the same reason, now I just couldn't do it.

I would. I've loved the name Ava since DS1 was born and if I ever have a girl that will be her name. It has become a lot more popular since 2006.

We did.

I have always loved Ruby as a name but it took until DD2 to convince DH that it was beautiful.

Why have I loved it? It was my great grandmother's name. She was a feisty little lady with a heart of gold who wasn't afraid to speak her mind. She was kind, caring and adored each and every one of her 18 (at the time she passed away) great grandchildren.

I had chosen Ruby and Dh had agreed on it for DD2. It seemed all the more appropriate when we found out that she was going to have to struggle to survive and make her way through several open heart surgeries as a newborn. She was srong, tenacious and serene ... I think her name suited her very well!

DD1 is Bella. We named her just befpre her name became popular (she is 10yo now) and the poor kid is copping "are you named after Twilight?" questions from ignorant people who don't stop to think that she is too old for that to have happened! She is also constantly asked for her real name as people don't accept that Bella is a name on it's own.

Now every second child is Bella or one of the longer variations

I know what you mean, I used to love Ruby too, and thought about it if my baby was a girl, but I was very put off by its current popularity and "trendiness". Had decided against it for that reason, but my bubby was a boy anyway..

I think it depends on whether you still really love it, if you do, go with it!!

Yes, if I loved the name enough. Popular names are popular for a reason!

DD is Ruby. Though she is 6 and I think I heard it once before she was named.

I admittedly did try and find something a little less common for DS, but had I loved a name that was popular I would have used it.

Yes I would. I loved both my kids names prior to ever having them. They are both now very popular names.

When naming our children I have searched for names that resonate with us - each time I've tried to find the name that felt like 'the one'. Our kids names fit because they suit our sensibilities, our family, our surname, etc.

I don't really take popularity into consideration because what other people are doing doesn't factor into decisions I make about my life. I don't care that much what other people do, in this context.

The only thing I might baulk at is a top three name, but even then, if I loved it, it wouldn't matter.

All children are special and unique and having a name that a few other kids around the place also have wouldn't make their name any less special to me.

If I loved it I would use it. But then look at my kids names. They are all pretty popular.

I wouldn't. I have a 15 year old Joshua and it has been in the top 10 forever. I wish I gave him a name a lot less popular.

use it or you'd probably regret it

Yes. I had loved the name Caitlin since I was 12 (after reading a book - Caitlin was the main character and had a horse). Didn't realise it was popular until I went to Mothers' Group and there were 3 other Caitlin's. I still love the name, even though she asks everyone at school to call her 'Rabbit'.

I'm not a fan of common names and Ruby is very common so I would think twice about it.

But if you really love the name and can't think of giving a girl a different name, then use it.

I had always liked the name Lachlan for 11 odd years before we started having children. It did grow in popularity over time, but that wasn't going to stop us and are very grateful we used his name as we both loved it then and still do to this day. I believe you will regret it if you don't use it.

I too love Ruby OP and after 7 years of TTC and IVF my boys name is also extremely popular.
DH and I have decided that the names we have chosen are part of our journey to get to this point.
If our baby is a girl I am 95% sure she will be Ruby

Both my boys have common names, never really been a problem

FWIW - I've never met a Ruby

All of my childrens names AND their middle names have been in the top 20 or so. TBH I didn't even look at these lists until recently and realised how popular they were. I picked the names because I like them. I couldn't give a flying toss if they are popular or if other people think we followed a trend.

I would go with your heart and use the name Ruby if you have a girl!!! You will regret it otherwise!!

If I really loved it I would used it. I don't think popularity of a name means that much. Our DDs name has been in the top 10 for several years. When we chose it we had no idea how popular it was but we don't care, we would still pick it because it's the perfect name for DD. We only know one other child with the same name and that's at DD's school of 600 kids. People often say it's not one you here very often. DD was the first one at her DC.

On the other side- DD3's name is not in the top 50 but it's everywhere since we chose that for her. When we chose it we didn't know any child with that name but I know 2 other mums at school that have used it too and DD will be starting with their girls. You can't pick what will be popular. And just because a name is on the popular list doesn't mean it will be where you live.

I say if you love it then use it. I think you will regret not using a name that you have loved for so long.

I truly dont understand what the problem is with popular names. Seriously, they're probably popular..... because they're nice. Your child is going to be an individual no matter what names they are given.

I dont get why you even have to qualify it by saying something like "I liked it before it was popular".

I've always loved the names Ruby & Ava, but have decided not to use them, because they are so popular.
I personally wouldn't want my child to be 1 of half a dozen kids with the same name at school.
If you read the birth notices lately, every 2nd girl born is either Ruby or Ava.

