Hi all.

With those who have twins, and went back for another baby, how did u feel about it?

Were u scared you would get twins again?

Was there a big age gap?

How did ur partner feel about it all.

I have 3.5yr old ID twin boys. The doctor has told me that because there arent twins in either of our families, that there is only a 30% chance of having twins again. I am so scared of falling pregnant with twins again, and I know I wouldnt cope.

Any expereinces would be wonderful.

That's me now.

With those who have twins, and went back for another baby, how did u feel about it?

Feel very happy & confident, nervous too.

Were u scared you would get twins again?

Yes. But it was something we had to accept. Alot of family asked what we would do if it's twins again?? What do they think we'd do, abort one.

Was there a big age gap?

Yes, girls will be almost 7 when bubs arrives. I wanted to have babe last year but thought I'd enjoy the girls first year in kindy.

How did ur partner feel about it all.

He's very happy about having another baby & like me, was nervous about twins but what would be would be.
There's only one aboard this time so we're very relieved.

Ours are fraternal & we were told that we had a one in 10 of having twins again.

Good luck with your decision & HTH.

I have ID girls. Had a singleton & it's been heaven. If I didn't get so sick during the PG I would have another....

I don't have any other twins in the family, but I was still scared of another multiple PG.

Good luck

Belinda

With those who have twins, and went back for another baby, how did u feel about it?

We had always wanted to have 3 children but didn't think it would happen due to medical problems. So when we decided to go again (using IVF) we were very nervous and excited

Were u scared you would get twins again?

Honestly we didn't even think about twins again as it had taken so long to get DS and DD1

Was there a big age gap?

DS and DD1 were 2.5 when we went to try again. Our frozen embryo transfer took with both embryos (yes we transferred two, see I told you we didn't think lightning would strike twice LOL)

How did ur partner feel about it all.

He was excited about extending our family, he's an only child so he wanted a few children. We both were stunned for a couple of minutes when we found out it was twins again at the 7 week scan.

We have gone very well with the two sets. I figured we knew what we were doing 2nd time around. DS and DD1 are at school now and DD2 and 3 are loving having the time to be with me.

Good luck

I was scared to get twins again but ID twins you are just as likely to have them again as someone who never had them I got told. When I saw there was only 1 baby and then saw it was a baby girl I was scared she would fell left out because she not a twin like her sisters.

This is what is making me think twice about having one more

Bridgy16, I am so pleased you asked these questions as I am in the same situation! I am so nervous about having twins again, although mine were clomid babies and I wouldnt use it again to get pregnant. I am also scared that I will get PND again. These reasons are why I have being say no to another bub, up until now (my DS/DD are turning 3 in July) where I find myself seriously considering another. I think the kids would love a sibling and I feel another one could only enhance our family, as well as providing a little healing for me! Would love to experience a singleton :-)

Thanks to the ladies sharing their thoughts.

Cheers
Tomella

ps. sorry to hijack your post

This was us when we had our last bub, I was so scared of having twins again but ours been fraternal we didnt have a high chance, but needless to we were relieved when there was only one but we were prepared for 2. My girls are 2 yrs and 2 months older than the last bub we had and they get along fine, I dont feel that Courtney feels left out because she isnt a twin she just has a choice of who she gets to play with.

Thanks for all your replies girls. I know I wouldnt handle another set of twins, and I definately know financially we couldnt afford it.

Tomella Thats ok. U didnt hijack it. Its always good to hear how other people in my situation feel.

I do know someone who was considering asking to have an ultrasound each month to see how many follicles there was . Not quite sure if it'd work or be accurate but she really doesn't want twins again as hers were very prem.

My twins were IVF and Hunter was a natural pregnancy so our chances of twins were no higher than anyone else. Still though I held my breathe at that first ultrasound in fear there'd be two!

how did u feel about it?

excited - same as i did when we were ttc'ing for the girls

Were u scared you would get twins again?

nope - the joys of ID twins, whilst it happens i know it's a minor risk

Was there a big age gap?

nope they turned 2 years 3 days after molly was born.

molly has been my 'healing' baby, she's nearly a mth old and honestly despite the reflux/sleeping issues (she's over stimulated by the girls running around all day so can't turn her brain off during the day, thank god she sleeps at night and catnaps only during the day or i'd be a wreck) and having HG during her pg - i don't feel the PND i had with the girls creeping back at all (which was honestly my biggest fear - not having multiples again but PND coming back) - maybe it's cause i'm bfing molly, maybe it's cause it's not my first time, maybe it's cause i'm more assured of my parenting, maybe i'm stronger in telling ppl to GAGF - i'm not sure tbh.

how did your partner feel about it?

it was his idea he wants 7 but has no decided that 3 is enough and right now i don't have that burning desire to have anymore either.

if we had fallen with twins again then that was the cards we were dealt, as it is we (me) feel like brand new parents with a singleton and truth be told she's more 'work' than the girls - add to that they don't do day sleeps (haven't since about 16/17mths so most of the pg) it makes it hard to have that 'sleep' you would normally get with a new baby.

though we say no more we did joke with the m/w when we left hospital we would be back in 2 years......never know what is around the bend....