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Hello all,

Not much happening here we have the Alturnative farming Expo over the weekend I have volenteered to open the Mother and baby change feeding rooms on the Sunday 9-1pm so hopefully they wills end me a family pass so all the kids and DH can go.

Urs~ That is just heartbreaking poor child , good to hear works going well i'm sure you'll have em all sorted by the end of the month.

Helen ~ hope the move is going smoothly for you and your dogs.

Bec~my vote is for a or maybe a or maybe


ok hello to all will get around to doing a good post one day.

Emily

Hi all,
Total me post, sorry.

Feeling down today
I rang Dad yesterday and was going to visit today but he is just not up to it and it makes me really upset. He also said next week would be better because "we have some decisions to make". That sentence scared the crap out of me!!!! So I am feeling a little sad. My younger brother who is in grade 12 has also gone off the rails a bit which is making things worse.

And to top it all off AF is due in 2 days and just took a pregnancy test and it was BFN Again!!! I don't know whats going on?? the only thing I can think of is that I was 1.2kg lighter last time round so maybe I need to loose a couple of kilo. Surely that wouldnt make much difference though??

And to finish Eli is just into everything!!! He discovered that he could reach into the toilet bowl today and play with the water !!! Totally gross! but I had just disinfected it so it wasn't too bad. He can open all the doors in the house including the back door and get outside. He can climb onto the kitchen benches, tables, chairs, washing machine, he is into all the cupboards even the baby proofed ones! Grrrrrrrr r.

This morning he opened the back door, got his car from outside brought it inside, put it on top of the couch then sat on it like he was going to ride it???? Lucky I was there otherwise he would of fallen straight off the couch onto his head!!!

Okay vent over..
No not quite yet.....And Ellen isn't on today because of the stupid winter olympics!!!!

Now vent over... I do feel better Thanks

Hi Girls

J - you poor thing. Hopefully your Dad's sentence doesn't mean what you think it means, will say some prayers for you and your family. Amelia discovered the toilet water a long time ago, and is now - thankfully - over it. It is horrible. We have a heap of stuff outside for her to play with, and when I am cleaning the kitchen or just pottering around that sort of area, I just open the back door for her and she comes and goes as she pleases - in and out. She has a fantastic time playing out there As for your BFN, It is probably nothing that you are doing, which sucks, I know. I used to be a believer in the whole "stress won't help", but I got pg with Harrison in the most stressful time of my entire life - so that kicked my theory out the window. Are you using OPKs? Or charting?

Bec - Did you end up speaking to the mother, of the family that is working for you? How are you feeling? My tummy got insanely big with Harrison I thought that I looked full term, when I was only about 25wks And it's bloody hard looking after a baby when you have a tummy like that! How is gorgeous Mak going at school?

Em - Have fun this weekend

Helen - Hope your drive is going safe

Urs - How is your family going this week? And your job?

Shell -

Us - Have had a rough few days. DH and I almost broke up yesterday It was the most horrendous thing, and I ended up deciding to take the kids and stay at my parents house last night. When we spoke again, we both said that we weren't ready for it to be over and that obviously we have a few more things to work on So I am back home now. I just can't believe that I have been with this man for my whole adult life, 9 years, married for 5 years, and we are here Anyway...Harrison is sick with a disgusting cold. Everytime he wakes from a sleep, he has dry green crusties (sorry, TMI), all over his face So I have decided that he won't start daycare until next week. It's not fair to him, or them - if he starts like this. Amelia is still going great guns! She is finally telling me when she is doing a poo/or if she has done one We bought her a toilet seat the other day, and are putting her on it each time we change her nappy. Daycare started doing it with her, because she has been showing interest in Armahni going to the toilet - so will see how we go. She is also talking soooooooo much, and putting so many words together - it's madness. She is not my baby girl anymore. She doesn't even look the same anymore - she is looking so grown up and like a "little girl" Meanwhile, Harrison is getting bigger by the day He is such a boy! He is going to be so tall, he is really going to tower over his Mum

Anyway, better get a move on. Will pop back in later

Hi Ladies


We need some smiles in here!

J: I am sorry to hear about your dad- I also hope its not bad news. I have been in your position so I know how it feels and its terrifying. Keep your chin up and I will be praying that things work out well for you and your family. As for the negative test, I don't think a couple of kilos would make a difference as I was def heavier this time around getting pregnant. Perhaps it is stress? It can do all types of different things to people so maybe that is what it is. Did you go off the pill recently because I have many friends who have had trouble after the pill also. Maybe speak with your doctor? Good luck with it, it will happen.

Hayles: Sorry to hear about you and your DH. Not good. I hope you can work it out and get back on track. I have also been in that position ( experienced aren't I? lol) and its such as stressful time. Great that you guys want to work it out though, that must give you some hope. Mak is doing well, thankyou for asking. DH spoke to the pickers, he has had a bit of trouble with them not listening to where he wants them to pick etc so he got a bit grumpy with them yesterday and believe me for DH to get grumpy ALL of his buttons have to be pushed a couple of times!

Hi Em! Have farm at the alt farming expo. We went a few years ago and really enjoyed it!

Us: Well we have had a few busy days, playgroup then swimming yesterday and then met up with a griend today about half hour away. Issy had great fun at the park we went to but made me realise she is not that good with other kids. She was bossing other kids around, telling them " no" when she wanted to use something and then she even took a biscuit off my friends little boy and ate it because she wanted it! So we have a bit to work on! I was very embaressed. Then to top it off she threw the BIGGEST wobbly when it was time to go. My friend just looked at me and said " you are going to have your hands full". Thanks I thought!
Did some baby shopping yesterday. Went into Target and found a new cot matress for $50 ( reduced from 120) and a deluxe baby bouncer/ rocker reduced from 129 to .... get this 31 dollars! Took them up to the register and the lady tried to charge me full amounts so I pointed out the reduction stickers on them and she then tried to tell me they weren't suppose to be on the items. I then pointed out that well they were and it wasn't my error and she went and asked a manager who was really nice and said to me yep we have to give them to you at those prices, its our error! They must have a real smart cookie working in the nursery section!

