just throwing this topic out there.... we have 15 month old twin boys. we love them to bits--- and cant imagine life without them. we always wanted two kids and we now have them! we are happy with our little family and are confident that we wont have anymore kids for us.
[the way these boys eat i dont think i can afford anymore kids! they will need a casual job soon for sure to pay for our whopping groceries bill!!!]
when we tell people we arent going to have more kids -friends some relatives etc- they seem shocked at why we would possibly only want a set of twins.
i know i am lucky to have conceived the boys naturally and there are many people out there who would love to have a BIG family but cant..... but we are happy with just the boys. have others experienced this judgement re: not having more kids??and have many parents of twins just had the set of twins and not had any further kids??

I don't belong here, but just wanted to say some people are odd.

You only want 2 kids, you have them! Why would people want you to have a third just because you have twins?

We want 2, we have 2!

Oh wow, I just read the topic line and was going to jump in all defensive and say well I have eight kids (including twins), and you are quite rude... But then I read your post, LOL. Just tell those people it is none of their business!!

eta: if you think they eat alot at 15 months, just wait until 15 years!

It might be the stupid "but you need the gender you don't have" thing people do.

Ignore them. I believe in ignoring people who say you don't have enough kids and I believe in ignoring people who say you have too many.

(I admit I did tell my DH when we were squabbling about family planning that if I have twins, that counts as one, but it was a JOKE! Just about me wanting a big family and being a blatant cheater about it.)

If you think they eat a lot now . I don't have twins, but there are 39months between DS1 and DS3. When the 3 of them were teens, it felt like I LIVED at the supermarket trying to keep the pantry and fridge full! They were always hungry.

I'll try and answer this from MY perspective. My friend went through clomid to fall pregnant and she had twins. They are gorgeous and amazing. When she was pregnant she said from day one "This is it, no more babies, no more pregnancies".

I was a bit shocked as I'm the opposite to that. I couldn't WAIT to have more babies, and I loved pregnancy, I loved the whole experience - I couldn't understand how someone could make such a big decision so early!!

But, it's all just personal experience and personal choice.

To be honest - I've been joking with DH how 'excessive' no#3 was to have. I'm hating pregnancy, I'm tired and I have two little boys to entertain. I sometimes wonder if I should have just stopped at two... life would be a lot more easier!!!

I know where you're coming from. We wanted two children - preferably a boy and a girl. We got our wish, just in one pregnancy! It doesn't mean we changed our mind about wanting two. I have had comments though that it is lucky we have a boy and a girl so we don't have to try again. However, if they were two boys or girls it wouldn't have made any difference.

I am expecting baby boy #3 and have already been asked whether we will have anymore 'so we can have a girl'. I know that this is my last baby so just think to myself that 'it's not about me it's about them'! If you guys are happy who cares! Hope that makes sense - baby brain is about 10 times worse with this baby!

I don't belong here...but thought I would add anyway.

I wish I had had twins, pregnancy was terrible to me and I didn't have anyone else to look after. I really wanted three kids, but I will settle for two.

I think how ever many you want is the right number.

OP yes, yes, yes for the love of god yes, you and I are in pretty much the same boat. I am so content with my little instant family of four and I really hate it when people say "so when are you going back for more?" or "so does your husband want to try for a boy now?" WTF!! I have friends who are on to thier fourth and there is just no way in hell I would go there. I am so happy for them because thats what they want but I really hate it when people try to coerce me into having more children.

For starters, DH and I struggle with money as it is. We will get on top of things in about a year, but our debt has set us back a long way. Add to that the fact that to actively conceive a child we would have to do IVF/ICSI again, and I certainly dont have the money for that, we dont want that sort of pressure.

We also are just content with the two little ladies we have been lucky enough to have. I thought I was pregnant last month (which would be a bleeping miracle anyway!!!) and I was utterly devastated at the thought. Sounds horrible, but to me, it would just change our lives so much that I cant cope with the thought.

I also had a horrendous time coping with the newborns when they were tiny, and Im just not interested in having any little babies around again and ending up losing my marbles.

I really love my toddlers and I honestly dont want to change our family dynamics, and when people ask me "are they your first?" I usually say "and they will be my only" before they can get in the "going back for more?" question.

Well, here is a spin on this topic - we have 15 month old twin girls and are blissfully happy with our little family. We were umming and arhing about the thought of a third, and had made a decision that the girls were enough.

Then we find out we are pregnant, naturally. The girls took us 4 years to conceive through IVF and then bam we did it on our own.

So I guess that decision was taken out of our hands!

You do what is best for you and your family....twins are hard work in themselves and unless someone has walked in your shoes, they don't really have the right to judge.

Enjoy your beautiful boys!

Congratulations Gefadi!!!!!!

I have a close friend with twin boys about to turn 3. She feels the same as you. Only wanted two and happy with the two she has. For environmental reasons she thinks its irresponsible to have more that two, and is not about to change her mind just because the two she wanted came at one time!

So true There is no universal 'right' way to do things. You do what is best for your family.

Glad it all worked out for you Trudie!

