Hi all,

I suppose that this should really go in the venting section, but I think that you guys probably understand more.

Today I am having a bad day, I just rang up my DH and told him that he might want to come home from work and say bye to his kids becuase I am shipping them off to Africa for adoption, he asked why Africa and I said because its a long way away.

The girls have had late nights *8.30ish) usual bedtime 7. The last 2 nights due to social committments, so it's not entirely their fault.

My MIL bought them a Wiggles step so that they can reach the sink in the bathroom and get on the toilet. Well, they were fighting over it from the moment they woke up. Then I finally got the dressed ready for the supermarket shopping. They didn't want to get in the car, so I finally started to drive off without them so that they knew I was serious. We got there, and Alicia spat the biggest nana, and told me that she was tired and wanted to go home. So I thought I'm not going to go around the supermarket like this and went home. They calmed down an hour later, and we went back and did the shopping. Then I gave them lunch and put them in for a nap, they chatted and mucked around and wanted to hop out, and needed a drink and did wees until I couldn't take it anymore and shut the door and said "that's it, goodnight".

Then the practice manamger from my old work rang (left 6 months ago) and told me that they overpaid me for about 6 months and I need to pay back a grand!! Lovely.

All frustrated I ate chocolate and now feed sick, all that and it's not even 2 o'clock yet.

Feel much better now, thanks for that.....

As a side note, there was another lady with identical twins in the line behind be at the supermarket, her's were 9 monhts old, and she asked if their sleeping gets better as they get older. I told her politely that mine did, but I felt like saying "hey lady, that'll be the least of your problems!!". he he he.



Kate
Alicia and Sophie 2/12/02

Sorry to hear you have a bad day {{{hugs}}} I hope you week gets better. And as for the over payment, i would be telling them in a few choice words to get buggered, it was their stuff up and they wont be receiving a cent back. If need be ring someone and find out where you stand. Good luck !!

Hi Kate

Thanks for the vent! Made me feel "normal". I was saying last night to DH "I could just give them away"!

Here's our day

*Taking all their clothes off CONTINUALLY, so sent their room when refusing to have them back on.

* About 3 wees & I poo on the carpet in their room while being in trouble.

* Fighting, fighting, fighting

* Danika bit Kateleigh 3 times

* Danika stood in front of me twice & weed on the floor! So I put a nappy on her.

* Fighting over who is going to sit on my lap!

* A nightmare to put to bed, even after several smacks, they LAUGHED at me!

* Couldn't talk on the phone to a friend b/c they were jumping on the beds & being very silly or screaming in my ear.

* Said "I don't want to" & "I don't like it" heaps of times to me!

* Won't come when called & laugh & think it's funny when they get a samck for it.

Our girls are very similar ages, so I hope this is just another stage & it will END very soon!

Thanks for sharing

Belinda



Mummy to twin girls born @ 30 weeks Oct 2002

You guys are *really* scaring me!!

My two have barely turned one and my DS has turned into a complete maniac! I don't even want to think them turning 2 if this is what is going to happen!
DD is not too bad, in fact she is pretty normal, yes she gets into things but all kids her age do but her twin brother is just psycho. He does odd things (he's obsessed with white bibs and just loves to snuggle them) and yet is such a happy little man. Go figure!

Kate I hope your day gets better, maybe a few days of more settled sleep will help..for you and them!

Jo

Oh sending big hugs your way Kate! I can really understand where you're coming from, and some days it just feels like it's all to much.

All I can say is it *must* be the age because your two, my three and BB's two are all around the same age and we all seem to be going through the same *issues* at the moment!

Take care of yourself and hang in there!

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Sending you a great BIG HUG....I've got all this to look forward to, and I might need a hug in the future!!!! I remember having "THOSE DAYS" with just one!!!!....oh boy!

Hope tomorrow is a better day.


Sharyn
Mum to Meg14/4/99
Hannah & Josie 22/3/04 (33 wks)
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I'm sending you guys hugs too!