Ok BBL....

Hey Girls,

Sorry its been nearly a week since I have been in, its been busy, plus some dramas. But anyway moving on, work is better I finally met my manager and slowly learning stuff. The earning the money part is best thing about it LOL and I cant wait to go shopping .

J - I'm sorry to hear that, I really hope its not what we think it is, why dont you just go there and talk to him even though he said to stay away, he is your dad after all and I'm sure he wont get mad at you. In regards to BFN just relax a bit, dont forget you are going through a stressful time right now, try not to think about it, enjoy making love with your DH and it will happen Casey is also into everything, climing up ladders, jumping off the coffee table to the lounge, he is unstoppable for a little thing.

Hayles - Oh hayles, I'm sorry I know what you mean though, I have been with my DH since I was 16, married since I was 21, god I hope things get better for you. Are you still seeing the counsellor?

Helen - Are you still in the apartment or have you found accomadation???

Bec - Would love to see some pics of your belly.

Belle - I hope things are good at home

US - I took the side off Caseys cot today and he did not like it, he cried and whinged so I put it back on but he has been in there for over an hour and is still chatting away, he has been funny with his day sleeps since starting daycare, not happy. He says so many words, names and loves a good chat he really communicates so well.

Ok well I must go and do something and think of something for dinner.

Just needed to share....

Amelia is doing wees in the toilet WOOT WOOT!!!

So so cute. My mum is off to buy her some knickers tomorrow

Urs - Sorry to hear that there are dramas going on I hope everything is going OK. Am pleased to hear about your job, and the money side too. My first couple of pays, once I went back to work, was all spent on "shopping"

Hello girls

Just a quickie to let you all know I'm here Wow what a drive. 1st day mega rain the whole way but it stopped enough for us to take a 20min break but the rest was driving and we made good time and got half way by 4.30pm and as I thought - it was harder out of the car than in the car. While we were driving all 3 of them were fantastic (Yas and the 2 dogs) - Yas just watched dvd's all the way and the dogs just slept. Then got half way and heard the Bruce hwy was blocked off due to flooding that day so who knew what we were in for the next day but we got through and it was the driest of the 2 days and we were all exhausted by the time we arrived. We are at holiday place at a beach place ccalled Yorkey's Knob with the dogs and we have applied for a house which we hope we get but not available for another 4 weeks. DH got a job so all good - now we can just get on with life. Fingers crossed we get this house.

Okay DH bugging me for the computer as he hasn't had one for a while so will come back for some personals over time.

We are safe anyway!!

Helen

Hayls - Thanks, Oh thats great, you may aswell give it a try and see how she goes.

Helen - So glad you arrived safely and that you have accomadation, do you have a kitchen?? That is wonderful news that DH got a job I bet thats a big relief.

Well I spent the morning at the hospital with my Uncle in ICU, mum took him to the hosptial on Friday morning as he could not breathe, he has been sick all week but refused to be taken to the dr, he is now on life support with pnemonia they have just called us and told us that he may have Legionnaires disease and Health department will be contacting my mum in the next few days. He is 48 and lives with my mum but socialises with my DH, DB and all there mates so we are all quite close nit. He has multiple organ failure, Liver and kidney mainly due to smoking, heavy drinking a little diabetes. I tell you it does not run smoohtly around here at the moment.

We were meant to be at an 18th bday but with my mum at the hospital I could not get a baby sitter so DH has taken Ricky to watch the Panthers V's Parramatta and I am having a night to myself, mind you I am exhausted so I think I will be going to bed shortly.

Ok speak to you all soon.

Urs xx

Very quiet in here today. DH and I not talking, I've got the poo's at him because he came home from fishing this afternoon and just plonked his backside on the lounge, he knows how much I hate that. I have been cleaning, weekly cooking, ironing, shopping and looking after the kids all day I then cooked dinner he turns around and says he is not hungry oooh that made me so mad!!!!! Anyway enough whinging..

My uncle is still critical and it has been confirmed he does have legionnaires disease so our fingers are crossed that he makes it because he is a very sick man. I just want happy times!!!

I hope everyone has had a nice weekend.

Urs xx

Oh Urs- you have had your run of bad luck lately. Hopefully all things turn out well for you and you receive some good news about your Uncle.

J: Thinking of you also. Hope your dad is okay and that you are alright.

Shell: Also thinking of you. I wish I lived near you guys!

Hayles; Great news about Amelia using the toilet! Issy has once but I have decided not to push it with her atm. With the cooler weather coming I might wait til it warms up again before I really get stuck into TT.
Yep my tummy is huge! I am pretty sure bub is engaged already too as I feel like I am walking around with a bowling ball in between my legs! The young guys didn't come back after DH had words with them. Good riddance I say! Usually my FIl runs most things around the farm but he has been away for 10 days and I was most impressed with DH. He really enjoyed it and I think is looking forward to his dad retiring!

Helen: Glad you made it! What a journey! Good luck with the house hunting!

Hi to everyone else, we have gone quiet in here!

Not much to report from me. REALLY nesting, its insane but getting the place organised! We went and purchased all the things we need to paint the nursery on Saturday, seeing as the painter we rang never bothered to turn up to give us a quote! Too bad if he does this week, I will tell him too late. We have chosen a colour but can't reveal! And I went into Target and picked up a bargain- a set containing cushion, sheet set, doona cover, one set of those flags you hang on the wall ( forget what they are called) and a floor rug reduced from $150 to $40 so have the theme for the room now also.
DH is starting the painting this week. Can't wait to put it all together. Mind you, can't put out the set I purchased as then Mak will know what it is so that can just get washed, put away and come out at the last minute.

Okay well better go. I am now putting some photos up on the wall and then heading to get my baby early!

J and Urs - : Will be praying your families come through these hard times soon. Thinking of you.

Urs - mmm. Money! Enjoy your guilt free shopping So proud of you.

Bec - mwwwah! (xx) Wish you were here too lovely. You would be a hoot to have around! Big belly rubs to you....and GREAT shopping!! Those prices are madness!

