You were best friends in primary school - inseparable. In year 7 you leave to attend an exclusive girls’ school and she stays on and goes to the local high school. You haven’t seen each other for 27 years and stumble upon one another on Facebook.
Well something about her was appealing at this stage, you, sorry, THIS WOMAN, saw something of value in her...
You’re now a university educated, BMW driving executive with 3 kids in private school. Happily married to a CEO with a big house in a riverside suburb and a fluffy dog. You’ve kept your looks and looking fine for 40 years old.
OK, so you've, I mean THIS WOMAN has got questionable values .. not to worry, lots of people do, and you're/ SHE'S not so old, so there's some hope, I guess.
She’s a mum of 4. The eldest is 21. Three different fathers with the current partner being a member of an outlaw motorbike club. Life hasn’t been kind to her and she is far from your memory of her being the prettiest girl at school. She works in a lunch shop in an industrial area. Left school in year 10.
On the surface, she doesn't share your/ THIS DAMN WOMAN'S values, so she's probably NOT going to be feeling the requisite levels of envy and admiration. That is problematic, hmm.... I mean, she might laugh at your/HER inveterate shallowness. How awful.
What do you do? Do you meet up in person over a coffee like she’s suggesting or let it go knowing on face-value you’ve nothing in common and it will be too confrontational?
So despite the fact that she can see the points of difference between you (because presumably FB is plastered with them ...), she has still suggested meeting you, in person, like a real human being?
Maybe, having been a pretty child/youth, she understands beauty can be a bit of a double-edged sword and isn't overly invested in it.
Maybe, she has been true to herself and followed her heart, and lived deeply, if not so superficially wisely.
Maybe she loves all her children and the times in her life that brought them to her, and she looks back on her life as rich and storied rather than as a litany of woes and wrong turns.
Maybe that 'member of an outlaw motorbike club' is more like a CEO than you suspect. He might just be holding together all sorts of busineses that generate all sorts of money... Then again, maybe he's interesting, or kind, or funny, or WORSE STILL exciting and dangerous -- and just what she's looking for at this stage in her life, not being bound by the need to be safe-at-all-costs.
Maybe working in a lunch shop in an industrial area is a blast. Maybe it's fun to talk to busy working people who don't take themselves too seriously. Maybe she believes in service rather than self-aggrandisement?
If you don't go, you'll never know.