We've had a crap couple of weeks here too... but I'm not sure we're even close the your two's antics... mind you, mine have a good year and a bit to catch up in!

Maybe it's full moon or national difficult multiples month or something.....

Whatever - I hope things get better and soon!

Kate

PS... what is it with MIL's only buy ONE of things... my girls chucked it last night when she turned up with one book and expected them to both sit on her lap and share! YEAH RIGHT! I had hoped in another year or so my MIL might have got the message but after your post maybe not!

Oh I love you guys, I knew you would understand and make me feel better. My little monsters slept for about 2 1/2 hours this afternoon, and managed to wake up angels again (for now!). We got through tea and bath with miniumum fuss (although I did have to wash all of their sheets because they drank 2 fruit boxes each in order for me to get around the supermarket and overflowed their nappies!!).

While they were asleep I managed to refill the "love bank" and might not send the off to Africa just yet.

Man it is hard, some days to feel like a full battle and you wonder when it is going to get easier. There are always new challenges, today they want me to leave the door open when the go to sleep (should be OK, as I can use closing it as a threat if they don't sleep). Don't you love it though when one wants something one way and the other wants something the other way and you can't do anything to compromise!

Tomorrow is another day ....

hugs to you all, don't know what I'd do without you!

(by the way, I finally managed to show the girls how they could BOTH stand on the Wiggles steps at the same time. Pitty it has a flip lid and they have already both shut their fingers in it! grrr....)


Kate
Alicia and Sophie 2/12/02

I do sympathise! The fighting nearly drives me insane!-(I always roll my eyes when people say......oh they must be such good friends...great to have a playmate!)..well they do play sometimes but the fighting seems to be much more common these days. Joel is a real stirrer and if Cam says its black he will say its white until theres tears and yelling and more tears....

I dont even think I can say roll on 3 years cause from what I hear thats supposed to be worse!

Good luck


Caz Joel and Cam at 2 1/2years old

I'm sending you sympathy and hugs.
I must say your posts are scaring me a little. I keep thinking it will be great when they are a bit older and are great friends and keeping each other company. Mine are only just discovering each other. I can't imagine what it must be like to have two going through the terrible two's at once. I guess soon I won't have to imagine

Just sneak in and watch them sleep for a while. Always works for me after a hard day..

Julie
DS Luke 6/8/04
DD Jenna 6/8/04

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Kate, I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. You are also scarring me a bit for what I have to look forward to.

You made me feel so much better about the whole Africa thing because I find myself wondering how I can give my two away at times. Now I don't feel so guilty as I now know that others feel like this too.



Peta
Mum to twins Luca & Jackson (1/7/04) 28.5 weekers

I really didn't mean to scare you guys. I think that having twins requires a positive state of mind, and being in the 'mood' for playing, entertaining and rolling with the punches. I didn't really have that, I was having a bit og a 'why me?' day where I would have rather have been off in Tahiti having a massage.

The girls defenitely are the best of friends, they look out for each other all the time and defenitely have separation anxiety from each other on the rare occasion that they are apart. I know that I am blessed, some days are just hard.

Sorry to freak you all out :-)



Kate
Alicia and Sophie 2/12/02

Oh My God - I'm officially scared. One child going through the terrible two's is bad enough.

I don't know how I'm going to cope with my two - they already fight over things!!!!!

Good luck to all of you lovely ladies having "issues" with your sometimes demons. Just remember when they are angels it certainly makes up for when they are terrors!!!

Cheers and have a lovely day

Mags

Dont be too scared! The fighting is (almost!) balanced by them spontaneously patting each other on the head...asking 'you OK now?" if one of them is upset....one of them running to get a toy for the other when they first get up-even before giving mum or dad a kiss....having really indepth conversations with each other....taking one shopping and buying them something special and then they ask if we can buy one for the other as well so they dont miss out.....giving each other spontaneous hugs....

Some days its just really hard, but you wouldnt swap it for the world!

