I am a cloth nut. I love cloth pads. I have just returned to work and am trying to get the hang of a Diva cup, but like you OP, I hate tampons primarily due to the pain factor and am finding the Diva to have similar issues (but that is another post in the relevant thread!)
Sooo...
How many do you have? One website suggested 20. Is that too many? I have heaps, but then I sew my own my own for friends and now friends of friends and their friends so I have quite a growing stash, as I jsut love them and get tempted by the odd one out of each batch.
But to answer your question... It depends on your flow, your washing patterns. If you have a heavy flow, you will need more, as you will need to change more frequently. If you wash every day and then allow a day to dry, then you will need enough at any time to cover say 2 days worth of flow. 20 in my opinion is way too many. I would say 4-5 med absorbancies and say 2 heavy, and a few of liners would definately be more than enough.(again depending on your flow as to what absorbancies you might like the best) I have know many women to get away will alot less. No way to 20 unless you develop some kind of obsession/ addiction to them
How long do they last?How long they will last will depend on many factors. * how many you have in your stash and their rotation. * how well they are made and the design of such * the fabrics they are made of * your laundry habits, your individual washing machine and all those kinds of things. * in theory they should last many years. I have not yet had to throw any out due to 'wearing out' and I have some that are quite old now, and some favourites, that are definately used alot more than others. Heck I think that they get better with age.
The cost effectiveness of this has got me intrigued. 20 x avg price of $10 = $200 to set up. ~$6mth for disposable = 33 cycles before you are ahead! Surely they don't last that long? 33 cycles - easy peasy they last that long, if they are made well in the first place. and as I mentioned you wont need 20. Furthermore I have to say that even if they cost you twice as much, once you start using them, you will discover they are so much more comfortable and funky that disposables that you wouldnt care even if they did cost you that much. But as I said. They will last 3 years easy and you dont need 20
To PUL or not to PUL, that is the question? (Don't like the idea of no waterproofing, but can't seem to find any liners that have it...) Ah yes to PUL or not PUL? Well again it really depends on your individual flow, and what the absorbant core is made from and the quality of the fabrics including those that you cant see. I personally have a good mixture of both. I like both. PUL for some circumstances, and flow requirements, No PUL for others. Most of my pads have a bamboo fleece and flannelette innercore, so when sewn correctly to compress these fabrics, you really dont need PUL if you have a light to light medium flow. Also how often are you able to change should you need to. If you have a heavy flow or really need the back up due to going out for a while particularly in the first day or 2 and dont want to change when you are out, then a PUL backed is handy. PUL is great and I do love it in the first 2-3 days, but for the last 4 days I just dont need it. I acutally prefer a cotton backed pad if I dont really require the PUL as I find it sits a teeny better and somehow is just more comfy and more breathable or something. As for liners, You dont need PUL. I know obsidian star does some kind of PUL strips you can use as back up for liners should you be some inclided.
Anyone found any that are just plain, no nonsense girly colours/patterns? ( SOO not a pink/flowery kind of person!) LOL I so knwo what you mean.... hence why I started making my own. I too prefer the non grily type. I like the bold colours, red, purple, leopard print, tie died, browns, blacks etc. Some pad makers will do requests. Again Obisian Star I think has from time to time some good fabrics.
I would actually suggest looking at obsidian stars website. I believe she has the most comprehensive cloth pad info out there in the world! I have a couple of pads from her and they are good pads (not like my own personal ones of course

)
Good luck with it all. I think dont go buying any starter packs or the like, just try one or two from a particular brand and see how you go and how you like them and you will find you develop a preference and then buy more of the ones you like.
Alternatively make your own. They are great, easy enough to make if you can sew and you can custom them specifically to your desires. If you can sew, you can buy the supplies easily enough online from the nappy supply sites.
Good luck with your quest.
Cheers Helen