Hales - yay for Millie. I don't think my little tanty-tosser will ever get the hang of the toilet. She proudly takes her nappy off and wees all over the floor then says 'poos', or Poos gone. We're chatting away here too. Her latest is to shake her head no, put her hand out and say 'stop it dosh (Josh), I doooonnnt like it. You're going to die when you see those cute little undies on her.

Helen - Missing you. Great news DH got a job. Hope your home comes through for you. Enjoy the holiday while you can!

J - sorry to hear about the BFN result. Hope for better news soon. Take care and don't be too hard on yourself.

everyone else -

Us - one step at a time. Some days are better than others. Some great news...Mum and Dad sold a major Scratch-it winner last week. $500k. Should be good for business...bad news...they didn't sell it to me Must be off or I won't be able to plaster on my fake work smile tomorrow morning.

Shell. xo

Morning girls

My relax day today - doing nothing!!!

Shell - wow to your mum & dad selling that scratchy!! do they get a percentage for selling it too?? great it will bring in more biz. Missing you too

J - must be so tough for you going through all of this with your dad. I know also you are stressing about getting UTD but honestly I think you were very lucky the first time. Its usually not so easy falling pregnant but at the same time shouldn't be too hard either and not as cut and dried as 'doing' it at the 'right' time either. Just relax enjoy being with your DH in an intimate way and it will happen. Don't forget you had more time and energy the first time - you didn't have a toddler to run after.

Urs - gosh I hope you start getting good news in your life, seems to be one thing after another with your friends and family. Good going on the extra money on the job front - happy spending. Yes we have a kitchen - we have everything we could want - its a self contained holiday home by the beach!!! It will do us for a month until we move.

Bec - happy nesting! when are you actually due??? nice to be able to get the nursery sorted. How is Issy's sleeping going for you - hope it has improved before bubs comes otherwise I don't think your DH will know what to do with your sleep deprivation you sound a bit like me - I so need my sleep too! Hope this one is a much better sleeper for you.

Hayles - YAY to Millie to wees in the toilet, well done. I think Yas has had too much going on for me to even start her. She is ready but I think until she is familiar with her surroundings I will just put it off. We are lucky being in a warm climate - I have a lot of time on my hands with her being stripped off for a while anyway.

Simone - where are you? are you away? does anyone know!!

Does anyone know if Kathy has had her baby? I'm a bit behind in news.

Well we got the house - its nothing special inside but the outside area is gorgeous and perfect, lovely big outdoor undercover area - lovely decent grass area for Yas and the dogs and then up some gorgeous greenery garden is the pool and its a lovely pool too. We move in on 24th of March so will be nice to get settled.

Better go
Talk later

Hi girls

Helen - to getting your house. Things are falling into place. I can hardly wait to come up there and meet you and Yas Can you believe, by the time I come up there, our girlies will be 2 I was 0planning on holding off a bit longer TT Amelia too, it was only that daycare had started putting her on the toilet, because she was showing interest in Armahni going

Shell - Good to have you back Great news with your parents scratchie How are your kids going? I hope they are well.

Urs - You poor thing. How is your uncle going? I hope he recovers from this Have you had your shopping spree yet? How are your beautiful boys? to your DH coming home and doing nothing. I hate it when DH does that - so rude!

Bec - OK, how about we try and set a date next month for this meet up - and I can msg Belle about it too? The best day for me is a Sunday Good to hear that those boys didn't come back to picking for you I nested all the time while I was pg with Harrison, it was fantastic. I remember reading about your nesting, while you were pg with Issy - your house must be spotless

J -

Us - Going pretty well. Have had a shocking headache the last couple of days though All the stresses of what's going on with DH, no doubt. Harrison has been having a couple more orientations at daycare, as he starts on Friday. He has been going really well there, and the girls in the room are really lovely - so I am starting to feel a little more comfortable. He has also started sitting up - YAY!!! I thought he was never going to get there - he is so lazy Amelia is fantastic, and I am just loving watching her growing up. I love that I can have a bit of a conversation with her now - I am a very proud Mummy ATM I have decided to go on a major health/lifestyle change too. I am determined to lose the rest of my weight (about 12kg) once and for all. I know that I will feel so much better about things, if I am not feeling like a fat frumpy whale! I want to be able to look in the mirror and be somewhat happy with my reflection.

Anyway....better get moving. Hope everyone else is going well

Hayles - Yay to Harry sitting up!!!! How cute. Hey where are you staying when you come to Cairns - did you tell me already as I can't remember???

Ah a crappy day here! Waited months for Mak's paed appointment only to have a 5 min app with a total tool this morning who spoke to me like I was stupid ( kept asking me do I know what exczma is- I kept replying YES, I want to know what is triggering it and how to best manage it). So walked away with no scripts, no useful info and got slapped $180 there and then. I was almost tempted not to pay it and just walk away but I paid it, the fool I am!

Then went past DH mate ( was best man at our wedding) and got ignored. Came home fuming, I have told DH I am not holding my tongue anymore. Stupid idiot needs to grow up and realise my DH DOESN'T want to be his drinking buddy EVERY weekend and DH DOESN't want to leave his family Christmas Eve, NYE, Easter etc to go out and get blind.I felt like walking right up and telling him to grow up and stop being cross at me because he thinks I don't " let" DH go out every weekend. I also felt like pointing out the fact that DH loves me and his family and has enough respect for us that he doesn't feel the need to go and get blind and try to help his pathetic mate find a 20 year old blonde chick that he will never find because he's 30 and no oil painting!

Grrrrr.... vent over.

Then to top off my day, apparently we are entitled to FTB now I am no longer working which would be heaven at the moment as we are living on about 500 a week but no, they still haven't processed it and when I rang I asked how long and you know what the stupid woman said ? " How long is a piece of string?"!!!!!


Oh and get this- one of the couple sin that pathetic group of DH's friends are getting married in October- SHE wants to get married at our place on the river in the exact same spot we did not even two years ago. I have said no so you know what they are planning? To just go two minutes down the road and get married at my IL's place on the river. What the? Why can't she find her own family and her own area to get married in instead of trying to steal our thunder? Not happy at all.


Okay, vent really is over now. Sorry about the me post but I have a headache from all the rubbish that has happened today and just needed to let it out!

still here.