I have the opposite happen - so many people say "great, now you don't have to have any more" as I got a boy and a girl...

I do get the occasional crazy say that we should have more because I'm so young (idiots - I'm 38), but I don't ever want to be pregnant again, and I certainly don't ever want a newborn again.

If someone could hand me a 5 year old that's mine, I'd be more than happy to have more children, but if it's going to be a newborn, no thanks!

Your life - your way. Ignore other people if your happy with what you have.

honestly if you told them you were having more they would probably tell you you're crazy, you cant win no matter what you do

We have four kidlets and we STILL have people asking when we are planning to have another. We had planned for 3 and got a bonus LO with the third pregnancy. We love them to bits but that's definitely enough for us. My sister had two and that's enough for her. My BF has one LO and she's done. Quite frankly, it's no one elses business.

I get the opposite. I get the comments about "ready made family, boy and girl, no need to have any more". So I'm constantly thinking in my head "thanks for making that little decision for us strange lady at the Coles checkout line"

When I did propose that I might not be finished having kids I got a complete dressing down from a childless friend (by her choice) about how selfish I was to ask for more than I already had.

So I think it all depends on who you speak to. It probably depends on how old you are and your life circumstances too. If you're young then people are probably more likely to assume that you would want to have more. I think twins is a beautiful sized family and I can totally understand why it is the perfect unit for many parents.

I kinda wish I had of had twins first because I only wanted 2 kids but ended up with 3....now I have 5 lol

I am with Fertilewoman and Ms crankypants - I only ever get the comments "now your over and done with it all in one go!" "So lucky, instant family, now you don't have to go back fo more!"...and I have 2 boys so it isn't the whole boy, girl thing. We would actually like 3-6 kids...haven't set a firm number yet, we'll just have to wait and see what happens.

Personally my family doesn't feel complete and I would like more. A friend once told me that you know when your family is big enough - he says his house feels "full" and they feel complete! I agree and think it's got nothing to do with anyone else...you and your partner are the best judge of that!

I love my little ladies, and despite the fact that I wanted a boy/boys, right now I am content, but I never say never or no more... time will tell. But when people ask me whether I'll have more, my response is just to say please let me get my head around these two first!!

Stella - well my house is well and truly full!

ms cranky pants - I may feel the same when my 2 get to your bubs ages judging by your thread from the other day

ETA - although I don't know how your 2 could cause a moment of trouble...they look so gorgeous and serene in you sig pic!

Yes, they were 12 weeks old and snuggly and perfect.

Now, they are snotty little monsters who were sent to test me. I luff them though.

Lola's latest phrase is "go way mama". Nice.

Do you think it's because they only see one pregnancy?

Hi Op,
I know how you feel. I have twin girls and will not be having anymore and i get those comments too. I mainly get though, arn't you going to try for a boy for your husband more than most comments though. I feel blessed to have two healthy children and are very happy.

I have girls who are 3 and we are not having any more cos I want to keep my spare room and my small car
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I had a REALLY bad time birthing my two and sometimes think about having another child but I really think it's just cos I want to experience something more positive. I don't particularly want to be a mum of 3 IYKWIM??

We only ever said we wanted 2 kids and that's what we got so that's it for us. Things are a lot more enjoyable now that the girls are getting older, I couldn't imagine dragging a baby around as well.

Used to really pee me off when MIL would say things like "You're having twin boys next"

Stick with 2 if that's what you're happy with...

Mine are almost 8 and we still get asked. Especially as we have two the same sex.. I just say heaven forbid if I went again I might get triplets! Hats of to triplet mums.

When the girls were little we tossed up the idea of a third for a while but the longer we left it and the more enjoyable the bubs became we knew we couldn't go back to babyzone again.

I too like having my spare room and a sedan.

My FIL asks everytime we see him as DH is the last with the family name. I keep telling him if he buys me acreage and hires me a Nanny I could be persuaded

Our twins were our second pregnancy. If we had twins first then we would not have had any more children. Ours are all older now so it is a lot easier but I think in the younger years two would have been easier than three.

I don't know if my house is full or not until they start taking up more room. My heart is so full but there's more room. DP is so happy with what we have and so am I but that desire that says "I'm not done yet" is so strong. I am not quite sure how it will end up.

I felt that way until my twins turned 2. Then I felt well and truely "done" If you have 2 x terrible two's and you still want more then definately go for it as you will totally be ok.

For the OP, I have 2 singletons and twins and still get asked if I am going back for more

i am the big 3-0 this year... so i guess many people see that as prime baby making age.... but not me.. shop is SHUT! i think hubby wasnt totally condoning the idea of more kids early on in the boys lives.... but once the sleep deprivation for last couple of years [the boys 15 mths and the screaming leg cramping pregnancy!!!!] kicked in i think he decided he too didnt want to do the baby thing again.
yes- i too am happy with my little family... happy to keep my hatch for a little bit longer!!!but then again, maybe my orange peel belly might look better with a bump than in its current saggy state!!!!!
nah, i'd rather the orange peel look i think.