just reading thread about whats normal in terms of how often couples have sex, and it got me thinking.

It is common asumption that it is the man that wants sex more often, and is never satisfied, but I have found the oposite. Initailly I am not interested, but if we have a few nice nights together, it usually sparks my interest more, so that it kind of "awakens" the desire to do it more, and then it is usually my husband that dosnt seem so interested...a little tired and satisfied for "the week.

has anyone else found that their husband, whilst liking frequent sex, is satisfied with it less often? maybe its his age and being unfit???

DH is far from unfit, but I definitely have a higher libido than he does.

I have the higher libido of the two of us.

DH has way, way, way, way more sex drive than me . Always has, but moreso nowdays.

We used to be the same, but since having this baby my desire for it has plummetted. The idea of it is better than the reality mainly because I can't be bothered.

Maybe it's the breastfeeding hormones but I don't remember this happening with the other 3 babies.

It's a pity for DP. I hope i feel like it again one day...

My libido has always been much higher than DP's.

Possibly is, Cali. My mojo completely leaves the building when I'm breastfeeding. Must be nature's way of getting us to concentrate on one baby at a time!

DH has a higher sex drive than me, but I'm in the process of weaning (I think) so we'll be back on track soon (I hope!)

Mine is alot higher than dp's , ...
but he does need to get fit and i think thats half the problem

DH by a million miles. He can never get enough.

I think my partner and I are pretty equal in this.

There are times when he will want it more, there are times I will want it more. It all comes down to how tired we are and how much time we have!

We average around 2-3 times a week which seems to keep us both happy at the moment due to the fact that I'm heavily pregnant and pretty uncomfortable most of the time. If it wasn't for that it would probably be more.

Me and I hate it

Me . DH's mind is switched on to work all too often.

My DH has more even though we equally enjoy it as much.
It just takes me more long to get in the mood so DH has to be the 'seducer' all the time (which I know annoys him).
I just dont get 'frisky' until foreplay and could easily go for months without it if not approached.

I want it more than DH. He couldn't care less if we have sex and never initiates it. I wish I had a DH who was more interested.

Me by a long shot. DH is far from unfit, he's probably fitter than what I am. He just doesn't to need/want it as much as me

amazing...the majority said THEY had the stronger sex drive...the steryotype is that it is the women. Im shocked, but pleased that I am not too unusual.

thanks.

I think we have found the only 10 women in Australia with greater sex drive than their hubby's on this thread!!!

Well DH definately has the stronger sex drive- he could have it three times a day. Me- well once a week is ok. having siad that though DH does more than satisfy me!!!

Seems that way to me too.....

Ours used to be equal then when DS#1 was born it was him wanting it more. However finally after 4 years my libido is back with a vengeance so happy faces all round

Glad to see I'm not the only one.

It used to bother me, being the initiater all the time, but I have learned to deal with it.

It used to be me but after having number two it switched to him. Now I finally have my sex drive back and it's about equal, but I think soon it will be me with the stronger drive, as mine is increasing and his seems to always stay the same.

DF and I are pretty much the same.

Are we the only ones BDing at least once a night, usually twice?? I'm serious!

Hell to the no Erin...

I'm exhausted just thinking about it.

This is me and Dp too and we are NOT TTC

Oh thank God for that. I was starting to feel a bit strange Imagining being pictured as some sort of crazed pair of bunnies!



That just made me PMSL

We were the same until DS was born. A baby/toddler quickly makes you reassess what's more important, sex or sleep.

I *think* DH and I are about the same. But I dare not raise the issue in case he wants more.

Jeeeesus, that's one h*ll of a libido! At the moment, my dh usually goes to bed early (since he has to be up before the crack of dawn) and I can't until our toddler crashes, so it's almost zippo-squat here! He's well and truly out to it by the time I get there.

Mind you, I do know someone who had to remind her husband once that they were married - they were allowed to have sex, it was that bad for them!



That's the thing, it's very easy to be able to have sex very frequently if you either have no kids or they are in bed early enough (if your children refuse to stay in bed and can't be left alone, it can be very hard).

I genuinely wondered sometimes how some couples with children managed such active sex lives, but if the truth is known, it would seem most of them aren't, just the odd few.

Dh's is waaaaay higher than mine.
Two business's, two kids, keeping house clean, clothes washed, ironed and put away, meals cooked, lunches made etc etc etc leaves you TIRED, and tired sure is a sex drive KILLER !

I have a higher sex drive than DP, he's very fit but usually so exhausted from work. He's happy with three or four times a week, I'd be up for it nightly - maybe he's just hotter than I am