Helen - Can never remember where we are staying Will ask Mum and Dad again, and then let you know

J -

Bec - WTH is wrong with the people in your town?! Don't you just wish you could slap them, and then blame the pregnancy hormones, or something? How strange of that couple, wanting to get married at your place, and then actually using your IL's That's really odd. And BOO! to Family Assistance about your FTB - I guess the only bonus is that you should get a huge backpayment - which will come in extra handy ATM

QLD Girls - I am heading up there for 3 days in June, and thought - if I am not too far away from everyone, maybe we could meet up? We are staying with Harrison's godmother, and she is in Aspley. So where is that situated to everyone else???

Dads taken a turn. I am trying to stay calm and not stress but its hard. He has been admitted to hospital for a new course of pain treatment. Hopefully Radium starts next week.
I was supposed to go and see him tomorrow but not sure if I can now. He doesn't like me visiting him in hospital.

Hayls: I love your new sig. Its soooo true.

J: I am sorry to hear about your dad. I hope your okay and that he gets some treatment soon. Its such a hard path to go down.

Hayles: Bad news about the FTB. APPARENTLY they think DH and I lived together a year before we actually did and now they are saying I owe them 3000 dollars. Honestly, DH and I did the right thing when we decided to move in together and now we are being penalised. Of course I have put in a complaint and want it reviewed. I got so angry at the lady I told her that had I walked into CL with 20 kids hanging off me, off my face and a cigarette in one hand and drink in the other they probably would have thrown money at me but seeing as awe are honest people who pay tax and only need a bit of FTB for a few months, nope they won't help us. Unbelievable. But anyway we will just budget a bit more and see where we are. I did some relief work this week so at least that is something.

They certainly breed them weird around here I will agree with that. Small town syndrome I believe it is called.

Well I had better go, am so tired from work today and have soo much to do tomorrow. Plus one of Mak's friends invited herself over for a sleep over and her mum just said " oh yes that would rsuit me..... blah blah blah". Honestly!

Hi girls,

Sorry i have been a stranger. Haven't really been able to find time to sit and do a big post but i have done a fair bit of study today so i will give myself a half hour break

J - so sorry to hear about your dad Is the current pain regime not working well enough? I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to watch him go through this

Bec - that sucks about the FTB. It is a strange system thats for sure. Hope they sort it out for you as your situation is exactly what FTB is made for! Your DH's mate sounds like a tool and needs to grow up. I don't know how you put up with all that cr*p honestly! I would have blown my stack at them all by now.

Hayley - i will DEFINITELY make myself available to catch up when you are up here Sorry things are so rough with DH, i hope you can sort it out Glad the kids are going well at daycare - Milly sounds so grown up with her TT!!!

Urs - how is your uncle? Hope there is some good news. How are your friends kids coping after the loss of their dad? How is the job going?

Helen - glad to hear from you and so happy that you have a house!!!

Shell - nice to hear from you. Great news about your parents business! How is everyone's health? How is your dad recovering? And the kids?

Us - not much happening here. Have started back at Uni this week so it will be nice to have something to do again. Been so bored at home lately, haven't got many people to catch up with around here and don't have the motivation for gym at the moment.
The girls have been fighting like cats and dogs from the moment they wake up. They antagonise each other all day - Lila sh*t stirs and Ella is so bossy! Argh!!!
But Lila is chatting away like crazy - she is saying probably close to 100 words, so much more than Ella at this age. She copies everything Ella and I say and her comprehension is amazing!

Anyway Hi to everyone i missed - i will try to catch you on FB at some stage as i am on there more than i am on here

J - thinking of you princess. I wish I could take some of your pain away. I hope your dad is thorugh the worst of this soon. the radium works. Take care sweetie xo.

Hales YAY!!! If you stay in Aspley you'll 10-15 minutes from me and Kathy. Too easy to catch up Let me know the details when you've got it all sorted and we'll catch up.

Simone - Dad has recovered, still has a dodgy kidney, but everything else back to normal. Still no idea why everything started shutting down. Hoping it doesn't ever happen again. Both kids are just fine and dandy

Bec - Ever thought of marketing your place as a wedding venue? Could be an easy way to make a few $'s on the side, espeically if that chickie is so keen to have it on your part of the river. Boy or Girl?? No I don't give up

Urs - thinking of you. Hope you're doing ok down there. How did you spend your first pay check?! How does it feel?

Kathy - hope you're enjoying NZ. Can't wait to see your pics.

everyone else. Hope you're all well.

HI Girls,

Work is going fine, havent been paid yet though ..... I spoke to her today and will be ready on Monday. I am going shopping tomorrow though.

Shell - Have you been giving our ADSL a workout LOl?? how you going anyway?? you sound good.

Casey has been very sick with a gastro bug, poor little thing has been vomiting and gastric for the last day and half he is so tired he is not eating and drinking, finally this afternoon he had half a donut and lemonade, so hopefully tonight he will get better and wake up well, fingers crossed.

My uncle is finally out of ICU but still on heavy drugs, he keeps asking my mum to take him home its so sad I reckon he must be so scared in there all on his own. At least he is on the mend and is no longer critical.

Sorry just a short one, I am exhausted. night ladies
Urs xx

Hi girls

It's Flick here! (Different username again...)

Just popping in to say hi and to share our happy - and unexpected - news. We're having another baby! OMG!! I can't believe it after all the problems TTC we've had in the past...it's almost surreal. Still very early days. Definitely the last one for us though.

While I'm here - J, I'm so sorry to read about your Dad. I do pop in and read from time to time but rarely get a chance to post. It's truly awful watching a loved one go through something like that. I lost my dear Dad to MS when I was only 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby...and it was so so hard. I so hope this turn is only that and the treatment works for him soon. There are many amazing stories when it comes to cancer survival so don't lose hope.

Our two are doing well. Stella's a typical 21 month old I'd say, and is the master of "tragedies" as we call her tantrums. I can't believe that our little ones are so close to turning 2!!!

Anyway, better go - just wanted to see how you all are. I think of you often and wish I was better at keeping up!

