Wasn't sure where to put this post but figured it fitted here. I'm pregnant with number 2 and the whole pregnancy so far (only 17 weeks) i've really really wanted it to be a girl, to the point where I wanted to find out the gender at our 20 week scan incase its a boy and I have "gender disappointment" even though DH and I always agreed not to find out. We've had 2 girls names ready since before DS was born but absolutely no idea on a boys name this time round.

Then a few days ago we came up with a boys name we both liked, and now i'd love for this baby to be a boy every bit as much as I wanted a girl. From the moment we had an agreed upon boys name it was like a switch in my head i'm so excited at the thought it could be a boy. So now we definitely won't find out at the scan in a few weeks time and just have the surprise when baby is born.

What a difference a name can make! Anyone else had an experience like this? Does not having a name you love ready make you apprehensive for a particular gender?

For those that are wondering no I can't share the name on here, too many people I know who read these forums and I promised DH I wouldn't tell!

I understand this, because it is one of the reasons I am hoping for a girl this time around.

I have two names I LOVE for girls - and none I love for boys. I'm stuck fast. There are some that I read out and go "yeah, that's nice," but nothing that gets me excited. The thought of popping out a boy actually puts me into a mild panic... what the HELL will I name him????

However, one of the girls' names gives me a little delighted shiver...

I'm having a boy for sure

Oh and PS now I really want to know the name.

See, now I want to know the OPs AND your names Robbie (you've been quiet around here lately).

I am so struggling with boys (AKA arguing with DH), we have our girls and a back up (just in case) .

I feel like you Robbie - that because of this I *will* have a boy (not that I mind reeeeeealy but this naming thing is driving me nuts)

Reds - I've been quiet lately because I've made NO progress at all on the naming front since last time I posted a name topic. Le sigh. I get frustrated just thinking about naming a boy

My girls' names are Georgette and Violet. The only thing that makes me hesitate with Violet is that it way my paternal grandmother's name. I would not ordinarily worry about that, but Dad already has a grandson named after his father, and he might be a bit weirder out to have both his parents' names represented in the next generation I really must ask him about that one of these days.

Boys... I just got nothin. I "don't mind" quite a few, but none feel perfect. Bah. I want to love this little one's name as much as I love its big sister's. Tough ask!

EFS. Stupid iPad doesn't know that "its" is a possessive pronoun. No need for an apostrophe, y'hear me, apple?

It makes perfect sense OP. Your baby went from a stranger floating around in your belly to someone you can feel you 'know'. The name made him more real, in the way your other son now is.


Can you use Georgette Violet or Georgette <name> Violet? Georgette is miles in front of Violet IMO, perfectly compliments Susannah also.

I totally agree Amanda, but DH prefers Violet and I got my way on the last one

Middle name would be Catharine, after my mother.

and now I want to know your name!

I was the same with DD2. I honestly didn't mind whether we had a girl or boy until I found this name and realised there was a personal meaning behind it. Then I really wanted a girl so I could use it.

I was in a similar situation when expecting DS2 - not sure what my issue was, it wasn't that I desperately wanted a girl, I just couldn't imagine having a baby boy who wasn't the one I already had if that makes any sense? So we had a name on place almost as soon as I was pregnant and then when I was around 3 months along some good friends used our name for their new baby boy - total coincidence as we hadn't discussed it, and they had the same middle name as well! As we didn't want to use the same name we had to think of another one. But this made me realise I had become very attached to the idea of this little boy so although I then had to think of another boys name (so hard!) I knew I wouldn't be disappointed. We had another boy and are so happy with him!

This exact situation has happened to me this time! I am 19 weeks pregnant and was dreading the thought of another boy because we could not agree on a name. I love the idea of another son, but just couldn't cope with the idea of not having a name that we love as much as our first son. And, while I had names that I absolutely swooned over, my husband didn't like them and a big condition for me is that we find a name that we BOTH really love (very difficult!). My DH is usually not very good at suggesting names, but he is very good at saying no to all the ones I suggest, then out of nowhere a couple of weeks ago he suggested a name and I really loved it! A bit more trendy than my usual style but I really, really like it and that is what matters.

We have a son called Teddy (Theodore Henry) and DH has suggested Jasper for this baby which won't be to everyone's taste but just feels right to me. So much so that I hope we have another boy now as I like th

Awwww, thats great, im so happy. i hear about gender dissapointment and as i have one of each i guess i can't really relate to it..

I never wanted a specific sex, after having one m/c and losing another baby to a genetic condition, i just wanted a baby never mind the sex!

I hope you get your 2nd little boy and get to use the name

I can totally relate to this too. I thought we would never agree on a boy's name, but it ended up being a girl's name that we had more trouble with (with #2). We had quite a few we both liked and were happy enough with but none of them were our favourites. For a boy once DH suggested Rafael there was never anything else in contention and from that point I really wanted a boy.

Buggy you've been quiet here lately too - have you decided on a name?

I know exactly what you mean.
I would really like another DD only because her name would be (to me) amazing.
But if we were to have a DS I have a name that I love but are unsure of 'society' liking his name. Plus the MN drama is driving me nuts too.