Yes I have always loved the name Joshua since I was in early high school, i used it and it was the top name that year.
Its not a real issue and I should know, I was a Sarah at one of the heights of Sarah popularity - its never ever been an issue.

My DD is Mia and the year she was born Mia was in the top 2 popular names- in saying that, as a paediatric nurse, I have looked after 1 Mia in 12 years and have only ever met 2 outside work, since she was born. So I definately don't regret using a popular name, as I loved it and rarely see it anyway, even though it is supposed to be very popular!
So use Ruby I say, if you love it

Op if you have loved it so much for so long then go for it.

Ruby is also not popular in my area. I have been in cc for over 10 yrs also and have never had a Ruby. A friend did name her baby Ruby just recently but that is the first Ruby i know of.


ETA: Just did a searh on births, deaths and marriages and in DD1s birth year her name was number 1, dd2 in her birth year was number 47, ds1 in his birth year was number 13 and ds2 is not in top 50. TBH it has never been a concern for us and i'd much prefer a lovely classic name that will age with my children to some unique name that only sounds good on a young baby/ child.

if you really really loved it then yes. I have always loved the name Jack, I would have used it in a heartbeat if dh would have let me, am still sad that I never got to use it and now never will.

Maybe have a look around for other names and see if you can find one you love just as much?

I'm not a fan of using the most popular names, and admittedly two have fallen from top to bottom of my list since they became popular.

yes

I really wanted something that wasn't in the top ten - as it happens I ended up with a name that has been in the top ten for 40 years it really suits my little boy and well I don't care.

Ruby is lovely I suggested it to DH, but it was flatly refused. I only know one and she has a deep red beautiful hair.

Also I think it is the baby's name on packed to the rafters, so there will be a few more popping up.

If I loved a name for 10 years I would go with it. I can barely stick with one for nine months.

As one of 7 Melissa's in my year in high school I am used to "popular names". DD1 is Jessica and we'd had it picked out 3 years earlier when we had DS - and at the time we had a Jessica slightly older living next door. We reasoned she wouldn't necessarily live next door forever so it would be silly not to use the name we'd always loved....And we know lots of Jessica's of lots of different ages from teenagers down.

And it turned out that DD3 has ended up with a popular name - Sophie - I"ve seen it everywhere since she arrived (or maybe it's just like seeing pregnant women everywhere when you are pregnant IYKWIM).

I think if you like a name, you like it regardless of whether it's popular or not.

thanks for all your replies.

I think I agree with most of you, if I love it, use it! I think I will!

If we have a boy it will be Hayden (unsure of MN) and if we have 2 boys or 2 girls I'm lost lol.

Will be a long wait until gender scan!!

I too loved the name Ruby and for most of my pregnancy she was going to be Ruby. Yes it bothered me how popular it is but I was choosing to ignore that as it was such a beautiful name. DH did not agree though, it bothered him more so he changed his mind around 30 weeks then worked on changing mine. I secretly still love it and have looked to see if she 'looks' like a Ruby but she is most Definitly Rosie.
Go with it! You have loved it for so long you will regret if you don't use it. Congrats to OP

I chose my eldest son's name when I was 14. He was born when I was 26. His name was growing in popularity but I still used it. He was born in 1996 and we called him Joshua. I have no regrets about using the name, I do regret that other people developed such good taste I think it would be really hard to let go of a name you have loved for so long.

Ouch, I can relate to this way too much .... I can't tell you how much I hate my name! So personally I avoided top 10 names like the plague.

And our first choice for our eldest daughter was Isabel but we changed our mind due to the popularity of Isabella. Now there are 4 Isabels at my daughter's daycare, so we are so pleased we avoided it, though it is a beautiful name.

It's a tough one if you love it so much. I would say if you can handle the thought of your daughter starting school and the high possibility of there being at least one other Ruby in her class.. and even a huge number of them in the school, if that doesn't bother you then go for it!..

I had Sienna saved up since I was 15 and it was totally unheard of back then. A few years ago Sienna Miller got popular and so everyone called their babies Sienna which totally put me off. I went to the second name on my secret saved up list since I was a teenager and turns out it suits the colouring of DD more and the surname. So personally I would choose another name.

I chose not to.

i love the name Esme and always knew when i had a daughter id call her Esme -DH loves it too.

however just around the time i had DD, Twilight was EVERYWHERE, that totally put me off and so we chose not to use it which is sad as still adore the name, but i equally adore DD's name too.

Popular names go in and out of fashion. Anything in the top 10 is more inclined to date

I have a name that was top 10 for about 40 years. I haven't met anyone under the age of 20 (alright, if I'm honest I haven't met anyone under 30 ) with my name.