Take care and I'll try not to be a complete stranger for too long.
Flick

Hi Girls

J - Am so sorry to read about your Dad I hope that he will pull through

Bec - good on you for flying a little at the centrelink people. That's crap! Just keep standing your ground, so you won't end up out of pocket $3000

Simone - I can hardly wait to come up there I just need to double check with DH and Harrison's godmother, that nobody minds if I pop out for a couple of hours - only because we are there for 3 days, IYKWIM. But I couldn't bare to be up there, so close to you guys, and not meet up with you all. Good Luck with Uni this year? Did DH hear back about the job in Dubai?

Urs - I can't believe that you haven't been paid yet Have fun on your shop though How has Casey woken up this morning? And I was so pleased to read that your Uncle is out of ICU. How long do they expect it will take him to fully recover?

Shell - I'm so glad, that I will be so close to you guys when I come up there I can hardly wait to meet you all and your littlies.

Flick - Congratulations. That's wonderful news, and even more so - if it was a surprise It's crazy that our kids are almost 2, I was only saying that the other day. Mind you - I can't believe that my little man will soon be 1 either.......a mummy in a bit of denial here

Us - Not too bad. Am sick with a yucky cold, and feeling pretty awful - so have called in sick to work Mum and Dad had already planned to take the kids out for the afternoon (as my grandparents are here visiting), so my plan is to sit on the couch and do jack all!!!! YAY for me!!!!

Anyway, better be off to deal with Harrison

BBL

Love you girls.
Thankyou so much for your support.

Had a very emotional day yesterday at the hospital. It really sunk in being there and realising he is in palliative care. Which means he wont be cured, we are just managing his pain. My heart was just broken and I couldn't stay strong for him. We don't have a time line because his cancer is so rare it could be months it could be years. We start radiation next week to hopefully relieve the pain in his spinal cord and bones. Radiation lasts for 2 weeks so wish me luck. I am taking some time off work to drive him.

Flick: Congratulations on your lovely news

Hayls: Get well soon.

Urs: Hope you had fun clothes shopping and get paid soon. Thanks for your pm honey

Simone: YAY to Lila little chatter box, that vid was gorgeous. Shame about the girls fighting though.

Shell:

Bec: FTB sounds like a drama, the last thing you need right now.

On another note:
Eli has learnt to say "cuddle Mummy?" when he wants a cuddle. It melts my heart.

J - Oh I am so sorry , I was crying reading your post. So is he going to stay in pallitive care?? its not a nice place to be especially if it may be long term. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you that its going to be ok

Hayls - they are really unsure, could be months. Casey is alot better still gastro poo's but playing at least. I hope you feel better soon, jealous of your relaxing day.

Flick - Congratulations, nice to hear from you, good luck with your pregnancy.

Casey - Well like I said to Hayley Casey is better today so we took the boys to a place call Wottamolla on the South Coast it was lovely we had a swim and just relaxed for the afternoon. So I didnt end up going shopping and DH golfing tomorrow so I will have to do it on Monday after work.

Trying to do some study but I cant concentrate, as I have not studied this unit for over 4mths I need to refresh my memory and I am finding it hard. fingers crossed I will get it this week cramming

I hope you all are having a lovely weekend.
Urs xx

J: I am so sorry to hear that about your dad- I hope you are okay and I am sure your dad will understand if you can't stay strong all the time. The sooner they find a cure for this rotten disease the better.

Flick: Congratulations, wishing you smooth sailing ahead!

Shell: I won't budge lovely! lol. But rest assured it can only be one of two things- a boy or a girl. ha ha. I don't think I would want to hire out our place for weddings as it is really significant to DH and I. It's the spot we use to go fishing and swimming ( and still do without kids when we can!) and it's sort of " our spot" where we got married IYKWIM.

Hayles: I am over the FTB people. We are just going to say nope we don't want any and then if we are elligable at tax time so be it. Its their stuff up, they have never automatically checked DH's tax and one guy I spoke to actually said " it's our fault". Too much stuffing around. The money would be good but we would rather get it through me doing some CRT or DH working a bit on Saturdays which he has started so we will be fine. Luckily, as I said previously we have no debt so that would be a different situation all together.

I have a head cold too which is driving me nuts!

Hi to everyone else- Simone how are you?

Who else is missing?

Not much to report from us. DH's mum is off work for a few weeks on stress leave. I think she is having a mini break down which has been a long time comings o I have been doing some cooking for her and had them over for dinner the other night. Mak had a friend sleep over Friday night- please remind me ladies NEVER AGAIN. Makes me realise how well behaved my kids are. This kid was jumping on the couch then when I dropped her off Sat their cat jumped in my car and rubbed itself all over the seats, the floor the toys etc. The mother just stood there and laughed and said the cat liked cars and I said I wasn't fond of cats, Isobel who was still in her seat was crying so eventually I got the cat out myself. How rude! Then I came home and cleaned the car from top to bottom. Didn't matter if it wasn't a cat, I don't want anyone else's animals in my car!

Arggghhh...what is wrong with people? Is that just not common courtesy?

Anyway better run, Isobel has a fascination with the old movie Annie and is walking around asking where is Annie? V. cute.

J - you poor thing. I wish I could give you a hug for real. You know you can always come in here for a vent/emotional meltdown - whatever you need. I hope that the radiation can help with some of his pain I just feel so bad for you, and as Bec said - your Dad will understand if you have a cry - that's where parents are so fantastic As for Eli....so cute. Millie says that too, and I love it as much now, as the first time she said it Our babies are so clever (even though they're not babies anymore)

Urs - Glad you had a nice day out with the boys How did you end up going with the studying?

Bec - I just don't understand the rudeness of people Surely that woman would not of been OK, if you had done something similar? Is this the same woman, who allowed her daughter to invite herself over? You should ring her and make her pay you some money for getting the car re-detailed - tell her it had to be done, as Mak and Issy are allergic Annie????? I LOVED LOVED LOVED that movie as a kid. I watched it on Foxtel a few weeks ago, and sat Millie down with me, and just had the best time

Us - Going OK. Had a nice relax yesterday afternoon, on the couch. DH was outside mowing the lawns and I sat my butt in front of the TV and watched crap for about 2 and a half hours It was wonderful!!! Feeling a little better today. I took the kids for a walk down to my parents house, this afternoon - took about an hour - and it was so nice. Had a beautiful cool breeze and it was just so nice And have just put Harrison down for a nap, and am about to fold some washing and get some things ready for dinner tonight - Enchiladas - YUM!

