My 3 and a half year old daughter is EXTREMELY particular about everything!!! It could be the lines on her socks are annoying her, her pants are touching her feet, her leggings are not long enough , her hair tyes falling out, absolutely everything!!! Ive tryed ignoring her completely, fixing the problems, timeout etc. Nothings ever right as far as shes concerned and it drives me crazy. Shes my 2nd daughter and the other one is nothing like that at all. What do you think? Will she grow out of it? Has anyone had similar issues?

My daughter had similar issues, someone suggested sensory processing disorder - googled it and it did not fit my daughter - but might be worth reading up on for your daughter....I would suggest you discuss it with your GP and get a pead or psych referral if it is impacting on your day to day life.

We had the same issues with our daughter at 3 but our other daughter was never like that. Our DD has grown out of it, I think it might have been a stage

Sounds like my 4 year old DD. At the moment she has major issues with socks. It takes us about 15 minutes to get them comfortable for her (I have started looking into seamless socks). She also does strange things like roll her jumper/jacket cuffs up so that the longer sleeved top underneath is showing about 2 inches and rolls the top of her socks down about 1cm. Clothing tags really bother her and she is generally very fussy with what she wears (wants to wear stockings but can't tolerate them). She also has an obsession with things being neat when they are folded (edges touching exactly etc). Other things don't bother her though.

I looked into sensory issues, but they didn't really fit her either. I'm hoping she grows out of it soon. Her brother is starting to be a little bit similar (almost 18 months).

My son also has similar issues diagnosed as sensory processing difficulties. It took us a long time to work out what he had issues with. He won't have tags, denim or harsh materials, buttons or collars with his clothing. He is also particular about the position of his rug on his bed when he goes to sleep, how his food is positioned on his plate (it can't touch each other), all ingredients in a meal must be separately distinguishable and food must be cut and presented exactly right. At 3 he would throw tantrums all day as things were not exactly as he wanted. At 6 he is still upset by these things but can manage when not exactly right. If you are concerned the specialist you see about these types of issues is an occupational therapist.

OCD is not just about having things a certain way. Maybe research a bit more into the actual illness rather than what is shown in tv shows/ movies? It does not sound like OCD to me.

PP's have also made some great suggestions about things to look into.

You might also want to look into Hypersensitivity and Gifted Children. My DD is hypersensitive and yours sounds very much the same. Believe me when I say it is not a phase, it is the way they are. Eventually we had to use a clinical psychologist as DD wasn't coping. We are all learning to live with it. We also had her tested for IQ and learning ability and she has tested gifted. Apparently traits like the ones you mention -seams, fabrics, things being just so - are very typical of children who are gifted.

I have an older child with OCD and to be honest your description doesn't completely 'fit'.

However, those are some of the traits my child with 'aspergers' does display.

DS is very much the same. Everything has to be in its place, wont drink out of a cup once the water reaches a certain level, obsessed about dirt - can't bear it!
He can't rest if a toy isnt all put back together properly - he is the total opposite of DD

im kinda the same, so i guess he just gets it from me, i like all my copboards and pantry items in straight lines, im slightly obsessive and annoying

I don't think he is Hypersensitive or Gifted, i think perhaps just a little OCD like me - but just enough to annoy his Dad and sister but not a problem.

Thanks for starting this topic. Going a bit crazy in my house atm. My 3.5 yr old DS has always had little odd behaviours, my Mum keeps telling me it is because he is soooo clever, I'd like to think that also, but it doesn't really help! Right now we have big issues about things being 'itchy', and with the colder weather this is becoming a big issue, lots of tears, bribery, positive reinforcement, punishment (you name it, we've done it!) He will NOT wear a sleep suit! Socks are a no-no, found seamless anklets for him which he said he would wear until he found a couple of threads where the sizing was stitched into the sole. Enclosed shoes are the end of the world! I could keep going ... going to look up sensory processing disorder, hope I can find something to help