DD1 started school this year and seems to have regressed. I know she is tired but the tantrums are worse than when she was two. She has become rude, unreasonable & hits me & DH often. She hasn't slept through for as long as I can remember now, waking anywhere between midnight & 4am.

In short, she is causing a lot of problems in our home.

Any thoughts welcome

DS#1 has been very difficult, but he was difficult before he started school. Like you said - tantrums, being unreasonable, being rude. He has been a bit better the last few days. I am really struggling with him and don't really know where to turn.

I've tried trying to get him to count to ten to control his rages, but he doesn't want to. I send him to his room, take away privileges, +ve reinforcement.....at a loss. Sorry I'm not much help.

DD started kinder this year and whilst she has not 'lost the plot' we have seen a few big tantrums. Whereas before this, it had been over a year since she'd had ones to the same extent.

Tiredness is certainly the main contributer. Whilst she went to childcare and it's not like the hours were different (she still does before and after school care at the same place she did long day child care) I think it is just the new routines and things happening that tires them out. Plus she is feeling more grown up and important, is learning new things and wanting to be even more independent. Or maybe because so much in their lives have changec, they are just testing the boundaries to see if things are still the same at home.

DD was shocking at aged 2 and her behaviour then is much worse than it is now. So we have pretty much tried everything with DD and finally know the best way to deal with her. We just keep being consistent, loving and try to get her to have a sleep on the day after school. I also avoid situations which are likely to trigger tanties - eg going to a supermarket just before tea time.