Hi,
Looking for advice
DS4 has always been a poor sleeper - much much better now but still wakes up an average of 2 times a night usually with a "scary dream" - just wants to check we're here and then will quite happily be taken back to bed and will go to sleep... until the next wake.
DD1 is almost 18 months and i'm thinking she will be out of her cot by 2.

We've just come back from a weekend away and i've really noticed that whenever we're away - and all in the same bedroom, DS doesn't wake us up. I'm assuming it's because he can hear us breathe or something.

So i was just contemplating putting an extra bed in DS's room and moving DD in there when she's ready for a bed

In my current sleepy state i can't really see a bad side - but no one else seems to do it... help me out?? is this a crazy idea?
any other ideas for keeping DS in bed - we have "friends" in bed i.e soft toys, his blanket, usually a book under his pillow, music (some nights depending on his preference), , a soft night light in his room and in the corridor and water by his bed...

He really is so much better then he was - but DH and myself would really like an uninterrupted nights sleep now and then (..... and there is no chance of a number 3 without some )

any advice appreciated
thanks

My 4 year old daughter and 21 month old son share a room. DS wakes once a night on average and it doesn't wake up DD. DD wakes only occasionally at night and sometimes that does wake DS if she's very loud about it.

Are your two heavy sleepers when they are actually asleep? I do think being in together helps my two sleep, it definitely helps them get to sleep.

We have 3 of our kids sharing a room. DD (6), DD (4) and DS (2). They all sleep pretty much through the night now - although occasionally the 2 younger ones will have a nightmare or something, but I've trained them to call out for DH now, so its all good from my perspective! I will admit that we had a few issues when they first moved in together, with chatting and carrying on, but usually now they chat for 10 minutes or so and fall asleep. The other night I went to check on them and found the 2 younger ones all snuggled up in one bed - too sweet!

I say give it a go - what have you got to lose?

You know you can only try it and see if it works out even just move the cot in there for a week and if it works you can have a full nights rest.

My boys are now 15 and 12 and while they each have their own rooms, I will quite often go into DS12's room to find DS15 is bunking down on the spare bed in there.
Nothing wrong with them sharing a room
Try it out and see how it goes.

Give it a go. My niece (aged 5 at the time) was desperate for her sister (aged 2) to be moved in with her. They are now 7 and (almost) 4 and still together in the same room. No issues.

Funnily enough, I think little kids like having someone in their room to sleep with - they see their parents sharing a room - so it's probably very normal for them to want to share too. My daughter (and only child) said to me on the weekend "I want to sleep in your bed mummy. You have Daddy in your room and I have no one". Oooh, break my heart

We recently moved from a large house to a smaller one. We are planning on extending eventually.

At the moment my DD who is nearly 5 and my DS who is 3.5 share. I was worried at first but it has gone so well. I think we will have trouble moving them back to separate bedrooms. They have been sharing for a year. They love it.

It hasnt caused any sleeping issues. They are both pretty good sleepers. DS is better than DD. She will usually wake up with a dream as well or need to go to the toilet. Occasionally they wake each other up but it is pretty rare. All in all we have had no problems.

My son and daughter share. He is 7 and she is nearly 6. She first moved in there at 5 months old (he was just over 2). They love it. He feels really safe with her in there.

Ds2 was the worst sleeper ever, I mean 18months and we tried everything with him apart from in our bed, that was the next step. i really didnt want that, so went out one Friday and brought bunks (yes shoot me ) had DH come home and set them up, that was my 1st full nights sleep. best thing I have E.V.E.R done.

I say go for it, its no harm in trying is it?

Good luck OP

for us it works. DS 3.5 and DD 1.5 shared a room since she was about 10months. What I love is we have the one shared bedtime routine...everyone on the couch in their bedroom for books, story time etc...both into bed. DS likes knowing that there is someone else in the room with him at night. We are moving to a larger place soon and every time I ask him if he wants his own room he says no, that he wants his sister with him!

Our DS3 started sleeping through when we moved DS7 into his room. Also night-weaned as well, with no effort on our part. Now DS7 is back in his own room and will be sharing with our new DD when she is a bit older. He is really looking forward to it, they have a great bond

Its musical bedrooms at our house!

Ruby

My DS (4.5) and DD (3) share a room and have done since DD was about 12 months old. They love it. When they are mucking around too much at bed time I threaten to permanently separate them and they both protest loudly. DD is a bit of a restless sleeper - often wakes up in the night and has a play or a sing to herself and lately has been having some bad dreams which wake her up and she needs comforting. She hardly ever wakes DS though as he sleeps like the dead. Even when she had gastro recently and threw up all over her bed we turned the light on and changed the sheets and he didn't even stir!

I think they get great comfort from sharing the room and would be devastated if we split them up.

I'm due with another boy in 11 weeks and was thinking I'd eventually put the two boys in the room together and DD in a room on her own. I don't know that she'll take that though, and I might have all 3 in one room.

My 2 poor sleepers share a room. Mostly they don't wake eachother up, I wouldn't say it has helped their sleeping but no has it made it worse. DS knows to walk silently in to our room if he needs a cuddle and we attend to DD before she starts crying too loudly. If she wont settle then DS might crawl into our bed, it's still musical beds here some nights.

No problem,

My younger sister and brother shared a room for quite a few years (can't remember how long exactly) and my DH and his sister shared a room until #3 came along (was a girl) and when she was ready she moved in with SIL and DH got his own room (around age 6-7).

It often means the earliest waker gets everyone up though

Might sound strange but I shared a room with my younger brother as a teenager. I think I may have been about 17 and he was 14. My sister and I just don't really get along and can't share the same room without arguing about something. My brother and I get along really well. We respected each others privacy and knew if the door was shut, don't enter. Knock first. I don't see kids sharing a room at any age a problem, as long as they don't fight like my sister and I. I have pretty much always shared a room for my entire life and I do feel more comfortable and safer with someone else there so I'm guessing thats what the kids feel too. Go for it!

As a child I shared a room with my older brother and I absolutely loved it. I was pretty upset when we were separated when I was about 5 and he about 8. He used to tell me stories after lights out and it was just so nice to have another person in the room.