I hope you get to use your dream DS name

I completely understand OP! We had our girls name picked throughout TTC and had no boys names. Once we worked out our boys name I loved it SO much I went stone cold on our girls name, and hoped for a boy so I wouldn't have to us it (subtle hints to DH that I no longer liked the name were futile ). Lucky me, I had my boy and I still love his name to bits.
This time around we're really stuck on names. Thank goodness it's still earlish days for us

I thought I had but I'm not sure, I have half a dozen names I really like but none of them seem perfect.

Exactly the same OP! Had a girls name found out it was a boy and was devestated because I didn't get to use my name. Since DS2 was born & named - it took about 4 weeks to commit to a name - I have fallen in love with it.

If I was to TTC#4 I probably wouldn't use the girls name anymore plus I have a boys name (now) that I'd love to use!

Exactly the same OP! Had a girls name found out it was a boy and was devestated because I didn't get to use my name. Since DS2 was born & named - it took about 4 weeks to commit to a name - I have fallen in love with it.

If I was to TTC#4 I probably wouldn't use the girls name anymore plus I have a boys name (now) that I'd love to use!

OK girls, but no telling!!!!

Our girls choice is Tabitha Pearl and our back-up is Abigail Pearl.

The names I am pushing for with boys are either Alasdair Ross or Theodore Ross , but so far no cigar... I wish DH would be a good boy and just do what he is told (ie LIKE one of them FGS). He loves Samuel and David.

Robbie - I LOVE Violet but I do think Georgette goes really well with Susannah. Georgette Violet is gorgeous!

Oh Buggy - I had noticed your quietness also, but thought you were there with names!!! Can we help ??

oh I love your choices!!

the biggest help you could provide is getting DP to let me pick whatever I want

OK Buggy - you tell mine and I'll tell yours!!

RedsGirl Jemima and Tabitha are SO perfect together!

We have boys names that we both really love. We also have girls names as well... but I keep changing mind about them and not so excited about them compare my boys names.

We are hoping that our bean is a boy so we can use the name.

We had a girls name all set and now its a boy.. Very frustrating but so glad I found out the gender!

I'm the same. DH and I decided on our DD's name Molly about 10yrs before we even had her. Just a name we both liked. Now I'm pregnant with #2 and we have a girls name picked out too (also before I even fell pregnant). Picked a boys name for #1 but it was more of a backup in case it was a boy. This time around though we are the same. That is until last weekend. I started spewing out all these boys names and DH just kept going no way, no hope in hell, yuk etc etc. I then got to Fletcher and he said yeah, thats actually not bad. Now the name has stuck with us and we have decided on Fletcher for a boy. It is funny how you can be not so keen on the sex of a baby when stuck for names until something clicks. Its almost like the universe is telling you not to worry, you're not having that sex anyway

I agree! We find out the sex next week If it's a boy we have two perfect names ready to choose from but for a girl...sheesh. there's just too muchv out there. We thought we had settled on...Octavia. I had a friend years ago who named her dog Octavia, I hadnt heard from her in years so I thought it would be fine to name a baby girl that.

Three weeks after we decide on Octavia, guess who friends me on FB? My old friend with the dog named Octavia! I can't name the baby Octavia now! Back to the drawing board...

jellywombat - love fletcher! my DH wont let me though i've been pushing for it for years.

we had to find out the gender of DS2 because we are so stuck on boys names. we settled on one about a week ago (i'm 35w and 3days) but now i'm really not sure again. argh!

in the end with our DS1 we just kinda had 2 "they're okay i suppose"names for so long that we just settled... and after he was born the midwife asked if we have a name and i turned to my DH and said "yeah, unless you've got anything better..??" LOL..

love it now and it suits our son, but arghhh - having to name another boy is driving me batty

i did find that it helped to find out the gender, as everyone had told me we were having a girl (go figure), i knew lots of little girls and no little boys, and we had a girls name picked out. had even been given some girls clothes !!! so finding out we were having a boy sent me into a bit of a spin just had to get my brain onto trucks & diggers! LOL. and remind myself how much cheaper it would be to not be tempted to buy all those pretty little girls clothes i think having a name you love certainly would have helped a lot, but can't really relate!

all the best xx

Redsgirl I LOVE Tabitha, but I already have an Abigail. I don't think I could ever do Abby and Tabby, but I can't bear to cross Tabitha off my list. Whichever you pick will work with Jemima, they are all gorgeous Hebrew names.

Totally understand OP.

Once you have 'the' name you start visualising the little girl or boy with that name and (if you're like me) talking to them and there's no going back then!

Ooh! Jemima and Tabitha... I have the swoons! Gorgeous!

I love Theodore but DH said no. I'm very cross about that.

My short list at the moment has Jemima, Genevieve, Emmeline and Anneliese on it. Sometimes the list is a little longer

boys (not that I think we need a name but JIC) we have Julius, Rocco and Jasper.

I love all the names on your lists guys!

OP: yes but I go through phases. We are TTC soon but my mind is already swimming. I decide on a girls name then I think I can't bear it if I don't have a girl and get to use the name. Then I imagine my boys name and "have" to have a boy. I used my favourite name ever with DD and I have an almost 100% boys and girls picked out for #2 so I'm pretty right either way. I am concerned about hair colour though and thinking I could change my mind at the birth if the baby has a particular hair colour. DP is part Norwegian so we might get a white-blond throwback or something which would influence the name!