Caz Joel and Cam at 2 1/2years old

DITTO DITTO. there is always something new. Mine are 21 months old this week. And the terrible two's have arrived.. Fighting, biting, running around with no clothes on. keep taking off nappies cause they need to do wee... what a joke they just want to flush the toilet. BUT i put nappy pins in their disposable nappies and thats fixed them up good and proper.
At least i've won one battle with them today.Now to find the cat that has been mentally scarred for life(not to mention losing a lot of fur in Ambers little hand). Return the confiscated chairs to their table hopefully they learn to sit on them. And to locate the remotes for the tv(missing 5 months) and the video(missing 4 months) luckily we are moving into a new house in the next week certain I will find many 'missing items'!!

To the newer multiple mums dont fear it never really gets harder or easier it just gets different..

Cheers Rebecca
Me 31
DP 28
Amber and Olivia 08/05/03

Isn't it funny, when you have a bad day you feel like you're the only one who goes through all this, then you jump on EB and find out you're normal?! You're not alone Kate!!

BusyB - These jumped out at me because mine do the same:



For those who are scared - don't be. Just prepare yourself for toddlerhood if that's possible There are just as many great things about this stage as there are awful things. My two ARE best friends (when they can bear to let go of me for 5 seconds and play together), but that's another story...

Ana.

Isn't it great to be able to relate to other mum's in the same position! Like lots of you said, "I know what you mean..." Just helps knowing I am not the only one & there are others that feel the same way!

Being a parent is the hardest thing I have ever done! Some days are wonderful, but others are horrid. I agree that they love each other & want to be friends just as quick as a fight starts.

I think with multiples, we say "no", "don't" & smack twice as much as we normally would, therefore it feels like that ALL we do!

My days have been a bit better & since we started playgroup, things are not so boring for the girls. Just getting out of the house makes such a difference. Although for us shopping is a nightmare, but playgroup is BLISS!

All you other twin mum's out there, you're doing a great job!

Belinda

P.S. I agree that it's ALL hard work, but things just change & we get new challenges.

Mummy to twin girls born @ 30 weeks Oct 2002

I had to laugh reading all the threads because we have also going through this charming stage.

Angels one minute ------ Beasts the next LOL

I roll my eyes when people say to me "at least they play with each other" I just started saying "If you call nearly killing each other playing then I guess they are"

I thought you girls might find this amuzing:
I have just put my boys into family daycare and when talking to the carer (By the way she is soo wonderful with kids so it is nothing against her) but when we were talking she said I will treat them as INDIVIDUALS
I just laughed and said we always treat them as individuals. When I picked them up from their first day she said "they really feed off each other don't they ,and they always want to do the same thing. Well they are twins this happens.

I hope you all have a nice weekend and have some good days as I think it must be the season for bad days.

Take care



Kristy

DS 8
Twin Boys 23months

hello my two r 6mths and 4 days old braydon & ellie love to here whot routine you have them in, love to chat with you .....tracy

This is really close to my heart some days and just lately I have been lucky enough to have found out what they value the most (too much Dr Phil here) and use it to my advantage eg DD loves to paint and draw with her textas so I have been using them to get my way as well in that if she misbehaves then not painting or textas I also use it for when we have to get things done such as hair in that if you do this then you can paint and so far it is working DS is the same he has one toy computer thingy that does heaps of stuff and he will and play with it for ages so it is the same drill for him.
I have also got them into 3 yr old kindy for 2 x 3hr sessions a week which gives me time to chill out and actually miss them. Ther house seems so empty when they are there that I am really ready to go and get them and give them a hug at the end of the session.
Kindy is DS fav so tonight he went straight to sleep as it is kindy tommorrow and I said if he didn't go to bed then he would be too tired for kindy and would have to stay home it worked a tresat lol

Cheers

kind regards
Meredith
DH 33
dd Emma 19/09/01 31wks
ds Cody 19/09/01 31wks