OK, to everyone

Hi girls

J - oh my heart goes out to you and your family - it must be so hard all the emotions you are going through. Thinking of you through this tough time. Oh enjoy those cuddles from Eli - its so precious and when times get really tough for your dad, that Eli cuddle is going to be so comforting.

Flick - congratulations!! how many weeks are you? when are you due? I didn't know you had problems with pregnancies

Bec - sounds like that little town of yours and the people in it are just on a completely different wave length to you. You seem to be forever having issues. Your poor Mother In Law - thats nice of you to do that being so pregnant too. How has she come to having a break down if you don't mind me asking?? This world is just too stressful these days.

Hayles - Yas is really into dvd's etc now, even movies keep her fascinated as long as it animated or has singing and dancing in it. Her and DH were dancing earlier to some music clips on tv - it was priceless. Sorry about your cousin on SYTYCD - she did very well though. You sound very content with everything at the moment. Are you going to have any more children in the future or do you think you are happy with 2??. BTW you still haven't found out where you are staying in Cairns - just the area will do me as I don't know buildings yet - you may be staying in the heart of Cairns.

Urs - not been paid yet?? Hope you get paid soon. I bet that is a lovely feeling. Glad to hear Casey is on the improve too.

Simone - good to hear from you. Lila is such a cutie!! I agree with the comprehension of things - Yas understands everything and chatters all day too. Good luck back at Uni - sounds like you need it.

Well today girls I put the single bed mattress in Yas's room in our holiday accomodation on the floor with pillows on either side and put her down for her sleep on that today at 12. I'm not working until Thursday again and I thought I needed to start because last night she looked so squished in that portacot its not funny (plus its so warm at night here) - so decided to get her out of it. We still have 3.5 weeks with her cot in the cntr so had to do something. She must have enjoyed it as she slept her normal 2.5 hours so I'm trying her out tonight too. Will keep her going until we move and then she may be ready to try her toddler bed. Wasn't in a hurry to do it but honestly it just wasn't fair leaving her cramped like that - she's quite a long girl.

Settling in nicely - DH starts work tomorrow so we are all in the throws of it. Had a hiccup with daycare though. We have been so used to family day care - DH went to pick her up on her first day last week and whilst she seemed to enjoy the stimulation - there were none of her 'normal' carers around and no-one could tell him how her first day went, what she did, or how she slept or what time she slept????? - someone helped him find the book and there was NOTHING written in it. WTF???? Rang the next day and told them and they called back twice with appologies saying it was hectic and 3 new toddlers had started that day and one carer went home sick etc etc. Well not my problem TBH - I have called FDC and have a contact of someone that has a spot, I will check it out and move her immediately. DH felt she was kind of just a number but fdc is a bit more intimate. I hope I like the FDC mum and thinking will keep her in FDC until she is 3 and then move her on to something more stimulating.

Anyway Yas has been playing in her room for ages - DH checking on her and she seems fine. Glad we are moving into a one level home as I think she needs to be able to go and play in her bedroom - she couldn't do that in our old place as we would have to take her up the stairs.

ps. great being back doing 3 weight watchers shifts - 1 was just not enough

Talk soon
Helen

Very quick one tonight sorry girls. Hectic weekend. Haven't done ANY of the stuff I need to have done for work/child care tomorrow. Will come back and read everyone's posts soon.


J - a very special hug to you sweetie. I know you've got lots of friends you can count on, but if there is anything I can ever do for you, just say the word. Happy to come up and watch Eli for a while to give you some time, or bring you some flowers...and lots of wine to cheer you up Think of you every day. xo I can't imagine how scared you must all be feeling now. Wish there was something I could do for you. for a miracle.

Urs - Your uncle sounds really lonely. Hope he's home soon. Are you doing ok?

Shell.

Hi All

Helen: I think, she just stresses too much about what other people think. Like many people here. Everyone knows everyone's business and being a nurse, she also works a lot of shift work and is tired and run down. It is a strange place, but I imagine many small towns ( we are talking about population of maybe 300) are the same. I just find it hard having grown up in a large regional area ( 85,000 plus pop.) as I am use to only friends sharing any news, and not as much gossip. I am also use to have such a diverse group of friends from all different walks of life so its bizarre to me.

These things don't really shock DH as he grew up here.

We use FDC. I used creche for Mak and compared to creche, I love it. Its so personalised and not as hectic as our carer only ever has 4 kids at the one time. I always get a book filled in each day and Isobel does cooking, painting, never a dull moment I think. I have two spots booked for three days a week next year with the same carer when I go back part time.

Hayles: Yeah it was the same woman who invited herself ( her child) over. I think she is trying to make friends for her little girl but honestly she was way tooo babyish for Mak. She just wanted to watch Play School with Issy whereas Mak wanted to ride the bikes, jump on the tramp etc.

J: Hope you are okay hun. I wish I was closer too.

Okay have Issy home with my head cold today- plus the last 4 teeth all deciding to come through at the same time. I am in for a fun day.
Also have a check up. So better get moving. Shall be back later for some personals.

Morning girls

Yas slept on th single mattress last night and didn't wake but found her in various positions - once off the mattress in between the pillows I put on the side and the mattress then upside down etc etc. How on earth do these babies learn to stay in a bed and not fall out?? Only asking because in the 3 weeks we have left here I was thinking of just putting her straight into her toddler bed when we move in rather than back to the cot - it has side rails but I'm scared she will fall out. Any ideas?

look forward to your help

Helen

Bec - Millie is getting her 2yo molars too She has not been her normal happy self for about a week now

Helen - Sorry to hear about your issue with daycare. We use a daycare centre, and we have had no problems - thank god We have gotten really lucky. They have so much fun, and have the same carers all day, and fill things out for us - letting us know what they had for lunch and how long they slept......all that stuff. Will definitely find out where in Cairns we are staying. As for me being content.....not really - I have just shifted my mindset over the last week. Things with DH are still a problem, so hoping that we start getting somewhere soon - otherwise some decisions are going to be needed to be made Amelia is starting to pick up on the yuckiness - as much as I am trying to be "fine" but she is just a lot clingier than normal - so I don't want this sort of stuff affecting her or Harrison.

