Hello
I'm in a pickle, I have a girls name picked out and the middle name I have my heart set on this but my DS has informed me that if he has a sister her name will be Grace. Do you think I could put this in the name as well or would it be to much?

The name is Hailey Shane
Shane is my brothers name, he passes 6 years ago, so I really want to use his name.

My DS has 2 middle names, they're both family names. It's really not an issue as middle names are so rarely used anyway.
If you want to use both go for it Hailey Shane Grace xxxx is lovely

It certainly wouldn't be an issue. I know several people with 2 middle names.

The two minor problems I have with it are letting your DS dictate to you, and I don't think Grace goes well with Hailey Shane. But if neither of those are a problem for you then go for it.

My DD has two middle names. If you like it, go for it.

I don't have a problem with more than one middle name as long as you give each and every one of your children the same number. So unless your son has two middle name, I definitely wouldn't be using two this time. Grace definitely doesn't fit in the combo Hailey Shane either as two one syllable names one after the other ruins the flow.

My eldest is the only one with 2 middle names, its so does not matter if only one has it , its not like the kids will sit there complaining about the unjustness of he has 2 names I only have one for goodness sake. Just go for it, the only time it gets used anyway is on formal paper work or serious trouble.

I have 2 middles, and so do both the kids, I don't see it as an issue

I don't think it matters and I wouldn't care either way.

There are heaps of people with 2 middle names and it amazing how many older people don't have a middle name at all.

Do what you want, other peoples opinions shouldn't matter to you....including mine!!!

I like two middle names, in my family MN are to honour a loved one so DH and I are each going to choose one. I think it's nice that your DS contributed to your DD's name

DD has 2 MN's as will this baby.
But that's DH's tradition.

Two of my four have two middle names. DS2 because we both wanted to use a family name. And DD2 because we changed her name when she was four months old, so I added an extra name that I loved.

The other two don't feel left out. I don't think they even realise lol.

What about Grace as a first name? Grace Hailey Shane?

There is nothing wrong with two middle names, those two don't really 'flow' that smoothly but when do you ever use a person's entire name? It is entirely your decision.

I think your DS will probably need get over his demands not being adhered all the time though - especially when the new sibling arrives.

There's nothing wrong with 2 middle names at all and it doesn't matter if the other siblings have one or no middle names.

I think Hailey Grace Shane flows better than Shane Grace.

Have to disagree with a couple of the PPs regarding siblings having the same number of middle names, my little brother has 2 MNs and I have 1, kind of felt weird/childishly jealous of that as a child if you know what I mean. Fixed that by getting married and keeping my maiden name as a 2nd middle name

I think Hailey Grace Shane Surname sounds nice (I have changed up the order a little bit). I have a family-honouring middle name and she will be proud of the stories behind her names as she grows up.

Two middle names can work, I just wonder whether 2 single syllable names go well together?

My kids all have 2 middle names. We picked one and gave the second to a family member to choose.

I think your son could potentially be a bit upset that he only has one middle name, but the fact that your DD's second name was chosen by him would surely reduce this understandable childhood jealousy?

I think its really sweet for your son to give his new sister a name. Its a really nice family story.

I think it's really sweet that you are taking your DS's needs into account. And I doubt he'd be upset about having fewer middle names given that he's the one who got to give his sister one of them. I think it's more likely to make him feel really special and more connected to her.

And I think Hailey Shane Grace flows well.

Everyone in my family has always had two middle names (my mum had three as well as a double barreled surname). I only have one now because I changed my name as an adult, but all my children have two middle names.

Everyone in my family has 2 MN so this new little one will too