My 2yrs DD has a terrible habit of yelling and screaming when she doesn't get her own way, she stands there with a red face yelling at her older siblings and shaking with anger! I don't know what to do with her, it is embarrassing when I go out and she has her moment, I have tried not to yell at her and talk to her calmly and but she just yells at me till my ears ring. The older girls stand there with thier hands over thier ears. I even send her to her room while she is screaming.

I am totally lost at what to do with her. Any idea's would be appreciated!

Have you tried ignoring her, just walking away (and your older girls too). I know with my two if they start a tantrum I will just walk away or ignore it (grin and bear it if we are out).

You can't out scream them, so if she loses her audience, hopefully she will stop.

Good luck

i agree with PP my DS used to be a shocker screaming and everything we ignored him and walked away and he soon stopped happening as much

Dont know if I would do this but a friend of mine used to send her son outside, by himself for 5 mins or so. She would tell him that when we are inside we use inside voices and shouting and screaming are not acceptable inside. If you cant use a nice inside voice, you have to go outside. This is particularly effective if its raining or otherwise yucky outside! When the 5 mins or so was over, she would open the door and ask him if hes ready to use a nice inside voice,if yes, come inside, if no, stay outside for another 5 mins.

we also do yelling is for outside or in your room alone - and send her to her room if she wants to yell and say she is welcome to come back with us when she is finished and ready to talk.

My sister used to send her kids to the laundry. The acoustics were really good in there. The noise reverberating around even annoyed the kids, so they would stop doing it.

It sounds like she is used to getting her way from yelling and keeps doing it. It is just like kids that bite and hit.

I use the technique that Triple P use for tantrums. Tell them to stop/reprimand and then move your attention to the other kids and ignore. Praise them for talking nicely or quietly.

Also, maybe coach her more on how to get your attention- like saying if you feel sad/ cranky etc, tell mum and you can help her sort out her problem. The aim is to try and give her another tool to get attention.

Sometimes removing them just makes them more angry and frustrated and you havent really solved the problem, but it depends on the kid as well.

Thanks girls, I will try the suggestion, I do walk away from here and tell the older kids to just leave her alone as she is been nasty. I lower my voice and say to her Courtney mummy isnt happy when you yell. I have sent her outside a few times as I thought I was going to explode!