Beds - We have been really lucky with Amelia. She was sort of used to sleeping in a bed, because she would sleep in one when she slept over at Mum and Dad's. Anyway....we just put pillows on the ground next to her bed, and she has only fallen out once. I also have pillows either side of her head. We do find her lying across the bed sometimes, but we just move her back to normal - and those instances are becoming rarer.

Hi all,
Dad argued his way out of hospital today. He got really clostrophobic (sp?) in his room (no windows) and had a panic attack the other day. They couldn't manage his pain independently so he has gone onto a machine that has a line in through his stomach. He has to take the machine everywhere for now. He is going to the Royal Brisbane tomorrow to meet with some more oncologists to start radiation (to relieve the pains on his bones). I feel better knowing his home as he hasn't slept in 2 days, so hopefully he sleeps tonight.

Other than that its just raining and raining and raining non stop!

Helen: We are the same as Hayley absolutely love our daycare, his carers are always there and he loves them. Gives them cuddles when we arrive. Good luck with FDC.

Shell: Thanks you are so nice!

Its so nice having friends in here I can come and talk too because when I talk to someone face to face I just cry. Its feels good to vent but not bawl my eyes out or have a sore throat from trying not to cry.

J - I will say some extra prayers for your Dad tonight, and at the very least, hope he gets some sleep

J - my heart totally goes out to you and your family through this very tough time - totally understand how it is easier to talk non face to face.

Hayles - oh sorry to hear the problems with DH and yourself are still there. Do you need to vent to us too?? I hope you guys can work through things - it is awfully hard with little ones too, I still remember our first 4-5mths of Yas's life - man we used to argue all over tiredness and newborn issues but 2 kids under 2 would be very stressful to have gone through and going through..

Big hugs to everyone at the moment....well we didn't get the FDC place as someone else took it so will ride it out for now and hopefully after our initial complaint it won't happen again.

Better go off to look at a house even though we have signed for one!! but haven't paid the bond yet

Helen

Hi girls. Hope everyone is doing well.

Feeling like I'm failing Josh. I can't seem to communicate with him. He's feeling really sad about another kid at his child care centre but won't let me help him sort it out. I met with his teacher and the director of the centre last night and they are going to work with me. They are aware that this other kid has been creating trouble in the class room and have been talking about the best way to deal with it. I just wish I could make things better for Josh, but he won't listen to me, won't try the things I'm telling him to do. It's as though he likes being sad. I'm confused, I'm angry and I feel hollow because I can't get through to him. He's going to school next year and I don't want it to be a bad experience. I want him to have friends, to know how to change bad thoughts to good thoughts and be happy in himself. I just don't know why it's not working. It's really painful watching your kid go through this.

Bec - how is Mak going with her bully?

Shell.

HI Girls,

When I get a bit more time I will come back and do a proper post, I have my exam tomorrow that I am trying to study for, I have a hens weekend in Newcastle plus Ricky now has the Gastro/Vomiting bug and Casey is constantly chucking huge tantrums, Ricky was never like this, so I just ignore him, but he gets louder, I ended up putting him in his room and shut the door. I took a video of him today because he was just so out of control, I am just hoping that there is nothing wrong with him.

I have just put Casey down but he is getting out of his cot and banging on the door. Must be off.

Urs xx

Shell- it is very painful to watch your child being bullied. I hope your situation with Josh works out for you and its great the workers are supporting you. When it all started with Mak I just never let down, O contacted the school and teacher over and over. I didn't care if they thought I was an over eager parent, my child was upset and I wasn't going to let it happen.
Thankfully for us Mak is that bit older so she does listen and try the different things. She seems to have risen above it and now if the said child gives her a hard time, instead of thinking its something she has done, Mak now thinks the said child has low self esteem and " just needs a big hug" as she put it to me. She has even gone so far as to invite this child to her birthday party next week, explaining to Brad and I that she feels this child " might just need some friends". Having said that, this child is the only one who's parents have not rsvp'ed and the little girl told Mak she may not be able to come because " we fight all the time" so obviously the parents think its Mak fault even though I KNOW it isn't and have been backed up by the school that Mak hasn't ever once retaliated. But how else are they going to react when they don't want to face the fact that their child is nasty to others?
There are some great books on bullying- I will PM you some titles which may help.

Hi to everyone else. Had a bust day- playgroup this morning and swimming this afternoon. Had to have a scan yesterday as my doctor is worried about how big my growing tummy is getting. But there is a normal amount of fluid and bubs is measuring spot on so no c/s at this stage thank goodness. On the down side my legs look like cottage cheese and I am terribly distressed about it so have been walking 40 minutes a day and did about 20 laps at swimming tonight. I feel pretty fit, think this bub is just making it hard for me!

J: Am thinking of you. Hope you are okay. x

Urs: Good luck with the exam.

Okay better go, I have Mak's birthday party to get ready for, a handbag cake to make, she has a friend coming over after school tomorrow and I need to do my grocery list! Honestly, I am busier than when I was working!

Good morning girls

Gosh its so hard being a mum - we feel everyone's pain and our emotions are so uncontrollable. Shell honey thats so sad and I so feel for you and what you must be going through . Keep on it though because even if you feel you are not getting through - any communication is good even if you feel its all one sided. I'm sure he is listening and knowing that you are there for him to open up to when he is ready will mean a lot to him. I think Bec is the best one to help you here. Why are kids so mean?????

J - I'm thinking of you and your dad too. Hope things are ok and you are getting to spend as much time with him as you would like to be.

Urs - oh dear to the trantrums, wow is he climbing out of his cot??? little devil. Yas will start to be naughty and I threaten her with going to bed when she gets really bad and she just looks at me and shakes her head and says NO - its quite funny - but I only use it when I really need to. She sometimes throws herself on the floor and cries into the floor when she doesn't get her own way and yep I just walk away. Hope he improves for you. Good luck with your exam today. Oh BTW got your facebook message. I just found the camera yesterday but what do you want pics of?? Cairns itself?? I'm heading to the lagoon in Cairns on Tuesday morning with another mum and her 3 year old so I'll take some pics there to start.

We are doing well although I can't wait to move in and get settled to our new rental. Only 2.5 weeks away - it will be so much more central to both our work and daycare. Weather has been HOT HOT HOT - yesterday was a stinker - even the locals were complaining. Yas is going well on the mattress on the floor so she will go straight into her Toddler bed when we move - no point in going backwards now. She is funny as she doesn't tell us when she is awake - she just plays in her room until I hear a bang of a drawer or something and go in to find her there laughing at me at what she is doing so its working well.

The only problem I have is that she refuses to eat in the mornings - not a habit I want her to get into. The only thing I am managing to get in her lately is some yoghurt. Any help here would be appreciated girls.

J - I meant to tell you, my hair is still great after 12wks (3 months) - I can feel it starting to thicken up again now and will be looking at getting it re-done once I'm settled in our new place so 4 months out of it is pretty good. I have an advert of a place here in Cairns that does it a lot cheaper so if its true i will get it done again and will continue because even up here in Cairns with the heavy humidity -my hair is staying pretty straight - might curl a bit underneath sometimes but definately no frizz!!!

Shell: Ohh poor Josh ! Totally agree with Hel it is so hard being a mum the guilt kills us.
Just some teacherish advice/ Questions?
Can your DH have a chat to him about it maybe or a favourite Uncle?? Maybe he doesn't want to upset you with his problem. Even though the are little they are very receptive little things, maybe he has picked up some gender roles already and is trying to be a man about it?? On a better note he will have very good emotional resilience if he comes through this and feels he has done it on his own. He will be very strong. Lastly have you taught him (maybe even DH to teach him) Stop it! I dont like it!

Bec: Good on you with your fitness. Hopefully I can do that much exercise when I am pregnant.

Hel: Sounds like your settling in. Some hair questions.... Have you had to use the straightner on it?? Or blow dry?? Or do you just wash it and let it dry on its own and it looks straight?? Is it as straight as a straightner would do??

Urs: Good luck with your exam.

Me: Just taking it day by day.
Eli is in his room playing drums, electric piano and singing into a microphone (thanks Dad for those GREAT presents). I think I will have to go and put him in his bed again.......

J - it only gets out 95% of curl & frizz and my hair is naturally very very curly. I haven't let it dry naturally TBH as even when I go swimming I always put it up because salt and chlorine damages it over a long period too but then its damaging on non treated hair. In the beginning wash and a very quick dry and straighteners (took 10mins) then it would last 3 days (just a brush to tidy up) and I would then need to wash it as it got very oily (don't forget though my original hair is very dry and I could usually go 5 days without washing it if I wanted which is gross I know but it was so time consuming to wash etc and look decent but it was more due to knots than becoming oily so that was a bit weird but then I know people who have to wash their hair every day.

As time has gone on its taken a little more effort with the hair dryer but still end up with straight hair - so it has certainly shortened my time to get ready. Plus my hair is so much healthier and they reckon the more you do it the healthier your hair becomes. You've seen how curly/frizz my hair was and the pics on facebook of it straight - what a difference and it still looks the same 12wks later but I can tell its just starting to get thicker now. Its really just a touch up with the straighteners once your hair has dryed off.

Grrr quick one as Mak has a friend over to play and I tell you she is in trouble when her friend goes home. She is being really silly, running around, just broke the gate to Issy's room ( I have lost the little black bit - J you will know what I am talking about!).

So now hunting for it, paranoid Isobel will put it in her mouth!

Hi all,
not much to report. Just on the computer doing some work.
Me just keeping busy and staying positive.
Eli has developed selective hearing over the last few days which is interesting and he is really testing the boundaries. Other than that he is adorable xo

BBL

I'm guessing every one else is suffering from the terrible twos thats why there is no posts???
Wow tantrums!
Can you believe my child will lose the plot over grapes???
He went bonkers at the shops yesterday because he couldn't eat the grapes. I have pretty much banned him from comming grocery shopping I will do it at night from now on.
Well hi everyone xoxoxo

Hi Ladies

Quick one as having a very busy week. DH and I have a wedding Saturday- Isobel's family day carer- and then Maks birthday party Sunday so very busy!
Not much to report- Isobel is going in her big girl bed tonight. I have moved her and Mak in together and decorated the room in a butterfly theme. Mak still has her old room but we have converted it to a study/ relaxing room as she put it where she can keep all her things away from Issy. Hopefully this works as I was ready to give Issy away the night before last sleep wise!

Issy is talking beautifully, very descriptive sentences she has started to use. Tonight she told my mum that she " rode the blue bike at play group". Very cute.

Yep J: Tantrums as well. Just asserting their little minds I think!

Okay BB over the weekend some time. Off to make a birthday cake now. My big baby is turning 7 tomorrow!

Hi Girls

Have been around, just Have not been feeling well for about 3mths now, and the last week has been a bit off Am off to the Dr on Tuesday to hopefully find out what is going on. Am thinking, maybe, gallstone or IBS

Bec - Busy, busy, busy How are you feeling, pg wise? Not too much longer to go??? I can't believe that Mak is turning 7 That's crazy. I hope the girls go OK in together, I think Simone's girls share a room too

J - How is your Dad going? I think of you guys often Is he still at home?

Shell - Sorry to read about Josh. How has been over the last few days? How's Sus going?

Urs - How is work going? And more importantly, how was your weekend away, for the Hen's?

Helen - How you coping in Cairns? How has Yas been going at daycare? I hope they have been better for you

Tantrums - Yep Amelia has really "upped" the stakes in the tanty tossing department. Very annoying. She spent most of today in a tantrum I just ignore her and walk away. Hopefully they won't last too much longer.

Anyway....will come back in tomorrow and do a bit more of a post.